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/offyourchest/
Didn't see one in the catalogue.
basically I'm in love with you.
also, my pal is a fucking possesive fuckwit.
so everyone ended up crazier than I am, lmao.
I feel I need to prove my worth to my friends. Every time I see them. It just unsettles me if they don't show their approval of me, like they wouldn't care if I was there or not.
Seriously, I'm dealing with stage fright just because I'll see them soon.
Met a girl and now I feel melancholic all the time. It's a weird period where I don't know her that well and although we are talking, I'm anticipating finding out that she doesn't like me as much as I like her. Preparing for disappointment I already listened to Take Care last night.
How come guys hate single moms?
I don't hate them. I just don't date them, because I don't want to account for an extra person (or persons) in my love life. That's impossible if my date is a parent.
It's not even a bias against children, really. If I met a girl who was, say, the primary caretaker of a disabled parent, I wouldn't want to date her either. Ultimately the principle is that I don't care to make room for that many people in my life right now.
>>16418471
You single moms prioritize the kid first and foremost as you should. But it also means any guy who dates you is also going to have to deal with that kid, who may or may not be a little shit.
Unless they're widows, single mothers are stupid, selfish, irresponsible, leeches.
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>>16417766
J and +J
Don't be a salty scammer and don't be toxic to your friends and relatives that don't want a part of your life anymore. Be nice.
Thanks,
Your mom that gave birth to you
R, you honestly are great and I wish you saw yourself the way I see you. I miss you, text/message me soon.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Asked in the last thread, and it wasn't answered before it started autosaging, so asking again.
Girls, would you find a double date with mutual friends as a first date to be an issue/off-putting/etc.?
>>16414937
I'm not a fan of double dates
>>16414937
why the fuck would you bring someone else along when you are supposed to get to know one person?
seems pointless
I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years now and when we got together he told me he worked at a packing warehouse making a little above minimum wage. He lives in a tiny one bedroom apartment and lives like someone that's on that kind of salary so I never questioned it. I never really cared though because he was a really sweet guy and I liked being with him. My friends always criticized me because he dresses like a poor person and he never took me out anywhere fancy and seemed like he was going nowhere in life. Even my mom told me to find another guy but even though he was broke, I loved him and enjoyed being with him.
It was all a big farce though. It was our anniversary a few days ago and he told me he had a confession to make. He said he's not actually a warehouse packer, he's an electrical engineer and he also inherited a ton of money from his father so he's also extremely wealthy. I didn't believe him as we had this conservation in his crusty broken down apartment but he showed me his degree and pictures of him at work and all this stuff.
I was pretty taken aback. I asked him if he was just lying to me for 3 years and he said yes and he said sorry. I was pretty upset and I told him he's a jerk and I got up to go home. He stopped me and said he loves me and he wanted me to know because he wants to marry me. I was too upset to enjoy the proposal and I just went home without saying anything. I feel a little betrayed, I've never once lied to me but he's been lying to me about so much this whole time. It makes me wonder, what else is he lying to me about? I feel like he just thought I had bad intentions for being with him and thought bad of me the whole time.
Am I overreacting, should I forgive him? Am I just overthinking it? I have difficulty knowing he can lie to me for so long. How can I marry him? He's a lying jerk..maybe.
>>16413284
>Am I overreacting, should I forgive him?
No, and no. I would be so fucking furious this fucking cunt wasted 3 years of my life.
I would rather be with a LITERAL homeless guy who never lies to me than someone like this. Jesus christ what a fucking creep.
He lied to you because he wanted to see if you weren't superficial and would accept him no matter what kind of person he is. Tell him that you feel hurt and your trust in him is hurt and why. He should understand, if he doesn't that another story. The whole I want to marry you thing strikes me as odd but he may have realized how much he hurt.
the inheritance part would be forgivable, but lying about what his job is is too much for me. christ, I mean, it's not even close. why'd he say warehouse packer and not electrician apprentice or something?
My bf told me he would fuck a 14 y/o if it was legal and her body was developed. He's 25.
I think young teens still have a child's capacity for decision making until at least 16 so this is really bothering me. When I started pressing him about it, he immediately changed into vague replies, saying he "doesn't know" if he actually would. Said the youngest he's ever fucked around with was 16 at age 24.
I can't help but see even that as predatory and it's making me feel sick. He's furious at me for hinting that he might be a pedophile - I have a history of a close person who I learned was a pedo (but with pre-pubescent kids) so I feel like I have to shit-test everyone I know for this stuff. Also note he was 24 and I was 17.5 when we started dating. We are both USA, in states with consent of 18.
Is this normal for men to think, do they function differently than women? Please help me. I don't want to think of him as a monster but it's already happening.
There are pedo women too, this isn't a case of women functioning differently to men. It's not unusual for a man to be attracted to a 14 year old, but most of us just don't act on it.
Accusing someone of being a pedo is obviously not going to go down well with them as it can have huge repercussions if it gets around.
post-puberty is not pedo; you're a dumb cunt
>>16412126
It's fine that he'd be attracted to 14 year olds. What bothers me is the fact that he wouldn't feel wrong fucking a girl who still has a childish mind.
What about 16, is it okay if a 24 y/o actively knew and had sex with them?
He did say his age limit for real relationships is 18 but that does little to comfort me. I would not spread around that he was a pedo, I realize this can be a grey area but it's not okay to me.
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
So 99.9% of women I know or have even met seem to hate metal. Whenever I ask them why, they usually just say it's too "angry".
Is this really such an issue? I always suspected there was more to it but didnt push the topic.
>>16411402
A guy's music taste isn't really a big deal to me, as long as he doesn't play it around me
>>16411417
That wasnt quite what I was getting at. I have some more mainstream music that I play when friends and family are around.
didn't see one in the catalog.
I'm just a clown, nothing else.
I finally got in contact with the ECT coordinator at a local hospital. 14 medications, CBT and DBT didn't work, so now it's time for something a little more invasive (and awesome).
I'm a little excited and a little scared. I just hope it works.
>psychiatrist says 50% long-term remission rate for people with treatment-resistant depression
>with those chances it could literally have a chance of amputating my arm and I would not give a fuck
None of my friends recognize mental illness as a real thing and i resent them all for it.
How much will having a flat chest kill my chances of getting a boyfriend?
About 75%. Plenty of chance still, you just have to put in a little more effort.
>>16408687
Depends on your face. If you're fine on the face and you're not a dude disguised as a lady, I guess you're fine.
B Cups tend to be less flat. If you're an A cup, I'm so sorry.
What are your other measurements?
I am 25 and male. Never had sex.. My issue is that I feel as if people don't take me seriously. People seem to be able to tell I am a virgin(some fucking how) without me saying anything to them about it.
Like imagine if I were in any position of leadership. Whoever I am leading wouldn't take me serious. How could anyone take a male who hasn't had sex with a woman before serious?
What do women think of this? Can you take a virgin male serious about anything?
What sucks mostly is that I am super depressed about this. I am depressed about how non-existent my sex life is.
What even is a healthy sex life? If I had sex with prostitutes, is that a healthy sex life?
No. I'm 30 and virgin, it's impossible to know or feel how an adult should feel. It's like being mentally retarded. The only option is suicide.
I have never had sex either and I feel like I am not even a real adult. Like a real adult could fuck his girlfriend in her asshole and not give a fuck. Am I even a adult?
My cousin killed himself on his 24'th birthday because he was a virgin lonely aspie... just like his twin borther, and me haha, but we're still alive for some reason.
Everyone takes it differently.
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Or are all the (attractive) homebodies taken?
Ways to deal with depression? the meds just made it worse
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>>16398900
Can you buy me a pizza?
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F
I remember how much of a pain in my ass you were along with your little entourage, even going as far as to steal my food and punt me in the gut regularly. As I am a guy, it's basically illegal for me to move, even with you cunts doing shit to me.
Now, for some reason, you're a friend on a social media website. Not only that, but you've treated me like a friend for the short time that I existed there. Why the sudden mood change? Were you just retarded? Was it because your clique disallowed knowledge of anyone deemed 'bad' to them? What the hell?
It's like as if I'm a cuckold or a weird voyeur, except for psychology. I am beyond disgusted and confused for this change. It hurts even more for me to realize that your grammatical skills and spelling has gone to the shitter.
I didn't bring up the past as I didn't want to seem like that guy. Well, thankfully here, I can be that guy. Fuck you for the shit past you've caused me, but thank you I guess for the 180 degree turn.
>>16398982
How's the pink slime coming along?
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>guy I am dating asks me out on Monday for today
>say yes
>next day get plans to see other guy and cancel
>he seems irritated even though I didn't tell him it was with another guy
>invite him to my birthday the same day
>he says maybe I'll think about it
>the next day he asks me to get coffee with him saying "we should talk about some stuff, it won't take long"
Is he going to break up with me? I don't want that, I actually like him. I haven't responded to that message yet, what can I do?
>>16408945
>dating a guy
>seeing another guy on the side
you're an idiot if you don't see the problem
>>16408952
We aren't exclusive and have only been on a few dates.
>>16408952
lol you brought r9k with you
Why do some people major in stuff such as Physics, Music, Anthropology, etc when their grades are good enough for medicine? (I am not talking about countries in America where you have to do pre-Med/Law courses, but countries where you must do these degrees as an undergraduate.)
Anyone with common sense can tell you that the job markets for people with these majors are shit, and if you go to grad school, the job market isn't necessarily any better. You can try to transfer back into Law or Medicine, but it will be very competitive.
Sure someone will end up with a stable job which pays nicely, but chances are it will not be you. Work is not meant to be fun, every job has its own terrible aspects, money is important and a person can always learn to love his job.
Because money isn't everything, buddy.
>>16393057
Being broke sucks though. It's impossible to be happy if you can't even afford to rent a place to live.
>>16393039
>physics
>shit
OP, go back to memorizing your med book. It's obvious you are too stupid to speak about this subject.
Hey, so here's the thing. Me and my gf have been together for ia little over a year and a half and we haven't had sex. That kinda bothers me, yeah, but the worst part is I haven't even like touched her butt or anything, I mean, I have, but she asked me to stop and when we talked about it later she said we weren't in the right place (we were on a bench, in a park, very ocasionally someone would pass by). sooo what should I do? this kinda bothers me and I want to solve it but I don't wanna pressure her or anything, so I haven't talked to her about it.
how old are you?
>>16394088
Just to clarify, have you done anything sexual at all with her? What's the furthest you've got?
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