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Really, all jobs are fundamentally the same (i.e. they become dull over time and all jobs have their own shitty aspects), so why not just find a job with stable employment, status and high pay?
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>>16589247
because that is their passion?
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>>16589247

if you like your job you don't mind working hard.
if you don't like your job you might get a burnout or a boreout.

but i understand what you mean. every job becomes dull over time. focus on the shit that does matter, family, hobbies etc.
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>>16589283
>every job becomes dull over time
Yeah, so why the fuck would someone not pick accounting or actuary and become a math teacher.

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How do I stop defining myself by the attention and approval of others?
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>>16589176
Self esteem.
If you need aproval, your self esteem is probably shit.
Remember, self esteem is what you think about yourself, and how much do you love yourself.
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>>16589193
I'm fucking garbage. Now what?
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How do you gain self esteem ?

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any good animes?
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>>16589085
boku no pico
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>>16589114
no thank you not going to happen
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>>16589126
whatever.
>>>/wsr/ or >>>/a/ are the places you should ask for this kind of information, /adv/ certainly isn't.

Sometimes i think that some people can hear what i'm thinking.

It's creepy. I know it doesn't make sense but sometimes the odds are totally fucked.

Example, i use a certain word in my thoughts and later on another person says they don't like that word.

Anyone else around here with this problem?
Any suggestions, solutions?
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It's a paranoid delusion OP. It doesn't necessarily mean that you are going to get there, but this is a sign of developing something more sinister. Not to scare you or anything, sometimes people can have this and it doesn't develop further but you need to be aware.

But no, people cannot hear your thoughts, if people had this ability they wouldn't bother with phones, communicating through the internet, using lie detectors etc.
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I'm kinda scared of this to, not to the level of OP but a lot of the time I maybe think something inappropriate, think "oh no what if the people around me, just this small group or something, can read minds" then I start thinking other thoughts to cover it up, just to be on the safe side. Sometimes it feels like the people get a little irritated with me which kinda reinforces it.
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Don't be retarded?

/thread

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there's this girl
we've met over the course of 4 months multiple times for some days.
she said she isn't over her ex yet and that she isn't ready for a new relationship yet.
fine by me, told her i would wait.

but now she increasingly thinks about her old stuff, resulting in her telling me that we should end it because she wants to get back in contact with her ex.

yet a few months before it started with us, she told me that she had no feelings the one time she met her ex again.

now she told me that she cant se a future with us two, that she wnants to be alone.

i dont get why she gave me a christmas present, the box fully hand drawn, inside a christmas card saying how much she is looking forward to seeing me again at new years eve.

and today she ended it.

she said she has to figure out if there was anything left between her and her ex.
why play with my feelings like that?
why even show me feelings?

i'm feel let down, sad, confused.
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should i send her her christmas present /adv/?

really unsure about that.
it was supposed to be a cup with picture printed on it, an inside joke of sorts between us and a small heart, which has a small bell in it, as a small appreciation.
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>>16588938
This is a thing called women in general they won't make sense a lot of the time
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>>16588945
i just don't get why her actions contradict what she said to me today.
she was always the one frowning upon girls that lead guys on, saying those were shitty people.
guess she herself is one of those actually.

it's not like she said goodbye after our first date, no, she continued, after the first times she got those thoughts she said she wanted to get in control of them.

and now, poof, gone.

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Had the calmest but most heartbreaking breakup today /adv/, what do now?
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get drunk
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What do you feel? sad? hopeless? mad? regretful? nervous? scared?
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>>16588871
are you sure you were even going out with that girl? she sounds like a robot (you're the one in blue, right?).

Hey /adv/, so I just got back from a party weekend, and I have the most awkward, strangest, most confusing sexual encounter story ever. It fuses women, video games (weirdly), horrible timing, and very promiscuous girls all in one. Pull up a chair if you want. Everything I’m about to tell you is 100% genuine, I couldn’t make this shit up… I also need help on what to do next...

>Be me, 22
>About 7/10 in my own opinion, not ugly but not gorgeous
>Also, I’m usually horrible at reading signs of when women like me
>Joining Fraternity for weekend party at hotel
>Rent out entire hotel, just us and our dates
>Leave Friday morning, come back earlier tonight (Sunday)
>Friday morning bus arrives, everyone drinks on the party bus there
>Nothing interesting happens until later that night
>Also my date is really stingy, mostly took her because she's a friend to the fraternity
>Later that night, I’m chilling on the second floor balcony, and decide to sit next to her and two other girls sitting nearby
>Well call these girls Girl A and Girl B
>They’re both integral to this story
>They’re listening to Frank Sinatra and chatting
>I sit down and Girl A immediately looks interested
>They introduce themselves and we talk about finishing college and such
>Eventually, Girl B and my date leave, and its just Girl A and I
>We talk about random things until I mention a book I was reading called The Darwin Awards
>She sounds interested but is really just making an excuse to come into my room alone
>We head to my room
>My roommate and his date and my date are nowhere to be found
>Were sitting at the edge of the bed

To be continued….
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>I’m a bit nervous
>Just got out of a 2 year relationship with a strict gf who hates alcohol (and fun)
>Were still chatting and I soon mention I have a masseuse license
>She immediately takes her shirt of and lies down on the bed
>I straddle her so I can massage her back easier
>The SECOND I straddle her my date comes in
>I’m in half chub at this point and don't want to make things obvious
>I accidentally say “Oh shit” really loud and she rolls her eyes at me
>”I was just getting my sweater, its cold as fuck outside”
>She leaves
>We both shrug it off and I start to massage her
>by the way, you seal the deal on a woman, learn to be a masseuse, its gold
>I finish up and lie down next to her
>She immediately grabs my face and starts kissing me
>Before we get to the sex I need to mention this girl and her hobbies
>She is a part of the Rocky Horror Picture show stuff
>Has nearly every conceivable piercing except nipples
>Loves classic rock
>Blonde hair, short body, but amazing boobs and butt
>Later on I learn she's into BDSM shit
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>Anyways, we start making out
>I’m immediately uncomfortable
>Shes beyond aggressive
>Bites my shoulder so hard I’m bleeding
>Claws at my back
>The only thing that made me not kick her out was she gave me one hell of a blowjob
>After the blowjob she rips her clothes off and wants to have sex
>No condom? Fuck it whatever
>Shes still super aggressive but easier to handle with my dick in her
>Shes also loud as a howler monkey
>I’m afraid people are going to think I’m fucking weird and I just try to kiss her to shut her the fuck up
>It’s also important to know one of my brothers brought Super Smash Brothers Melee because its just our game we do
>While we’re fucking my best friend, well call Mason, comes in without knocking and asks me “Hey Bro, wanna smash?”
>I start laughing hysterically
>He didn’t realize what was going on because we covered ourselves
>I tell him “Uhhh…. later Mason”
>He says okay in a joyous tone
>After he shuts the door, I hear a muffled “Oh shit!” outside
>Everything is so fucking weird
>I can’t cum because I’m so taken back
>After a bit I bullshit to her and say “I’m so tired”
>She agrees and kisses me goodnight
>She turns around
>”Tomorrow night?”
>I nod but in my head I’m thinking “Fucking kill me”
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>Girl A is also a 7/10 btw
>Not stunning but still definitely fuckable
>Fastforward to tomorrow morning
>I wake up and my roommates and my date and I be basic and go to Starbucks for breakfast
>After we get back the partys on
>I’m playing Kings Cup with Girl B, her friend, and one of my brothers
>I ran out of alcohol because my bitch date took it all
>Girl B looks at me and invites me to drink her alcohol instead
>Why not?
>Kings Cup goes well and Girl B’s friend and my brother leave
>Girl B and I chat in the Jacuzzi alone and we have a deep drunken conversation
>Philosophy, existentialism, all the sorts
>She is a 9.5/10 btw
>I never thought I’d be caught dead with a girl like this
>She looks at me and smiles
>She says that “I’m sexy, like intelligent sexy, and you know, just sexy in general”
>On the outside I thank her and compliment her back
>On the inside I’m fucking parading around
>Before anything starts, Girl B’s friend comes in and joins us
>Girl B backs off for now but were together taking care of her drunk friend

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So I hit it off with this cute girl at my new job, but she has a boyfriend of course. We talk every day and have already bonded pretty well. We have so much in common she could be my sister, and we both know things about each other that most other people don't know. But I want to take it further. Am I in the friend zone already? If not, what should I do now? I get the feeling she might be willing to cheat, but I also assume that's unlikely.
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>she has a boyfriend of course
>Am I in the friend zone already?
Hmm, what do you think, OP?
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>>16588695
I think if I was I could escape it. Maybe I should flirt harder.
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>>16588691
>hit it off with this cute girl at my new job, but she has a boyfriend

Another one of these threads? Are you fucking kidding?

>/adv/ - kucks

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Hey guys for Christmas should I get my 2 year gf a 90 dollar northface jacket, or take her out to this fondue place for 100 bucks?
What would you find to be the better move? I'm 20 and shes 18 if that helps. Its my own money I worked for so I like to decide whats the better way to use it foe the relationship
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Why the fuck is melted cheese and chocolate $100?
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>>16588631
Dont know, its probably because of the location/ restaurant appeal/ overpriced
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Take her out, spending time > buying shitty jacket, you can beat the stuffing out of her after you have some stuffed crabs

Hey /adv/,
I want to apoligize for what i think would be a really common question, ive actually never been to this board before. Heres the quick rundown.

Freshman in college.
Girl of 1 year as of october 23.
Broke up sometime in novemeber.

The reason for the breakup was a lack of communication on my end, which led to a lack on hers. It faded, and she broke it off. At the moment she did, i played it like it wasnt entirely my fault, or on the fact that school got in the way, or something like that. Well, today, i appligized for all of that, admitted to my ignorance, and just said a heartfelt sorry. She immediately responded with "its okay, ive forgiven you, are you seeing someone else? Im over it just in case you were wondering". Heres the thing. I guess im happy alone... but i miss her. What we had actually was special, its not like any relationship ive had since before then or since we broke up. Were meeting up tomorrow to trade items we have from the other person, but should i try to talk to her, to see if maybe wed ever be able to get back together again?

Again, sorry for the long, common post.
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>>16588570
>Im over it just in case you were wondering
Your chances of getting back together are basically none.
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>>16588570
Ugh, those are one of those texts that I get dizzy over and can't finish reading.

"Lack of communication" is a bullshit excuse out of a marriage, where finances are a concern. DESU she probably was bored of you.
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>>16588621
>marriage
Where the fuck did you even get marriage from?

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So this is kinda weird, my ex girlfriend is trying to contact me again, and I don't know if I should respond, or just tell her straight to leave me alone

The thing is that I dated this girl for around a year, we even started to talk about marriage and stuff like that, after a while she started to get jealous of everyone and used to talk about her ex boyfriend a lot to make me angry saying stuff like ¨he always turned me on¨, the day that I shit hit the fan was when she got jealous of a 16 year old (I am 23) I told her she was crazy to think I would date an underage gilr but she insisted that I had something to do with her, then I ended the relationship. I tried to be friends with her for some time but she only talked to me when she needed something or to talk to me about her noew bf. I recently deleted her from every social shit and she sent me a message asking why I did it

Question is, should I tell her why I did it and give this whole thing closure, ignore her, or try to be friends with her again? I feel like everyone could have another chance, and I liked her a lot, but I feel like I might be doing a stupid decision to try to get back with her...
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Why the fuck are you still in contact with that bitch?
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>>16588557
I'm not, as I said I deleted her from everything a week ago, I thought she would get the message after that to avoid blocking her, but it seems she didn't

she sent me a message asking me why I deleted her
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She's not right in the head m80.

Just ignore her until she gives up.

The other day my girlfriend of ~1 week said she wants to take things slow. Now I'm starting to wonder if it was a shit test.
She told me that she was not "experienced" (she has never had a boyfriend before), so she wants to take things slow. I said that was fine and I'm cool with whatever she's comfortable with.
She doesn't seem like the immature kind of girl who would play games like that, but I may just be bad at reading her.
What do you think?
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how sure can you be she is not experienced? Eg what is her age, what kind of people does she hang out with, small town vs city?
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>>16588535
Break up with her, she's too good for you if you're obviously thinking she's out to get you from the start
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>>16588535
I think she wants to take things slow because she is not experienced and has never had a boyfriend before.
Well duh, that was hard to figure out.

How do I deal with people I don't like at work? It's like school where they bullied me in many humiliating ways but now they're adults. I just don't start shit with anyone, why do they have to start with me? I want to cry and kill myself sometimes. I quit my first job when I was 17 at burger king because people cursed at me and another employee who I asked for assistance said "what the fuck are talking about?", I started to cry and had to leave. True story, /adv/ help!
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What do they do and what do you do to provoke them?
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>>16588449
Teasing/belittling/mocking/trying to establish a pecking order where I'm at the bottom.Just existing in their presence provokes them.
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>>16588446
Male or female?

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hello

so, i was out drinking, got mildly shitfaced, walked about 1,5miles to home and passed out
after sleeping for 2 hours i wake up with an intense pain in my right groin, which is almost unbearable when i try to move my leg upwards

can anyone tell me what is causing this and should i go to a doctor?
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can anyone pls respond? i can barely walk and more importantly i can barely sit at my pc
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>>16588412
You're an idiot, if you feel an intense pain for no reason that worries you, seek medical attention. Don't ask 4chan, its not rocket science
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>>16588414
yeah right, i'd be living in the er if i did that
thanks for replying atleast

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Hey /adv/ haven't posted in a while. Id appreciate a rate on my current look. Still don't feel attractive
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>>16588378
Do you get girls? Ever had a gf or bF?

answer me
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>>16588378
>>>/soc/
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>>16588406
Ive never had girls, never been asked out either. Closest thing i had was a girl say im handsome thats it.

also heres another pic to rate me by.

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