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I have never understood this... Why do we give women so much power when dating? I am a 24 year old male with no car and women don't even look at my other qualities. The minute they find out you don't have car, they are done and friend zone you.
Its happened countless times to me. I speak to a woman, ask her out and say "Sure, I will catch the bus to that place near your house."
Then the time of the date comes around and she says "Sorry, I have to cancel."
Its happened multiple times in different ways. Why are women SO picky?...
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I probably wouldn't even be friends with you if I had to drive you around like we're still in highschool. I understand you don't need one if you have good public transport or live in a super small town, but most people will think less of you and think you're lazy. You're also missing out on road trips and that's something you'd never get to do with your girl.
>>15312628
>why are they so picky
m8 you don't have a car there are guys that have everything you have and a car too
>>15312628
because not having a car significantly limits your ability to do things. You can't go get food whenever you want to, you can't go to places without planning it advance. Women are picky as fuck man, but not having a car, unless you're EU sucks pretty bad.
You guys are gonna get a kick outta this one
>be 20
>meet 18 yr old at work
>cute
>help her register for classes n shit
>cool.jpg
>invite her to pizza
>shes cool
>she likes MGS3
>cupidarrow.jpg
>invite her to my house
>we...
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I literally can't even comprehend how you can type that whole post out and not realize how fucking stupid you are
>>15313265
>she likes MGS3
No one likes that game, though.
>cool.jpg
stopped reading
What's the point of improving looks if you are not able to reach ideal?
nothing in life is all or nothing.
>>15310426
"ideal" is not one but in most cases some people achieve it. In wanting to be rich, there is a level when you are 1% and therefore objectively rich. Same with looks
>>15310423
you do it to keep your self-confidence from stagnating, you need to just improve yourself so that you can leave the house and interact with people confidently. as you get older, you'll realize that perfection is all a fraud, the guys do too. so don't worry about it.
I need advice. I already asked my friends to chat with me about it and I'm going to see a psychologist, but I migh ask here as well. I need to deal with this problem, one way or another, as fast as possible, because it's killing me.
A lot of time in my life I spent inside my own head. It is sort of like sleepwalking, but instead of dreaming, I imagine talking with people. Like I am repeating in my head what I want to say to someone and I imagine their response. I do this all the time, especially during stressful situations.
I feel like I'm getting in...
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Therapy. Also you are not a special snowflake that has some mental issues that make you special, or whatever. You have just fooled yourself into this way of being, whether as an excuse to not deal with others or to mask your rejection because you probably are a legit nice guy.
Therapy.
Narcissism.
You obsess over how to behave in a situation and that nothing feels real because you're living under an assumed identity.
>>15299211
>an excuse to not deal with others
May be this was the case back then, but now I need and desperately want to deal with others.
I'm not gonna shit talk this one, so here goes.
>suffer from depression for 1-2 years
>no therapist because of reasons too complicated to discuss
>self-harm, suicidal
>meet guy around May 2014, he eventually becomes the reason for getting up in the morning
>tells me top-tier screwy bullshit about how special I am and how much he likes/cares for me
>share problems, I give him advice...
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>>15292186
Goddamn, looks like somebody cloned my ex. Odd. She has been depressed for 2 years too, and got pretty much attached to me soon. Anyway i am a male and i can relate with you until the "genuine happiness" line so i can tell you (probably) what happened to the other side of the barricade. You are not going to like it though. Interested?
>>15292186
why don't you do what most women do?
go to gym, work on your ass, become a slut, fuck people and feel powerful because of vaginal manipulation?
>>15292186
>several seenzones on FB
Uhh, what the hell is a seenzone?
alright /adv/, I have a new long distance girlfriend, as of last night, and she is coming to visit me soon. I want to blow her mind. Any tips on cunnilingus would be greatly appreciated. This will be the third woman I will have ever been with, and the last didnt like oral at all. Help me out here femanons
watch a fucking bunch of lesbian porn.
They know what to do and so will you after observing.
>>15285509
maleanon here. Not what you were after, but i can share some insight:
- Find the clitoris, if you don't know about it
- Some find it distracting if you also finger her at the same time.
- Patience is key. Find a position where you don't get a cramp in your jaw
- Listen to and look at hear reactions so that you know what works
- If she wants the D instead, it's not necessarily that you suck, but that it's such a huge turnon.
femanons, correct me if i'm wrong, so that i can improve.
Ho do you cope with having no friends?
>no friends
Every person that doesn't attempt to kill you is either neutral or friendly.
Just dandy really. In fact, life is more fulfilling! I've done more, seen more, and enjoyed more without having friends that hold me back.
Sure it isn't personal motivation that is the issue?
Believe it or not, the clock keeps ticking.
How do i cope with possible cancer?
I went to my doc because i had a lump and other cancer symptoms. She starting checking it (Poking and feeling it) and looked genuinely concerned and grew more concerned when i told her I've had it for years and the other symptoms. She told me to get back in 2 months for another check.
This was about ½ a month ago now, and it's agonising. I can't help but feel my death is near, and i randomly stop whatever i'm going and do a thousands yards stare and just think that my death could be near. I've several...
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This week I realized 4chan is totally useless for real pain and they don't understand shit besides the pain of self imposed loneliness and no gf. My dad and I are quietly flipping our shit because of his cancer scare. I've taken to reddit to cope with my feels, find him recipes he can stomach to eat and homeopathic shit to lessen his pain. Please try to keep laughing despite the scare and hope for the best. I will be thinking about you, anon. Please go to reddit for people who actually give a shit, this shitty place can't help you.
There really isnt anything you can do, try to stay busy, do something new and fun. all you can do is wait
Start to save up 2300 $/€
Travel to China
Live the rest of your life traveling Asia and the rest of the world, on foot or illegally by train.
Why I said China specifically? There is one answer, the Himalayas.
Once you're seen and lived the Himalayas, your whole perception on life and death will change.
Travel south to India and if you are still alive by then, go back west to Europe.
Travel illegally, have nothing on you but clothes and bare necessities which should include bushcraft tools mostly.
Only spend money on the initial trip to China, then...
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ITT: Write a letter to someone who will never read it.
Dear V
I don't suppose I'll ever talk to you or see you again. I've done everything in my power to make sure our paths will never cross again, even though that's the last thing that I wanted. I miss you terribly, and haven't stopped missing you since you told me that we were over.
I saw the photos you posted of you and your boyfriend at new year. The caption saying that 2014 was the best year of your life. You looked so happy. You're at your most beautiful when you're in a relationship, when you feel confident and secure. I really...
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Greetings fellow human. Today you shall read my story.
It all began 20 years ago when my parents fucked. I went on a camping trip for 8.5 months in my mothers womb and came out early because i was too bored inside there after conquering it.
For 19 years i have stranded on this rock, the others call it 'earth', taking advantage of every human in each way to either make me sad thus stonger or entertain me thus happier.
I have mastered the art of masturbating and i'm proud of it. There hasn't been a day where i forgot how to breath, eat, and drink...
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>>15230738
Hey, you're not OP, I'm OP.
My sister was raped two days ago (she's 14) by a Somalian, and I am seriously considering paralyzing the guy. I live in another city, but can drive there during the night and make it back due morning and get to work hopefully unnoticed (the irony is I work at a hospital). I will keep my cell-phone at home (I live in scandinavia, so the police are allowed to track the GPS on my phone). I have bought a wooden bat with cash at a small store, so I can easily get rid of it when I'm done. I have premission from a loyal friend to use his car so I won't have to use my...
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if it were me i would do it
but otherwise advice would be save yourself the trouble
Beat the shit out of him in les than 40 sec
then get the fuck out of there
And remember There is barrely any punishment if you get caught
Might as well make it worth it
But are you 100% Sure you got the right guy?
>the punishment he will get from the law is far from the justice she deserves
Then research how much time you might get if you get caught. Even if you take every precaution, you need to understand the possibility of you serving jail time for the attack and if it would be worth it.
I want to tell you "don't do it" but I would do the same thing. Make sure his balls never work again.
I'm a virgin and I'm going to be hooking up with this real attractive girl soon. Need help, I want to do a good job and not disappoint her. Shes done stuff before and tells me shes not expecting anything and that she'll help me along. Still though... Good advice, please.
Pic unrelated
Count yourself lucky your first time will be with someone experienced. It makes it easier, because they will genuinely help guide you through it. Just do what she tells you to do, you'll be fine. Don't watch porn beforehand, thinking it will teach you anything. Porn teaches you (for the most part) fuck all about real sex.
>>15212308
I guess I am lucky. I've looked at a couple tutorials but she tells me it won't work out exactly as planned. Shes nervous as I am
>>15212326
>tutorials
>porn
Avoid these. Of course it won't go exactly as those "tutorials", so just ignore them. If she's as nervous as you are, then try to relax. She won't be able to 100% know how it's gonna play out, neither will you. Just enjoy it, try not to overthink shit, and you'll be fine. And don't worry if you don't cum. It's not uncommon for people to not cum the first time they have sex. I didn't...
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>Meet girl
>Start flirting
>Reject her
>Carry on acting as we always did
>Learn things about her life (which I'll get to in a sec)
>Start falling for her
>She wins me over
>She asked me what our relationship was; are we together?
>Told her I'd tell her on Tuesday (tomorrow), implying...
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>>15096689
>Suddenly changed mind and realised I don't want to pursue a relationship with her
Why?
>>15096689
Post a pic of her, or at least someone that looks similar.
>>15096696
Personal reasons. Selfish reasons if you must.
Hey guys,
So a half an hour ago I was walking in the city on my way home. There were these UNICEF-volunteers hanging in the streets approaching people talking about little kids in Africa having trouble finding water and bladeeblabla... She asked my age, I responded with "23" and she said excellent and she asked me if I'm happy and I told her "someday are happier than other days", she said "it's because its fall and the days are getting darker soon." I said yes again. And then she told me "You know what's worse? Little...
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>>15053600
I had the same problem in my late teens people would ask for donations I'd panic and sign the form.
The thing that brought me out of my shell was getting a new job, socialising and going to bars with friends, working on my confidence and self esteem by setting targets and achieving them, going to the gym and getting fashion tips.
Of you could just say "sorry I'm late for work/my bus/meeting my friend" and make sure you know what to say to them as soon as you spot them, good luck fellow anon.
>>15053654
>>15053600
Also I forgot.
Always remember these people are there to make a sale, they look for easy targets and do not care about the charity or you. Just making a commission.
>>15053661
Thanks your advice means a lot to me :)
I didn't see one. Checked the entire catalog. I'll go first. (1/2)
You said a lot of things, and I don't remember any of it, but here's what I got out of it: I have no place here, I have no place in society, I don't live here (my mom often says this to me), I don't belong here, I have no other place to go, I am a guest. I really felt like calling up Safe Harbor to see if they'd take me in: I was (am?) homeless. Think about that: me showing up at the very place you volunteer at. I never felt comfortable with you around, I always quieted my voice if I knew you were home. You're very offputting and imposing. Meanwhile I tried to stay out of your way, as much as I could, because your behavior and actions conveyed that's exactly what you wanted me to do.
I don't see how that makes me a pain in the ass if I don't provoke you. You, however, provoked me routinely. I can see why Bryan hated you; I side with him. What would your god think? He'd probably be disappointed in you. Being the type that worries about what happens after you die, this should be cause for alarm. You talk about becoming blessed, yet you drive me away? That's like deducting bless points, or whatever you do in your religion to calculate them. You can volunteer all you'd like but it won't cover up for what's going on between us.
>>15036028 (2/2)
Finally, you may be able to drive me away, stamp out my happiness, and generally make me feel unwelcome, but you can't totally take away the only person that I love, trust, and confide in. I'll be coming over periodically to play with my boyfriend & spend time with him as per usual for me, thank-you-very-much. The energy cost will be miniscule compared to when I stayed in Anne's room nightly. If the sight of my blue lifeline cord somehow upsets you, I can't help you on that. Try...
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YOU RAPED ME, ILL FUCKING KILL U BITCH ASS SLUT IF I EVER SEE U. FUCKING RAPIST. RAPPEE!! RAPPEE!!! RAPEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'm not attracted to you physically but I still like you a lot. I hope we can make it work.
I've never felt the need to post here, but I want some older anon's advice on this.
My background (my life story):
I'm 18 years old and well, for my entire life I've been fairly happy, though I've been by myself. My parents were always busy and I have no siblings, so I used to entertain myself with vidya and tv a lot. I've always been a straight A student. As a kid I played lots of soccer and cricket, I eased up on it when I turned 10 or so, but I still always made time for physical activity. As a kid I always used to eat a lot, so I...
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>>15016871
>(Cont'd)
In lower six I barely attended school nor extra lessons, but I still managed to get all grade 1's. I convinced myself that I'm happy but I'm not. I'm really bored with my life. I have no idea what to do, but I know what I DON'T want to do. I feel as if I should go out and be able to meet new people, but I should be attending school and doing well in my exams, getting into uni and getting a good job, wife, child, retirement and all that jazz....
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Everyone's terrible and will leave you.
You just have to whip your nuts out and tell em all to go fuck themselves.
I was dumped around your age after a long relationship. Fucking hurt. Didn't do shit became an alcoholic pothead.
Started blaming everyone else for my social anxiety. My parent fucked me over on raising me, man, but fuck them. I have such bad anxiety that I've been seeing a doctor for it almost 10 years now. Fuck it.
My girlfriend if 2 years broke up with me last night.
Does it suck? Yes.
Am I anxious as fuck? Yes.
But look...
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You make the assumption that going out and getting girls would have made you happier than you are now, you don't know this, so your regrets aren't rational.
What are your interests? If you don't know, experiment with more things until you find what right. if you already know, find a job that incorporates those interests. But interests I don't just mean hobbies, I mean creative drive, how intellectual you are, whether you prefer group work or individual pursuits, etc.
Learn to like yourself more. Contentment is something found in the self, not externally.
