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This is a serious question. Is a non offending pedophile, ( still a pedophile ) that gross or weird to people? I mean what If the guy looks average, and is in his late teens?
Yes. My advice is for him to keep it to himself.
>>16455906
>does me looking average make me any better as pedophile
just keep it to yourself, and dont engage. most pedos are able to maintain adult relationships as well, but if not just dont go for it. its not worth it.
>>16455910
To never to anyone? Not even his best friend ?
Have you ever broken up with a long term partner when you were torn over whether it was the right thing to do? Not because of something they did wrong, or because there was someone else you were interested in. How did you feel when you ended it?
>>16455868
If you are young, this is normal. Do not drag it out for either of you. Just rip the bandage off.
A big stress reliever , like it sucked and it did hurt but it was for the best.
Sounds like someone made a commitment without first thinking about what they stood to get in return for it.
Relationships aren't Disney shit. Commitment is a huge sacrifice. If you make it on the back of hormones and fantasy, you'll find yourself having given up an awful lot without an understanding of why. Then you question the entire point of having done it in the first place.
It's one thing if you could say "I'm torn over whether this is worth it." At least then you could assess worth. Here you're talking in vagaries. Break up and make your next attempt at commitment a lot more thoughtful.
I want to find a liberal and highly educated jewish girl to settle down with. I want a wife that will be jealous, nag me and show me true desire.
Context:
Tall attractive black male
About to graduate liberal private uni
have mother issues
>>16455856
>find a single girl that meets these qualities
>ask her to marry you when time is right
>do all those things you listed
i think the bigger issue here is that you are expecting someone to fill specific role in a partner. i mean its fine if you want to hook up with this kinda chick or hang around a bit, but ur already talking about marriage. you aren ot going to 'find' your wife. you will meet her.
>>16455856
what the fuck? jews don't get married to outside jews unless they're rich or influential and if they do it's because they're so fucked up mentally or addicted to drugs, especially if it's to a black dude.
>>16455867
>they're so fucked up mentally or addicted to drugs, especially if it's to a black dude.
Awesome, now I know my audience. Now where to find them?
/adv/, how do you deal with the past? how do you deal with the apparent realization you have made great mistakes, even though you thought you had learned from them so long ago?
how do you deal with seeing signs that have been there for months and you weren't able to read until now?
it's haunting me to death, i'm beating myself so hard for not knowing better once again.
i feel like an opportunity has been given to me all this time and even though i kind of knew i had to grasp it, i didn't, or i didn't grasp it strong enough...
the past has gotten the best of me again and i know i'm going to be fucking miserable for the next weeks until i get to the point where i can actually slowly make use of the "you can't change the past, but you can change the future" thing again.
Same boat
>>16455846
>how do i deal with it
by dealing with it? everything you talk about is in the past. this is pretty much what life is built on. its the reason the president has grey hair. no matter how experienced we are, we area always a small fish in a big pond.
>>16455846
By accepting the fact that tomorrow is coming.
>Be me
>Date girl for a little over 10 months
>She's a total bro. Likes same music as you, loves vidya, smart, makes memes, cute, have great sex, very cuddly, and loyal.
>Start developing a fond attachment to a female friend you both know.
>She is also cute, sweet, and smart. Though not as into vidya, or music. Pretty heavy Christian.
>You still love gf in every way, but you can't help but feel that your friend is giving you this one new feeling about yourself that your gf hasn't given you, and don't want to go without.
>tell your gf your thoughts before one year anniversary
>She listens.
>She sarts to feel sad. She tells you to talk to the other girl about how you feel.
>Gf says she still loves you and wants to be with you, but also wants you to be happy even if it means the two of you are not together.
> Tell gf that you'd talk to her after your one year anniversary, because she deserves that year.
>Pussy out, and don't talk to other girl
>It's passed your one year. And you still talk to your gf about the situation.
>She still wants you to talk to her, even though you know it's breaking her heart.
>End up talking about breaking up, after spending the day with her.
>She starts to cry...
>you start to cry...
>She brings up the future that the two of you had planned.
>she tells you she saved the list of baby names you both came up with.
>Both of you cry harder.
>The two of you want to be together soo bad, but she knows that you won't be happy unless you at least try to be with your friend.
>You don't want to leave your gf heartbroken because you know all the shit she's gone through and you don't want to she her fall back into that dark place.
>She is too sweet, too kind.
>Kinda wish you could have the two of them. Keep your gf and bring in your friend.
>But you know it's too weird, and it wouldn't work out.
>The two of you plan a day to be together. Knowing it could be the last day the two of you have sex.
>The day comes, and it goes great. feel warm and fuzzy.
>You start talking again.
>You tell her that she deserves better than you, that she'll move on. The love will fade, and that you'll both be OK.
>Her eyes begin to water.
>So do yours.
>You tell her the two of you will still stay good friends.
>She likes that
>After a while both of you feel good.
>Agreed that if friend says no, or if your attempt with friend goes south; you and gf could get back together again.
>But also tell gf that you might even choose to be alone anyway.
>She understands
>She asks if the two of you could stay together just a bit longer, because she's still not ready to say goodbye yet.
>You agree.
I want to know your thoughts /ADV/ are my gf and I handling this the right way, or is there anyway we can make it better?
>>16455787
Im sorry your a faggot who can't be happy with woman A. Want a cookie dumbass? The hell advice u need? Go post this on /b/ or some forum for bitches and hos.
>>16455791
It depends on who the fuck this friend is? Personally I can't relate.
I've been noticing lately more and more guys doing stupid things because they can't get laid. I can't tell if there are more sexually frustrated male virgins this generation or if those guys have just became more vocal about their situation thanks to the internet. Is sex really harder to get now than it was 10 or 20 years ago? Is this generation of women nitpickier about who they have sex with or are there just more undesirable men?
Thanks to feminism you have 20% of top males fucking 80% of women.
A normal guy has no chance in the pussy game, so he drops out and starts doing stupid shit since he has no chance with women either way.
>>16455717
Women are fucking nuts. Its a minefield. Feminist turned what was awesome in the 80's and 90's into a fucking trainwreck.
I suspect it's a combination of internet echo chamber and increased room for independence, which in the wrong hands can turn into isolation.
I can't speak for everyone else but I think I'm getting as much action as men of generations past. I'm not anything special either.
This is following on from a thread I made yesterday. Basically I used to have a close friend, over time things escalated and we slept together a few times, and then out of the blue one day she broke it off because she'd never really seen me as boyfriend material. She was genuinely sorry when she saw how hurt I was and wanted to stay friends, but although I tried this for a little while it was pretty clear I couldn't handle it, especially when she got a new boyfriend. I started avoiding her in real life and deleted her on all social media, and we've only spoken a couple of times since then (about 18 months ago).
Yesterday I got a message from her, and we had a little catch-up chat. I think she was just feeling bored/lonely, because she told me she's unemployed and living with her parents (and as far as I know she has no friends that live close to there). After we'd talked for a while and things drew to a close, I asked her not to contact me again. I'll post a summarised version of the messages below, but I did it in a pretty nice and positive way. But I've been feeling shit about it ever since. Even though it's pathetic/beta, I still want to be able to cheer her up when she's feeling down and make her laugh like I used to, even though that's not my role anymore and hasn't been for a long time. We've barely had any contact for 2 years, but all of a sudden it seems a lot more 'final', and that really might be the last time we ever speak. I just feel sad about the whole situation, I really wish it could have been a happier ending because I'd never had a friend like her before, and haven't had one since.
I guess I just want to know if people think I did the right thing? If I handled it the right way? If anyone's been through the same sort of thing, how did you handle the way you felt afterwards?
Summary of last few messages:
Her: I'm glad you're doing well, just thought I'd message and see how you were
Me: It's nice to catch up and everything, but I'm not really sure why you want to check on me. Might be the best to leave the past in the past for good?
Her: If that's the way you feel.... I just got reminded that we used to get on. But anyway, I wish you all the best for the future
Me: It's not like I really want to say it or enjoy it, but I just don't see the point in staying in contact. We're not going to be friends again but there's nothing wrong with that, we just obviously felt a very different way about each other and I realised friendship with you was never what I really wanted. It makes more sense for me to move away from all that and accept that there's no reason for us to be in contact any more. I still have very positive memories about you and the friendship we did have, but it ended and life goes on.
So thanks for the memories, I'm glad to have known you, and good luck with everything in the future.
Her: I guess I understand. I'm glad I could be of some use and that you have positive memories. I know it's normal to drift apart and you do not see any point in staying in touch or want me as a friend and that's okay. I guess we're both done with this chapter and have many more exciting ones ahead of us. I don't think I had any particular intention when I contacted you, I just wanted to know how you were
OP, you made the right decision.
I was put in a similar situation a few months ago with one of my eces and decided to see if things could maybe work out differently than the first time we dated.
A few weeks goby and everything is great. She comes over, we smoke, drink, play video games, eventually fuck, and I ask her if we could be together. She says yeah. Few weeks of sheer bliss. Out of nowhere, she's avoiding me. I go crazy for a few days until she messages me back. She's not ready for a relationship. Wants to take things slow. Okay, sure. Fast forward to now, and I still haven't seen her, regardless of the fact that we talk (sporadically) almost every day.
I've been so depressed and anxious over this situation that I'm considering checking myself into a psych ward (previous issues compounding with this situation and the stress of life).
tl;dr trying to revive something once it's been dead for a few years doesn't work with biological organisms, it doesn't work with feelings either.
I'm not reading this, but you need to get over yourself.
>be me
>girlfriend has mostly guy friends
>house mates mostly guys
>she's frequently exchanging calls/texts or hanging out with said guys
>I gotta be ok with it and mostly am
>last weekend at party barely talked to me
>often talking to the same guy-friend who hit on her when they first met
>she has said he's cute before
>seen her paying too much attention to him before
>feel like I'm nearly invisible to her around him
>I get annoyed and remark about it
>get accused of being 'paranoid' and 'obsessive', 'how could I not trust her', etc
>from then on she pays lots of attention to me and points it out as proof that I was being crazy
meanwhile, if I just
>hang out with a group of friends that 'might' include a girl
>text a girl for some legit reason
>get a girl house mate (the rest being guys)
...she starts getting all insecure and butthurt about it.
Every. Fucking. Time. How the fuck do I deal with this massive double standard /adv/?
Well, as a female, that have guy friends most of life. The thing is that there is no fucking excuse, if my boyfriend feels uncomfortable about me talking to other guys, then I would simply introduce the my guy friends with him. Heck play some videogames or play a pole game just make everything ease down. If one of my guy friends have a girl friend, we double date. Movies, or whatever. But I would try to never get intimate with them, or even have their phone number. I don't want to chance it, my boyfriend is perfectly fine that have guy numbers, he trusts me. But, I try to keep my boyfriend emotionally happy, and if something uncomfortable arises, I encourage him to talk to me about it, and to fix any misunderstanding. OP, just talk to her, if it doesn't seem to work out, to get the hell out of that relationship before it goes down hill, really its up to you.
>>16455669
This is excellent advice.
From a different/male/less confident point of view, you could nip it in the bud and dump her.
Maybe you should stop dating girls who don't know how to behave themselves in relationships. Just a thought.
>girlfriend won't give bjs
>been together a year
>think she gave me bjs at the beginning to rope me in
>says she doesn't like doing it and would rather fuck
how do I get bjs
>25 years old and just want a blowjob
>doesnt like giving bjs
abort immediately
bad lays should be shamed into improving themselves
>>16455580
maybe your crotch stinks
do you take showers before seeing your gf ?
>>16455592
>bad lay
she's a "great lay," incredible when it comes to fucking. she'll climax 2, 3 times even when I'm not even trying, and more if I'm putting some real work in. but, she just "doesn't like" giving head for some reason
>>16455623
>maybe your crotch stinks
yes, I shower before we do that stuff. a lot of the time, it's even part of our foreplay. before going to bed, we go fool around in the shower for a bit, then head to the bed, get busy, and fall asleep. but, no bjs in there, and that would make it SO MUCH MORE FUN
How do I leave my shit small town and go to the big city? I have no motivation to get an apartment here because it fucking sucks and there's nothing here at all. I'm stuck living with my parents and I fucking hate every second of it. I want to go to la or NYC but it seems like there is no way to make it there unless you already have a good job. I don't even know what I want to do with my life. Living in a forest for so long I never really "found myself"
Be 18 and get a car
Then leave..
I dont like bait
>>16455567
Well I don't like useless posts
>>16455578
Ok.. keep posting the same thing for 6 months straight and get every answer possible and every piece of advice possible and not take any of it..
So I'm into Bdsm, and I told my boyfriend (who is pretty tame in the bedroom) about it in August. I asked if he'd possibly be interested into looking into it and thinking about if he was comfortable doing it. He agreed, but has only brought it up once since then, saying he had read into it but was still looking. It was maybe a two minute thing, and I really felt like he brushed it off.
The thing about it is, and I understand if you guys don't understand it necessarily, is that this is kind of vital to my sex life. Bdsm is a deeper form of intimacy and trust in mine and my partner's sexual life. It doesn't have to go father than the bedroom for me, I'm not asking for a full-time lifestyle.
This is a problem, however, because he's ignoring it even though I've told him it's something I need in the relationship. Our sex is fairly good, but it's kind of like if you were in a relationship only getting blowjobs. It probably wouldn't fully meet your needs 100%.
It's kind of turned me off to sex a little at this point. I kind of feel like he ignores what I've said I need because I give him what he needs and he's perfectly happy. But at the same time, I feel like it would be bitchy to bring it up to him and say that.
I'm not really sure what to do. Should I just shut up and keep having sex with him the way he's clearly fine with? Honestly, am I just being a bitch about it?
>>16455507
Also I apologize for any typos, I'm on my phone and in a hurry at the moment.
Slip him some hot porn of what you want.
>>16455517
If it's important to you, it's important to you. Comfront him about it and make it clear the current situation is frustrating for you, he might be underestimating the urgency because you were too meek last time.
If he's not receptive to it, it looks like you too are incompatible on that front and if it's an important point for you, you should break up.
Hi /b/
How hard is it to overthrow a third world government. How much capital is needed and how hard is it to equip a rebel group with weapons. I am diagnosed psychopathic and very charismatic. I am very good at lying, manipulating and organizing. I turned my whole class to go from being non-racist hippies to a class of neo-Nazis in just 6 months, I was 15 at that point. One of my "friends"(I use him to my advantage) have military training and will fellow me. He does not know that I am psychopathic. What are my chances of succeeding /b/?
>>16455485
not that smart because you can´t even seem to read this isn´t /b/
You're going to get shot in the face
/thread
>>16455485
The issue is not overthrowing the government. With enough money you can hire mercenaries and buy black-market weapons to succeed in any revolution.
The problem is that it is absolutely guaranteed that one of your allies or your own generals will eventually realize that if it's that easy, they might as well kill you and take all the prizes for themselves.
So I finally managed to get myself a girlfriend, and if I was a normal human being, everything would actually be going great in my life for the first time ever. I don't mean to brag, but she's so attractive that I honestly don't know how I managed to get with her.
There's one problem though... I have mild depression and I think it could be affecting my sex drive somewhat. I pretty much never get horny anymore, I feel like I could quite happily go without sex and I only really do it with her to try and keep her satisfied.
Key word there is 'try'. I have pretty much everything going against me in the bedroom. Low libido, premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. The first time we had sex actually went okay, I lasted a decent amount of time and was able to keep it up but the second time I finished from her hand and then couldn't get it back up to do anything else.
She says it doesn't matter but I know it's affecting the relationship and I don't know what the fuck to do. I went to a GP and she just told me it's probably the depression and that I should consider getting councelling. Not really a big help.
>Before anyone says it, no, I'm not gay.
>I don't watch porn or jerk off nearly as much as I used to
>I walk quite a long distance every day so I'd say I get a decent amount of exercise
>I'm not sure it's a biological problem because as I said before, it's not impossible for me to get it up, I have no idea what's going on.
Please someone help me, I honestly don't know what the fuck to do.
>>16455456
Do you regularly get morning wood?
>>16455690
Nope, never.
Ok ok op , coming from a guy this happened to.... Make a smoothie every morning , put a banana or 2 in that bitch , gets the blood pumpin like crazy down there , put some protein powder in that motha fucker , i use to nutt in like a 1-2 mins , with this powder it takes me like 5-7 mins probably longer but i make her nutt within that time and i get bored so sorta make myself nutt. But yeah it works
I know this older girl, She's 33. I'm 20. And well, We talk nearly every other day. She knows, I like her a lot. And well, I think she likes me too. She just moved into her own place, and she invited me to come visit. Is she just being friendly or does she like me?
Stop using, so many, commas, Shatner.
There's no way to tell until you flirt with her.
>>16455421
Sorry, Spock.
I do flirt to a extent.
She says, She's too old for me, But she wanted to meet me in a hotel and "watch movies".
Must mean something?
>>16455419
This is no different from your average "I like my friend" situation. Visit, act normal, gauge her interest.
You either make a move or you don't. If do, you either get laid or shit'll be wierd for a while between you - maybe forever.
so adv, I need some help
>meet qt girl
>things going well, possible relationship
>start having protected sex
>tell her I want to rawdog it
>she says okay but that she wants me to get screened for STDs first
>wtf.jpg
>tell her no and that she should trust me
>says she would get one too so it's "fair"
>can't believe she's being so uptight about it
>get into an argument
>she hasn't talked with me since
isn't it a bit controlling that she requires I get one? it's like saying I'd require her to get her tubes tied "to eliminate risk" or her getting pregnant, but I'm not because that would be ridiculous. help me out /adv/
You're an idiot and she's being semi safe. She's doesn't know who tf you are, you guys are just having sex. Get an STD screening and get over yourself
Just get tested bitch
>>16455396
then she should be open to the risk, right? it just feels like I'd be backing down from my morals
