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>I might date somebody lol, but if I don't find someone we can still be a thing I guess.

Drop it like it's hot.

>>16444821

So leave it huh

>>16444822

We're the /adv/ board, not the "tell you what to do" board. You have better perspective here than anyone else.

But from our limited scope, it seems like you're being used like a chump.

You have a fetish. Nothing wrong with that.

>>16444783
It's just a fetish, OP. Futas are basically fictional beings.

I'm a guy and I love futanari as well, but trannies disgust me.

>>16444783
I'm a dude and I like traps and shemales and trans folk, but hate dude shape. Its a kink, aint nothin wrong with your sexuality or mine. Im just a little curious about dick too beb.

>>16444777
Teachers? Low pay, low social status, high stress, long hours. (excluding Scandinavian areas)

>>16444777
>unchecked double trips
Engineering, for now.

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City firefighters and city cops to be honest. The civil service process weeds out 90% of the shitbags because it's always done through an outside agency. And those that have an "in the know" are only brought in once they go through the process like anyone else.

Of course shitbags always get through, but it's in any field. Obviously, you have to have the stones for it.

source: Been a city firefighter for a year now.

cont.
We talked about it and she couldn't really explain anything what she feels.
One point she brought up was that she's scared that she can't suffice my desires.
She thinks I'm sexually very active and needing, which is true, obviously, I'm a man and I can't live in celibacy, I need some sexual intimacy, I can't curb my lust just like that, especially if she has an amazing body like she does.

It feels to me that she is scared of being close, physically, but she denies it. I ask her if she feels bad about me, which she immediately denies again. I ask her what is it, she says she doesn't know. She just can't give me anything to work on and this just tears me up inside. Makes me feel lost and empty.

She asks me if I've dreamed of sex with her. I say yes, all the time. She tells me she's never, ever even dreamed of it with anyone. She never really has sexual desires or lust for anything ever, really.
Clearly her libido is non existant, while mine is off the charts.
I've no idea what to do.
We've known each other for months, almost half a year and I'm still being blueballed hard. Normally I'd move on, because of heavy incompatibility, but the relationship has been feeling so amazing on every single other front.

Does anyone have experience with something like this?
Would the best course of action be just moving on? I can already tell that many of you will say "just talk to her", but I've no idea what to say. We sat down today, looking at each other; normally I am good at expressing myself, but this time I just had a complete tumbleweed in my mind. Empty. I've no idea what points to bring up with her, what to say, what to ask.
Her avoiding the topic so much doesn't give my any clarity either. It's just hard to find an anchor.

Sorry for the lengthy post.

tl; dr
gf has extremely low libido and is absolutely terrified of sexual intimacy to the point of mentally and physically seizing up like a stone

she can't talk about it, I don't know what to do, I really like her

My best advice to you would be communicate when you start kissing ask her if you can take her shirt off or kiss her in certain spots and just explain that she's under no pressure to say yes and you can stop at anytime.

Let her feel like she's in control of the situation as best as possible so she's feels most comfortable and maybe talk about trying to take small steps.

>>16444775
She may be afraid of her sexual desires. Sometimes a bad experience or even religious indoctrination can do that to you.

My question is what should I do?

Don't fall for her bullshit. This sounds like some sort of shit test, don't become a pussy over this, don't call her, wait for her to do so. If she has something to say, she's supposed to speak up, if not she can fuck off and refrain from annoying you with her bullshit.

>well yeah kind of

Might mean you did something but it wasnt necessarily a bad thing, but she took it the wrong way. Perhaps she's a sensitive one.

>>16444735
Not that big of a deal.

No but if I met someone and they were like look at my nose job in would likely not pursue them with any special effort. I think plastic surgery is unattractive but I wouldn't kick someone out of bed for it.

>>16444740
I don't think people usually call attention to their cosmetics surgeries anon

You probably just need more time. That and go out at every opportunity, get a new hobby, do some self improvement like exercise or learn something.

>>16444696
I am going out alot, found myself a new job but i still can't go on. Came back to swimming, lost 10 kilos, tried going back to gaming, nothing helps. Simply put i've rebuild my life from the scratch, but i am still hung up upon all this stuff. I can go do those things and i'm fine, but whenever i'm alone all this hits me like a train.

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>>16444694
Hello OP, I think I can relate quite a bit
My gf dumped me for some other dude after I had a rough few months during our 4-5 years of being together.

It took me about a month to stop contacting her at all (angry emails etc), about 4 months for the short panic attacks to stop while I was at work, and about 8-10 months in total to be back on track for the most part

Sadly, for some people, it takes a lot of time
To speed up the process, you can try what most people try (and it sort of worked for me after a while as well)
- new hobbies / get more into the ones you like (playing guitar helped a bunch and I even recorded some things because of it)
- learn something - keep your brain occupied with productive things that you like
- go out alone - really; it'll feel horrible the first 2-3 times, but it's a huge relief when you can just go to a movie by yourself, at a small cinema, and not worry about anything
- close friends might help, if you try to dose out your rants/complaints about the horrible way you feel

Peods should be line up and shot once in the fucking dick then an hour later once in the head.
20 seeking anything <18 is fucked up

Medium bad. That's over the age of consent most places, four years isn't that much in the scheme of things, no one would judge a 24 year old with a 20 year old or a 28 year old. But you'd have to be stupid to date a 16 year old in high school.

>>16444691
we're talking theoretically here. thanks for sharing though.

Go outside and have the confidence to talk to people. Order something on the internet. Play a new game. There's still a bunch to do..

Shit dude, you're 17, just apply to a mcdonalds or some shit. Nobody hiring expects a 17 year old to be an expert an anything

>>16444546
Dude i think everybody here went through that at your age.

>>16444446
gr8 b8 m8

>>16444456

Well it's not bait. I'm really asking.

>>16444446
Why'd you even bother talking to a girl on Tinder if you didn't want to have sex?

They get institutionalized. If you call the cops and he's out of control, they take him to the nearest mental health center.

I have no idea why you think he's going to get beaten more at a mental health facility.

Call 911 and give them your address, explain the situation. You'll have to give your name.

>>16444425
>I was he was just aborted.

Thanks that would make a psychologist same "hmmmmmmm".

>>16444447
Oh sorry I didn't clarify. Mo mom beats my autistic brother every day to the point were if you approach him, he'll do the thing like prepare to get hit again. Like hell shift his body or move his arm to cover his face.

And she just makes him sit and watch TV all day. No one goes out to do anything with him. No one wants him. Father doesn't give a shit either

Yes you can. There are women into pegging, some quite fetishize it. And even more would be willing to stick a finger back there now and again.

This is sort of off topic and I'm not criticizing you but I'm always terrified to try to do butt stuff on my guy because I'm worried he would prefer it to vaginal sex or want to do it every time and I just wouldn't want to do it most of the time. How important is butt stuff to you? Do you prefer it to vaginal and would you want or need it most of the time or is this more a treat beyond normal?

>>16444392
Naw man this way when you bust a bit in your girlfriends post she can strap it on and keep fucking you until you busy all over the be sheets again. It'll be great.

>>16444404
that is an interesting question, it's actually something I've wondered myself
I was worried if I had a gf who was into pegging that I might not b able to have normal sex with her

for me it's not really a fetish, it's more a physical preference if that makes sense
I like it just because it feels good

personally I find receiving anal sex de-sensitises me, I can go for hours for the few days after I cum anally; this is much to the pleasure of any woman I have sex with withing that window
so I would still have predominantly normal vaginal sex with a woman, but that's just me I suppose

>>16444406
I cant take anal sex after I've ejaculated, it has to be anal first

because you're a runt and pecking orders exist within every group of animals and it isn't the job of others to elevate or save you; save yourself

People used to believe a lot more in handling shit yourself. The current alarmist climate is really quite an aberration and even as recently as 15-20 years ago when I was a kid there was an attitude that was a lot more like "figure your shit out and fit in, your mommy isn't going to around forever". Which honestly probably wasn't all bad at all.

It was actually probably extremely normal that you experienced bullying and isolation. I did, everyone I'm very close to enough to talk about this shit with had some similar experience as well.

The thing that makes it so sucky for you is that while bullying may be kind of a normal phase if still shitty and inexcusable, usually people have someone to go to.

I think that's likely attributed to that you may have not had a large variety of people to turn to. I went to a small private school age 5-13 and experienced near total isolation there. It was very competitive and clique-y. Then at age 14 I went to a very large high school and it was a revelation that there were every type of group and that this variety also made it so that no one was brutally competitive any more, everyone was friendly except the black girls.

Or if that doesn't sound like it may be the case, the other thing that may have been is you may have unknowingly created your own sphere of isolation. People don't like victims. Watch every bit of media ever, the kid getting picked on NEVER heartwarmingly makes his first friend while crying or tattling about it. Universally nearly underdogs gain comradery and empathy when they're going on with their lives taking it on the chin.

I know that sounds unpleasant and I don't like it but reality is reality.

Just how it is.

For whatever reason I was never bullied as a kid except maybe once or twice. I was a geek, small, and kind of different. From what I hear, I can only guess, I was just too disciplined and serious to fuck with or something (grew up years of martial arts and the credo's stuck with me). I had a lot of sympathy for people who were. So when I did see people around me get bullied, I did try to help. And people usually backed off if I intervened.

But I remember there was this one kid that, as much as I wanted to help him... he was just such a massively clueless idiot and and a total asshole sometimes that I just said, fuck it. Every time I did try to help, he'd pretty quickly do something to that would make me face palm, and make me regret trying.

I'm kind of ashamed to admit that I maybe peer pressure dissuaded me from trying harder, but at the same time, he didn't make it easy, and did a lot of things that make me think he just wasn't a good person. There is only so far that a persons goodwill can stretch.

I ran in to him a few years after high school. He fully transitioned from a kind of blunt, clueless, and assholish nerd, in to one of the biggest dude-bro douchebag's I've ever come across.

TL;DR: Maybe you didn't make it easy on anyone.

>>16444306
sucks to live in a country where you can get discriminated against for minor drug use

I'm in outback Australia and I know a few firefighters

they say 50% of there call-outs are small grass fires, 20% are false alarms/hoaxes, 10%house fires %20 for work not relating to fires

>>16444306
1. Pot doesn't stay in your system that long.
2. Firefighting isn't your normie job. You go through a process. I.E. physical training, tests, etc.
3. You sound like a total fucking dipshit.

>>16444306
Are you fucking retarded? Of course you'll get the job, they aren't cops. I see alcoholic firefighters everyday I'm sure there's some that blaze regularly

Hes gay just leave it

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Replace boyfriend with new boyfriend.

You'll thank me later.

>>16444296
>unplug his router (no porn)
>hide his vidya controllers (no gaemz)
>hide his phone (no m8's or sluts)
>hide his keys (no fucking off somewhere)
>wear revealing, provocative clothing
>do your hair
>paint your face
>proceed about your day while showing off your body as much as possible

Eventually he will get bored, notice you whoring it up, and pounce on you