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Op pic related. Do these words mean that's she's 100% no longer interested?
>I might date somebody lol, but if I don't find someone we can still be a thing I guess.
Drop it like it's hot.
>>16444821
So leave it huh
>>16444822
We're the /adv/ board, not the "tell you what to do" board. You have better perspective here than anyone else.
But from our limited scope, it seems like you're being used like a chump.
I'm a girl and I like futanaris, what the fuck is wrong with me? Girly guys are a turnoff, I like my men masculine and manly but when it comes to futa porn...
You have a fetish. Nothing wrong with that.
>>16444783
It's just a fetish, OP. Futas are basically fictional beings.
I'm a guy and I love futanari as well, but trannies disgust me.
>>16444783
I'm a dude and I like traps and shemales and trans folk, but hate dude shape. Its a kink, aint nothin wrong with your sexuality or mine. Im just a little curious about dick too beb.
>>16444777
Teachers? Low pay, low social status, high stress, long hours. (excluding Scandinavian areas)
>>16444777
>unchecked double trips
Engineering, for now.
City firefighters and city cops to be honest. The civil service process weeds out 90% of the shitbags because it's always done through an outside agency. And those that have an "in the know" are only brought in once they go through the process like anyone else.
Of course shitbags always get through, but it's in any field. Obviously, you have to have the stones for it.
source: Been a city firefighter for a year now.
Feeling a bit lost, /adv/, need some help.
I've been in a couple relationships, so not exactly a complete retard when it comes to this.
The one I'm in now is giving me some trouble, though.
It feels like the best one yet. We connect on every way and everything seems to be perfect...
Up until we get stumped at "sexual compatibility".
She's the best woman I've met so far...
And a 22 year old virgin at that.
She is extremely prude and shy about anything intimate, however, she's not exactly the "no sex until marriage" bullshit type or an asexual.
And that's what confuses me the most. She seems to be "somewhat" really into it, up until the point when I start touching her more intimately.
I go under the shirt, she seizes up. Rock tight.
Starts rubbing her feet together, eyes closed and you can just see the uneasiness and stress on the face.
And I can just feel how uncomfortable she gets.
I've tried it slow, I've tried it easy, to no avail.
She gets so extremely uncomfortable, I start to feel really bad about it. She doesn't really say a blunt "no" either, but she clearly doesn't feel good about it, so I just stand off, because it starts to feel really "rape-y" and try to talk with her.
She says that the intimacy really scares her and she's not used to be this close.
I tell her that I respect that and give her some space afterwards, we just end up pretty much spooning. We've ended up twice like this over the past 2 months.
So now today she came over and I was really into her. All was good, even got to take off her shirt and kiss her body a couple of times, only to get stumped hard again. Out of nowhere she got somewhat emotional, hid her face and looked like she was about to cry, so I immediately stopped.
I felt so horrible and guilty.
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We talked about it and she couldn't really explain anything what she feels.
One point she brought up was that she's scared that she can't suffice my desires.
She thinks I'm sexually very active and needing, which is true, obviously, I'm a man and I can't live in celibacy, I need some sexual intimacy, I can't curb my lust just like that, especially if she has an amazing body like she does.
It feels to me that she is scared of being close, physically, but she denies it. I ask her if she feels bad about me, which she immediately...
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My best advice to you would be communicate when you start kissing ask her if you can take her shirt off or kiss her in certain spots and just explain that she's under no pressure to say yes and you can stop at anytime.
Let her feel like she's in control of the situation as best as possible so she's feels most comfortable and maybe talk about trying to take small steps.
>>16444775
She may be afraid of her sexual desires. Sometimes a bad experience or even religious indoctrination can do that to you.
Why the fuck are women so weird? My girlfriend just suddenly became silent. I asked what's wrong and she said she doesn't want to talk about it now. I looked her in the eyes and she popped a couple tears. I asked did I do something, and she said "well yeah, kind off..." I told her she can tell me anything but she just said "no I don't really want to talk about it now". We just sat silently for 10 minutes, and she was clearly crying. She went to the toilet (probably to dry her eyes) and came back and was still silent. I tried asking her stuff...
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My question is what should I do?
Don't fall for her bullshit. This sounds like some sort of shit test, don't become a pussy over this, don't call her, wait for her to do so. If she has something to say, she's supposed to speak up, if not she can fuck off and refrain from annoying you with her bullshit.
>well yeah kind of
Might mean you did something but it wasnt necessarily a bad thing, but she took it the wrong way. Perhaps she's a sensitive one.
Would you back down on a relationship if you found out your partner had a rhinoplasty (a.k.a. nose job)?
>>16444735
Not that big of a deal.
No but if I met someone and they were like look at my nose job in would likely not pursue them with any special effort. I think plastic surgery is unattractive but I wouldn't kick someone out of bed for it.
>>16444740
I don't think people usually call attention to their cosmetics surgeries anon
Hello guys. I'll try to keep it short. So it's been 6 months since my ex broke up with me. Since then i can't fucking pick myself up. No day comes without me thinking about her in some way. Whenever it comes i keep thinking about all the bad stuff and how she played me for a fool, but it doesn't work. I know i should move on (i suggested that to alot in here to other people), but at this point i have no clue what to do. I'm not contacting her at all, trying to live my life but i feel like my self-esteem went to the shitter. Every day is a struggle, and...
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You probably just need more time. That and go out at every opportunity, get a new hobby, do some self improvement like exercise or learn something.
>>16444696
I am going out alot, found myself a new job but i still can't go on. Came back to swimming, lost 10 kilos, tried going back to gaming, nothing helps. Simply put i've rebuild my life from the scratch, but i am still hung up upon all this stuff. I can go do those things and i'm fine, but whenever i'm alone all this hits me like a train.
>>16444694
Hello OP, I think I can relate quite a bit
My gf dumped me for some other dude after I had a rough few months during our 4-5 years of being together.
It took me about a month to stop contacting her at all (angry emails etc), about 4 months for the short panic attacks to stop while I was at work, and about 8-10 months in total to be back on track for the most part
Sadly, for some people, it takes a lot of time
To speed up the process, you can try what most people try (and it sort of worked for...
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wonder about y'alls opinion about this: 20 yr old seeing a 16 yr old. how bad is that
Peods should be line up and shot once in the fucking dick then an hour later once in the head.
20 seeking anything <18 is fucked up
Medium bad. That's over the age of consent most places, four years isn't that much in the scheme of things, no one would judge a 24 year old with a 20 year old or a 28 year old. But you'd have to be stupid to date a 16 year old in high school.
>>16444691
we're talking theoretically here. thanks for sharing though.
>be me
>17y/o NEET
>slowly losing interest in everything I've ever enjoyed
>diagnosed with major depression, but dealing with it alright
2 years down the track;
>still a NEET
>depression has worsened
>all interests have completely subsided
>only thing I'm good at is singing, which I can no longer do due to an injury
>ahh well, wasn't that good anyway
>thinking about offing myself more and more with each passing day
What do I do, /adv/?
I've got no marketable skills, no interests to pursue, and I've lost count of the amount of times my counselor has tried to teach me mindfulness.
I'd get a job, but I have no qualifications, and any available labour work in my area is off-limits due to my previously mentioned injury.
I have no money and am living off my parents like a giant bearded leech.
So I ask you, /adv/; what do I do to fix my life?
Pic unrelated.
Go outside and have the confidence to talk to people. Order something on the internet. Play a new game. There's still a bunch to do..
Shit dude, you're 17, just apply to a mcdonalds or some shit. Nobody hiring expects a 17 year old to be an expert an anything
>>16444546
Dude i think everybody here went through that at your age.
/adv/ am I wrong for choosing to browse 4chan over having sex?
Tonight a girl that I've been talking to on Tinder for the past 2 months literally asked for sex. She told me she was all alone at her apartment and couldn't sleep, and asked if I wanted to meet. I said no and she actually got pissy with me. I didn't feel like driving 15min to her town and doing it. I don't understand why it's such a big deal that I didn't want to. If i would have asked a girl that and if she gave the same respone it would be seemed as "typical". So...
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>>16444446
gr8 b8 m8
>>16444456
Well it's not bait. I'm really asking.
>>16444446
Why'd you even bother talking to a girl on Tinder if you didn't want to have sex?
Help. Read picture. Just posted this on Facebook. Posting it here for a larger audience.
Please... What happens to other people who are mentally retarded and no one wants to, or can, take care of them? Is it true that institutions still beat patients? Help
They get institutionalized. If you call the cops and he's out of control, they take him to the nearest mental health center.
I have no idea why you think he's going to get beaten more at a mental health facility.
Call 911 and give them your address, explain the situation. You'll have to give your name.
>>16444425
>I was he was just aborted.
Thanks that would make a psychologist same "hmmmmmmm".
>>16444447
Oh sorry I didn't clarify. Mo mom beats my autistic brother every day to the point were if you approach him, he'll do the thing like prepare to get hit again. Like hell shift his body or move his arm to cover his face.
And she just makes him sit and watch TV all day. No one goes out to do anything with him. No one wants him. Father doesn't give a shit either
>be a guy
>like receiving anal sex
>don't like other men
>not sure what to do about it
do I just give it up, can I try to find a gril who's into that?
Yes you can. There are women into pegging, some quite fetishize it. And even more would be willing to stick a finger back there now and again.
This is sort of off topic and I'm not criticizing you but I'm always terrified to try to do butt stuff on my guy because I'm worried he would prefer it to vaginal sex or want to do it every time and I just wouldn't want to do it most of the time. How important is butt stuff to you? Do you prefer it to vaginal and would you want or need it most of the time or is this more a treat beyond normal?
>>16444392
Naw man this way when you bust a bit in your girlfriends post she can strap it on and keep fucking you until you busy all over the be sheets again. It'll be great.
>>16444404
that is an interesting question, it's actually something I've wondered myself
I was worried if I had a gf who was into pegging that I might not b able to have normal sex with her
for me it's not really a fetish, it's more a physical preference if that makes sense
I like it just because it feels good
personally I find receiving anal sex de-sensitises me, I can go for hours for the few days after I cum anally; this is much to the pleasure of any woman I have sex with withing...
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Hey /adv/, why did no one do anything when I was bullied as a kid? Like not even the teachers. I could go up to them and tell them what was happening and best case scenario they'd tell me essentially to fuck off, and worst case scenario I'd get punished for tattling. And what about the other kids, obviously I wouldn't expect them to help me fight the bullies but at least one person could have reached out to me and tried to be my friend.
because you're a runt and pecking orders exist within every group of animals and it isn't the job of others to elevate or save you; save yourself
People used to believe a lot more in handling shit yourself. The current alarmist climate is really quite an aberration and even as recently as 15-20 years ago when I was a kid there was an attitude that was a lot more like "figure your shit out and fit in, your mommy isn't going to around forever". Which honestly probably wasn't all bad at all.
It was actually probably extremely normal that you experienced bullying and isolation. I did, everyone I'm very close to enough to talk about this shit with had some similar experience as well.
The...
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Just how it is.
For whatever reason I was never bullied as a kid except maybe once or twice. I was a geek, small, and kind of different. From what I hear, I can only guess, I was just too disciplined and serious to fuck with or something (grew up years of martial arts and the credo's stuck with me). I had a lot of sympathy for people who were. So when I did see people around me get bullied, I did try to help. And people usually backed off if I intervened.
But I remember there was this one kid that, as much as I wanted to help him... he was just such a massively...
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Hey guys I have a question I want to become a firefighter for forestry but I've smoked pot a couple of times I'm only 19 I'd very much like to pursue this career I have no criminal records, I had a GPA of 3.0, and I'd be able to get everything out of my system before the interview would start can I still get hired?
Any other firefighters that can tell me stories etc. I already have a routine ready for cardiovascular health since I know you're required to be moving with heavy equipment non stop.
>>16444306
sucks to live in a country where you can get discriminated against for minor drug use
I'm in outback Australia and I know a few firefighters
they say 50% of there call-outs are small grass fires, 20% are false alarms/hoaxes, 10%house fires %20 for work not relating to fires
>>16444306
1. Pot doesn't stay in your system that long.
2. Firefighting isn't your normie job. You go through a process. I.E. physical training, tests, etc.
3. You sound like a total fucking dipshit.
>>16444306
Are you fucking retarded? Of course you'll get the job, they aren't cops. I see alcoholic firefighters everyday I'm sure there's some that blaze regularly
My boyfriend has no to little interest in sex and I wish he did. I've tried asking about what he likes and spicing it up but he's not super interested. I offer to blow him but he sometimes refuses.
How do I make him want to screw me?
Hes gay just leave it
Replace boyfriend with new boyfriend.
You'll thank me later.
>>16444296
>unplug his router (no porn)
>hide his vidya controllers (no gaemz)
>hide his phone (no m8's or sluts)
>hide his keys (no fucking off somewhere)
>wear revealing, provocative clothing
>do your hair
>paint your face
>proceed about your day while showing off your...
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