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I have a group of friends, who hang out regularly, watch movies, chat, and just have little get togethers. Well one of our friends brought someone new into the group, and at first she seemed alright, extremely quiet, just huddled up and drew on a tablet hooked to a laptop and then started playing video games. The thing is, later in the night I started to notice things about her, especially when she chimed in to discussions we had. She seemed very, behind the times, not just with her gaming choices but her views as well, and the women of our group tried to talk with her, and discuss our views on the matter, but she didn't seem to care, nor see any issue with the topics we were bringing up. The men in our group, who usually are very progressive, almost seemed to regress, suddenly trying to defend her, as if her lack of caring at a near sociopathic level was acceptable. Could she tear our friend group apart? I have texted to my friends that maybe we should keep her out of the group, its been three get togethers with her and the story is the same... is it rational to think maybe she isn't a good fit for us?
You seem jelly as fuck, OP. Quit being a whiny bitch.
>>16434715
what? this has nothing to do with jealousy
It is rational to think that OP. Just because a friend brought her into the group doesnt mean she is also compatible. Since you like the group you have( without the new girl) i would say organise a meeting without her . define what everyone wants and likes and tell them your thoughts about this girl. Do they share the same opinion? Do they think you are just jealous or they too are uneasy about it? And go from there
So basically i have to give a 10-15 minute presentation on a power point project and i feel like i'm gonna have a heart attack. What can i do to calm down? I present in a few weeks.
>>16434471
that's a lengthy presentation are you doing it alone?
also pro tip: no one gives a shit about you or your presentation, they're worried about their own
offer to go first srs
>>16434476
this desu senpai
>>16434476
>that's a lengthy presentation are you doing it alone?
yea by myself. i get nervous to the point of twitching a bit and it sucks. I just want to run away but i can't. I have to sit there and talk...for 10 minutes.....while everyone stares at me....
Should I worry if a lymph node is still inflamed three months after an infection?
define inflamed. single lymph node? how big? what kind of infection? does it hurt? is it mobile?
well you aren't providing me with any more history, and i'm going to bed. buddy it could be cancer or it could just be a persistent lymph node. three months is a little worrying. go see a doc. good luck.
>>16434280
It's just one, small, painful sometimes, throat infection (under jaw), mobile.
If you've ever had a broken heart or some other similar experience, have you been able to move on yet? If so, what happened that made you realise you were ok again? If not, do you think you'll ever be able to get over it? In both cases, what is your relationship now with the person who broke your heart?
I'm just interested in hearing a few stories here.
>>16432564
I haven't gotten over mine. It's been about a month and I haven't gotten over it. Probably will just end my life at some point honestly. I speak to her regularly.
>>16432567
>I speak to her regularly
Well, there's your problem.
You ignore that person and get over it gradually. Sometimes the pain springs up when you bump into them at a store or regular meeting place but it gets better gradually. It took me three years to finally get over her.
Do girls always play with hair or fix their hair when they find you attractive?
Oh fuck off with the shitty bait already, aren't you bored enough of the same replies? Get a fucking life, lad.
Ever since /adv/ appeared in the /r9k/ sticky, the trash from there has been shitposting here.
>>16431476
No, it means nothing.
What do you think is the most important way to make the world a better place?
If you could dedicate your life to changing one thing, what would it be?
eliminate all religion.
>What do you think is the most important way to make the world a better place?
Connecting every single human on the planet to the internet.
>If you could dedicate your life to changing one thing, what would it be?
Making a fully autonomous AI being.
>>16429034
>If you could dedicate your life to changing one thing
>If
>Implying I haven't.
To answer your question: I believe that global poverty is the problem which is both most severe and most tractable. If you pick the right charity, you can save a life or significantly improve hundreds for <$4000.
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I'm back at taking my pills. They make me feel sick as hell but they stop me from eating and feeling like shit. Fair trade
why wont people stop looking at me ?
bumpu
how would you name your daughter, /adv/?
i'm thinking of something like heather or eileen
>>16434480
Sofie because she is one of the best people I have ever met.
>>16434480
Marigold(favorite childhood book)
Meena(Afghan activist)
Tereza(after me mum)
Opal(Cause its kawaii desu?)
>>16434480
Terra because I like that name. If I ever have a daughter that's what I'm naming her no fucks given.
Good thing I'll never reproduce though because no female with have intercourse with me.
I have a lot of friends who are like Harry.
I know he likes me, and I've made it very clear to him that I am only interested in a friendship with him. He agrees to stay "just friends", but speaks to me like this.
They send me flowers and letters, and ask to hang out one on one "just as friends".
The thing is, this makes me uncomfortable. They're acting like we're in a relationship, but that's expressly what I wanted to avoid.
I've mentioned several times that the way he speaks to me is over-affectionate and makes me feel uncomfortable, but at this point I've already corrected him so many times that It's easier just to thank him and move on.
I can't "ghost" these friends and just put space between us because then they call asking if I'm mad at them, and wondering why we can't just be friends.
TLDR: nice boys who want to be my friend keep taking it too far and make me uncomfortable. Is there a way for me to stop the lovey dovey stuff without losing them as friends/being a total bitch.
hit them
>>16430599
ew. Jesus christ.
Just playfully make fun of him when he says shit like that. Maybe he'll become self aware and stop
>>16430599
They're not going to stop. This kind of behavior is unacceptable and creepy. And you're being a complete shithead by letting it continue. You cannot provide what they want, and you're stringing them along under the guise of "keeping a friend." Stop that shit. You don't NEED them as friends. You shouldn't want them as friends. Because they are not friends. They are desperate shitheads who are trying to hide their true motives. They don't want you as a friend. They want to fuck you. And the moment you tell them to fuck off, it will be very clear to you that they don't want to be friends. They too were stringing you along this whole time.
So stop it with this stupid shit. Get some real friends. i.e. people who have no romantic interest in you, who don't do over the top shit to gain your favor. True friends are there for you and like to be around you, but they do not compliment you on a daily basis, nor do they go out of their way to accommodate you. Go get real friends. Independent friends.
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>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
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>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
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>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Question for Euro anons
So I've been talking with a Italian girl I met on Interpals a few weeks ago on Whatsapp. Granted, we haven't met yet in person, but from what i can tell we clicked so far. We have good fun conversations. Anyways, I almost feel bad for asking this, but is it true in Europe that sex isn't as big of a deal as it is in the US? Because I kinda want to have sex with her. I'll be in Italy next month and I think that would be fun. I'll only be where she is for a few days so I dunno, but it would be awesome. Now I'm not just trying to bang her, i am looking forward to just hanging out with her. So if I don't get laid it won't be a big deal to me, however I would really like that. What do /adv/?
kissless virgin here, h
I decided to give up on women forever. I'm only 20 year old but women have hurt me enough for 3 life times. I have been in 6 relationships/flings or just falling in love with a girl who did not reciprocate, and all of them left me being a trainwreck. I just don't want to take shit from you women anymore. I have such a bad reputation in relationships that most women that know me see me as a poor soul.
So I decided to say fuck off. Now I want to focus myself in other things, like saving the world, or shit like that. I might pay for sex sometimes, but I'm afraid I might fall in love with the hookers. What do you think? I sincerely want to die single now.
I'm in an, on paper, really good relationship with a black guy. He's nerdy, into all the same things I am and he's fun to be around and talk about things with. He's like a best friend in a way, which was why I decided I wanted to be in a relationship with him in the first place.
But on an instinctual level I feel uncomfortable. I know this will anger some people but seeing his skin next to mine just makes me feel weird inside, it feels uncomfortable and when we're intimate together I just feel totally turned off and fake everything.
Then I think about us having kids together and it only makes things worse.
You can accuse me of leading him on, but I honestly didn't think it would be an issue until we started dating. There are so many little things that make me feel just weird inside. The best word to describe it would be "abnormal".
What do I do? I feel like I've gotten myself stuck in this relationship.
What I learned today: a nerdish facade does not cure the blackness.
brb signing up for the Michael Jackson treatment
Sammie?
bosting in an ebin bread :DD
I have not seen this thread today so i'll start the train.
Hey /Adv/ I have been lurking here for a while and now i want your point of view on things.
I'm in 2 year of Hige school, male, INTP, with dysgraphia. Shit is starting to hit the fan. I sleep over alot, not able to do the work assigned in school and I don't meet my friends alot anymore. I get shit pissed drunk everyweekend. Well Basicly I have no structure in my life and people around me worry. I'm already talking to a psychologist. I have so much shit to do that i lose energi just thinking about it, were shold i start?
I've never had a GF, I came very close at one point, but then she turned into a bitch and I stopped liking her, then later in my school years I had bad experiences with social interactions and bad experiences with girls. Now i'm too anxious and afraid to even talk to people in public, I can talk to some guy or woman if its in a work environment and its calm, but too many people around makes me feel more anxious and afraid.
1. Stop drinking.
2. Ask school/teachers for help, don't they have sessions for people who have a hard time writing? My school offers to read ones papers before we send them in if you got dyslexia or any other form of a disadvantage. Raise your concerns to the school, ask for help, you can't receive any if you do not want to put the effort into it. So ask for help, and truly try do the best you can of what they ask of you.
3. Take care if your sleeping pattern. No naps during the day. Go to bed early if it helps, get up when you have to.
4. Set aside an hour or two for school work every day, it will also get rid of the loneliness feelings if you focus on something else.
5. Prioritize your workload. Make a list of assignments you need to have done, include their dates. Just take one assignment at a time, finish it and cross it of the list. Don't focus on all your assignment as once as this will lead to stress and anxiety. Just take mini steps.
6. When you want to quit, tell yourself you'll do it for ten more minutes. If you want to quit after that, you can take a break for 30 minutes. Award yourself with something you find nice or fun. Often people quit because they get stuck by some kind of hurdle, which can easily be broken if they just give it some extra time – if you find yourself completely stuck though after several tries – ask your teachers for help.
7. Exercise. I know, it's horrible. But even ten minutes a day is a good start and will make you feel better even if you hate it. It can be ten minutes of walking if you wish.
8. Get them veggies and slaughter them underneath those choppers. Cut down on soda and sugar, it makes you cranky.
>>16428097
With your bad habits.
How do you get a boyfriend if you hate sex?
Get a boyfriend that also hates sex, or at least doesn't care. They exist, they're just less common and don't go around flaunting it.
>>16425160
find a guy that has no interest in sex.
>>16425167
Where do I find one?
Looking for someone at the bar probably isn't a good idea.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
virgin
Girls: If you had dicks instead of tits, would you suck them?
>>16424566
>>16424689
from prev thread
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Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
>>16420713
Women: Do you care at all about the virginity of your partner?
>>16420730
You worded that kind of weird but yes I care if my partner is a virgin
>>16420730
Virgins are hot, not gonna lie. Also virgins are usually younger guys, which is another plus ofc
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