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Is it acceptable for an introvert to drink unsocially?
I'm a happy drunk. I feel delighted, serene and altogether have a great time when I drink, alone on my computer.
The problem here is, so was my dad. He died of his alcoholism when I was 17.
Is it ever acceptable to drink alone? If you enjoy getting drunk by yourself, are you necessarily an alcoholic?
drinking socially/casually don't really qualify as separate things to me. no need to feel bad if you're doing it alone. just don't overdo it man.
>>16510094
>Is it acceptable for an introvert to drink unsocially?
Unsocially? What does the "acceptable" stands for then?
I thought it was short for "socially acceptable" but in your case it can't be.
If it was, then... well, you answered your own question.
>If you enjoy getting drunk by yourself, are you necessarily an alcoholic?
Not on its own, but what you are describing may very well be.
It's a very thin line.
the line between recreational user/addict can sometimes be ambiguous. The biggest sign is that you have trouble putting it down despite having negative consequences.
anyway, to answer your question, it's frowned upon by some to drink alone. Personally, I don't see the big deal in doing drugs/alcohol on your own, it can be a different and fun experience; you don't need to be surrounded by people or a person to have a fulfilling experience.
Gf calls my crying saying she misses her ex, and everything was perfect when she was with him. What do I even do rofl?
"Well then you dialed the wrong number. You should be calling your ex and telling him all of this."
Then hang up and block her number.
>>16510096
She called him and told him all of this, and she's upset because he said he'd never take her back.
>>16510104
Lol what are you even doing here then?
If you truly don't know what to do, you don't deserve advice.
But just in case you're simply clinically retarded: Drop that bitch now.
I changed the carpets on my basement floor and discovered a hidden access into a room underneath my house. There is a safe there that looks 100 years old. I'm trying to crack it and see what's inside. Posting a photo. Any help or advice would be appreciated! I've been losing sleep over wondering what might be inside. Help me 4chan?
>>16509954
It's probably empty, but you may also have just hit the jackpot. What state?
The Kootenays in British Columbia, Canada. This area 100 years ago was a hot spot for gold/silver mines all over. Im curious if it is the jackpot...but its true that it might be empty. But I at least need to know.
have you tried calling a locksmith?
They could probably get it open in just under five minutes for under $50
I want to make music. i also know nothing about the technical skills that go into making good music. my plan is to learn an instrument (ideally two) to develop an understanding more efficiently. is this a solid plan, or is there something im not doing?
also, this might go on /mu/, but /adv/ has always worked for me in the past.
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>>16509899
Learning to read music should be your first objective.
piano's a good place to start, pretty straightforward and a great skill to have, especially being able to do two different things with your hands at once. you should look up the book "piano for the developing musician", I found it as a pdf for free on google a while back but it's the same book I was required to have in a piano class a while ago, starts off pretty simple and slowly gets more difficult, as long as you commit yourself to practicing every day and using a metronome you'll be shreddin' in no time.
>>16509899
Musician here
I would say start out with anything that will teach you how to keep a beat (I'd say drums) and then move on to piano to learn notes and how each note falls into a scale.
There are plenty of instructors that are out there, and some teach for free or low cost because they're trying to fulfill a requirement of some kind for their degree.
Well, it's been already 4 months+1.5 weeks since i moved away from home and emigrated, and yet i can't find a job.
I tried searching through internet, i tried giving cv's personally to places where they were hiring people, i tried asking people around, i tried asking stores and restaurants if they needed someone. Im really getting on my nerves since im living in a small flat with people i barely know(they're extended family) and im starting to get depressed because every day starts looking the same and everyone seems to be doing something with their lives...
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What shitty European country did you move to?
Also you never thought to look up job prospects in that area?
>>16509905
The least shitty between the shitty ones, i can't go to france or germany because language, and i can't go to bongistan because the cost of living would be 2 expensive and i can't afford it. Let's not even think of the scandinavian ones pls.
And yep, i did looked up for job prospects and i've actually find a lot of jobs that i could do, but they've never called me back although i have a decent cv.
Like anywhere, most people use their personal network to hire. Does anyone you live with have any leads?
How to deal with constant jealousy and suspicion of your girlfriend?
>>16509891
Don't take any action on the feelings. They're just just feelings and not the reality they appear to be.
>>16509893
I get very angry at her for doing very small things.
I'll give some examples.
She works in a small company with 2 other people, only. They are both guys and I think married and/or engaged. They have a one hour lunch break each day and eat in one of the few restaurants in the local area and if they choose the same restaurant, then they eat together. I get jealous.
Another example: today she went to her sister's house and while she was there she sent a picture of her dinner which had a lot...
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>>16509891
Break up or find a terapist.
Who the fuck thought this was a good idea? There's a reason why you shouldn't be yourself around new people. Because chances are there might be characteristics about you that'll repulse everyone the second they get a wafting scent of them. So it's best to show off your better qualities before while slowly getting to know them -- and see if that takes you somewhere good, or you should abandon ship then and there.
And around women? What the fuck? I'll tell you what's going to happen if you try to be yourself around a girl you recently just...
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I usually let myself out when I first meet somebody, but not all the way. Over time I let myself out more and more and gauge how that goes over, and based on that reaction, i either pull back or do it more. yeah
Sure, show your better qualities. But don't make shit up whole cloth. Keep it real.
>>16509761
Fucking lol come on dude
I just found out this girl I like has a boyfriend. I've been flirting with her and we've even talked about our kinks with each other, and she's openly flirted back with me. I just found her instagram and she is dating this guy from her school, and she posts about him all the time, but she still flirts with me and she seems to like me better. He's a fat 5/10 beta, I'm not a god or anything but I lift and I'm not fat, probably 7/10. She is blonde, on the shorter side, pretty eyes, and is really into me. Should I back off or go for it?
>>16509604
Don't be a dick, just wait for them to break up
Is that her in the pic?
>>16509604
Look at it this way,
If she already has a boyfriend and she's flirting with you, then what's to stop her from flirting with some other guy who takes her fancy once she grows tired of you?
Thing to keep in mind is that if she'll do it to this guy, she'll do it to you.
Unless you want a broken heart, I say go for it, but just know you two won't last long.
Your relationship with her is over before it even started.
What's the best way to make a previous Virgin orgasm? I was her first, and I've tried stimulating the clit and g spot even with enough foreplay but still haven't gotten there yet.
She's hardcase. I know another girl (also a virgin) who makes herself cum multiple times a day... meanwhile I'm going at my girl in periods up to 45 mins before either she dries up or I get exhausted and limp...
>>16509506
Learn how to eat pussy.
Also, buy a "Fairy Wand Mini".
You're welcome.
1: Don't assume there was enough foreplay.
The biggest sexual organ is the brain, and foreplay can be a pretty big production, starting with how you pick her up for the date. Dinner, conversation, romance. Details like smell, sounds and taste can make the difference for a lot of people, and can play a role several hours later.
2: Stop focusing on cumming.
Sex isn't about the big O. It is about enjoying each other and having fun.
Masturbation on the other hand is all about the big O.
I hope you got the point.
3: Watch a lot of porn together.
This...
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