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Oddball in our friend circle just came out of the closet.
Literally worst shit ever. Killing group dynamic fast. He keeps trying to fit in but its so awkward and wrong. I was never particularly found of the guy but now the gay undertone tension is too much. How do I get him to stop acting so gay. This isnt just me, we're all pretty shocked by it but if anyone were to come out the closet it would be him. Some just want to kick him out but I dont want him to feel bad for opening up. Just wish he would stop being such a faggot.
>>16583724
You guys sound like a bunch of assholes, granted the fact that you feel bad makes you less of an asshole.
If you're what he calls friends, the poor guy probably doesn't have any real friends and feels pretty lonely.
>>16583724
You sound like a huge piece of shit. You and your friends are the problem, not him
>>16583744
Hes that awkward kid who found his way into the group. Hes not really the type who can make friends easily partly because hes always so weird.
But now the gay on top of it is just too much.
Hi /adv/, I have some problems.
My girlfriend is taking birth control pills, and apparently, the pills inhibit her sexual desire. She says she doesn't feel the need to masturbate or read erotic stuff anymore (she used to do it regularly), but she says she wanna have sex when we're about to do it.
We've been through this for some months, and it's been okay, I guess. But we haven't have sex for like a month (because of finals), and she doesn't even care about it. I'm beggining to think she just doesn't wanna have sex with me, and...
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Sounds like me and my ex. The last night we hung out, we usually cuddle up and watch a movie, she wouldn't even touch me. She just kept telling me I didn't want to be there with her (I did) and we watched a movie awkwardly laying in her bed with a gap between us.
We broke up two days later. Two days after that, she is tweeting happily on her first official date with the guy she was cheating on me with, saying how great the date is going.
Just end it, man.
Pills do inhibit sexual desire, and do have the potential to make you more zombie. Depending on how long she started, she could be adjusting, but normally, I would switch pretty soon after noticing the emotional symptoms. Her doctor can recommend a different pill, but unfortunately it's always a guessing game to which will or won't work for you.
The sex drive will always be lowered on pills though. If it suddenly swings the other way on a pill, be alert, because she'll probably be way too emotional as well. Oh, and just because she doesn't throb with...
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Why not see about different birth control methods? Loss of sex drive is definitely an effect they can have. And yeah, lack of sexual intimacy can make you feel not as close to someone. She probably still loves you, but finds it hard to feel "in love" with you since people tie that or confuse it with lust.
Negative effects of masturbation? Are they any?
i'm male
Sadness and emotional emptiness, for me.
If you do it maybe once or twice a day, no. It's completely natural.
But as with anything, it can be bad when you do it too much.
Masturbating and porn can be fine in moderation. Some people actually get addictions though because they can't moderate, and need *more* to get the same high. Like all addicts.
i have been dating this girl for 4 years and i just found out she is a hooker. I don't know what to do I love her so much but at the same time I don't want to be with a hooker anyone with 500 dollars can buy. need advice
how the fuck it took u 4 years to found out?
she just now started to do it ever since she met this hoe
>>16583498
Whores always have soulless eyes.
You know I'm desperate because I am asking 4chan for help.
Okay, to the point: there is a dude I like but he's on the other side of the planet. Same old story, right? He's kind of a popular being so he rarely talks to anybody (maybe due to a language barrier as well) but I had the luck to talk to him a few times. He's really sweet. When I said I like him I basically meant I am absolutely in an obsessive love with him. He sees me as another fan but to me he's a soulmate, the light of my life, my everything. I have strong urges to hug him, kiss...
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>>16583262
He's not interested, doesn't share your feelings etc, stop being a pathetic creep and move on with your life. This shit is cringeworthy
>>16583279
>just move on
Fuck off. If they really care about him, they're not moving on any time soon.
I would give up. I had the same experience. Eventually I got tired of all the effort I exuded without results and all the dumb games she kept playing. So now I'll have to swallow the bitter pill of the truth and move on. So be it. Gl to you robot.
Fat guys have to deal with their rejection from women, but fat girls claim that men should love them for who they are.
Why?
>>16583253
You mean fat women from tumblr probably and they don't count as a voice of women
and anyway fat chicks can be cute too, fat guys are flat out disgusting
vagina = value, the baseline is higher
A lot of bigger women have trouble meeting people. I'm a guy but in some ways I've been on both sides of this due to massive weight loss.
Me and ex broke up a year ago now because she wasnt feeling it anymore after 3 years.
We stayed friends for a few weeks after but it was really hard on me so i told her we should stop talking for now and maybe one day we'll end up back together, which she actually agreed.
So its been 1 year to the day. I waited 1 year. Should i message her? Would it be weird, do you think she would notice that its been 1 year exactly? I think she might notice but i kind of dont want to wait any longer...
>>16583235
Very weird.
>>16583235
No, you shouldn't message her. Chances are you'll just get hurt by doing so. It's easier said than done I know, but it's best to just let go and move on. You guys broke up for a reason, and I guarantee you'll end up finding another girl who is much better for you.
fuck no. you guys broke up for a reason and should stay away from each other. unless that reason is long distance or you had to move away for a job/college something, then stay away. i've been through this first hand.
Can having no friends affect your mental health?
>>16583214
Sure. When I start to have crazy thoughts (what the purpose of life, gender, etc, doesn't matter what), it's normally when I've been not hanging out with my friends for a long time. Once I see them, and afterwards, it's amazing how much more centered I am.
>>16583219
I can attest to this 110%. My darkest days were when I barely got together with anyone, and my best have been when I was consistently doing things with friends.
>>16583214
Absolutely. Humans are a very social species. Almost all people need social interaction and healthy relationships.
Met a porn star. Snagged her number. Seems really into me. Wants to go out and party and shit. Problem is I'm married. What do?
>>16583117
You don't go out and party and shit.
>>16583117
>risking your marriage for an affair with a woman who was fucked on camera countless times
Are you retarded? Unless your marriage is absolute shit and you plan on ending it anyway you shouldn't even consider it.
>>16583117
I had sex with a pornstar once. I was at a bar with some friends, she was acting odd. Coming up behind me, tapping my shoulder, looking at me. I'm not going to say which one, but she is pretty well known. If you're married, don't do it.
We are both guys. Whenever he texts me I usually respond back as soon as I see it. I always got my phone with me so I text him back quickly.
But whenever I text him, I have to wait quite a while for a response. I'm not talking just a few hours either. Sometimes I have to wait a full 24 hours to get a response to my "hey". A few times he didn't respond back to me in three days. What kind of bullshit is this? Another thing, if I start texting him with anything other than a greeting I will straight up get no response. I could show him a picture, no response....
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>>16583101
>I'll call him, he won't pick up, I'll try calling a few hours later, he doesn't pick up. So he ignores my calls too
This is what I do when I'm trying to end a friendship without completely burning any bridges.
>>16583125
But we hang out in real life and always have a good time. He lives far away from me so it's not like we just run into each other.
Well I'll admit I'm kinda like your friend, I often ignore txt messages. I only respond to important ones.
I just don't like texting. Face to face communication is teh shit.
The part about ignoring calls is a little worrying tho.
Hi guys, so lately my boyfriend has been distant, and has at one point said that he needed some space.
So I gave him his space (which sucks I miss him) and spent time talking to friends and plays stupid video games.
Some of my friends are like "Anon! If he wants space he wants to break up!!" And that has been bothering me and I had a few nightmares about it.
I told him about the dreams and he said "about that..we need to talk..." And then 3 seconds later he texted "I wanna marry you" and my friend said he probably felt bad...
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>>16583100
GIVE THE MAN HIS FUCKING SPACE!
when i say i want some space i mean i want some fucking space. men are not like women. much simpler.
It depends on your relationship. If you were overly clingy and you gave him a healthy breathing room, it's going to be ok. If not, then your friends are right and he got enough of you but he wants you let off gently.
>>16583111
I have been giving him a lot of space, I only text him if he text first. Sometime I call him if I need something but we don't talk long. I don't plan on really talking to him much until we go back to college after break.
>>16583128
We live together so he was always around me. I was super clingy because we were long distance at first, so I guess I let it affect me a lot.
So, I need some input, hopefully from people who are older than 30.
Upfront tl;dr:
My neighbor/gaybro is married and has me worried about his ability to chill the fuck out and maintain appearances.
I am 40, bi, bit chubby, short, small cock (like 4in). Mostly women in my life but there were some guys 4 or 5 years ago. With guys I am 100% bottom, no making out/kissing/affection,etc. Just sucking and fucking.
I’ve done ok with women, better than I ever thought, but I have no real desire to get married and I’ve had a vasectomy, so no kids. Like being by...
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>>16583082
Cont.
Found my neighbor on Grindr, didn’t know it was him at first, but I did when we met because I’d seen him in his yard. He lives 2 or 3 doors down. Besides the fucking, he likes to come over and play video games and drink beer and chill away from the wife and kid which is all good. I think his wife is a bit annoyed that he spends so much time at my house but she’s always cool as shit to me.
The guy is kind of insatiable and he really likes my body which is kind of a new thing for me. I...
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How about stop being a fucking degenerate, grandpa.
That's the best advice I can give you.
>>16583107
Thanks! Will do.
>>16583084
After reading what I wrote, yeah, it's stupid. He and I have talked about limits and appearances. He just does not seem to take it as seriously as I do. There is no emotional attachment at all, def from me and almost certainly from him so we could break it off.
It's the most satisfying sexual relationship of my life though. Everything I want and nothing I don't. Except for the threat of drama.
pfbbbt.
>be over at soon-to-be-moving-away coworker's house helping him move
>yesterday, he took me out to dinner
>today, we spent a few hours talking about life in his kitchen
>at one point he gets up and starts massaging my back
>then he asks to give me a foot massage
>massages feet on his lap, after he's done keeps playing with my feet and occasionally strokes my leg up to the knee
But!
>he has never done anything explicitly romantic.
I'm confused. Is he just a touchy feely type of guy? I'm trying to flirt with him a bit and show interest but I'd be mortified if I'm coming on to a guy who's just super nice and gives massages to his friends. Also, while massaging him, my feet were on his crotch until I noticed and made it so I wasn't touching anything inappropriate. Would a guy notice that, like would it make him uncomfortable?
He took you out to dinner and paid for it? You don't do that unless you're interested.
>>16583068
romantic actions dont have to be explicit, be happy and grateful he didn't just go to make out with you at first. he wants to be a gentlemen about everything and probably because you haven't seen that before, you don't know if he's just being nice. he does have interest in you and he's mature about it, and with that i can tell you he would think of your feet being near his crotch as being on hip lap, not his junk. it wouldn't make him uncomfortable
>>16583074
Yes, he paid, and he always compliments my looks, it's incredibly kind and sweet of him. But he has't made any move to kiss me or even hug me, he just rubs my back and plays with my hair.
/adv/, I can't handle life, lie after lie, laziness, money issues, I'm so lazy that I no longer want to live, I've lied to my mom that I have money so that she'd stop worrying but I crashed my car, unable to when even if I wanted to, if my insurance finds out I'm ridesharing I lose my job..... But I can't do my job, I was supposed to save money for college but not it's impossible. food, education, rent, transportation and soon phone are all disappearing, I want a quick end, don't say I should ask my mom, she can't help, I'm gonna...
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>>16583067
dying's never gonna fix problems with how you feel or situations because the situations are bad due to emotions, even if they're responses to what happened, those emotions stay with you. my friend is going through similar stuff and has been suicidal for some time now but when i remind her this, she remembers and re-realizes that she has to just do her best to pick up her life. she's a good 30-50 thousand dollars in debt without a job and having not finished her degree at college. the problem is things...
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>>16583164
Look I get it, you think that I can pick life back up even in the worst situation... I disagree, I played chess with life and it beat me so bad that if I didn't an hero, I might as well go on a hunger strike and suffer the damages till death
Need methods of suicide please, I can't deal with this shit, money is literally the root of all problems and I'm not willing to tolerate it anymore
How can I encourage my boyfriend to be healthier?
He's gained 40lbs since we've met (around 1.5 years), which I would consider to be a result of poor eating habits and lack of exercise. He also refuses to go to the dentist or improve his posture.
He is very stubborn and just claims that he hates things rather than giving them a shot.
Ive tried to get him to go on long walks with me (to be rejected) and he eats salads sometimes and fruits sometimes, but at the end of the day, he's generally playing video games and eating foster farms corn dogs or cheap...
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What you do is build a time machine, go back to his childhood and instill good personal habits in him.
He's a slave to his lifestyle, and with the increased freedom and comfort of adulthood he's slipped into not giving a fuck. Simple as that.
>>16583012
time machine? xD if only...
and slave to lifestyle describes him completely. and the search continues as to how I go about emancipating him.
>>16583119
You can't emancipate him from himself. What you're saying is ultimately "I want to free him from his own choices." Careful there massa. He's an adult. He has every right to surrender to his lifestyle instead of being proactive.
It would be better for you to come to grips with having chosen poorly. Trying to fix him is to start walking down the road of the sunk cost fallacy.
