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I haven't been in a relationship yet and I think it's about time since I'm 19. But I have no idea what could go wrong or what I could do wrong once I have a gf.
I just want to know, what are the lessons you guys have learned while being or after a relationship?
I mean the kind of lessons like
>This relationship failed or turned to shit because this happened or I was too much like this
>In my next relationship I will do that so it doesn't happen again.
Stuff like this you've...
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>>16565072
Don't get in one.
If your gf is picking a fight, it means she wants/ needs sex.
>>16565072
Massacre time needs to be a real show. Need/10
Am I attractive? Some people say I am but they just do it to be nice, so I need you guys to tell me the truth.
Score between 0-10 and some advice?
are you a girl or a guy?
That nose tho
>>16565088
A guy, dude. Are you asking that seriosly? hahahaha
OK, so I have this predicament. Almost 10 months relationship (though we know each for much longer) and I get the feelings she's getting lazy, taking me for granted. It's all my doing too, because I'm fucking madly in love at this point, it took a while to develop these feelings, and now I'm showering her with love, but I feel she's not really putting much effort. Now, from what I managed to get from her (passive aggressive withdrawn type, difficult to talk about own feelings), she wants to feel I'm committed and that's partly why she's...
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I hate to be the one to tell you, but if she's passive agressive and can't communicate open and in an adult manner, this whole thing probably won't last. Because that's the one thing you need. How old are the two of you?
>>16565099
we're both oldfags, feeling enough biological pressure. she even indirectly expressed the desire to be proposed to. am I being kekked. goddamn love is blind, I'm a mess of emotions right now. Big part of me just says fuck it, do it, get married, you ain't getting any younger
>>16565115
How old tough? 10 months is rather short to get married, but it might be that she's pulling back because she feels her biological clock ticking and thinks it's about time to take the next step. I would, however, advice against it. Feeling obliged to rush in is not a very good start. Have you talled to her about the situation? If yes, what did she say?
And some of these jobs which pay more are not even that stressful (eg. actuary)!
If you ask people on their deathbed about their life, they will rarely say that they wished they had earned more money.
(Unless they're from Chad and die from explosive poverty at the age of 22, I suppose.)
>>16565017
Yeah, but really all jobs are stressful, so why not just like ones which pay more?
Plus some jobs that pay pretty well (eg. nutrionist) are not even that stressful.
>>16565034
How much money are your dreams worth?
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Very anti-social and I need a career
I want to be a manager because it's easy for me to understand but I don't want to deal with others..
>>16565054
As a human being you can't be very anti-social and there's joy to be had with interracting with people.
Why do you classify yourself as "very anti-social"?
What bothers you about interracting with others?
Is it mostly about the people around you, or people in general, or yourself?
What do you occupy yourself with on your free-time?
Before you work on omething you plan on doing for a good while, you should open yourself up, because human interraction is inevitable, and it's a neccesity for us, for our happiness.
I guarantee you that you'll be more happier, and through this you can find out what you actually want to do with your life, rather than just being a "manager". Asnwer the above questions for me.
my younger sister is getting dragged into degeneracy
she was interested in singing and we were all behind her, then theater, which was fine as well
but now her friends are lesbians, she's going out with guys by herself at sixteen, dressing like a whore, drinking, we don't know what to do
I understand there are some people who think all those things are ok, those people need not post in this thread
she listens to the majority, the all encompassing propaganda in our society; she thinks her friends are good people and doesn't see why we...
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The harder you try to control her the harder she will resist. Most 16 year olds are like, especially girls who feel the need to explore and experiment.
Rebelion is just ingrained in society, we see things don't agree with (sometimes not even for logical reasons) so we push back. She doesn't understand your families need to control her. Love her and support her decisions and don't make her feel guilty otherwise you will lose her. Just say you want to be there for her no matter what and if she needs space just trust her. You can't protect everyone bro, that's just how life is but you can guide them to a position that is stable so they can make the right decision. She will be alright, just don't let your parents threaten her with exile and all that crazy shit families do to their kids and take her side, its better that you're with her for the ride and you can make sure she is safe than by forcing her (pushing her away really) to do and behave the way she simply isn't. Keep what you love close and nurture it. Pick a flowe but don't let it die. Do you get what I am saying?
Sorry if shitty spelling, I'm on my phone.
>>16564946
She needs to learn pain and suffering
it makes people more modest.
If you're interested I could suggest some things
>>16564961
see I don't want to push her away, but we can't just sit back and do nothing
we won't let degeneracy into our household, the further she goes the welcome she will be
she doesn't realize the impact she's having on all of us
there are consequences of what she's doing that she can't even understand yet, and she won't be able to undo later on
Watching porn with girlfriend and talking about it.
My girlfriend watches porn, I don't, she showed me a video and told me that's how she wants me to fuck her, I'll of course happily oblige but, what are the pros and cons of this porn watching? Is it healthy for the relationship, how should I talk with her about it? She seemed unsatisfied with how I responded to her at first, I didn't really know what to say.
Watching porn is totally normal.
People watch porn.
It's a thing that people do.
Don't try to change your partner.
>>16564919
So how should I talk with her about it? This is confusing.
Despite what that anon says, watching porn isn't "normal", it's something that a group of people in this day and age do, and it yields nothing positive to anyone does.
I know you already sense it, just talk to her about it. Ask her why she's really watching porn and if she ever tried to break out of her habit. She'll probably say it's just a thing she does for pleasure and she might reply that she may have a hard time if she stopped or something to that effect.
I'm a guy with strong sex drive and I used to watch porn masturbate...
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Do I need an active social life to KEEP a girlfriend?
Key word is keep here, because I know I will need one to get her in the first place.
Generally speaking, yes. This almost goes without saying for extraverted women. But even introverted women, though they enjoy their solitude, generally don't like to be isolated, and an isolated SO is an isolating experience.
But I'm confused: did you think you'd be able to just drop your social life when an SO entered the picture? Social lives do not work that way.
yeap the more social you are the more value you have to her.
>>16564943
too bad the actual value to social life is nearly zero
Can i call the cops and jail someone if they're a sociopath? Or do I have to confirm it through doctors?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=r8ngDnWwFBI
do you think they'd believe you? Without proof, you'll get nowhere. Even with proof it's likely you'll get nowhere.
Suprised you had to ask this question. Think about it logically:
What if you double crossed someone and they wanted to get back at you? If they could just report to the police that you were insane and have you jailed for petty personal reasons, that would create a huge issue.
Perhaps in the mental ward, which is still a sort of jail.
You are walking down the street this bloke slows down and yells "You worthless piece of shit!" then drives off. Continuing to walk down the road the car is stuck in traffic. What should you do?
smile at the hate I've spread
>>16564842
I'm missing something here.
>>16564835
"You shouldn't say such things about yourself"
This might come off as nonsensical rambling, but I'll try to explain my situation as best I can.
Lately I'm starting to view myself as overall better than most people. I see others as nothing more than dumb animals, with the possible exception of some close ones. I look down on pretty much everyone. And every time I see someone that might have it better off than me at the slightest I get a strong sense of hatred towards that person and can't think of anything else but wanting to make their lives as miserable as possible.
I don't know how I became...
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thank you for the post, op, i'm struggling with the same thing.
I don't know if it's your case, but i both love and hate this kind of attitudes at the same time. I'm brainwashed and i think it makes me more unique.
>>16564711
>>16564718
congrats, you are both sociopaths. please see a psychiatrist.
>>16564728
Granted, they could also both be edgy teenagers.
hoe do you get over a paranoid, irrational fear of other people?
Grow up having good experiences
>>16564661
I don't even HAVE bad experiences. I don't know where it comes from.
there's nothing irrational about a fear of other people
other people are the enemy
depending on
1. what you look like
2. what you can do for them
boycott everything
