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How do you sense energy and direct it to help Gaia?
Are you expecting for Gaia to bless you with worldly success for achieving this?
I can tell you Gaia only deals with the earthy, organic realm of things. At best, she will make some wild carrots pop up in the back of your yard for troubles. No materialistic gifting or any of the such with this.
>>16499262
>Free carrots arent materialistic gifting
>>16499263
Materialistic - "excessively concerned with material possessions; money-oriented."
I wouldn't call sustenance given from Gaia a money oriented endeavor.
I wouldn't say I am afraid of Gay people or anything its just I don't approve personally. I have gay friends and I just let them do whatever without saying anything.But if they were being harassed or something I dont think I'd defend them.Other than saying just do what you want.I'm conflicted with my views, on one end I want to speak my mind (especially towards transgenders) I dont think I should call them a he/she just because they feel that way. But at the same time I dont think we should bully them either. How do you think as a society how should we deal with this situation?
>I just don't approve of gay people.
What does this even mean?
>>16499236
take a moment to reflect and explain why you don't like LGBT community
is it just a random feeling?
>>16499241
Not OP here, but I stand with him/her. The LGBT is a corrupted hook-up community disguised under a support umbrella.
Is it possible to live a happy, fulfilling life without ever having a romantic/sexual partner?
Some people can do it.
Personally I would not be able to.
Only if you have a cause to devote your life to. You won't have a happy life despite never having a romantic/sexual partner, nor can it be a sacrifice you give up if you understand what I'm saying.
>>16499213
>if you understand what I'm saying
I don't think I do.
My father hung himself a week ago today.
Does it get any easier /adv/?
That's rough, anon.
Sorry for your loss.
Take some time. It'll take some adjustment. With time you'll find a way to live again. Don't quit.
>>16499188
Is this movie good?
As a follow up question, would it be unreasonable for me to call things off with my girlfriend because she's harping on my depressive state?
I was prepared to get engaged to this woman but it feels as though she's been patronizing me for the last couple days. I think it's reasonable for me to struggle to get out of bed for the moment. Even my employer understands but my girlfriend seems to put her impatience before my grieving. Is that a sign?
I think I'm just lost right now and could use some kind of anonymous contact.
Ask a guy who made $21k at his software internship last summer and will be making $115k base salary before ~20% bonuses next year, in addition to $20k in sign on bonuses, anything
>>16499123
Did you go to college? For how long?
>>16499123
I also what to know this...
>>16499158
I ment
>>16499152
That
If you give up a job, there is no guarantee that you will get it back. Today's job market is saturated with degree holders and the company will just hire someone else.
It's also expensive to go backpacking like this. Chances are these backpackers have to work in shitty jobs in coffee shops and retail. Surely their jobs back home are better? At least they can live with their parents/friends to cut expenses. Living on minimum wage is tough and living in a hostel full of strangers is also dangerous.
And what are they going to do when they return to their home country ?When a backpacker come back, a manager may frown upon how he gave up his job to go travelling as it's pretty unrealistic. What follows then? More backpacking? Working forever in retail? How can such people save enough money for retirement?
>>16499110
Some people like different things.
>>16499110
I've read once that people who invest in experiences rather than material things are happier. Hope this answers your question.
Fucking hell! This is the Most Autistic post I've read in months.
My friend psyches herself up when she doesn't succeed the first time, saying "i can do it, i can do it" on repeat
She'll also slouch when talking to you
What's going on there?
>>16499090
Hah
>>16499090
It sounds like mental health is going on there. Have you never encountered it before?
>>16499090
Nothing significant.
Guys, I could use someone to talk to. I just have basic depression issues about feeling unloved and unwanted, but it's really bad right now. I feel like shit, and I spoke with a suicide livechat person but they did such a shitty job I want to die even more. Help.
>>16499033
So what would you like to talk about?
>>16499033
In a nutshell:
>was in a relationship with the love of my life
>shitty job that I hated, but happy when I came home
>she breaks up with me to pursue her career and moves away
>has a new boyfriend in about 2 weeks
>cry everyday for a month, but power through it and apply for a job that might make me happy
>get the job, now I work somewhere that I like, but have nobody to share this feeling with. life is sad when I come home and I feel like I've hit rock bottom.
Not even sure if I'm looking for advice or anything, just an e-shoulder to cry on.
Fuck, making a thread on 4chan was probably a mistake. I just didn't want to use /v/ which is my primary, or worse, use /b/.
I'm 26 and I'm currently in a relationship with the only girl I've been with sexually despite having other attractive options. I cant help but feel like i will regret this later in life. Opinions.
Please, yo
>>16498984
That's a stupid opinion and you should stop holding onto it.
That's my opinion.
>>16498998
Like... you don't think it's something I'll regret?
Does slutting it up hurt someone professionally?
I like to get around, but am paranoid about having a facebook page, or leaving a searchable history of my antics, because I'm worried about it hurting me in the future. I'm wondering, is this fear realistic, or does it not matter?
yes
it indicates a lack of maturity, impulse control, and accountability
>>16498928
>Veruca James in latex
MY DICK IS DIAMONDS
you'll be fine as long as you don't post 'lol fucking some random guy rn!" every day on facebook.
try not to leave a trail.
Why can't I stick to my own plans?
I have a goal, and I know *exactly* how to reach it. The stuff I have to do isn't particularly hard and I enjoy a lot of it. But it does require that I make better use of my time. I don't need to be a commando, but right now I wake up late and take forever to get ready and meals take forever, etc. I *can* get up early and I *can* stick to a schedule for a couple days, but I never maintain it for long. I really can't find the problem? Why is it so hard to change my habits?
I really admire soldiers and military lately, just because they "do". Get up at 5 and be UP, and getting something done, even if it's moving sandbags while they feel like shit. If only I could achieve that kind of discipline with my studies.
>>16498908
My god, I feel you so much. I am the exact same way, except without the goal part. And that's precisely due to eveything else you just said.
Halp plz
>>16498908
holy shit family
did i post this unconsciously or something?
>>16498948
>>16498970
OP here. Also, was prescribed Adderall for some years. That stuff helped me get over a lot of things, and helped a lot in the short term for 'just do it'. I didn't waste time on meals because I was so fucking excited to get the next thing done.
That said though, it never really did anything for the overarching problem of waking up late. If I could spend 3 hours a day 5 days of the week, I'd really be somewhere with it. Adderall did nothing to change my decision making on committing to a longer-term goal.
I'm in a position in life right now where this is VERY possible, comfortable, and optimal. I have lots of free time and I can't get a job because of medical stuff. But I can work on skills that will be useful when I get a job. Or I can invest my time into regularly reading classic books, which I really love to do.
I think I've boiled it down to the moment I before I decide to take any 'action-task', or often continue any 'action-task'.
For example, I finish eating and decide to jerk off before starting studies and whoops there goes an hour. Or now, I'm deciding to stay up and post even though I know I probably won't find insight. I recognize that I need to make the decision I know is right, and do so EVERY TIME, not just sometimes like I do now.
/adv/
Yesterday I made a thread about the boss who's acting like a father figure to me but also kind of touchy-feely and compliments my personality and looks/clothes.
I think I'm starting to get feelings for him. I feel so guilty for being a bit cold to him today. What do I do? I don't want to develop feeling for him and we'll be seeing each other a lot one-on-one in the coming weeks.
Oi, a bump. I'm sorry! I didn't expect to suddenly find myself really really liking him, and I shouldn't, he's older than my dad. But he's so kind and he actually listens when I talk, I feel so safe around him and after establishing that he *may* want to get into my pants, I just don't know what to do because that would have disastrous repercussions.
A final bump.
Acting like a father figure, meaning there is a great age span between you?
A lot of people meet their future husband/wife at the workplace.
If you are sure you don't what that I guess you would have to talk to somebody. If it is a corporate job they probably have somebody to talk to (Don't mention name or position, just that it's a colleague).
I don't know how to deal with it, but you have to deal with it some how!
>Be me
>Finishing up my medical residency
>My hot fiancee has just over a semester left on her law degree
>She's going right to work for her mom's firm making six figures and being groomed to take over
>The wedding is in summer in Hawai'i, her family is paying for it
>Our combined income a year from now is going to be over $350k
>I've basically won at life, but I can't stop feeling depressed
>Thought about driving off a bridge tonight
How can things be so great while I feel like such shit?
How are you in med school and you don't know how depression works?
>>16498700
That's the thing, I don't think that this is depression. Also
>implying I'm a Psychiatrist
>>16498702
sounds like textbook depression
talk to someone
As an 18 year old who knows very little about how the world works, I have been trying to find the skills I need for adulthood. Can anyone give me some tips?
Worry about yourself first and foremost, and don't be a cunt.
Stay away from relationships and focus on hobbies, interests, and your work life.
That's just my advice and it may not apply to you.
You just have to figure it out yourself to be honest.
I hate you much, but here goes.
Learn how to do your laundry. Easy, right? But many faggots actually bring it back to their mums.
Learn how to cook. It's easy. It seems hard at first, but do it. It's so rewarding and honestly bring a girl home to cook a meal for her and she'll need to soak her panties in bleach to get the stains out.
Learn how to do your taxes properly. Seems scary, but it's like 10th grade math. Easy fucking peasy.
Learn how to public transport. Most cities have it set up easy. It seems like an "Ewww poorfag shit" but get the fuck over yourself, you pleb fucking faggot. You're one of us now.
I can't think of much else, but so long as you have food and shelter, you're good.
>>16498669
>Stay away from relationships
Everything else sounds like a good Idea, but why stay away from relationships? Having relationships seems to be something more helpful than non.
I worry for my friend.
Ever since she joined college (actually while she was still in high school) she's always gone for the frat-boy type of guy. You know, the colored shorts and polos and boys with far too much alcohol running through their bloodstream.
She has legitimately told me that they're the type of guys she's attracted to, almost like a fetish. She dated one in high school and he fucked her and chucked her a week before graduation and broke her heart. (I've never had to deal with this shit, I'm into nerdy quiet guys)
Well now she's back on the hunt in her freshman year. She joined a sorority and in her first mixer, she got roofied and had to be dragged home by her friends. (I'm nowhere near her, I go to a community college) she sees no problem with it and sees it as normal and part of the college lifestyle. (This is where I told her she might be retarded)
She recently told me that while she's been at college, her "best friends" have been frat boys. This makes me hella nervous. I'm not sure they have the best intentions with her. She would tell me if she's been having sex or anything like that, and she just says she's been hanging out at the frat houses.
Should I be worried at all? If so, what can I even do? All I have is her older brother to talk to, who has been in the college scene. Idk who else. Definitely not her parents.
>>16498642
Are you a beta orbiter?
>>16498653
You are such a faggot
>>16498666
That's an unnecessarily aggressive way of saying "yes".
