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What is the protocol for trying to get with someone at a party whom happens to be in your class? Does "Don't shit where you eat" apply?
>One year of school left (will probably never see most of these people again, but I don't want a whole year of shit/drama)
>Target has shown possible signs of interest (but from experience, I can't differentiate interest from niceness anyway)
>Target is a friend but not close. Don't want to cause bad tension between us.
No, shitting where you eat refers to jobs.
OP, don't do it you fucking idiot. This is your future career at stake.
>>16564546
Yes, it refers to schools to.o
School is practically a job. In fact, you use it to get a job. Sexual shit makes you lose possible connections since she can and will use it as a reason to severely ostracize you.
>inb4 muh experience
Some good that will do when OP is sitting in a kangaroo court hearing for sexual harassment
>>16564557
Do you use 'don't shit where you eat' to rationalise why you don't get any girls?
if a girls labia is "large" or darker is it really that much of a turn off??
a guy i'm considering losing my virginity to thinks they're gross
wat do
(no i dont have beef curtains)
Another quality thread for /adv/. Thanks OP
As long as it makes my penis feel good, idgaf. Though if you look gross down there I'm not going down on you.
>>16564489
This.
Why can't I do it. No matter what I do, no matter what I try, I can't beat anxiety. I can't stop having panic attacks.
No matter how long I go, I'm guaranteed to fail again, eventually. In an instant I am robbed of my mental faculties, my mood, and any ability to do anything for hours on end. Robbed.
FUCKING ROBBED. FOR NOITHIN'. FOR FUCKING NOTHING! NOTHING. NO REASON. THERE IS NO REASON.
It's that goddamn fucking amygdala / broader prefrontal cortex. How do I beat the shit out of and or reconcile the deficits of this fuck?...
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>>16564420
Whatever your worried about, it feels like an avalanche, i would try to slow down and take time to yourself and tell yourself it all doesnt matter because i'm alive and well. Meditate if you need too anon, it really helps
Get into better physical shape; muscle tissue helps moderate one's moods.
>>16564420
I feel exactly the same way right now. I wake up in the mornings feeling shitty and I go to bed thinking how I am shitty. If you need someone to talk to, we're hear to lend an ear.
I'm currently a second year student at a middle tier school on the US east coast. I'm on scholarship, so I pay ~4000 a semester (for 5 courses) I decided that it should be time for a change so applied to some universities in the UK and I got accepted to a high ranked red brick. However, their tuition is 200 k over 3 years. The program they offer is one of the best in the world. What do ya'll think I should do?
>200 k over 3 years
What's the expected return on that investment?
>>16564324
What is the program and what is the major?
Probably not. I'm guessing that being ~200k in debt wouldn't be offset by the difference in income you might make with a degree from the better school.
I'm lonely and feeling a bit depressed. What do you do when feeling lonely at night or whenever?
Shitposting
>>16564305
When I'm feeling really shitty I go to a strip club and get some touch. It's sad and pathetic but so is my life. I feel slightly better when I'm done but my wallet doesn't. Oh well, I have nothing to spend my money on anyway. No girlfriend, easily pay all my bills, car is paid off... Fuck it all.
>>16564317
This can help, op but the satisfaction is very short
my girlfriend dumped me a week ago. She said she wasn't bored, was still attracted to me, that there wasn't another guy, or anything like that. She said she just didn't love me anymore. What the fuck is that about?
>>16564226
It means she saw you more of a friend than a lover. This happens a lot and is a very common reason for breakups.
>>16564232
how do you prevent that down the road?
>>16564232
I broke with my 3 year boyfriend over this, there wasn't even another person involved. I just saw him as a friend, and feared that the person I chose as a life partner is nothing more than a friend to me.
Okay /adv/ I'm at a hold in my life. I moved to San Diego with a girl I believed was the girl of my dreams, after a while I moved back across the country from where I came to be back with my family since we had broken up, and now after almost a year a are talking again and she is asking me to come back and she misses me. I'm not sure what to do. I don't want to leave my family. But I also don't want to live without her. What would you guys do? Pic related.
>>16564187
Hot but 90% crazy and slurry judging by looks and your post
Also, you're probably a kek
>>16564187
Bitch looks like a drug dealer slut
OP čuck status: MAXIMUM ČUCK
Hello /adv/ I have came for the advice of the more wise than me in this time of crisis. I have just realized I have severe depression. Im a senior in high school. Im healthy, fit, moderately attractive and wealthy. I also thought about blowing my brains out today. The only reason why I'm calm now is that I took a norco pill. My whole entire family is extremely successful, and failure is not tolerated. I currently have a 62% grade in a class. If I can't get a C I will get dropped from all the colleges I've been accepted into. When I look at my problem now it doesn't...
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Bump for my sanity
You might be overthinking this a bit. As someone who overthinks everything, I can't really fix that for you, but I can assure you the reality is always far less scary than the worst-case scenario you're imagining.
Hey friendo, I'm a senior too and I feel ya. I can't exactly give wise retrospective advice but I can tell you that grades aren't worth killing yourself over, there are gonna be opportunities that come up even if you don't get accepted. If anything, buckle down and study for awhile, focus on earning the C and if you don't it's not the end of the world.
Heyo
So my girlfriend just sent me a picture of some wrapped presents and told me to guess which ones were mine. I then told her I just got the inspiration for her gift but she's weird about things and told me not to get her anything. Do you think this is a good idea for a gift?
>she collects garden gnomes
>her favorite animal is an owl
I was thinking about going to Michaels art store and sculpting a gnome owl out of clay. How would you feel if you got a handmade gift instead of something store bought?
>>16564143
That's an awesome idea anon! She'll be floored
>>16564152
I make just over minimum wage so my budget isn't exactly high enough for something fancy like a sephora gift card or something
nooooo make an owl plushy
that way she can hug and squeeze it and hold it in bed and think of you :3
24 year old kissless virgin here who is finally getting his shot...
Girls have finally started showing me a lot of interest this year. Usually, I'll go to a party and it takes less than 10 minutes for a girl to be all over me. I am very good with body language, dancing, and flirting.
Well, one of the most gorgeous girls I have ever seen in my life has shown interest in me. I met her before my finals, and we're on break. We have been flirting hardcore through text messaging, and she has sent me quite a few nudes. We talk about sex constantly and casual things (she is very into BDSM stuff, which is definitely my fetish as well).
We're meeting for drink next week. She is extremely anxious about this, mostly because she says she has never hooked up like this before. Well, I'm a fucking kissless virgin and I'm not about to admit that.
Essentially, I need any good advice I can get. I'm a fun guy to be around (I wait tables to pay for school), and I can very vividly picture how I want to fuck this girl, but I'm smart enough to know this won't go off perfectly. I like this girl for her personality as well, so I'd like to do my absolute best here!
(I did post this thread a lot earlier, but was absent and it's in the archive now!)
What exactly do you need advice on? Sounds like you're good to go. Nice work!
>>16564050
I know you are asking for advice but your turn around with women peaked my interest, how did you go from a 24 year old kissless virgin to playfully flirting with girls with ease.
> next week, OP makes a thread about being stood up
My girlfriend wants to break up with me over whom I'm voting for. She has views I disagree with strongly, but shes her own person and can have whatever views she likes, it doesn't change how much I love her.
I don't normally tell people, but she had asked so I told her, met with being berated on how terrible I am and how stupid I am for voting that way and how "she can't even" and other things. I told her I don't mind whatever views she has, it doesn't define her as a person. But she says this is "different" and how embarrassed...
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>>16564029
She is using it as an excuse anon, no one should get that upset and a good partner could at least have a fun conversation about the policies that the politicians have that are dumb/good and why they are needed. Fuck political conversations with friends can be really fun sometimes, of course this is assuming people won't get ass-blasted and storm off from a different view-point. She sounds dumb OP, dump her if she is willing to throw such a hissy fit over something so foolish.
is it Trump
>>16564049
If it is I honestly think you're better off. Less chance of you reproducing.
Okay so I dont know how the fuck it happened because no one I am around has them but I think I have a cold sore.
I went to the doctor cause my lip instantly swelled to three times its size after popping what i thought was a zit. now it looks like i have a fat lip. he said put a hot compress on my lip and wait cause he thinks its just a giant zit waiting to be popped and i did it too soon, gave me no inclination that it is a cold sore and even touched it
someone please put my mind at ease :(
a cold sore would be a unique pain. like a numb tingly but at the same time awfully painful burning.
its pretty sore, but feels like i have a fat lip doesnt burn but feels swollen as hell
>>16564033
I would say that it tingles/itches before coming out, and afterwards it hurt only when putting pressure, scratching or biting.
>19 years old
>married
>she lives with me and my mother
> getting papers next week (I was undocumented)
> doing bad in community college
>not motivated
>don't want to live with mom anymore
>live in jersey
What do I do? I was thinking working full time with ups and take one or two classes. Trying to do computer...
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Get your shit together
>>16564014
I'm trying anon. I just don't feel happy living here with my mom and not working and shit. I wanna move out and live alone with my wife and a roommate.
>>16564006
>19 years old
>married
how?
why?
Sup /adv/
So, heres the issue and I know its cliché as fuck but I still feel the need for help..
>Had a rocky relationship with a girl a truly loved
>The reason it was rocky is because I fell apart completely, depression, anxiety, paranoia etc.
>we broken up almost a year ago now, but got back together and things started to work
>I got on anti-depressants, things were better
>She dumped me, saying I broke...
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It was a mistake to reach out to her.
But it is one we who have been in love make.
I do wish you the best but i cant help bit feel this is going to end up with you hurt again.
>>16563998
>Can I win her back? Is there anything I can do to turn this around?
No and no. She loves you and feels a great deal for you, but the trust between you is broken. She cannot trust you with her feelings.
>Did she actually love me? Does she still? Is it pointless to keep holding on and trying?
Yes, yes and yes. Again, if she can't trust you, she will never be able to have a healthy relationship with you. She will always remember the past,...
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>>16564032
Surely theres a way to build trust with her again? Or talk her around to trying? Or even build a friendship? I miss her so much, and I know she misses me.. surely theres something I can do?
Am I attractive? About 6 people say I am, but, I don't really believe them. They just do it to be nice, so I need you guys to tell me the truth. (Don't have any picture where I'm alone.)
>>16563961
Sorry I can't see your personality in your pic
Also confidence in a woman is so sexy it doesn't matter if she's 5, 6, 7, 2
>>16563961
the girl is the guy isn't
take this garbage to
>>>/soc/
we literally have a board dedicated to vanity
>>16563972
Gg
Thanks for nothing>>16563972
