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anyone here go to university of Florida
Is a computer science major hard?
Can CS majors offer tips to a freshman?
Coursework : https://catalog.ufl.edu/ugrad/current/liberalarts/majors/computer-science.aspx
>>16458583
If you signed up for this because you like video games or because you want to be a hacker, then quit now and also kill yourself.
>>16458593
not in for video games
though i am interested in going into security
>>16458598
CS is shite and you're stuck with reddit-tier autists all the time, do Information Systems instead.
I'm trying to bang a girl who is engaged.
So is it better to tell her I also have a gf? That way she'll know that I won't get clingy and this oils just be nsa.
Or is it better to tell her that I'm single so she'll know I'm available.
And this will just be nsa*
Leave her the fuck alone and stop trying to put your dick in someone elses chick
>>16458300
Just gonna get my dick wet. No harm
How do I tell people my dreams without getting laughed at? How can I present them in such a way that they do not cause people do cringe?
>>16458137
For context, I want to learn a foreign language, earn a degree, and work overseas. My eye is set on China, but as I've not yet started learning the language, I'm entirely open to other options. I'm going to speak with a career counselor soon and I want to know how I can sound like I know what I'm talking about in front of him.
To most people, I may as well be saying that I want to be an adventurer or an astronaut. Their reactions are either politely discouraging (in real life) or outright hostile (online), and since people tend to be more honest on the internet, I am inclined to assume that most people hide some amount of anger when I tell them this. It probably stems from the fact that all I know is I want to work overseas, not the capacity in which I would work. I've spoken to a few people who do and their occupation ranges from shipping to diplomacy to teaching. I'm trying to figure out which is right for me.
I will probably spend a year in TEFL (English teaching) after I get my degree to get my bearings, but that's all I know. Not what degree I should get, not what kind job I will be looking for, and not how I will learn said language. It's all very overwhelming to figure out where to begin because most people see me as unreasonable and will try to talk me out of it.
>>16458137
Pic unrelated.
>>16458148
It made me cringe, so seems pretty related to me.
Frogposters get laughed at or worse. It's just the way it is.
I need some relationship advice (yes, like 95% of all other threads here).
I try to give you the TL;DR
>be me, 31 years old
>have only ever had one gf, lasted very long, but broke up half a year ago
>meet woman of the same age through tinder, instant attraction, which is kinda new to me as I've always considered myself as not so interesting for women
>fuck and hang around for 3 months, by now we're pretty much in a relationship, she keeps telling me she loves me.
>i love her too, she's the most interesting and fun woman i've ever known.
>she's also educated very well, has a good career and is definitely not looking for a beta provider as she can take care of pretty much everything on her own.
This is good but there is one huge problem I have with her, and that is the fact that she's a complete degenerate. She's literally had dozens of cocks up her ass and God knows how many up her vagina. She's even fucked niggers which, even though I'm not racist, I find deeply confusing.
She's the 2nd woman I have ever been with, I was a kissless virgin before my first gf and this 'imbalance' bothers the fuck out of me. I don't really care what other people do with their dicks and pussies but they can't expect from me that I'm okay with being number 56.
I'm not a christfag, fuck, I'm not even a conservative but I just can't do casual sex; it is too much connected to my emotions.
Should I call it off?
pic unrelated.
>>16457739
>Should I call it off?
no. you _should_ get over it.
wether you are capable of that, who knows.
chances are youll never find someone who is like her minus the history. especially at your age. so that gap in experience will always be with you and you better learn to deal with it.
>>16457739
dont have kids with her, pls dont fill the planet with even more degenerate genes pls.
just imagine if you really want to see your future daughter as her. guess no, well, there is your answer.
but for a period of time its ok.
the best way to leave her is finding a new one.
Literally and honestly sounds like a personal problem.
Do it in her butt and get over yourself already or go back to being alone.
How sensitive is your clitoris meant to be? I keep reading that direct stimulation is too much for women when they're aroused but even if I'm aroused I can touch my clitoris firmly and it's not overwhelming or painful
Is there something wrong?
>>16456848
it's not so sensitive that you can't push on it directly, but it's not some sort of magic button and so saying it's 'sensitive' is the best way to get men to understand not to ram on it.
I can press on mine directly and it doesn't hurt, even when aroused, but it doesn't feel good to be pushed on that way.
>>16456858
I can ram on it and it doesn't feel bad
It depends vastly on the person. Some people have a clitoris that are so sensitive that any direct stimulation is too much, while others are less sensitive and can tolerate or even enjoy very rough, direct stimulation. And some people don't feel anything from their clitoris.
I'd say that you are average. It's just that you hear the most complaints about a sensitive clitoris because they actually have a problem to complain about. But they aren't the norm.
So guys I did something stupid. I had a naked girl in my room a couple weeks ago and took a picture her and sent it to all my friends. She got pissed and now I'm getting emails from my college for a meeting next week. What do?
Be less stupid next time. You deserved worse
Kill yourself, just to be sure you don't reproduce
You should be expelled.
>friends with this girl
>this girl applies lip gloss in front of me, looking at me
>got a bit annoyed at me because i made another female friend laugh a lot
>she used to give me pretty big smiles
>now, when i look at her she'll quickly look to the side but give me eye contact again
Is any of that good?
Give her a back massage and find out.
>>16454729
How about before that bro?
If you like her I don't know why you're dicking around. You're going to be really butt hurt when she goes out with some other dude because you spent too long rattling off reasons why you think she might like you on 4chan and she assumed you were a eunuch.
![male-and-female-relationship-sign[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/5LCTmMY.jpg "male-and-female-relationship-sign[1]")
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complex's are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
>>16453978
>>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
>Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
wrong. to fix this, stop thinking of rejection as a judgement on whether you are good or bad. these people have no way of actually knowing you or if you are datable. they got this tiny window of seeing you try to make a move, and thats it.
so,
>dont go out of your way to impress them, just ask and see if they get your vibe and are a match
and
>dont think of rejection as a judgement on ur quality. one color isnt better than the other, its about which color is your favorite. to put it simply, ARE YOU A MATCH, not are you good enough.
is putting on music a good way to ease into a "make out" atmosphere or will it come across as weird?
right now we just seem to talk for hours and the conversation gets too intellectual and shit to break up with kissing
>>16454111
I'd say lightening up the conversation is a better way. Not every conversation has to be intellectual
I've never had a relationship. Otherwise I've had a satisfactory life.
But knowing that I mean literally nothing hurts. I've been depressed for 15 years, and nobody likes depressed people. But nobody liking me makes me depressed. So I guess I'm stuck this as long as I chose to live
Anyways I've chosen Friday as the day I'm killing myself. What should I do with my last ~36 hours?
Donate blood and a kidney.
Save someone else's life before throwing yours away.
>>16453256
How would I set that up in like 30 hours
>>16453389
Fill out the organ donor card, don't throw yourself under a train.
Also, don't kill yourself anon, things will work out if you want them to.
You don't need a reason to love yourself, just do it, be selfish for once.
1st:
Be friends for over a year. Get along on all levels. Do lots of stuff together, really "feel" it. Help him with a triathlon (weekends in car, driving around, on my own money), eventually have sex, have minor misunderstanding a few months later, he's not talked to me for over a year.
2nd:
Met on POF. Get along well. Have sex. Still get along well, do things for him like cook dinners, make him lunch, any sex act he wants, tidy up his house, shoulder to cry on, etc. Turn into friends (no sex). He starts to self destruct, I tell him this, he says goodbye.
3rd:
Meet offline. Really likes me, long conversations, do lots of things together. Months later, eventually have sex, all goes well and then radio silence. We see each other in town, I tell him that if he wants to be friends (as he said he did) he needs to give me a little more attention. He can't handle that, I ask him to delete my number. Never see or speak to him again.
Don't men want someone who is a good companion? I try not to be a door mat, just doing kind things because I want to. I'm told I'm decent/above average in bed and I can hold a conversation on multiple topics. I workout, eat well and take care of myself. (Most people think I'm five years younger than I am.) I'm 32 and the guys are 36, 32, 32. I have few friends who are online and not in the same country. I'd like to have a male companion that will be my friend as well as partner. What am I doing wrong?
>>16452988
We can't tell you. You're giving us general things, while misunderstandings/falling out depends on specifics. Did you argue a lot? Were you cold/distant? Were they mentally sound? Did you want them because you need someone to be with you, or because you wanted them to be with you? There's a hundred such questions, and playing guess who with them isn't going to work,
So tell us. What do YOU think was wrong, for each of them.
Either the sex turns them off or you simply are dating the wrong men.
Maybe it's your honesty/bluntness towards pointing out "issues"
>>16452999
Nice trips.
>So tell us. What do YOU think was wrong, for each of them.
1st: I approached him about the misunderstanding, it stayed a misunderstanding and he's never talked to me since. I see him often though. I'd like to say I'm quite hurt that my friendship is worth so little that he didn't want to patch things up.
2nd: He became self destructive. I care about him but I can't watch someone dissolve themselves. Again, I thought my friendship was worth more than "goodbye".
3rd: I just wanted him to text me once or so a week. That was all. I don't think that was much to ask for someone who you're seeing and having sex with.
>>16453002
>Either the sex turns them off or you simply are dating the wrong men.
Personality wise, the three were very different. 1st would be what you'd call an "alpha" - well off, very fit, driven, popular. 2nd was an aloof man going through a separation who has the most toxic friend's circle I've ever seen. 3rd was your Average Joe, did lots of stuff with the boys, would go drinking, but not excessively, fit, but not overly so, goofy and funny-inappropriate but could also have conversations about complex social issues.
Sex:
1st - He seemed to had really enjoyed it. First and only time was a few hours.
2nd - I think it was five hours first time? He was happily exhausted. Liked that I was kinky because he had a lot of shame about his kinks. (Prostate massage, pegging, etc. I'm not personally into that, but I'll give anything a go once.) He'd ask for oral sex a lot.
3rd - Went like bunnies. Blew his mind that I was kinky and was the kinkiest and "one of the best" lays he had.
>Maybe it's your honesty/bluntness towards pointing out "issues"
I am very blunt. I don't know how not to be. However, I don't take things overly serious, can and ask for criticism on my own behaviour and I am not judgemental. (2nd guy cried, has dick and body issues, etc.)
I want to hear from this girl so badly. She used to hit up my phone daily, but now I feel like I have to fight for every single response. And I'm fighting a losing battle.
A+C+N xO +$ -$ = 0
>>16449598
Armchair psychologists and projection addicts in these threads sure do not know anything about who or what they're talking about. Reminds me of a guy named blue and his blue cohorts from effiel 65. Yes it was a catchy song but it also covered depression and projection as well. Over all I would recommend this song to armchair psychologists and projection addicts worldwide.
http://m.youtube.com/watch?v=68ugkg9RePc
"Psychological projection, also known as blame shifting, is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unpleasant impulses by denying their existence while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude."
>>16449598
too needy m8.
I want to be an hero. My country has hellium banned unless you buy it through already blew up balloons. So you fags always tell me to kill myself. I have no gun or sharp objects and I live in an area with no tall objects.
How can I kill myself? The most creative post wins.
Unlearn how to swim.
The good ole toaster in the bathtub
>>16459393
Bash your head to the wall.
I want to leave my abusive husband, I found a really cute guy on CL but it is almost too perfect how do I know my husband did not post the ad so he can catch me and be even meaner. I would not do this but he wants me out of the house and I have nothing
>>16459385
OP you sound too obvious. This sounds like the true thoughts of a woman but women are pretty good at manipulating people for pity etc
Please try harder next time.
Thank you for that advice
You're going to die if you don't dissapear on your own. Don't bother to try man hoppping, it only ends badly. Stand on your own feet and move them in a direction opposite of the ex hubby with divorce papers on the table.
Is it better to show jealousy sometimes in a relationship?
Lately I feel that my s/o is trying to make me jealous. I have reasons to believe he wants me to be a bit more possessive of him, especially since I have a busier social life than he does. When he tries, I usually just say something nice about the person/event he's talking about and kind of brush it off.
Should I cave and give him the reaction he wants sometimes? I just want him to feel secure with me and that I value him and our relationship.
Maybe you should be more proactive and try to show him that he IS special and important to you, not just someone you feel is nice to have around. Instead of reacting to his insecurity. It is easy to develop insecurities when you can't be sure the other person feels the same way about you as you do about them.
>>16459373
But I show how much I love him all the time and tell him how much he means to me and how lucky I am to be with him already. What else could I do to be more pro-active?
>>16459353
>Should I cave and give him the reaction he wants sometimes?
No, it's better for both parties if you don't feed insecurity. Eventually, when he's starts to trust in himself (and the relationship) he won't feel as bad.
>I just want him to feel secure with me and that I value him and our relationship.
It's not going to change how he feels long-term, only in the moment. That's just part of his personality that you're going to have to live with. You'll only make things worse by showing him that acting out with that behavior is okay. Then his behavior will get worse over time, because he'll start using it for control.
Just found out my gf participated in multiple gangbangs what do
>>16459236
Organize a gangbang and gangbang her. That was easy.
Find a "less used" girlfriend
>>16459236
It's not gonna work
