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Found out my girlfriend has a Tinder she's kept from me and I'm about to confront her about it. It says in her bio that she wants to just make friends with people. Should I ask to see her messages? is that too invasive?
>>16566554
She said she "just wants friends" in her profile to give her plausible deniability. Nobody puts "here to cheat on my boyfriend" there.
If you ask to see her messages and she says no, what then? Take it like a kek or dump her would be your only options.
Go through her phone while she's sleeping. It's the only way to be sure.
My ex boyfriend did this. He had an okc up and said it was "just for friends". Got mad at me for being upset he had a dating profile up while we were together. A month later found out he was cheating on me.
There are lots of ways to make friends. You don't need a dating site to do it.
>>16566554
Definitely go ahead and ask to see the messages. Be prepared for any possibility of what you may find, however, and don't jump to conclusions. It is not uncommon for people to use sites like Tinder or OKC to flirt or fantasize without any intention of actually meeting up. Only you know how you will feel if you read that she has been flirting, or if you would believe her if she said it stopped there, or if you'd even believe she wasn't cheating if you find nothing really incriminating.
Regardless,...
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Ok yall. I know this bitch since years ago. We used to hang once a month or two, sometimes she proposed, sometimes I did. No deep frienship, we didn't hang with the same people or shit. I like this bitch t b h, and I guess she knows. Althought we never did shit.
Well, last time we met (2 months or so) she was like "well lately i've been bored cuz all of my friends got boyfriends and i got none" and before she went home she said we should meet again soon. I proposed meeting one week after and she said she was busy. I decided to quit this girl, no big relationship...
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>>16566463
>>16566463
She was just drunk and in the moment
>>16566476
Ok, but I want answers
my girlfriend is wearing leggings going out without telling me at first before I asked how the fuck am I opposed to react to this?
>>16566411
dump her, join the French Foreign Legion.
>>16566411
Wat, they're just leggings wtf is wrong with you bro
>>16566411
I don't understand, what's the problem?
I was BANNED from my local super smash bros melee scene. They use the local community college to host this and TOLD ME BY EMAIL IF I CAME THERE THEY WOULD NOT ALLOW ME IN. This was out of nowhere so I immediately called the TO, who told me why. He said it was because I was frequently toxic and angry. He said that I yell at players and make them uncomfortable and scared, and that a girl quit because of me. While I DO sometimes get frustrated and vocalize it, so do many other people I am simply being discriminated against my voice is naturally deeper than most. also the truth is a girl never quit that is a complete lie, she was just butthurt that she was worst than everyone there. I'm so fucking irate. I've been a member of this community FOR YEARS and just now I'm a nuisance? I am entitled to a certain level of RESPECT for being a veteran player. I'm looking into finding a lawyer who get me unbanned. There MUST be a law that prevents people from arbitrarily banning others from certain locations without written documents proving it (the TO just SAID I was banned he did not provide any evidence.) The TO isn't rich or anything so I don't think I would have to ask a lot from him, I think he'd break under just pressure of lawsuit.
>I am entitled to a certain level of RESPECT for being a veteran player.
you are a fucking ASSHOLE that is what you ARE can't you SEE that these people don't want you AROUND just move ON
>>16566346
If you can't prove they're discriminating against you for whatever reason it will be difficult to get 'unbanned'. Businesses do have a right to refuse service to anyone.
kek, due to your buttblasted reaction I'd say you're likely downplaying your anger responses at these things, but whatever
and no, a lawyer won't help you here. stop being a rage baby and find a new club. even if you could legal your way back in, why would you want to do that if no one wants you there?
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Yesterday I went out with a girl who I've had a crush on for quite a while. Everything went well and we both had a great time. However, for some reason my brain has suddenly stopped feeling attracted to her. It's like I can only feel attracted to girls I can't have and the second there's actually a possibility that we could become a couple my brain aborts. Does anyone else have this problem?
Girls:
If a guy absolutely ruins a picture where he's standing next to you because his face is awkward as fuck, does it ruin his chances with you?
GIRLS or guys.
I'll watch a movie with a girl in a few weeks.
What movie should we watch?
She likes tumblr-tier things like Harry Potter and YA novels.
Tbh I'm not asking for a movie that will get me laid for sure, i'm just asking for a movie that a girl with those tastes would enjoy.
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Also, any tip about how I should act while watching the movie is welcome.
Femanons- how important is it to you to keep your last name when you get married?
Masculanons- how important is it to you that your wife take your last name?
Marriedanons- how did you do it in your relationship? Were you comfortable with it? Was there much argument about it?
All this is assuming heterosexual relationships by people who actually want to get married.
I run in circles where no one would think twice about my wife's last name and it would make no difference to me either. I also respect that other people have different social pressures and personal preferences.
Femanon here. I kinda want to keep my last name due to carreer-reasons and whatnot also I'm close with my family. Ever since I was a kid it just seemed weird to give it up.
My boyfriend doesn't give a shit because it's just a name. His family is shit so he might take my name, but it's up to him.
In the end, it's just a name and I don't think its 'proof that you love someone' to change your last name. Getting married in the first place is pretty solid proof.
Femanon here.
Doesn't matter to me if I keep my last name even though I love it and proud of it. I'm a traditionalist in that sense if/when I get married I'd like to take my husband's last name.
Social retard here, how does one talk to girls in a "have sex with me" sort of way and not the "Be my friend" sort of way?
>>16567597
by not being a beta like urself
Lol just ask us how to be a creep, no need to sugar it up.
Anyway, you don`t. You talk to them normally and then if the chemistry is right, you can attempt dating.
>>16567597
Lean back. Be slightly grumpy or act like you have somewhere to be in about 5 minutes.
>Be me, 14 years of age, 6ft tall blondehairblueeyes.jpg, be avid guitarist, middle school girls lining up, fall in love, go to different high school than her, freak the fuck out and break it off, everything's okay, mid freshmen full depression and social withdrawal, only play skyrim, become emotionless robot, manage to make one other robot friend, stop playing guitar, fullrecluse.jpg, hair recedes and turns black from condition gain 45lbs, randomly pick robot college to go to, freshmen year is sleeping league of legends and studying, be this year,...
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The trend is in the correct direction.
>>16567494
>I don't know what to do from here guys, I'm still unhapppy.
It sounds like you're trying to find someone to fill that deep void inside of you, but only you can make yourself happy. It's possible that you're clinically depressed and need to medicate. However, if you actually put yourself out there and do something good with your life, you may find fulfillment.
>>16567494
You should be unhappy, that's nature's way of telling you to get laid, find love, etc.
I have 1 week to write a personal speech that I'm going to give in front of an audience of hundreds and not sound like a total autist while Im doing it.
What's some good /adv/ice.
First of all, make that speech flow so that it can be presented smoothly. You really don't want to stand in front of a speech that sounds like it was written by an autistic 10 year old. Make sure you have your basic structure of a speech and that everything is displayed clearly so people understand the point of your speech. Now, once you have written it, be sure to memorize it from start to end! I've memorized 1k essays in about 3 days with pure dedication so just follow this. Read it 3 times out loud to yourself at least in 3 periods of the day (morning, afternoon,...
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>>16567383
Thanks for the advice anon
It has to be a memorized speech from "personal experience", I had already written down a draft but was rejected because it didn't have a good topic.
I can't seem to find a good balance between something that doesn't sound too whiny or depressing and still connects with the audience, any suggestions, anon?
That's fine OP. Oh okay, then be sure to memorise it very well, and if you do mess up just be sure to improvise.
Ohh, I see. It is quite hard to find a capturing topic without it sounding too depressing.
Hmm... well may I know what your first topic was about?
I want to cheat on my girlfriend. I am 26 and I've only had sex with three people because I was super shy throughout my youth. Now I have been dating someone not so attractive in comparison to me for about a year. I keep getting sexual advances from other women. Just this weekend I had some girls sing that old song "Hey hey, you you, I don't like your girlfriend" randomly. This girl with gigantic tits can't stop messaging me and talking about hanging out. The cuban girl next door with a gorgeous body continually comes and talks to me about exercise after...
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Break up with her you asshole. Seems like you are stringing her along to get other girls.
>>16567327
I just hadn't even had a kiss for like four years because I turned into some house troll and never socialized.. And then I met her. I jumped back into the real world and learned how to interact. I do love her, I started dating her because I enjoyed her company, but the sexual chemistry isn't there. It is forced.
The feeling of love and sex feel entirely separate. She doesn't have the sex drive I have and I am being confronted with other women and there's a large part of me that wants to...
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>>16567318
Just cheat man! I give you full permission just make sure you cover all your bases otherwise you will be fucked. You know what I mean when I say cover all your bases!
How do you deal with being the only person that believes the way you do?
>Be me in Uni
>Hold strong political views
>Seemingly only one not "feeling the Bern"
>Also a Roman Catholic trying to live a moral life
>I know all that doesn't all seem to work together.
>I feel so alone in all this
Obviously I feel like it's better to stay true to yourself and be...
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Okay. How do you feel that you are morally superior in any way by being republican or libertarian?
>>16567292
I can already tell you that you're going to get shit on by /adv/.
Anyways, try to find common ground with people in things other than politics and religion. Also look for groups and clubs about your interests. You can find lots of like minded people at your local church or a Young Conservatives type group.
>>16567292
Glad to hear you see through the bern BS
My girlfriend will seriously break up with me if I have a non iPhone because not messaging with u message and the ability to see the status of messages makes her have really bad anxiety. Is this normal among iPhone users?
>he doesn't have an iPhone 6s plus
It just makes things harder honestly
I'm female, 5'9" and 160 lbs. Should I lose weight?
obviously
>>16567037
Unless you're swole, yeah, probably. Only way to tell is actually seeing a photo of you, though.
No. That's healthy.
I was planning to leave it out of my resume because i think it would make me look over-qualified but then what else am i supposed to put under the education section?
>>16566810
yes list your degree
it can help your employer figure out if you might be groomed for a higher position someday
also make sure to list EVERY school, including preschools attended. this is important for maintaining order in the jobforce
>>16566810
Yes.
It is difficult to explain what else you were doing during those three or four years
No. Unless it has direct relevance for the position. Lie and make up relative experience.
Otherwise you'll be overqualified in a non related field and be a flight risk. Whenever I had jobs i was in charge of hiring I'd throw these resumes right out
It seems that I have had some kind of an epiphany today.
My boyfriend can't handle truth. Anytime I tell him something that is factual about his behavior, he goes on a wild and very angry emotional venture.
Example:
Him: I would choose to be with you over anything else all the time. (while talking about me going away for new years with my family)
Me: That's not true baby, you wanted to spend 2 new years with your friends instead of me, but couldn't afford to go with them ...so you spent it with me.
>He proceeds to...
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>>16566569
Plasser
>>16566569
Honestly I can't understand why you'd want to date this person.
"Example:
Him: I would choose to be with you over anything else all the time. (while talking about me going away for new years with my family)
Me: That's not true baby, you wanted to spend 2 new years with your friends instead of me, but couldn't afford to go with them ...so you spent it with me.
>He proceeds to get angry, arguing that it's not true and refuses to talk to me for a few days. "
Actually, here he came with facts and you told something that was your opinion.
You said always, but he had...
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