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I started a thread a few days ago about my boyfriend studying abroad and his idea to break up during that 4 months. I got a lot of responses saying he just wants to fuck foreign girls, which is probably true, but what college guy wouldn't? The thought bothers me obviously, but not to an extent where I would never want to be with him again.
What I really wanted to know is how likely it is for me to get him back when he comes home, and advice on how to do it. We're best friends and our relationship is amazing, he just thinks the distance would be too much strain (which I agree with). We did talk about what will happen when he comes back but it basically ended with him saying "I don't know whether or not I'll want a relationship once I'm home." I would really like to continue what we have though.
Thoughts?
don't wait for him
>>16569257
Get some self respect, woman. What the hell kind of response is "I don't know whether or not I'll want a relationship"? A really cold, heartless one. He doesn't care about you nearly as much as you care about him. Why do you even want to be with someone who is so dismissive of you and your relationship? Do not wait for him. Do not reunite with him when he comes back. Get some respect for yourself, love yourself and find someone better. It won't be hard. Your boyfriend is scum. Anyone else can only be better.
>>16569275
Pretty much.
Him being unsure of wanting a relationship once he comes back is just a thinly veiled bullshit excuse to break up for good. You're young and still in college. Find someone else that's more willing to be with you. Don't wait around for him because clearly he's not doing the same for you.
Adv, i've been on a lot of dates with T. We have such an awesome time together. But lately i startet to feel like i'm leading him on. There are some ugly things he doesn't know about me. It hasn't naturaly come up yet , so i havent't told him. On one side, i want him to know me with flaws and all. On the other side i'm terrified of driving him away. What do? How long into a relationship is it ok to not tell your partner stuff that might change his opinion of you? At what point does it go from "we are still getting to know each other" to "leading on"?
>>16569114
>polish starter pack
>nie ma kiełbasy and kapusty
>At what point does it go from "we are still getting to know each other" to "leading on"?
after third date, if you string along the guy after that, you are just being a bitch
>>16569122
So, are you implying that you should tell your darkest secrets to somebody you went on 3 dates? That's seems a tad overdone to me...
>>16569122
Have you actually dated anyone, ever?
Apparently I'm not gay, but the only women I'm attracted to are fat chicks into alternative fashion.
How do I maneuvre this without sticking my dick in crazy?
How fat? And do you mean gothic?
You are being way too ambiguous for 4chan. No need to speak cryptically, just say everything very bluntly, that's the beauty of anonymity.
>>16569052
idk like not immobile. kinda hard to explain since standards are different around the world and a girl that's BIG in this corner of Europe would be just mildly bigger than average in most places of the US.
As long as there's like no ribs showing and I can get my arms around her we're good.
And not really like standard gothic but just weird. Pink hair and hard makeup and black nail polish and shit.
So, I got myself into a pickle...
I met this guy who goes on /r9k/, he's really cool and a great friend. We talk everyday and have a lot of fun hanging out. We have a very sarcastic friendship.
So, he randomly asked me to be his girlfriend, I really thought it was a joke because I told him internet relationship are really dumb. I said "ahhahah Sure senpai :)"
He started referring to me as his girlfriend.
And I told him that I legit thought he was joking, and didn't really mean to say yes in all seriousness. I also have a boyfriend. He played it off like it was nothing and still refers to me as his girlfriend and he even buys me things.
I ask him not to but he says they are all gifts and I do wanna give his money back some how.
My boyfriend is really aware of it, and I've told my other friends and they all agree'd he needs to "bust a nut somehow" lol. Some people think he's trying to drill in the idea that im his girlfriend so i'll believe it someday.
But I don't want him to end up hurting himself over this. What should I do?
So, I got myself into a pickle...
I met this guy who goes on /r9k/, he's really cool and a great friend. We talk everyday and have a lot of fun hanging out. We have a very sarcastic friendship.
So, at a party he randomly asked me if I wanted to have sex, I really thought it was a joke because I told him internet relationship are really dumb. I said "ahhahah Sure senpai :)"
Then I was totally raped and stuff.
>>16568985
>But I don't want him to end up hurting himself over this
That's his choice, not yours. You haven't really done anything wrong here, you've made your thoughts/feelings very clear, and he doesn't seem to care. If it's making you uncomfortable or putting strain on your relationship, send his gifts back and tell him you think it's best if you stop talking for a while
>>16568993
ahhaha yeah!! Talking about his really TRIGGRED ME TOO. So please /adv/ be gentle.
But really, I keep telling him we aren't dating but he doesn't seem to listen. I think he's kinda delusional. Or maybe this is a weird joke he's play which involves..give me presents?
How do you deal with a girl that doesn't text much? When we meet in person, we can talk easily. We get along really well and have fun. But when we text, its just so short-lived. She gives short responses with a :) at the end, and its hard to make conversation continue so I let it die down. What do?
>>16568972
She's a lost cause senpai, I gotten a lot of numbers from girls before and there all like this with the slow response and smiley faces
>>16568972
If its easier to talk in person don't waste conversation topics in text, just make it quick like hey you want to hangout on whatever day? then leave it at that. I've been texting a girl and she does short long responses once and a while and its annoying but one day conversation went like this
>(After one worded answer)
>Hey is everything okay, you don't seem to be acting like your usual self, I don't know if its just me overthinking things or what but if something is wrong you can tell me.
>10 minutes later I get a text from her with a long paragraph of what was wrong and why she was giving short answers.
Once and a while she tells me that one worded answers means two things, she has nothing else to contribute to what I said ( very rare) or it means she's busy, or something is up
>>16568972
>What do?
Realize that some people genuinely don't like texting and see it as a waste of time (unless you're trying to plan events or something).
When I'm home, I keep my phone charged in another room with the text sounds turned off. Small talk over a phone is boring as shit, and you can't properly convey everything you want to say. So when someone wants to actually talk to me, I prefer if they call or wait to see me in person. If they keep trying to text me, they're going to get "barely interested" texts an hour later. My guy learned early on that I don't take people seriously unless they put effort into a phone call.
>this fucking generation
So lets start the Storytime:
>Be me
>Chemical Technichian in training
>2 weeks professional school
>pretty chill, cool teachers and intresting lessons
>Recess
>standing infront of two friends (which are sitting behind their desks)
>talking about games and whatnot
>room is pretty empty
>Girl from my class walks up from the side, stops and is now standing beside me
>reeeallly close
>If i shifted two centimeters to the left i would've touched her
>still talking mostly ignoring her
>".. so yeah, i guess i see why people arent that amazed of MGS V but i still find it pretty fascinating" -me 2015
>while I said this the girl, lets call her Liz moved up to me, now leaning against me
>"I think your fascinating to Anon"
>wut
>full steam beta machine
>"okey.."
>ignore her and again talk with friends
>Liz:" Is it ok if I lean myself against you?"
>she is already doing that but whatever
>"sure ..."
>proceed talking, not moving an inch because full beta
>she goes away after a minute ingoring her
But that isnt the only thing that happend:
>professional school still
>the do an fire exercise
>everyone has to leave the building
>its fall and almost everyone left their jackets because they thought it wouldnt be that cold outside
>thewinteriscoming.jpg
>step outside, everyone complaining that its cold
>be bikerfag and have a motorcycle jacket that is super fucking warm and generally comfortable
>Liz is walking beside me
>"hey Anon its cold, .... could you lend me you jacket?"
>fuck no
>decide to do a joke
>"nah, its to comfy, but if you want to get warm you could try to fit under it with me."
>Liz:"Sure, why not"
>wait what
>were standing in the cold and she is standing infront of me, pressed tightly against me under my jacket hugging me
>Say nothing and go back to beta statue mode
>not even huggin back
So /adv/ is this just normal behavoiur that I never experienced in high school because I was one of the there or is this something serious?
There are some other things too
>>16568961
What country are you from?
This doesn't happen in America for sure
>>16568977
From Germany
Also:
>lesson in school
>bored
>look around in classroom
>eyes get stuck on Liz's face
>thinking about what the fuck just happend in recess
>not moving my eyes
>suddenly she looks up
>too late to just look away now
>imfucked.jpg
>remember that i heard somewhere that when a girl has a crush on you that she smiles when your looks meet
>decide fuck it, this is already waaay to long to just look away
>iniciate smile and pull one eyebrow up
>ohgod that probably looked so fucking cringy
>expect her to just look away
>but wait theres more
>she actually smiles back
>this also happend a few times now
She's into you. You were smooth the second time and didn't even realize it. Bro, take her out!
Keep ignoring her advances and you'll lose your chance.
My professor is allowing us to bring 2 pages of notes to the final. This is a 100 level college class. I managed to fit everything that I would have studied on to 2 pages at 10pt font. I feel like I'm cheating. I don't want to be the asshole who ruins it for everyone next year. Should I slim down my notes and try to memorize the stuff I removed? I guess I could do that and bring my slim copy and full copy and see what other students have. What would you do?
>>16568948
Dude I'm sure you arent the only who did this, and you'll never see that prof again. ANd if yo udont, he wont remember.
Just get your fucking A and be done. No point getting a B and regetting it a year or two later when you dont even remember what the professor looks lke
>>16568948
Either u r retarded or just go become a monk
>>16568948
>2 pages of notes
>100 level
Public university in the south detected.
Guys, my boyfriend was blackmailed this morning. Someone contacted him saying they had personal info taken virtually from his laptop and they would send it to his family and Facebook. The content were three videos of us making love (which I particularly wouldn't feel so bad if they were released), and they were asking for $800. They skyped my boyfriend and shared the screen, so they could show him them deleting the files from their computer. My boyfriend transfered the money via Western Union to Turkey.
Questions: how they had access to those files? Options, pls
What can he do now in order to get these guys? Should he contact the police or something more specific?
How to make sure the chanel isn't still open for the scammers? Do you guys think they have continuous access to my bf's computer, or passwords and such?
My boyfriend felt exposed and he decided to pay. I wouldn't have payed, honestly, I can handle this situation (I still think soon these videos will be online, cuz I don't believe they really deleted them)
Lol why, they can keep blackmailing him. Just deleted all social media or hide all contacts
The police will most likely not be able to do anything. You can contact them, but presumably nothing will happen.
You definitely shouldn't have paid.
Yea, I wouldn't have paid. I would go to the police, and if they can't do anything, climb higher up the ladder. You shouldn't have paid.
alright guys I need some serious help
I have a few friends who constantly tease me for being attractive and not having a girlfriend
I've also overheard some people talking about me and how I was hot
anyway, as attractive as I may or may not be, I still can't maintain a conversation with anyone, let alone girls
I envy others who effortlessly talk to other friends and girls and it just pisses me the fuck off
is there anything I can do to become more interesting and be able to talk someone for more than a few seconds, or am I doomed to be autist for the rest of my life
like I don't understand, apparently I'm attractive, as this has even been proved through "hook up" apps, but for some reason in person I just don't know how to act "popular" and nobody wants to talk to me because my personality is so fucking stale
like seriously I fucking hate looking over at some people and they're laughing away talking about the next party they're having and how many girls they've hooked up with and shit
seriously I'm probably going to kill myself
//vent
Post picture. And talk to some girls online to get more comfortable with it. Practice is really all you can do. Fake it till you make it etc.
>>16568842
my point is, I can't
I've literally tried faking this "confidence" shit, but people just fucking act like I'm retarded
I used to be A LOT more outgoing when I was younger, but constant teasing and narcissistic parents have made me pretty closed down
I want to fix this but idk how
Start doing things that will boost your self esteem/ confidence like working out regularly and listening to hip hop music.
My ex recently left me, packed up all the stuff in the house and moved to her friend's. Our shared bank account was cleaned out and she took everything. I'm stuck at my mom's with no job, car or money. How can I make money to feed my cat? She's the only thing I have in this world that's keeping me from killing myself. I've tried Mturk, but they said they were having trouble finding my tax info and now that's not an option. I don't want to resort to stealing.
What is mturk?
Your mom won't help you out with cat food? I get the big bag that lasts a month for my three cats for $7.99.
>>16568758
I try not to feed her the dry food, it's high in carbs. My mom doesn't have a job, her boyfriend pays the rent and bills. Don't get me started on her, she's a fucking cunt.
>>16568757
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aBVv5ibkmNo
I had unprotected sex with a girl at a gig two weeks ago and decided to get an STD test last week.
I got a letter in the mail today saying I needed to see my doctor about a "non-urgent" issue regarding the results.
What the fuck does this mean? Surely if it was something really serious like HIV that would be an "urgent" issue. Am I fucked?
B-bump
Most doctors will not mention anything if the test comes back negative for STDs. You are fucked anon.
It could just be the clap if it is you can be treated I think it goes away within a couple of weeks when treated. Good luck to you though
If a girl ever approached you, say she's average-looking and isn't fat, would you think she's easy/desperate or would it be more of a relief?
>>16568696
Easy/desperate takes a bit of time and conversation, simply approaching isn't desperate or easy. Since you gave these option it would be more of a relief, provided the atmosphere is relaxed.
relief
even better if she is a nerd
>>16568696
Bump
So my boyfriend has been ignoring my text or calls lately. But he will normally talk in our group chat to our friends. It really hurts that he's leaving me on read and it bothers me a lot.
I spoke to him about it and he normally says "I'm not ignoring you" or "I see you every day I don't need to text you." (I'm on winter break) and he tells me he doesn't want to break up either.
So I'm assuming he wants space because he also doesn't want to play any online games with me.
Would the best thing to do is just not bother trying to talk to him? And if so what could I do to cope with the loneliness? All of my friends are out of town to see family, and when I play a game or two by myself I feel a tiny bit sad.
So thank you for any advice.
Additional info: we've been together for 2 years. I'm 20 and he's 21
Solution: new boyfriend
>>16568648
I dunno, I at least want to wait and see him in person before thinking about breaking up. Then I would want some time before seeing anyone else because I do love my boyfriend enough not to move on so quickly..
That's a cute animal by the way.
Do you guys actually see each other every day? He prob just needs his space after dealing with your clinginess all day.
Can someone help me maybe diagnose what might be wrong with me? I've tried googling and it comes up with loads of stuff.
>brain fog
>headaches
>fatigue
>low energy and mood
>apathy
>loss of interest in previous hobbies
>palpitations
>oversleeping (tired even after 8 hours or longer of sleep)
>shit attention span
>avoidant personality
>weakness/sluggish muscle response
>tire easily despite regular exercise and good diet
>thirsty very often
>appetite fluctuates weirdly
I've been suffering these symptons for a long time, but they've got much worse recently, to the point where as soon as I can go to the doctor's office I am going to to get an MRI and more bloodwork done. Preliminary tests on my blood didn't show anything really out of the ordinary, but doc reccommended I see an endocrinologist, which I will do in the new year.
I've been seeing a therapist as well in case it's a psychological issue due to some messed up stuff that happened to me a long time ago, but we're not really making much headway.
Obviously a professional will be able to tell me whats up a lot easier than you guys, but I'd love to know what I can do or expect, since I can't go back to the doctor until the new year.
I'm 20, male, no significant injuries that I remember, weigh about 70kgs with 14% bf.
Depression compounded by poor habits brought on by depression.
>>16568620
Nice image. How best to get over/past this hurdle ? I just want to be happy and healthy again.
Go to a GP and tell him your symptoms, hint towards testing your bloods, specifically testosterone/diabetes/thyroid/etc. Get the blood test done and make sure youre in the clear.
Don't really want to touch on the psych counter part. This is a dangerous area to start 'thinking/knowing something' is wrong with you. If the bloods are clear, you more than likely have GAD/depression combo which is very common, last thing you want to do is get all neurotic or worse, take tablets. If this is the case identify why you are unhappy, learn CBT and learn to express emotions. I cannot emphasise enough the downward spiral it causes being complacent or just thinking tablets solve the issue. (tablets will also make you have erectile dysfunction)
You have to participate in your own rescue or you will be a loser.
What sites can go to, to find women willing to get their feet worshiped by me? I know backpage has a section, but it's very slow. What else? Yes, I mean I pay them to worship thier feet.
You pay them? don't the tons of amateur free foot worship videos do it for you?
Or do you mean meeting someone irl?
>>16568616
Not videos.
I want to meet up with a female, pay her money, and then worship her feet.
>>16568611
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