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I asked late last night about taking time off from work. I requested to have Black Friday and Saturday off (we already have Thanksgiving off) for travel purposes with family.
I went in today and got straight disrespected by my assistant manager. She was going off on how I work in retail and should have known. Then she went on a sarcastic rant about what the "biggest day of the year is". I told her in a calm voice that I requested a month ago (I started work 2 months ago) and it was for family travel. She fired back saying "Well make family time on Easter"....
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>>16471766
You will probably get fired, sorry to say it, anon. When I managed retail and worked on Black Friday, we literally had every single employee on the payroll working, with only one exception, and I believe that's because her dad had cancer and she was quitting anyways.
It's retail man, and the holiday season. You had to have expected this. You may as well put in your two weeks today and explain that you're unfortunately not going to be coming for Black Friday and hope they don't term...
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>>16471794
Damn. I've never been fired before. It's only been 2 months... would I have to inform a future employer? And would it look bad on my part if I explain that I put in that much notice and still didn't get time off? I've never worked retail before so honestly this is a shocker to me. I thought it was a mistake that I was scheduled.
It sucks, this is why you try to work for a buisness that compliments your holliday schedule. If you go away on holidays you need to work for mom and pop places that close and can't run black friday. Working for big retailers is for people that don't like their family and non holliday celebrating atheists.
I was baptized as a child and I don't worship God anymore. I am a traditional satanist now and because of that I feel really bad to be baptized.
Are there any satanists who successfully reversed their baptism? Maybe with some kind of ritual?
Of course others can give me their advice, too.
Any advice is greatly appreciated.
What does it mean to be a Satanist? What do you believe in?
What specifically do you mean by "satanist"? Because if you don't believe in God, there isn't any ritual to reverse because it didn't mean anything. It was just water.
The baptism would be as meaningful as me clapping my hands 3 times, spinning around, and saying now you'll always be blessed by God.
I don't think you even understand your faith
Hi /adv/. I've gotten myself into a sticky situation.
>get dumped last week
>haven't been single in like four years
>tinder??
>tons of guys ask me out and I agree to almost all
>guy is taking me to a cool tea place tomorrow
I have panic attacks when I have to eat/drink in front of people I'm not comfortable around. Not to mention I haven't ever been on a proper date before. It's now 6 am and I'm laying in bed watching anime and putting off sleep because I'm anxious about tomorrow. I can't cancel because that's rude, but I really want to. How do I deal with my anxiety on a date?
Don't order anything to drink/eat on your date. Case solved.
>>16471622
...at a tea place? And let this guy think I'm like.. starving myself?
I have the same issues, i find it extremely uncomfortable to eat in front of people. My way around it find something that you both like to do, that's how culture works. People do things, some people do the same things. People talk about the same things.
I hope this helps. Updates plocks.
The other thing i do is just get drunk, but that might not be advised as it doesnt usually get me anywhere except more anxious when im sober
How bad of an idea is it to lose your virginity to somebody who has literally fucked all of your mates and nearly your entire town except yu?
>>16471539
pretty bad desu
well, if you can ensure she's clean, then prob not bad at all
She says she wants me bad but probably says this to everyone to get what she wants, this bitch talks about weekly gang bangs
>>16471556
Nah, there's no way she's clean. If you really need to lose your virginity lose it to a hooker you know is clean.
26, never had a gf
What's the best way to meet younger girls? 18-20
Create a tumblr account and post yaoi images. Young girls seem to love those.
got a good paying job?
>>16471531
Hang around outside the kindergarten with a bag of candy.
Sup /adv/
Soon I need to prove myself with swimming while wearing pic related. Now I want some practise before I go. Thing is I dont have anything like pic related, so what clothes should I wear to simulate swimming with pic related?
I was thinking about jeans and a sweater?
>>16471472
That outfit's material is very far from jeans and a sweater. Do you have any clothing made from similar fabric? Try a lightweight jacket and slacks. If you have any overalls, try those as well.
What you need to understand is that the outfit in the picture is one solid article of clothing, and you need to recreate it. Tuck your jacket into your pants and secure it as tightly as you can. Swimming in a coverall might be restrictive to movement, and that's what they need to test you on. Don't...
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jeans and a sweater a good idea?
Jeans and sweater it is. It's actually suite fun. But heavy. We did it as kids, just to know the difference, in case we ever fell.
>Below average looks
>Below average intelligence
>Shorter and weaker than those of your age group
>Lack confidence and social skills
>No talent or drive to compensate for the above
Is there any way to deal with this other than excessive amounts of apathy?
Perception is everything anon, no matter how bad you think you look, someone out there doesn't think that. You must realize this if you are to have an enjoyable life anon.
also, no one likes a downer, so you can;t be mopey around others, it isn't because they don;t care, it's just that they don;t want to feel depressed. If you have family you can talk to or a good friend, cry to them occasionally, or perhaps go to some kind of group to express your sadness.
>>16471414
>>No talent
Talent is generally bullshit, and only is deterministic at higher echelons of a given subject. Do what you like to do, and be okay with the possibility of never achieving greatness in that field. Greatness is also subjective, and your skills developed will most likely be valuable to someone before achieving greatness anyway.
>Below average looks
>weaker than those of your age group
>Lack confidence and social skills
none of these is genetic lotery
I have a girlfriend of 3 years that has serious bipolar disorder that is currently undiagnosed. I had her take some tests and her results were extremely suggestive.
I took the same tests to make sure they were legitimate, and just as one example, when I scored 7 on one test, she would score 47(with 50 being the maximum). She isn't the kind of person to exaggerate things either, I've made the mistake of assuming that way more times than I'm proud of.
How do I convince someone with serious bipolar disorder and chronic depression to seek psychiatric...
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Only a qualified professional can diagnose bipolar disorder. The "diagnosis" you made is useless. Those online tests are useless as well.
Her "symptoms" could be due to a huge number of causes other than bipolar disorder - both mental and physical.
>>16471354
I am well aware of this, but if someone is scoring 47 out of 50 then its probably safe to make some assumptions. At least until you get a real diagnosis. Keep in mind this wasn't just one test, it was 4, and all with the same dramatic results.
Right now my only goal is to get her to talk to her family doctor about it, then he can tell her what to do from there.
>>16471360
>I am well aware of this, but if someone is scoring 47 out of 50 then its probably safe to make some assumptions. At least until you get a real diagnosis. Keep in mind this wasn't just one test, it was 4, and all with the same dramatic results.
No, it isn't safe to make any assumptions if you aren't qualified to make them. Mood swings could be due to medical problems (ex: hormonal, thyroid, brain tumors, Cushing syndrome, etc.), could be due to a huge number of...
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If ugly girls don't like me (appearance-wise, and I am not the one who says they're ugly btw) does it mean I have no chance of ever getting a gf?
>>16471294
The prettier girls are actually easier to date than the ugly ones, desu. The ugly weird ones have tons of emotional baggage from constant rejection, are socially awkward as fuck, possess delusions of grandeur, and have really poor self esteem, in addition to being ugly, fat, or smelling weird
No, try for a girl that's well adjusted, decent looking, and can carry on a convo
>>16471294
No. Ugly girls are a bad fucking example.
To find out if you have a chance, it's best to see how average girls treat you. If they're generally eager to be friendly, then you're decent looking
>>16471301
me an the girl in question
Fucking panic attacks, man. When will it end?
>>16471269
Benzos
My friend has turned into a literal zealot.
A few months back he didn't care for church. But now he is obsessed with it. He texts my girlfriend constantly (who is not religious) telling her to go to church with he and his girlfriend. She declined politely every time, and then tonight he came over to our house and lectured us about how we should accept Jesus Christ into our hearts to have eternal salvation.
I am highly offended by this. I believe in god myself, but if my girlfriend doesn't want to it is her choice entirely, and I don't like someone...
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>>16471287
Maybe tell him to fuck off?
I'm officially launching the OBAW challenge, consisting on getting at least one girl each week.
This thread is about getting things on, and giving advice to people that are prone to open a new :
> tfw no gf thread
> I just broke up thread
> I'm a kissless virgin thread
Despite its title, this thread is meant to help people move on with their lives and focus on a their goals (romantically speaking) so that they can achieve more, and realized that
In...
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wut
>>16471183
how do I talk to this chick in my gym? she's pretty qt and I think I've seen her looking at me but I'm not sure.
>>16471194
the only way is to work in with her with the same equipment and go from there
any other approach is creepy as fuck.
On Nov. 6, my fiance left me after 5 and a half years.
She moved to a different city for university studies in September. She is extremely busy with her new life. Which includes new friends and shit as well. She has a new friend she talks to a lot. I'm completely sure it's just a friend, but she talks more to him now than she talks to me.
It's fucked up how a thing like this can ruin 5 and a half years and a planned future together.
Anyway I begged, made a mess of myself etc. for 11 days now (don't judge, 5 and a half years is a lot!).
Is...
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What are the circumstances, why did she leave you? Was it just because she lives somewhere else now? She decided to break it off then?
>>16471182
She didn't feel like she had that kind of emotions for me anymore and if she did, she would only stay with me because she cared about my well being.
bitches aint shit but hoes and tricks
theyll never leave you unless they have another dick
your goal right now is to become too good for her, then you won't really give a shit other than for nostalgia's sake.
but cut contact please, you're wasting your time.
If she starts playing hard to get, is this good for the guy?
this girl i know flirts a lot in person, but won't text back when i ask what she's got going on on a given day
what the fuck is going on here? just an attention whore or does she want me to chase her
Why would she play hard to get?
>>16471200
Are you sure she's flirting?
Would you stay in a relationship with someone who was abusive in the past if they really did change?
In the past my girlfriend was kind of messed up to me. Off the top of my head was she isolated me from a lot of my friends and made me feel like they didn't really like me. And she would always put me down, and tell me like, i wasn't as good as her exes or something. There was a lot of things. She was sometimes violent, and she would like tear down my posters and stuff.
I posted on here and other websites and stuff back then, and people said the same thing...
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The damage is done, but there's a chance of history repeating. Would you be willing to risk going through the past again? I think most people would say no.
>>16471140
i think about that all the time, like was it worth it? would i do it again? no.
But now, it's been like a year since we've had a serious problem and even then it was like the first one in a long time. It's not gonna happen again. She has changed a lot now, and to be completely honest, this is just me holding on to stuff from the past, but i don't know if i can let it go or even if it's the right thing to do.
i been reak sad for a long time even after we fixed the problems but ive been real sad and numb and i didn't have any feelings but on saturday i saw someone i really care about and i have been overwhelmed with emotions since then and i haave been recononsidering all of my whole life.
I'm shopping for good strap-on friendly things to fuck my boy in the butt with. Any recommendations?
Is he trained or untrained?
Do you own a holister? or not?
>>16471118
Not sure what you mean by "untrained" or "holister".
If you are asking whether or not he's accustomed to this kind of play, then yes. We've been doing this for a bit, but this is the first time I'm buying toys for this purpose.
C'mon /adv/, I'm hoping to place an order tonight.
