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Help, feeling extremely ashamed and angry right now. I'm also drunk..
Okay let me explain:
I have a desk in front of my bed so when I'm done fapping I usually leave my used tissues behind the desk on the floor and when the time is right I will go flush them down the toilet.
I'm 19 years old, I still live with my aprents.
I just got home from club, I was having a good time And I'm still drunk. When I entered my room I noticed that somethings different. My parents have FUCKING "cleaned" my room. And they have also found my used tissues and thrown them out... I panicked and was in denial and now I'm ashamed and angry. My parents are asleep right now. What should I do?
I just wrote a message to a piece of paper saying "Get the fuck out of my room" and left it on my desk. I hope they will get the message next time they decide to invade my privacy..
They got NO RIGHT to enter my room and touch my stuff, they have cleaned a lot of things from here. I wanna fucking MOVE away.
WTF where they thinking "Anon will probably appreciate that we throw his sperm tissues away!!!!"?
I'm gonna make this clear to them In the morning that they can fuck off from my room, they cannot ever enter there without my permission and that's that. This isn't the first time they've violated my privacy, also my parents are super strict about everything. I'm just gonna make them clear I don't tolerate this shit anymore and I will move away if this ever happens again.
How fucked am I?
Not very. You will never enter the Salty Spitoon, kid.
>>16532595
Online tests are not accurate. Not even online schools are good.
>>16532595
i think the site is bullshit
i dont recall clicking anything to do with ocd
My boyfriend's job has taken over his life.
He is so stressed and refuses to leave the job for something else, despite him being so unhappy and stressed all the time.
>All of his social activities are only done with co-workers.
He sleeps early on Friday nights because he is so exhausted, I am alone yet again on a Friday night while everyone else are with their partners.
>The only time he is not asleep by 10pm on a Friday is if he is with co-workers.
>He misses real life appointments because he doesn't set the alarm for anything other than work.
>We haven't had sex in months because he has simply just been too tired and depressed/pressured.
I told him how I feel .He got very upset and said he would work on it.
We have 1 day before I leave to see my family for Christmas & he would rather go to his work's Christmas party than spend it with me because "it's rude not to go"
This company has over 500 employees and no one would notice apart from his small office, if they notice at all. I just said okay, but since it's our only real day together before I leave, I would like to come along and I could tell he seemed a bit uneasy about it but said yes.
I don't know what to do /adv/ He needs to keep a job, but this job in particular is sucking the life out of him. This company is run by a team of vampires who over-work their employees and set it up in a way where their life is revolved around the work.
We are on very thin ice because of it.
He doesn't want to break up, I don't want to either but I feel like a background noise in his life. There is no balance and he is always angry with those who love him, so any concerns or issues I do have are met with hostility, even if it's a casual textual chat ("how was your day? xx") he gets very annoyed and tells me to stop texting him and talk to him face to face, when I see him face to face, he falls asleep because he is so tired.
Help.
It sounds like you should break up if he is not willing to make an effort for you.
Leave.
>>16532614
>>16532615
Apart from leaving him, is there anything else I can do to help this situation?
I don't want to sound like or be a nagging bitch but I feel so neglected too.
For example, and yes I realize this is so petty but, I will try to look really pretty for him, do my hair and makeup and he just looks through me and falls asleep. It hurts like hell.
I live in the UK, have zero social life at all, live with my parents, have finished university, and have only ever had escorts.
How do I get girls? Would the situation be more salvageable if I moved out? I live in a university city so its infuriating seeing so many hot girls that I'll never talk to.
I'm smart, tall and /fit/ and have hobbies, though they're solitary ones (gym, literature). Though I dont have chad facial aesthetics so internet dating is probably out of the question
>>16532524
How old are you?
>>16532524
How do you treat girls?
I am 25 and male. I have never been in a fist fight before ever. Would women be reluctant to date me because of this? I will admit, I am somewhat of a coward but only because you can't tell how desperate people are these days. If some diesel dude slapped my dates ass in front of me, I probably wouldn't do anything. What can I do? I can't pull out my pocket knife and stab him, thats illegal. Yet him slapping her ass is illegal too but not nearly as illegal as stabbing someone.
Do women actually expect men to fight up hill battles like that? Like actually go into "suicide fights". Like what if the guy who slapped her ass is clearly CLEARLY stronger than the guy she is dating? Then what?
In the opinion of women here, do you prefer the guy you are dating to have been in many fist fights or NO fist fights. No inbetween.
>>16532505
Do you live in a city? You sound delusional enough to live in a city.
>>16532505
Ahahahaha what the fuck dude that is so dumb to be self-conscious over.
But hey whatever excuse you need to rationalize not talking to girls and stay hiding out in your room, amirite?
>>16532505
Of course it would be nice if a guy defended me somehow in a situation where some idiot slaps my ass or something like that but I wouldn't expect anyone to hit anyone for me. Could just say something I guess. But I would never expect a guy to hit anyone, I don't think I'd even want that. And aggressive violent guys aren't attractive.
I ve come to the final conclusion. Im not ever having kids because i dont want them having the same anxiety and fears that prevent me from socializing. I dont want them to feel what I feel.
has anyone else came to the same conclusion?
>>16532476
Is it really a choice if you're too socially crippled to get laid?
>>16532480
lol well i was almost a father in 2005 but amazingly Ive had sex before.
>>16532486
Well stop.
My girlfriend, once like 80 pounds, got fat (not huge, but if she lays on her side her stomach will do that expanding outward thing). She now spends every day depressed in bed, and constantly insists that she's doing better, but no, she isn't. It's getting more and more common for her to beg me to come cuddle her instead of doing my schoolwork or exercising or making a proper meal, and then I spend most of my day laying with her because I get pulled into the laziness. Obviously this isn't all based around her weight, but I know fully well if she was thinner she wouldn't be so unconfident that she'd let the shittiest friends take advantage of her, she wouldn't spend all day watching cartoons, and she wouldn't overall hate herself.
I will have my last best chance to leave in March or April. I intend to use the time I have until then to see what I can do to turn her around, and decide if I'm leaving her behind or not. I mean I look at old pictures of her when we started dating 2 years ago and I fall for that version of her all over again, but it's almost gone. She wore sauce-stained leggings and an ugly Christmas sweater unironically to go to the mall with me last week. I was out today and struggled to find a single person who cared little enough about how they looked to do that.
Yes, I'm being mean. I've watched this girl go from stunning to where I can say I never would have touched her if I wasn't with her already. I don't know how to describe the taste of her mouth. Just please give me some idea of how to help her.
is she depressed?
>>16532462
Yes.
We've had fights over the general state of the house when I'm not there to clean up after her, and she has said that she "knows being mean is supposed to make somebody want to do better but for her it just makes her want to do nothing", which isn't really different from the norm, so I don't know how to take it.
Sounds like my boyfriend.
>born in small forest town
>rednecks everywhere
>every single person is exactly the same so I can't meet anyone
>the tinder is nothing but fat farm girls and girls from college that hate being here
>I have no car or job and everything is so fucking far away
>weather is the worst cost of living is high as balls and there's nothing but trucks and farms no matter what direction I drive in for 5 hours
>all I want is to live in a real city
I hear Atlanta is really cheap. Can I just run away there and get a room in the ghetto for really cheap? I have nothing to lose or live for just my last wish is to go die in a city so my body isn't buried here. I just want to go to a cheap neighborhood and let the blacks shoot me.
>>16532445
Where do you live? I live in a shithole about 2 hours north, but can't leave because I'd be leaving people behind. And ATL is a miserable pile of shit, depending on where you go. It can be cheap, if you know where to look, but it can also be expensive. Instead of ATL, try heading north.
>>16532460
I'm literally 5 mins from Canada I can't go north and I hate the snow I'd rather go to Miami or LA but its too expensive Atlanta isn't miserable. Texas is miserable.
>>16532445
I dunno man that sounds pretty awesome
any advice for a person who's gonna be on his ass and homeless tomorrow?
>>16532346
Free food, shelter and healthcare in prison.
>>16532360
preferably while keeping my record clean.
>>16532346
visit your parents
Today in math class I was on the computer and the gym teacher told to get away from it and take my coat off.I also tried exiting the class by kicking the door but he wouldn't let me through.I cursed at him and now I'm punished.What do I do now?
>>16532305
Stop being fucking autistic.
How do you keep your daughter from being interested in boys for as long as possible? My little sunshine is 5 but I look long term.
I was (and in many ways still am) a fucking pig as young man. Used every trick in the book to score, cheated left and right, screwed married women, fucked my teacher in high school, fucked a chick and her sister in the same day without either knowing (for a fortnight lol), etc.
And I don't regret anything I did cuz I'm a heartless bastard, but the idea of someone like me or any other type of guy touching my daughter even when she's grown up is horrifying to me.
Karma comes in different forms. This is yours, asshole.
Godspeed.
>>16532225
Rape her until she has a phobia of men.
>>16532240
/thread.
Am I a bad person for trying to convince a girl to leave her boyfriend to be with me? She already likes me a lot as is and is having problems with her current boyfriend. But am I a bad person for convincing her to leave him? She was planning on leaving him soon but I still don't know if its right for me to convince her.
>>16532221
You are a bad person, but we are all douche bags once in a while.
>>16532247
Thanks bro.
>>16532221
Regardless if it's bad, it's stupid. The kind of girl who does that is going to do the exact same thing to you.
Some new guy will come along when your relationship is hitting bumps, and convince her to leave you for him. You'll never be able to trust her.
I've been struggling for a very long time to like myself, my breasts in particular.
They're very small, (32A, kinda similar in size to the girl in this picture.)
It's not even that I just don't like them, I've cried for hours because of how much I hate them, I've considered suicide and even cut them with a knife on multiple occasions. I realise how ridiculous this is, and that it's really nothing to kill yourself over, but still I have episodes where I feel this way.
Yesterday I looked at stuff on my boyfriend's PC (I wasn't snooping, I looked at a folder of stuff that had my name and was meant to be stuff he planned on sending me... however, there was a bunch of images of girls with huge breasts, like DD's+.
>will continue in next post
Hoooooooly shit you have issues.
Personally, I prefer small tits. I think they're cute.
My ex had these massive DDs and I wasn't fond of them at all.
Different people like different things. If your boyfriend doesn't appreciate your body type, there are guys out there who will.
I can't get those images out of my head since... immediately afterwards I cut myself... my boyfriend saw this on my breasts of course, and I explained to him what happened.
We had a fight, and he held me down and yelled at me, kept pushing on my scars while saying things like "Never cut yourself again, never go through anything on my computer without me being around."
He asked what image it was that I saw, and I told him I couldn't show him some of the exact ones because I deleted two of them. He pushed against my scar even harder and yelled at me.
At this point I was really furious and tried to get away from him, but he kept me held down and continued to yell...
After more of him pushing down on my scars, I said that I still really hate my breasts, and thinking of those images makes me want to cut again. He slapped me
You have a severe case of body dysmorphia. Paraphrased a mental disorder characterized by an obsessive preoccupation that some aspect of one's own appearance is severely flawed and warrants exceptional measures to hide or fix it.
Personally like the other anon said, I prefer small breasts. If a girl is cute she is cute. Apparently your boyfriend thought that when he got with you.
To solve this issue in the short term, know you must have some redeeming qualities and attractiveness but in order to fix your self hatred I suggest you look into treatment for Body Dysmorphia.
Take care and have a good day.
Is there a way I can get mild anorexia? I'm a fatso, I eat my feelings compulsively, I want to lose weight. How can I train my brain not to crave all those pizzas and nutella filled donuts and what not? I hate myself for that so much but just have shitty weak ass will
>>16532185
JUST STOP EATING YOU FAT FUCK
I can't tho bro :(
>>16532224
Distract yourself with other things. Anything. Literally just lock yourself in your room and play vidya all day.
My girlfriend wants me to move in with her. Problem is, she lives in a small town in the midwest. It's basically the middle of nowhere. I'm NEET and so is she (living on disability). I'm worried about starting over in an unfamiliar down and being isolated alone with her. Neither of us has any friends or any hobbies outside of vidya.
Need advice from people who have been in similar situations.... Maybe this is the kickstart I need right now? I've been wasting my life doing nothing in my parents house.
Hi Midwesterner here. Yeah I would say just play more online games with her. Or check out your nearest anime convention that is available in your state.
>>16532172
>Problem is, she lives in a small town in the midwest. It's basically the middle of nowhere. I'm NEET and so is she (living on disability). I'm worried about starting over in an unfamiliar down and being isolated alone with her. Neither of us has any friends or any hobbies outside of vidya.
I moved to a small town in the bible belt to be with someone I had fallen in love with online, but we had repeatedly met beforehand. While I'm happy to be with him, and the area is beautiful, there's nothing to do and not much work to be found. If she's disabled, and you can't find a proper job, you are putting yourself in a really bad situation. If you do decide to go through with this, don't move. Two people living on one person's disability isn't going to cut it.
>>16532228
>If you do decide to go through with this, don't move.
What I mean to say is that she should be the one to come to you. There's probably more opportunity in your area.
