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Hey /adv/, I'm 19 years old and I want to start a career in the military. Right now I'm my freshman year of college (in Europe, so at least it's free) and I'm essentially doing it in order to not disappoint my family.
My parents were always dead-set on me getting a college education and that wasn't really up for debate. I wouldn't mind if at least they'd support my choice (I'd just commission instead of enlisting I suppose), but they're treating it as if I'm literally throwing my life away, and telling me it would be a "huge waste of potential" and bullshit like that.
What can I do in order to convince them it's not such a bad choice? I know I shouldn't care and that it's my life, but I don't want them to worry or be disappointed.
You don't get shot at in college.
Well, at least you don't get sent to places where you're likely to get shot at in college. And consequently, you don't develop ptsd in college. That's what they're concerned about. I also think that just because of the risk of ptsd and the stigma the veterans are over violent lunatics, they don't get hired for hardly anything once they're out.
Now, if you take a non combat job like aircraft mechanic or shoot for an officer career, that's a bit different, although it still sucks and would suck less if you did whatever it is outside of the military.
>>16551882
Tell them you're having a difficult time finding work and youre doing it for your resume, and build job experience. Tell them about how you'll be building a pension earlier than most others in your age and how you're going to save money to kickstart your left afterwards. Once you've eased them in, in a few years when contract ends, tell them you want to make it your career and by then they'll probably appreciate your choice.
>>16551894
There's no way I'm ever going to get shot at if I'm not in some kind of special operations force, though.
Of course they're sort of concerned about my security, but from what they tell me, the issue is more about the work not being "worth it" in their eyes. My mom's never graduated high school so she (understandably) wants me to do something intellectually stimulating, and my dad despises anything related to the military and armed forces and thinks I should become a corporate lawyer or something like that. Both seem to think the military is basically a place where retards go to collect a pension easily and wipe floors all day.
>>16551899
I've already brought up the money aspect and they're telling me I have low expectations and lack ambition, and that I could just get a high paying job if I waited a few years and got a master's.
Basically, they seem convinced that I want to enlist because I'm lazy and don't want to do something that requires intellectual effort, and that I'm "wasting my potential"
My college professor asked me out on a date. Is there any reason I shouldn't go do it?
>>16551862
Don't shit where you eat.
>>16551862
They could lose their job
Do it, then sneak into their house and watch them sleep.
>make a friend online
>she's pretty cool
>we bond over our mutual like of horror movies, random crap and cats
>find out she likes that other delicious cat, the pussy
>okay, sure
>months past, she wants to visit me in my country
>uhh, how are you going to pay for all that
>apparently her parents are pretty wealthy
>meet her in person, she's actually quite stunning but short
>i show her around my city and the attractions
>find out she gets easily tired and will then start to lean on me
>we play wrestle like siblings might
>we watch horror movies and she needs to hold onto me or bury her head in my chest or shit
>wat, she said she didn't get scared easily
>sometimes will need to sit on my lap
>jokingly say to her that I need practice making out
>she slaps my arm and ignores it
>few days pass and we're at the zoo
>she gives me a quick peck on the cheek as a thank you
>that night, we make out for a bit
>she wears these heavy boots for some reason and i have to massage her feet sometimes
>fucking why
>i decide to be bolder and start kissing her legs
>she doesn't stop me, i kiss her inner thighs for a bit
>she likes it
>notice she'll stare at me and when i point it out her face will go red
>i've held onto her waist from behind and she'll place her hands on mine
>she's fallen asleep on my chest a few times
Unfortunately there's a few downsides
She wants to be called Will and not Willa
She would sit on my lap and kiss me and my neck but she won't go lower and won't touch my dick
I've kissed most of her for ages, but haven't touched her pussy yet
She'll be leaving in a few weeks
Wat do? Wat's going on?
>>16551785
Yeah, sorry for it being too long
>>16551785
you are living the dream, OP
also there is no girl that does not want sex, only guys who cant make her want it
>>16551790
But she's a lesbian and she does like girls a lot
shewon't even check out other dudes
My girlfriend said some time ago after we had a fight she dreamed she was gang raped in front of me, what the hell is that about?
>>16551756
That means she's in the beginning stages of cheating on you.
>>16551763
What's the next stage, how do I prevent that?
>>16551763
>>16551781
just.
wow.
will greentext, love you all
> long distance gf, been together for 10 months
> madly inlove bla bla
> her parents hate me, and they've mad her block me off stuff before but we always got back in contact a day later
> found out again
> this time she got in big shit
> talk to her friend
> friend says she got in huge trouble and isn't allowed to talk to me because her parents went to the police
> friend asked her if she loved me and she said "I mean I don't know, kinda, it's confusing"
lads what the fuck is that meant to mean, if I was to go over to where she lives what are my chances
>>16551735
Have you even met her or her parents?
>>16551739
No it's been online, but we've pretty much talked all day (secretly). Her parents think I'm too old for her ( two year age difference.)
>>16551742
How old both of you?
>Japanese final in 2 days
>managed to fuck up at the beginning of the semester by missing several classes with quizzes (alarm clock broke, accidentally set my 8:00 pm alarm instead of am, etc.)
>need a 100 to tip my grade to a b-
What's the best way to cram a fuckload of kanji /adv/ senpai? Please help.
>>16551705
Read a bunch of manga and watch a shitload of anime.
>>16551708
>anime
>kanji
助けて
Too bad for you, kanji are supposed to be learned little by little. I only started memorizing them once I started writing them over and over again. If you only need to be able to read them though, it's not hopeless: write them all in a small notebook (with translation and readings) that you carry with you everyday and read them as often as possible. I spend so much time in public transit that reading them everytime I need to take the subway made memorize them easily. Good luck anon.
I wrote this girl a love letter, then on the same day 3 hours after I gave it to her she drew this. I wrote it about how she saw pain in my eyes and that's why I liked her, but I never told her because I kept my feelings to myself. Do you think it correlates together? I just want to make sense of it.
>wrote a letter telling her how she saw pain in my eyes
You will cringe so hard at yourself in a few years
>love letter
I cringed. I seriously hope you are still in high school.
>>16551680
She's a badass artist.
So this girl I saw at my college....
I saw her at work a few times (its a very laid back work environment). Icould see she was a quiet girl, and despite the fact that there were tons of guys around her (albiet they were nerdy guys) she seemed available. I knew I could strike up conversation with her easily and she might even talk to me first.
One day I had some spare time before I was to meet someone. So I decide to go position myself in a place where she would see me and if she didn't start talking to me, I would talk to her. I sit down, she starts talking to me and seems pretty enthusiastic about it. Likeafox.jpg we talk for a bit and i tell her I have to go and she tells me before I leave where to look up the schedule of everyone working there (including her of course). I leave.
A week passes, I finally see her again, she jumps up to talk to me. Once again, she's surrounded by guys who aren't talking to her but they're all taking to each other. Anyways in order to talk to me she stands in an awkward location in this group of people. We talk for a while and she gives me her contact info and as soon as she could she sent me the link to the work schedule hours posted online. She sends this tild along with each of her messages, and as I understand it it is supposed to mean flirty.
Anyways, I look at her Facebook and she has a bf.. And he goes to our college and visits her at work regularly..
I'm going to stop here to just get an assessment from you all about what you would think is happening in this situation. Any plausible assessments are welcome.
She's a person with a weak sense of propriety at best and weak morals at worst. Neither of those end well for you.
If you like the attention, enjoy it. When it stops being worth the effort you walk away.
>>16551600
So you're saying she was trying to cheat on her bf?
>>16551605
Not necessarily. I'm saying that in the best case scenario, she's unaware of decent and considerate ways to act while in a relationship. That much is obvious from the fact that you're here telling the story and that you're not unreasonable in doing so. In the worst case scenario, she's aware that what she's doing is shitty and yet is doing it anyway for her own selfish motivations.
What are those motivations? No fucking clue. Maybe she loves attention. Maybe she does want to cheat. Maybe she genuinely gets off on fucking with your emotions. I'm not a mind reader. But the road to this point is already bad enough on its own. I would strongly advise against investing any emotion or expectation in this girl.
Feel free to enjoy the attention and enthusiasm if you like it. That's fine. But always have in the back of your mind an eye on how much this is costing you. Time, energy, opportunity with other girls, etc. Those things might come up as this situation evolves. The moment it's costing you more than you get back from the peppy attention she's giving you, bail.
Are roasties true?
Or are they a figment of r9ks imagination?
>>16551573
??? Have u ever watched porn??
Vaginas with labia are "roasties"
>>16551576
Yeah but that is porno prostitites.
Do they happen in normal girls?
>>16551581
>>16551573
girls vaginas CAN get blown out. There are girls that are born with "roasties" aka outies. And there can be sluts that have innies but usually they'll get blown out eventually.
>be me
>nice to everyone my entire life
>this doesn't have any efffect, spend most of my life friendless and withoutout gf because being nice apparently scares people off
>Decide to just appathetic towards others and ignoring everyone
>now i just get ignored
>decide to actively hate other people and become antagonistic towards them in my mind (mind you, my behaviour remains the same, i still pretty much ignore them, but i force myself to have negative thoughts about others)
>suddenly people try to talk to me, and even a girl tried to talk to me
Can someone explain to me what the hell is going on? forcing myself to hate other people is tiring to me mentally, but this is apparently the only way i can get others' atention
This strategy has never worked for me.
Same thing happened to me and i dont what it is either
If you're a guy, you can't be nice. That's just how it is.
Is it weird for 2 friends to live together if they're both adults with full time careers and can easily afford their own places?
>>16551461
not in the slightest. in my mind living alone is the weirdest type of living situation
that shit is just depressing
>weird
You just broken this word for me. I no longer even know what it means?
Is it potato for 43 fruit flies to mumble mumble ostrich?
>>16551468
hello reddit
Is anyone here particularly familiar with like
the definition of conditional love
in the context of like someone who's really emotionally abusive and justifies it by saying they love you unconditionally but actually it's very much conditional?
I'm trying to get this person to understand what they're doing but they're in an extreme state of denial and I don't know what to do.
They're not listening to me at all so I'm resorting to try finding stuff like youtube videos and other outside sources that explain it but I haven't been able to find anything legit about conditional love.
Sorry this might be confusing sounding but I really need help because if this doesn't work I might have to completely cut out this person from my life along with all mutual friends and I really want to avoid that but I'm doing all the work here and I'm just so exhausted.
>>16551423
If they don't get it, they're not going to. Cut them out and move on with your life. Toxic relationships prevent you from cultivating healthy ones.
>>16551423
conditional love is a love that is voidable given a certain set of circumstances
like if a woman loves you because you're rich that is a conditional love. meaning if you were to end up broke somehow she wouldn't love you anymore
true unconditional love means she'd sleep in the alley with you
>>16551431
I don't know if that's true, though. My friend used to be emotionally abusive with his girlfriend but he's learning his way and it makes a huge difference.
It was never as extreme for them as this, though.
Fuck, this is a nightmare.
>>16551441
It's more complicated than that honestly
>my main strengths are problem solving, software design and coding
>apparently IT, CompSci and GameDev fields are oversaturated
what do?
App design?
Start your own studio.
>my main strengths are problem solving, software design and coding
Are they actually or are they just things you like to think about and pretend?
>>apparently IT, CompSci ...oversaturated
If you're shit at it. Getting a degree guarantees you nothing in those fields, people care about experience, certifications, and portfolios respectively. People think it's oversaturated because "people" is a million dipshits graduating with a CS degree thinking they're qualified to go into production and get paid the big bucks.
In reality, these people are often the furthest thing an employer wants to hire, because they have no enterprise organization and pride theory programming over pragmatic programming, have no work experience, and empty githubs.
Hi /adv/ how do I make new online friends after losing all my previous ones?
VERY long story short, due to rumors and petty shit, my group of online friends (All friends for 2+ years) I met through gaming dissipated and were all turned against my one friend and I. After about 6 months of not going on my pc, gaming, or talking to anyone I've resolved to find a new group of friends
No idea where to start. Do any anons have tips for meeting new people online?
Why online?
>>16551355
What do you mean you don't know where to start? You've already done this once before.
>>16551355
Do you have xbox 360? I play reach and pretty much dick around for hours but I am lonely doing so
What gender, and rating out of ten?
>>16551329
>What gender
Who knows these days. Genderfluid? Apache? Jupiter?
also wrong board
Looks male, but that's because of the haircut. Could be a girl. I don't know.
4/10. Lose weight, get a new haircut, get new glasses. There's potential.
>>16551329
M 4/10
Lose weight you could be a 7
