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Is self harm just a whiny, depressed teenage girl thing, or does anyone else actually do it as an adult aside from me? I feel crazy embarrassed and alone. How do other people deal with it?
>>16591487
You should suffocate in dat ass
shieeeeeeeeeeet
>>16591487
It's a coping mechanism and an addiction. Releases feel good chemicals.
I've been involuntarily hurting myself due to relationship issues, and it's a little crazy but I understand it to be making emotional pain physical
never done it before in my life
How ugly am I?
>>16591466
On a scale of one to ten, with ten being really fucking ugly, you're about a really fuck ugly.
>>16591471
Hey
>>16591466
From 1-10, with 10 being perfect, you're about a 5. I think you're cute in a sweet, homely way.
Some guy I know (I'm also male) is annoying the fuck out of me, texts on a nearly daily basis trying to be friendly even after I told him I don't like texting that much. He initiates literally 100% of the time and still doesn't get the hint. I'm normally a (brutally) honest person, but I don't know a polite way to get him to fucking leave me alone.
>>16591422
mute the conversation and dont reply
what a weird bloke
>>16591423
Might be the best option. He isn't at pic related level, but it's annoying nevertheless.
>>16591422
>I'm normally a (brutally) honest person
if you are tell him he's annoying
Adv, i badly want to get over this. I always hated my looks with force. I always despised my body. It's my number one enemy. I am absolutely disgusted by it. It is ruining my life. I want it to stop and i have no idea how. Nothing is helping. I try to work on the flaws. I try to not care as much. I try to learn taking a compliment. I try to get my selfesteem up trough other things. It doesn't change a thing. My body is on my mind 24/7 and i don't want this shit anymore. How the hell do i stop this? And yes, i'm going to therapy. It's not helpfull. And...
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>>16591377
Attention whore detected
>>16591380
Thanks for the helpfull advice
>>16591377
Well, what's wrong with it?
What your bf says is irrelevant. What your counsellor says is irrelevant. All that matters is what you say to yourself inside your head. Start working out and exercising (not even to look better, but just to USE your body and realise how fucking sick it is that you even have one in the first place - it releases endorphins too).
I agreed to go out with a girl I don't like because no other girl I like has agreed to go out with me. Does anyone have any tips on how to make this work? She makes me somewhat sick but a hole's a hole. What do?
It won't work. What do you dislike about her?
>>16591334
She's ugly as sin. I hear people fake relationships all the time so I thought I'd give it a try but goddamn is this hard.
>>16591351
You probably won't get any better than her and you possibly aren't that great looking yourself.
Not sure what else to say except lower your expectations.
Is it wrong to want a BDSM relationship? The idea of it sounds so interesting, but would that make me abnormal? The worst part is that I'm a female.
Stop with these insecure threads already anons of 4chan.
>but would that make me abnormal
>maybe. maybe not. who cares?
>next
I don't understand anything in the OP
What the fuck is wrong with that and why does your gender matter, go find someone else who's interested in it and give it a try
Are you looking for people to tell you it's fucked up? 'Cause it's really not.
If bottom:
Of course it can work, but you need to be veeeerrry picky about who is allowed to tie you up and flog you.
If top:
It'll work briefly, but you will rapidly lose interest in men who submit to you. Just go into porn and make as much money as you can.
I'm halfway through my TIG welding certification, I'll be certified in February.
I'm starting to get discouraged....I'm pretty good, but not amazing. I can weld better than the majority of my class, but there's one or two guys in my class that are really good.
One of the guys in my class has been a non-certified welder for ten years, he's only making 20$ an hour. He's taking the TIG welding course to increase his pay.
My girlfriend works at a day spa doing facials and bikini waxes, she makes 11$ an hour plus tips. She makes...
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>go to uni
>no job
>do trades
>no job
WHY IS EXISTENCE PAIN
>>16591315
I don't know man, maybe this existence is another world's hell.
I'm just feeling so lost. Welding feels like something I have to LOVE to succeed at.
:/ I just want to earn a living, I hate competing with everybody. The only reason I'm doing welding is because I need a job. I don't want to dedicate years of my life to something I don't care about just so I can make 11-15$ an hour.
Is it possible to tell if a girl is a roastie by just talking to her?
Are you the guy who posted this same image a day or two ago, also complaining about "roasties"?
Cause if so, you're pretty gross and not in any position to be so picky.
>>16591218
yeah it' me. i didn't get any good advice last thread
also, how am i being gross? me preferring a woman who isn't a roaster is no different than a woman who only dates guys with tattoos or whatever.
You won't get any good advice because your question is fucking stupid. There's obviously no way to know unless you ask her to show you her vagina right away.
Simple question : How do you get yourself out of denial ?
By being open about taking advice and by stopping to feel like a victime and try to blame everything on others and circumstances
>>16591205
Unfortunately , being open could get me in trouble , or make people despise me.
>>16591196
It depends on why you are denying that thing.
Is it a person? A belief? A bad habit?
Girls gather around, your advice is needed
Do girls like kissing a guy with beard, specifically when the moustache is in the way ?
Yes, yes, YES! but for the records, my bf's facial hair is somehow very soft and not prickly at all. Could also be that everything feels like cotton candy when i touch him - who knows
Nope, my father is hairy and I don't have a daddy complex so it's a complete turn off for me. (My father has had a moustache for my entire life (26) years)
>>16591240
So, everything that reminds you of your dad is a no-go? I have bad news about you and a possible daddy-issue...
I think I might be a bit of a creep. How do I effectively stamp out creepy behaviour?
What makes you think you might be creepy?
>>16591215
Well yesterday I walked up to a middle school girl and asked her for a kiss. I'm a 24 year old male.
>>16591185
Creep here.
I got rules. Structure's good.
>Don't speak (to women), unless spoken to, unless you need something (that isn't sexual), like some work-related paperwork or shit.
>Make enough small talk (once they've said "hi" first) to avoid being the creep quiet guy, not enough to be loud and obnoxious.
>Don't ask anything too personal, don't tell anything too personal....
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I am a very progressive person, I am a lesbian and my girlfriend is... not as progressive, to the point where its embarrassing to be with her when we're in public or hanging out with my friends. I love her so much, and shes sweet in every other aspect, except at times shes like a giant child and has such childish views and opinions. I have tried to educate her, but she is very resistant... claiming my new friends are turning me into a "Machiavellian Tyrant"... what do I do?
>>16591180
>claiming my new friends are turning me into a "Machiavellian Tyrant"
Well considering you're tryin' to forcibly manipulate her into sharing you're opinions, that sounds like a perfectly accurate description.
Live and let live.
I love it when people claim "progressiveness" but can't adhere to that one simple mantra.
>>16591195
She has a lot of toxic ideals and behaviors. When she talks with her friends she uses the N word frequently. She also uses the word Faggot and the Phrase Sheenee Curse, its grating.
Last date we went on she said "Let's get some Chinaman food" it was gratingly offensive.
>>16591180
>I'm so fucking progressive
>share my views or you're a fucking bigot
Kill yourself senpai.
My boyfriend doesn't like children OR animals. It's not that he dislikes some and likes others or whatever. I've never seen him enjoy the presence of a child or an animal. I literally can't comprehend this. What sort of person do you need to be for this to be the case? It's making me worry about our future together.
>>16591178
You need to actually tell each other about whether or not you want children or pets in the future instead of trying to pick up cues from behavior and hoping for the best.
>>16591178
Psychopath
>>16591184
I've always known he didn't want either. I don't want kids or pets right now either. It's more the fact that a person can be actively repulsed by children. Most people can admit they're cute / whatever even if they don't want them, they don't dislike them. Is my boyfriend a sociopath?
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>>16591161
I only got one response from a girl last thread but Im interested in what others think.
Could you stay in a relationship with someone who sexually considers you used goods and unappealing but every other aspect of your relationship is perfect.
Or when you guys finally have the sexual history talk and you realize how they feel about your past would you just break it off there.
This could also be interesting to see how guys respond.
girls, is it a bad thing if I didn't manage to read her hints quite properly?
well to put it in a better way, I was giving her hints too, but I just didn't found hers too complicated so I think I gave her mixed signals too because of it.
She just kinda made it slightly more obvious last time we talked, and so did I so I'm thinking of expressing myself when I talk to her next time, (in a day or two)
>>16591242
I just found hers too complicated*
I keep giving teethy blowjobs and I'm hurting my boyfriend. How do I get better at giving head?
Just keep practicing and don't zone out. Focus. Remember: a strong independent woman can do anything she wants! And she needs no man to do it.
Just learn it one step at a time. Takes practice, like anything else. Next time, try to JUST focus on keeping your jaws open wide and your lips pulled over your teeth, and let him control the pace & motion.
Once you've gotten used to that, it'll be easier to just do it without thinking about it, and you can start learning some more advanced techniques. But you gotta learn to walk before you can run.
just keep practicing your blowjob with smaller dicks (easier to not use teeth), and add 0.2 inches of girth per week (use tinder and ask for exact measurements when dating a dude)
it works just like Starting Strength, and when you're almost getting to your bf's dick size, consider the ultimate challenge sucking a dick that is +0.8 inches of girth thicker than your bf's. if you can make it, then now you're ready to suck your bf's dick with no problem at all
