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Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Girls, what kind of questions are acceptable to ask the opposite sex in ask the opposite gender anything threads?
What's with women and politics? If me and a guy argue, we're generally over it within the hour. But for some reason all the women I know carry a grudge over that stuff for a week easily.
>>16321303
2 meta dude
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Guys, would you rather cook for a girl, have a girl cook for you, or cook together?
>>16315472
Just started dating?
>cook for her
I'm worrying late but will be seeing her after work?
>her cooking for me
Nothing to do on the weekend/we live together?
>cook together
>>16315497
*working late
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
For boys and girls
>I'm a 24 year old male
>dating girl for past 1.5 years and she asks about making it official
>I do it, even thought I'm not sure
>I was never sure in my past relationship either
>or about any girl
Anyways I ended up breaking up with her because I don't feel head over heals in love with her. I'm not obsessed and I've been looking for that I guess. But now I feel incredibly Lonley and sad.
What is love supposed to feel like?! I'm scared I threw away the nicest, prettiest and funniest girl I'll ever meet because maybe I was excpecting to much?
Selfishly created this thread to ask an autistic question, but is there a taboo against muscular men in Asian culture?
Specically Japan, or is it all down to personal preference?
>>16330695
Love is a chemical reaction in your brain, along with all other emotions. You will know when you truly love someone, that's something you can't question because its incentive.
I'm not going to devalue your feelings and say you weren't in love with her, but I believe what you're feeling is the similar feeling gamblers get when they decide to drop after a loosing streak. They wonder what would of happened if they continued, they believe it might of been their break through, when in reality it most likely they would of ended up in the red.
![male-and-female-relationship-sign[1].jpg](https://i.imgur.com/PjEPXG7.jpg "male-and-female-relationship-sign[1]")
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Guys, how likely are you to fall for any girl who gives you the time of day?
>>16336241
Not at all. Me falling for someone entirely depends on the girl. Them treating me like a human is a requirement for me to even spend time with them on the first place.
>>16336241
Every single time tbh
Due to the success of the last thread (and it, unfortunately, getting archived before I had a chance to respond to the most recent posts), we're starting with a fresh one. I'll be responding to the most recent posts in that thread first.
Helping people is my therapy. Recently went through a break-up, been becoming heavily invested in creative work the last two weeks and finding new things to love in life, been taking lot's of steps to improve my quality of life.
I'm currently a self sustaining person who's still figuring certain things out in his own life, and would identify myself as an outgoing introvert. I'm very much a solitary person that does enjoy good company whom I can have meaningful or stimulating conversations with. I've had 3 serious relationships, dealt with all kinds of relationship issues (my very first was probably one of the best horrific training exercises you could never wish on anyone, I went into this in a previous thread if you want a link), but everyone has gone through a bad relationship one time or another. I've always enjoyed and felt I had a knack for helping people see things clearly. I'm pretty much all of my friends' personal therapists and cheerleader.
I wanted to dedicate this thread to helping people with any interpersonal issues they're facing. Relationships, friendships, your emotional/physical well being, maybe something is difficult in your life currently. Whatever is on your mind, ask. I will do my best to give the most objective viewpoint I can on the subject.
I hope I can help, and please be patient. I will try to respond as soon as I can (I check in every few hours)
Previous thread >>15656442
>>15674092
Well for starters, if you haven't spoken to someone for 20 whole days and you're pseudo dating/see each other, it's safe to say it's pretty much over, and given how that conversation played it, I'd almost say let it be and continue on with your life.
The only way to really become more social and outgoing is forcing yourself into situations where you interact with other human beings. Namely, if you were to look up events happening around where you live like gatherings and groups that share similar interests, that's a good place to start, because everyone there is for the same reason; to meet new people.
You just have to not worry about what has happened and keep your head up about things. I know a lot of people say this is a bust but, you might want to check out some online dating services too to just get used to the idea of setting up dates with women too. OKC is pretty good for that, I'd say Tinder is pretty unreliable because of the quality of people on that service. It's too superficial if you're trying to find common ground. Hope that gives you a footing for a good start :)
>>15674108
Again I'm not really sure about this out of context. Sounds like it's just her making conversation with ease by restating what you said. Just don't overthink it and try what I've said :)
>>15674113
Common question from the previous thread. I'll refer you to >>15675352 so I don't end up typing the same thing and sounding like a broken record. If you want some more clarification I'll happily provide :)
Helping people is my therapy. Recently went through a break-up, been becoming heavily invested in creative work the last two weeks and finding new things to love in life, been taking lot's of steps to improve my quality of life.
I'm currently a self sustaining person who's still figuring certain things out in his own life, and would identify myself as an outgoing introvert. I'm very much a solitary person that does enjoy good company whom I can have meaningful or stimulating conversations with. I've had 3 serious relationships, dealt with all kinds of relationship issues (my very first was probably one of the best horrific training exercises you could never wish on anyone, I went into this in a previous thread if you want a link), but everyone has gone through a bad relationship one time or another. I've always enjoyed and felt I had a knack for helping people see things clearly. I'm pretty much all of my friends' personal therapists and cheerleader.
I wanted to dedicate this thread to helping people with any interpersonal issues they're facing. Relationships, friendships, your emotional/physical well being, maybe something is difficult in your life currently. Whatever is on your mind, ask. I will do my best to give the most objective viewpoint I can on the subject.
I hope I can help, and please be patient. I will try to respond as soon as I can (I check in every few hours)
Welp....silent treatment eh
I'm in my senior year of high school (obv 18 pls no ban) and i've never had an intimate relationship with anyone (not even my parents, who have a fundamental cultural difference than me [born and raised in diff country, uneducated]). I recognized I didn't connect with people in my sophomore year and turned to philosophy, film, music to fill the gap of my humanity. But I feel helpless to the people around me, my friends (closeish), whom I turn to vent my frustrated thoughts on reality (mathematical ideas, political theories, etc). They all brush it off as me trying to be smarter than them (which in a way I am, but not to prove my superiority, for the hope that maybe possibly they will connect in the realm of thought I reach out). Is it hopeless? And these people I used to share connections with from Freshmen/Sophomore year, I go back to them and its as if i've grown into a different existence then them. It's not like I don't express pleasure in the same way they do, I guess I just feel like an old soul. So am I doomed? Is the only way for me to experience some non-numbing expression or connection through substance or appreciation of someone who couldn't appreciate me in return? (I know part of my problem is narcissism as well, I don't know what to do about this either. I'm convinced im destined for something great)
>>15657801
Sorry I guess I need a question in there. As an introvert, when you have your periods of retreating from society and friends, how do you reintroduce yourself? Everyones moved on without you, and your pride prevents you from falling into the same cycle that caused you to withdraw in the first place. How can one truly connect intimately with another without hopping through all the societal progressions? Or if they need to (which I guess they do), how do they learn if they've never known how?
So I've offered some advice here and there on this board, and a few friends suggested I do this as an exercise. I've been enjoying helping people out with their issues and the good responses I've received for them. So let me give you a little background
I'm a 24 year old who's had a few privileges in his life, having been able to travel the world and see various countries, mix and communicate with many different people, become familiar with business, entertainment and other industries since I was younger and having parents that pretty much would go to the ends of the earth to ensure I had the best possible future. I was homeschooled for a few years because we traveled so much that it didn't make sense, and I probably wouldn't be who I am today if I hadn't been.
I'm currently a self sustaining person who's still figuring certain things out in his own life, and would identify myself as an outgoing introvert. I'm very much a solitary person that does enjoy good company whom I can have meaningful or stimulating conversations with. I've had 3 serious relationships, dealt with all kinds of relationship issues (my very first was probably one of the best horrific training exercises you could never wish on anyone), but everyone has some. That experience, I will go into if anyone's curious, but the point is I feel a lot don't learn major lessons from these experiences, and make the same mistakes. I've always enjoyed and felt I had a knack for helping people see things clearly. I'm pretty much all of my friends' personal therapists and cheerleader.
I wanted to dedicate this thread to helping people with any interpersonal issues they're facing. Relationships, friendships, your emotional/physical well being, maybe something is difficult in your life currently. Whatever is on your mind, ask. I will do my best to give the most objective viewpoint I can on the subject.
I hope I can help
>>15627396
Noticed a typo
**it didn't make much sense to enroll in school with how much we were moving, and I probably wouldn't be who I am today if I hadn't been homeschooled.
Been out, wow no posts?
Tell us about the first horrific training exercise relationship issue.
I actually posted about this in /r9k/ but figured I might get some actual advice other than 'you ungrateful faggot'... because I already know and realize I'm a fucking asshole and ungrateful. So. Here we go.
>tfw you have a smoking hot girlfriend and all you want is a cute chubby to love and call your own
Seriously. I don't even find her physically attractive. She has an incredible personality and is very smart, so I stick around (plus it gives me an ego boost that all my friends are jealous of me). I'd dump her but I don't want to go through the hassle of dating and all the chubby/fat girls I meet are raging sjw-cunts.
I seriously just jerk off to fattie porn all the time. She'll send me nudes or sexy photos and 9-times-out-of-10 I don't even do anything to them.
Seriously guys, help. Pic related, its one of her sexy pics.
god you make me want to kill mysel
just be grateful for what you have
Feed your current GF until you've reached the level of fat that you are satisfied with
>>15616967
What is your question? Do you not know whether it's worth it to leave for a fat wench?
My husband and I have been together for 4 years, but lately our sex life has been miserable. He likes everything I hate and he thinks everything I like is boring.
His interests:
Me playing with myself on webcam.
Him playing with me on webcam.
Making me watch someone else jerk off to me on webcam.
Shoving inanimate objects in my ass.
Fisting.
Things I like:
Sex (basic/romantic/adventurous)
Using toys.
Fapping together.
Him using toys and me watching.
He used to like dirty talking, but that always involved him asking the following questions: "Tell me what you are." (I say "I'm a slut") "What kind of slut are you?" (I say "cam slut") "Are you going to go on webcam and watch guys jerk off to you?" (I say "Yes") "Why are you going to do that?" (I say "Because you want me to") The only problem is he would take it seriously despite me always telling him it had to be strictly hypothetical/role play. Next thing I know he's setting up his webcam and I'm in a bad mood because he's taken it too far.
I tried the webcam stuff. I did shows for money while he watched and fapped. I did the DirtyRoulette thing. I've done everything he wants once but I just couldn't get into any of the things he likes. He's always telling me to suggest something he'll like but I already know I'm going to hate anything he likes. I suggest dirty talk and he says no, I suggest sex and he says he doesn't have time to wait for me to be aroused, I suggest fapping together and he says that's boring. I don't know what to do anymore. I dread getting into bed because I know he has these expectations and it's either going to end in me going to bed upset because he's made me fap on cam for a complete stranger or hurt me by sticking things in my ass even when I'm telling him I'm in pain, or he goes to bed angry with me because I refused to do either of those things.
Suggestions? Advice? Anything? We keep just going round in circles..
Your husband watches too much porn.
Tell him porn=/= real life. He needs to separate the two, or the porn has to go.
Holy shot Lol.
Is he an alpha?
>>15604856
He will cheat and or leave her.
So, there's this attractive woman in one of my university lectures who I've met eyes with a few times. The guy who sits next to her puts up his hand in class a lot, so when I turn to look at him, I kind of look at her more, and then she'll look back...
At first, I made nothing of it, because I'm a creep anyway, so being caught staring at girls is nothing new. I didn't think that she might reciprocate the attraction.
But, the other day, I was putting my name on the sign up sheet for something, on which we could select from multiple time slots to go on some tour. She was directly behind me waiting to also put her name on the sheet. When she did, she seemed to intentionally put her name on the same timeslot that I did, and then sort of giggled.
I could be making too much of it. There were only three slots to choose from, and we both picked the most popular ones. But, I dunno... I didn't make eye contact with her, so I don't know if she was looking at me when she giggled... but I did get that vibe that it was directed at me... I could just be delusional, though.
Anyway, since she is attractive, it seems like an opportunity to strike up a convo with her when we do go on the tour.
However, I've been going through a rough patch recently. Not really sadness, just numb ennui, lethargia, stress, and purposelessness. I've been binge eating a lot as a consequence, and don't really feel attractive or confident.
In fact, I'm not even really interested in pursuing girls right now. But I feel that if this is an opportunity, and I don't take it, there will be some point in the future where my interest in pursuing girls returns, and I'll regret not taking this chance, the same way I've missed so many other chances with beautiful women due to my idiocy.
So, I dunno, I guess this is two questions.
1. Was she really sending signals, or am I just crazy?
2. How the fuck do you flirt when you feel like an ugly sack of self-loathing shit?
1. Sounds like you really think she made the signals, but your low self-esteem wont let you admit it to yourself. Be honest with yourself. You think it was intentional, and you hope it was. You are afraid of being wrong, and that if you are, it will confirm that you are crazy (or at least don't understand people as much as you hope). Someone who wasn't there can't really judge whether she was sending signals or not, but it sounds like you think she did.
2. >I'm not even really interested in pursuing girls
If you really mean that, you can use it. Try to talk with her WITHOUT the pressure of flirting. If you are as far down as you make it seem, you need the practice.
>>15590590
>same way I've missed so many other chances with beautiful women due to my idiocy.
Just for fun, I'm going to recount some such examples of this from my past because why not regale the internet with tales of my betaness
>Be me
>Have QT.314 in one of my lectures
>One day, turn around and catch her staring at the back of my head
>Instead of using it to start a conversation, awkwardly walk away, which probably only makes her feel creepy and self-conscious (oh shit I got caught staring), when I totally would go for that
>Course is about comic books, and I'm a nerd, so I can't help putting up my hand a lot and spreading my autism
>If she was ever attracted to me before, she sure as fuck isn't now that I've revealed my power levels
>>15590687
>If you really mean that, you can use it. Try to talk with her WITHOUT the pressure of flirting. If you are as far down as you make it seem, you need the practice.
That actually makes sense. I can use my lack of current interest to my advantage so that I come off as aloof rather than all nervous like I usually do.
> Sounds like you really think she made the signals, but your low self-esteem wont let you admit it to yourself.
That could be it. I mean, that very thing has happened to me a couple times in the past, causing me to severely shit the bed.
At the same time... I dunno, the dude she sits beside that I was talking about earlier is pretty good looking, so I have no idea why she wouldn't be all over that instead. They sit together, but I don't see them interact much, so I don't know what their relationship is, but if I were a chick, I'd go for that over me any day. I mean, I'm a skinnyfat weirdo with a patchy beard (I pull at my beard hairs when I get stressed, so I essentially have a bald spot under my chin now). And since I've gained weight, I don't even bother dressing well anymore, because my good clothes don't look good on me anymore and I don't give a fuck about myself.
That's why it makes no sense to me that she would be interested in me.
I'll drop my situation under the guise of anonymity for comments, and welcome others to do likewise here.
As some background, I'm in a semi-LDR, and get to see her about one weekend a month during the schoolyear.
Last night, I was on the phone with my GF, and we were both working on things while we talked. By the time I'd finished working, she seemed rather peeved that I wasn't as able to keep track of everything she said, as I'd been focussed on crunching numbers.
I picked up on this, finished working, and tried turning my full attention to her. She explained she was working on some poetry (a hobby of hers), and I said she should let me read what she'd written. She said she didn't want to, but proceeded to post it on her tumblr. I knew it'd be there, and went to read it.
Aaaaand then she gets pissed, saying I invaded her privacy. I don't quite understand why she would blame me for invading anything meant to be read by anyone, even if she'd asked me not to read it.
Upon texting her tonight, she says that I need to understand what it means to respect privacy. I apologized a thousand times for reading something she didn't want me to read, but am I in the wrong for believing I couldn't have invaded something literally anyone could have looked at? She has a tendency to overreact when something else stressful is going on, though I don't think her school or work-life is particularly intense as of now.
What can I do to mend this gap of understanding on both sides? I've tried explaining myself and asking her to take the internet's lack of privacy into account, but at this point, she's just shut me out, saying she needs time.
>if you are reading this, please don't be mad, it's just as private as you made your poem.
Bumpity bump
Google shit test.
Either that or she wants to break out of the ldr to fuck some other dude and make it seem your fault.
Tell her to eatva dick and move on with your life.
She wants the attention because she's brat. If she really didn't want you to read she wouldn't have put it on her tumblr.
She's just inciting argument for the sake of arguing. She's also manipulative and actively wants you to feel guilty/bad so she can have some sense of, I want to say authority but I can't think of the word I want.
My advice: If you haven't known this girl for very long, you should consider calling it quits. She will only get more toxic.
I'm so jaded. I hate every single person in this world. I can't stand anyone's happiness. When i see someone happy i feel depressed, when i see someone destroyed i feel satisfied. I have no good feelings for anyone. I just want to see everyone in ruins. Even my family disgusts me ( well, most of them are shit and don't care about me). I hate certain relatives because they help other people out, it makes me sick. I try to ruin people's lives as much as i can. I insult anonymously people i know. In my uni, the teachers would send the stuff to study to class email and someone deleted it sometimes so then i started doing it too and it felt so good especially because they all wondered in class who was doing it. All people are evil, why should i be good? I don't want to die for the simple reason that other people will continue living on. My greatest joy would be for the world to end and everyone would die. If i could sacrifice my life to some deity and he/she would kill all humanity, i'd gladly accept.
I am depressed everyday, nothing impresses me or makes me happy anymore, everyone makes me sick, everyone has second intentions. No one is pure, what particularly sickens me is some people in power who bring destruction upon others and get away with it. It's the normal civilians like us that get fucked if we do something bad.
Anyone feels like this? I can't cope with other people's success. How can someone genuinely root for another person's happiness?
People are such fucking trash.
>>15570598
Holy shit you're a giant raging faggot.
>>15570598
Burn your inner scum-like self into ashes and then die.
>>15570598
Go see a therapist. Join a chruch just not a Muslim one becuase they will definitely use you as the bomb carry guy.
there were little poos, like dingle berries size leaved on the bedsheets...
are they from her?
help
HELP
HELP PLAEASE
How have you improved yourself this week/month/year? Lifting isn't life, a well-balanced human being is productive, has hobbies, pushes him/herself to succeed, is charismatic, and strives to live the best life they can. Share your successes, failures, methods, and everything in between.
The sticky is divided like so:
>Recommended Readings.
>Some tips to get your life back on track.
>Study and Career.
>To-do list habit.rpg (If you’re TOTALLY Lost. Start with this one)
>Focus and meditation
>Finance
Basic Recommendations:
>Have a productivity Framework that is flexible. A mindset that gets you going.
>Use a calendar, like google calendar. Hours and shit for things YOU WILL DO.
>Learn to focus.
>Meditate.
>Do routines for things you should do periodically/daily, this should cover daily things or weekly chores such as laundry, cleaning, shopping.
>Identify and Eliminate conflicts within yourself.
>Focus on identifying the time wasters in your life and eliminate them.
>Focus on the essentials. If you try to do everything at once you’ll burnout. Little by little.
Resources:
arcitea.com/
>This is a good ‘sticky’ for self-development
http://www.bakadesuyo.com/blog/
>This one is a good blog for resources of this kind. I’ve seen annons give good feedback.
>Framework
http://youtu.be/b-a1jXgAsQI
http://youtu.be/3Ao7rZ8-HWo
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY
>Motivation
http://youtu.be/ZtMm0swu5i8
http://youtu.be/WxOFvpplvAM
http://youtu.be/ix4xSzkqwhk
>If you think there is material that should be added (Or taken off). Please say so.
>There is no central authority for the /SIG/, everyone could copy, modify and upload the info here in a latter post.
>To future curators of the /SIG/. Stray away from PUA, and avoid Fedora stuff please.
>If you try monetizing with this, I’ll cut you.
>I’m looking to expand the ‘how to focus’ Area. If you believe you can help out/have tips. Please share.
Material reading can be tricky. There will be trash here and there as we're not /lit/.
But we have to trust others.
Image related has a detailed list that an Annon provided on a thread a while back. If you got time to kill, click on the image, and read the descriptions
As time goes, the /SIG/ has had a couple of books recommended. I’ve done my best to try to get talks of the authors of such books so you can get a ‘piece’ before you commit.
Google a bit about the book, if you think you can get something out of it, watch the talk.
In my opinion, try getting the books “for free”.
If you read it and get something out of it, consider paying for the book.
>Michael Mauboussin, "The Success Equation”
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1JLfqBsX5Lc
>Quiet: The power of Introverts
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=c0KYU2j0TM4
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=85s9wJlzkrk
>The Brain That Changes Itself - Norman Doidge
https://vimeo.com/14551296
>Antifragile - Nassim Taleb
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k4MhC5tcEv0
>One Small Step Can Change Your Life: The Kaizen Way - Robert Maurer
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wWUDV6xJRPc
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CMQb5FJrop8
>Mentally Tough - James E. Loehr & Peter J. McLaughlin
>Practicing the Power of Now - Eckhart Tolle
> http://pastebin.com/x7BbYimv
Reading material needs to be added/edited
The Way of The Seal
The Code of the Warrior - Rick Fields
The Story of Civilization - Will Durant
The Story of Philosophy - WIll Durant
Starship Troopers - Robert Heinlein 1959 (actually has a lot of really powerful character building stuff in there)
Bravo Two Zero - Andy McNab
Immediate Action - ^
Seven Troop - ^
Also, Project Gutenberg has Thousands of free books.
You could do lot worse than browsing their top 100
http://www.gutenberg.org/browse/scores/top
>Freedom is having control of your life
You should at least have 3 hobbies/activities.
-One that will pay the bills, gets food on your table
-One that will keep you in shape. (lower you faggot)
-One that you're passionate about and might be able to develop into a career.
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If you're into lifting, taking the tips to better yourself should be simple; as you already have built some self-discipline.
Make peace with yourself and the way things are right now.
Stop thinking the world owes you, how destiny ‘fucked you over’, how those guys have it easier.
Accept things as they are, realize that life is cruel and your circumstances are the ones you were given. You can’t do shit about the starting point, but you can move forward.
Don’t focus in what was given to you, focus in what you’ll achieve.
Eliminate the things you dislike about yourself, about your life. Is as simple as, do you enjoy your job? No? Take steps to change the feeling.
How are you gonna make that? You either make your job more enjoyable, or you change jobs. Simple.
You want a girl? how do you plan to achieve that? Are you too socially inept? Work on that.
Are you piss poor and can’t afford a decent living? Work on that too.
No matter who you are, where you are in your life, or how fucked up you think you are.
You can improve your life. Take control. Move forward.
Dreams keeps us alive, fighting for them makes us feel alive.
About 5-7 years ago, I was a fucking train-wreck.
Right now, I'm doing fairly well.
Get some discipline, set some goals and a way to achieve them.
Cultivate yourself, learn stuff, get your shit together.
And realize, understand. None is coming to save you.
You got to make your way through.
You NEED to take CONTROL.
If you're still in School. For fuck sake pay attention.
MORE than half of actually doing good in school is attending, the other half is paying attention in class. So then do it.
Or stop it altogether.
If you’re in college and you’re not feeling it, take a semester to think things through.
If you’re in high school, don’t think YOU NEED to enter college to be successful. There are other ways…
Google just started hiring people who never went to college.
WATCH this talk:
http://youtu.be/iG9CE55wbtY
Some learning resources, focusing in code since I’m an ‘IT’ guy:
>duolingo.com
First and foremost. Free language learning tool with a really robust app. THIS IS A MUST. Learning a new language will help you out no matter who you are.
>codeacademy.com
Teaches you the basics, from the ground up.
>codeschool.com/
Similar to codeacademy.
>youtube.com/user/thenewboston
Personal favorite. This guy step by step, learns a shit-ton of programing languages. Give this a check and start watching something you’re interested in.
>codeeval.com
This one I really like, once you get your shit going, it puts you ‘objectives’ to solve through code, last batch are really complex.
>coursera.org
It’s a really nice online-course platform. There are really good things here as well.
>openprocessing.org / processing.org / codepen.io
These sites display some really cool stuff, where you can also check the source code and modify it to see what happens.
As for career options.
Choose anything you want, If you want to go into Philosophy or Social studies, That's fucking great. As long as you’re passionate about it, you’ll find a way.
You can always become a teacher or a writer.
BUT BE FUCKING AWARE THAT YOU WILL HAVE A HARD TIME MAKING MONEY. Don't get a loan to study shit that will be expensive to repay.
Other than that, don't enter into something soulless just because 'I'll get money'.
You only got one fucking life, don’t waste it doing something you hate.
>have girlfriend
>has broken trust to her but is picking back the pieces for her
>one day talking to a friend asking about my sex life with her
>answered truthfully, tells girlfriend about the story
>becomes whiny and cries and tells me that she's just a "trophy" girl
>i told her that she is not but still believes that she is one
i dunno what to do /adv/, i'm doing very hard to regain her trust for about 3 months now, but she still thinks that she's ugly and says that we will eventually break up. what do? help
Thread needs more info. It's a big fucking difference whether you said how often you have sex on average, or whether you ever tried handcuffing or something, or that you described the way she acts when she cums or something about her intimate stuff she is horribly embarrassed about.
>answered truthfully
Never, EVER tell the truth. What the hell were you thinking?
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>>has broken trust to her
what the hell did you do exactly?
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