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My alcoholism is killing me, please help!!! I don't want to die, but I can't stop drinking I get really sick when I don't drink!!! Please help me! I'm only 25, and I'm afraid.
Please respond I've even vomiting blood. I need to stop drinking.
you're an addict. why? what's going on in your life that's making you seek refuge in poison?
http://imgur.com/gallery/poMu0VD
Why do women cut off their hair?
This girl I've been talking to is cutting off all her hair for a pixie hair cut. She knows that I love her hair long and that I think it looks gorgeous. Today she told me that she is cutting it all off but I can tell she wants me to be excited for her.
I'm about to drop all contact. How can I explain why I don't think she should cut it off without looking shallow.
>inb4 you're shallow
I have an issue with women I'm romantically involved in cutting all their hair off. One time I broke my ankle rather severely and my gf at the time cut her hair off because she wanted to punish me for making her stress.
The other time something like this happened my gf accused me of cheating and cut off all her hair off. It turns out she was actually cheating and wanted to do something that would make me hate her.
I don't know why I can't just find a woman who enjoys having a long hair and why is it that my luck somehow always finds me in these situations.
She's cutting off her hair because she wants to get a pixie cut, and seems to be excited about getting a pixie cut.
That's pretty much all there is to it.
I wouldn't call you shallow because that's a silly thing to use as an insult, we all have things we do or don't want in a prospective partner.
What you do have to understand is that if she wants to cut her hair shorter you don't really have any business telling her that she can't. Especially because you aren't even in a relationship yet.
If you really want to be with her perhaps explain that shorter hair in a partner makes you feel uncomfortable - but be prepared for her to go off at you and break off... whatever you have; although that is a worst-case scenario.
why? because sometimes they like the look of it and sometimes women have the gall to make choices about their looks without those choices aligning with whatever pleases the men in their life
don't be a controlling knob. if she wants to cut her hair off that's her choice. if you don't like the look of it, find a girl who prefers to wear her hair long.
Also, if you tell her to not cut her hair for a reason other than the fact that you don't like it, that's lying and isn't really fair on her. Be honest, and suck it up if your honesty loses you a girl; lying about stuff like that always, always blows up in your face in the long-term anyway.
>meet girl
>hit it off well
>go on dates
>light kisses
>start growing apart
>text her
>she ignores
>text again
> a brief exchange of words
>text weeks later
>she now has BF
>she asks if we can be friends
>decline-and haven't spoke to her since
>miss her
>want to talk to her but hate going back on my word
>don't want to be her friend either
>sort of hoping things went sour
>wut do?
Help!
>kill bf (don't let her know about it)
>comfort her on her time of loss
>use this to get closer to her
>marry her
Make sure to plan well the murder, though. Could get bad for your side.
>>16552568
>do not want
Next?
funny thing: she probably doesn't have a bf
Every time i drink this shit i feel light headed and i fap non stop, does anyone else have a reaction like this?
You drink an entire litre?!
>>16552386
no nigga, not on the reg but i have b4
High blood sugar levels does that. Keep on doing what you're doing for an eventual collapse and a diabetes diagnosis.
Hey /adv/,
So how true is the saying, "Follow your dreams"?
I ask because I'm pretty much at rock bottom here. Working a job I hate with nothing serving as a better alternative and have no idea where I want to go. I've always thought about going into stand up or possibly working in in hiking/rock climbing/outdoors stuff even though there isn't that much money to be made.
I guess what I'm trying to ask is are there any people here who just said, "Fuck it!" and did what they wanted? How did everything work out?
Sorry if this question is mixed up all over the place.
Pic related
Sure, have an abridged personal story
>Have a friend that lived in a cold, rainy city dealing with stupid people all day shuffling boxes in a warehouse
>Every weekend he would travel 300 miles to hang out with me in a fringe town, bitch about his life and how he hated it
>Told him EVERY TIME he would visit that he should nut up, move here and do something he likes
>...
>Two years later he's much happier working as a one-man taxi service in a small town, goes fishing every day and makes a great living
Follow your dreams OP.
OP, your pic doesn't work with video games
I tried
>>16552356
Funny enough OP, I was just about to ask a similar question.
That picture pretty much sums up my situation, and I'm not sure if it's right or wrong to give up worrying about income. Probably because I'm still under my parent's roof and I have a past incessantly grabbing at my heels.
I just kinda lost what I'm passionate about, I want to do alot of things, many of which I'm not even good at.
Hit it off with a girl on tinder. Went on a few dates and ended up cuddling, making out and then almost fucking on the third date. I was extremely nervous and awkward during this, and it definitely turned her off. To make matters worse, I couldn't get an erection due to my anxiety and we didn't even fuck. Long story short, I killed whatever chance we had at something pretty quickly because of my fear of taking things too slow, but also being ill prepared to maintain such a pace.
Anyways, we go to the same University but we're also from the same state. We didn't know each other before college, but we'll both be going back home for winter break.
Is there anything I can do to try and get a second chance? After we stopped trying to fuck she talked about how we were taking things too fast and that she wasn't ready for something so serious (I'm pretty sure this was just her letting me down nicely, but I wish she would've just told me if it was because of my shitty performance in bed just so I could be sure. To make matters worse, she said that she "promised that it wasn't because of anything I did".)
I haven't talked to her in a few days, and I probably won't even try to communicate until we're back home. The only reason I'm even choosing to believe that she actually meant what she said about talking things too slow was that she pulled me in for a kiss before I left her apartment after our shitty attempt at screwing (we also cuddled for a while after that too) I don't know why'd she do that if she didn't actually have feelings. Should I try to message her as a friend during winterbreak? Romantic feelings aside I did like hanging out with her.
>>16552276
Be honest about what happened and if she isn't a shallow bitch she'll more than likely give you a second chance. Of course this also really deppends on of she is intrested in you or was just looking for a fuck.
>>16552357
I can't tell if she's a shallow bitch. I mean girls who aren't just looking for a hook up don't cuddle and passionately kiss the guy, I'd assume. But I'm honestly not sure, and I fucking hate how hook up culture has made me anxious about not making moves fast enough. She seemed to generally like me before I spilled my spaghetti.
>tfw holding hands walking back to her apartment
>tfw stop at a red cross walk
>tfw she grips one of my hands with both of hers
>tfw look at her and she has a cute smile on her face
Fuck man, I hate being so goddamn socially inept in college. I feel like I finally get a chance to have a relationship and yet I still fuck up, even when I was so close. I don't want to fuck random girls every week, I just want someone I can talk to and watch netflix with after a long day of studying or some shit.
>>16552400
"Hey, I've got to say I'm sorry about last week. I feel like such a spaz. To be honest, I kind of hate how hook up culture has made me anxious about not making moves fast enough, and I liked you enough I guess that's what happened. Truth is I just want someone I can talk to and watch netflix with after a long day of studying or some shit.
Anyway, sorry about all that. Have a good Christmas break."
If she responds positively, see where things go from there. If not, you got it off your chest.
>Get tinder
>Thought I was decently attractive, not the best in the world but maybe a little above average
>The only matches I get are fat girls
>Its like my one stipulation, don't be fat. Its not like it's an unfair thing to ask for, anyone can lose weight.
Just kill me now.
Bang the fatties
>>16552246
They all wanna be "friends" anyway. Or at least the only kind of acceptable one does. The rest are too fat, I don't wanna bang em.
Post a screenshot of your profile OP, I'll try to help. I'm a 6/10 at best and a little chubby, and I've still matched with a decent amount of qts and had dates with them.
Hello, I have a realtionship problem and don't have much people to talk about it so i thought I'd ask you guys
So me and my gf got together in June, abouth a month into our realtionship she told me she is going for a wine with a guy who she made out with about 3/4 months prior. She then told me more about it and it was clear the guy is still in love with her. So we had our first fight. She went with him and afterwards told me that i was right and he is still into her.
So I thought this matter is done but then about 3 months later she casually tells me she is going out with him again. I got mad again and told her I don't like that she is going out with a guy who loves her, but she tells me that he is her friends and I shouldnt want her to stop seeing her friends. We argued some more and then she said she won't come out with him again because she doesn't want to do something I am so uncomfortable with.
Well yesterday i found out that had coffee on Monday and I am mad as hell. I can't really turn it down. Am I too jealous and should just try to let it go or am i not completely in the wrong?
tldr gf keeps seeing a guy she made out with who still loves her even after she told me she is not going to do it anymore
you have every right to be jealous. That's super suspicious.
>>16552166
It's too late now, but here's where you lost the highground:
>she tells me that he is her friends and I shouldnt want her to stop seeing her friends.
Next time when she mentions that she's going out for a wine with someone you think is sketchy invite yourself along. You shift the moral impetuous from yourself to her: you either get to go along and put this guy in his place, or you seize the moral highground by forcing her to admit that she wants to hang out with a guy she likes by herself.
Of course she could break out the old My-Personal-Space gambit, but you just counter with the Couple-Means-Sharing-Lives maneuver, and if you get stuck there's always the Crazy Ivan.
Being in a relationship is like being in a submarine battle, is essentially what I'm saying.
I'd be pretty upset. Not because she's hanging out with another guy (Well, I wouldn't be upset if that's actually all that's happening) but because she said that she'd do one thing, and goes behind your back and does the opposite. I'd say thats a red flag for your relationship if its only been a month and your partner is already willing to just tell you what you want to hear and go behind your back rather than discuss things.
Tips on how to convince people that god doesn't exist?
Don't.
gesture to a picture of Donald Trump
>>16552156
Define 'God'.
Nigga could be anything.
Ask questions that are too trivial for their own threads here.
Is newfag
What does r9k mean?
>>16552172
robot9000, the most generic name the author of XKCD could think of for the moderation bot he created.
>>16552172
It means "ROBOT 9000".
It's explained here:
http://blog.xkcd.com/2008/01/14/robot9000-and-xkcd-signal-attacking-noise-in-chat/
To any Catholics on this board.
How do I become catholic. Scared to talk to priest and I'm frightened to go inside of the church.
What do I do? I want to be a proper Christian man...
Ex-catholic.
Call a church you're looking to join. Get a meeting with the priest. In my old diocese, you had to meet with the bishop. You go to Sunday school for like a year or something, not sure. You're then baptized and saved from everlasting hellfire. Hallelujah. Praise be.
>>16552006
Grew up Roman Catholic.....
Fuck.that.shit.
Formerly catholic. Talk to a priest.
Also, there's no harm in entering a church and participating in worship services OP, even if you haven't converted yet.
tips on convincing others that god exists?
Don't
Forced spirituality is awful
Let people discover the divine on their own time
>>16552004
That's not a tip you fucking mongrel.
I'll just say this right now: anyone that has no helpful advice but more normie bullshit such as "live and let live X---DDDD" shouldn't bother replying.
How did Jesus convince Didymus that he was reincarnated?
Do that, that should work.
When guys talk sex, they ALWAYS lie and exaggerate their experience and prowess, to make themselves look like king studs.
What about girls? When you talk sex, do you make yourself sound more wild than you are, or do you hide your experience and play more demure?
I don't bother lying
I have a traumatic sexual history, i make sure my partners know that so they're not horrified by my weird behavior in bed
Oh well
>>16551989
I think all genders do this and in my opinion it's just to make yourself look more approachable/desirable.
Usually it just makes the guy/gal you are boasting to more uncomfortable, especially if they are inexperienced.
In this case, "just be yourself" usually works (but don't go mentioning how big your last partners dick/tits were, that's just dumb).
>>16551999
please tell us more about your sexual history. it sounds tasty.
I am from a developed country and I have American citizenship. I majored in Engineering and I couldn't find an engineering job after grduation as the market was (and still is) very saturated. I ended up doing entry-level marketing work at an engineering company.
I am thinking about moving to America and spend one year getting a teacher certificate and then finding a job as a teacher. I've been interested in teaching for a while and I like working as a tutor.
Is quitting my job and moving to America to study teaching very risky? I've heard that there is a shortage of Math and Physics teachers in the states and this shortage is unlikely to end soon. I think that getting a teaching certificate in America rather than my homeland is better as I can network there and my honeland is also saturated with teachers. I am also interested in studying and working in another country to experience life.
My English is very good as I went to a bilingual school yet I still speak English with an accent. I have some money saved up but it will probably only last for a year.
Thanks for answering.
It depends on what you mean by risky. There is something of a shortage of certified teachers in these subjects. Fibdibg a job should be doable, though you should contact the embassy for particulars.
That said, the working conditions approach sweatshop levels of terrible, the burnout rate is extremely high, and teaching is among the least respected professions in the country (sex work gets less respect, but it may be the only field that does). If this is the kind of thing you want to avoid, then a teaching certificate is probably not a good idea.
>>16552114
By risking I mean giving up my job, moving to America to get a teacher certificate only to find that the job market suddenly becomes super saturated and there are no jobs.
I don't mind teaching and I know about its challenges. I just don't want to end up working at McDonalds after I move to America, that's all.
Many school districts will sponsor foreign teachers, especially in the STEM fields. The trick is picking one that is not too rural, too urban, or in a high crime area.
I'm 19 and I've always been called different. I'm getting bored not of everything and all I see ahead of me is the factory job that seems to cycle for every generation. Community college here is decent but what should I do? On a personal note I've about exhausted my options with girls and new/interesting people. I'm painfully bored and I wish I had direction but I lack interest so fuck it can anyone give me some guidance?
>>16551931
Step 1: Git off 4chan
Step 2: Do something else.
Roads to success:
Option 1: Military (enlist if you have no interest in leadership/higher education at this time, apply to an academy or do ROTC and you'll be an officer in 4 years)
option 2: trade school. Lots of good trades out there. The definition of honest work for honest pay. Electrician, elevator mechanic/technician, welder, and tower climbing seem like the best trades
option 3: school. STEM is always safe for a career. Medicine (nursing is a great career) is probably the best in STEM. Engineering is a grind, but good pay. Programming is really good if you're into computers. Outside of STEM, business is very safe as well, but boring. Humanities are usually not very good. Best jobs outside of that are social work stuff, criminal justice, HR, and graphic design stuff.
option 4: trap lord. meth synthesis isn't very difficult. psychedelic mushrooms don't require vast amounts of land and are somewhat easy to grow. you dont even need connection to sell on the darknet nowadays
>>16551932
This is correct OP. 4chan is cyanide for success, you should go read a book or something.
I'm reading Dickens' Hard Times at the moment, it's about how retarded an ideology that Dickens disliked is.
