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Hello /adv/,
So there's this girl in my class i've been talking to for like 2-3 months, on and off. We started talking when she started random conversation with me on facebook, and i nitially thought she was into me, but her boyfriend(that i didn't know about) added me 1 week afterr we started talking and told me to stop flirting with her. At this point, I got fairly angry and told him to kill himself and pretty much made fun of him. Girl told me yes, she has a boyfriend. At this point I wanted to stop talking to her but she persuaded me otherwise. So we kept talking until yesterday, we never mentioned her boyfriend again, we soemtimes get flirty, in class she comes sit next to me we play etc. Yesterday she told me to meet up with her for a few minutes. We meet up and have some fun for a bit then we end up in a bar for like 5 hours. In this time, things went very well, she was super into me, she bit my arms, she fell asleep with her head on my chest as I was petting her. I felt super happy and I probably could have kissed her if I made the move. I then walked her home, we hugged at the end.
A few hours after, she wrote me that she's sorry for what happened, and that she wasn't really aware of what she was doing. This made me fairly angry even though I didn't show it to her and I told her we're going to take a break from talking until she knows what she wants, because she can't play both sides of the fence. She told me we might never talk again and that she has no feelings for me.
I clearly feel like she would be with me if it werent for her boyfriend, and that she's not really telling the truth when she says she has no feelings for me. I thought about giving her some kind of ultimatum, like choose me or your boyfriend, but I feel that would be a bad idea for me.
So what exactly do I do have a relationship with this girl? I don't feel she's very attracted to her boyfriend, I don't think they go out a lot or anything.
Let her decide for herself even if she's choosing a boyfriend she doesn't like.
If she "chooses" you and really still wants to be with her boyfriend chances are she's going to play you and get back with her boyfriend soon anyways. Just avoid the headache and her boyfriend. Not worth it. If she does say she wants to start talking again at all let her know she has to leave her boyfriend because you don't want problems.
>>16593153
Dude, just let the relationship die on its own, don't add to the problems.
Do them both a favor and back the fuck off.
>>16593172
Im fairly positive she'll start talking to me again, because in the past she said a lot of times to me we should stop talking because "i'm making her problems" "she's fighting with other people because of me" but she always came back. She also said she feels like she could tell me everything.
hey adv. I've been feeling quite anxious the last few days. I'm 23 and i'm a sikh, that is my religion. Actually I am an atheist, but I've grown up in a religious family, I don't believe in my religion but have always kept up the pretense of it to keep my parents happy.
As a sikh I am expected not to cut my hair, this is the hair on top of my head and on my face, I have always felt ugly because of this, especially when my beard started growing, but just over the last few months I looked in the mirror, and managed to get a good look with styling my beard (not cutting, I used hairspray), and right now for the first time in my life I am happy about the way I look, the problem is, as a sikh, i cannot cut my beard and have to let it continue to grow. I have been keeping my beard "In shape" by plucking out hairs using tweezers, but I'm getting anxious now, because my beard hasn't spread anywhere else on my face now for about two years...
This is making me very anxious, because i'm scared if i keep plucking hairs my mom will notice, and she will get upset, only yesterday she was telling me about how good and loyal i was, and how proud she was of her sikh children (i have a sister).
I don't want to look like pic related, i want to look the way I do now, I don't want my beard to grow anywhere else on my face, I can't sleep because im contantly going on facebook and Instagram and looking at pictures of other sikhs with beards that I don't like, I can't sleep ant night, I can't concentrate and ive even been getting chest pains.
I've been venting to a couple of friends and they are telling me it's a first world problem, and they are right, Im healthy, im in a stable family and ive got a good education/career lined up, but this anxiety feels so horrible...
Dude, fuck religion and do whatever you want.
>>16593139
I can't, It would break my parents' hearts...
>>16593142
So your parents happiness is more important then your own?
Hi
I discovered.. im fat.. heh, and i need a effective way of losing 50lbs (20kgs) in 5 weeks. Im 6'2 and 115kgs (250lb), large frame, and one method is fasting.
So my question, How fast is fasting.. Is it effective, will it work? Thanks
Eat less fatty foods.
What's y our diet looking like?
Is shit atm. I find anything savoury in the cupboard. Not a big fan of excercising, because of people.
>>16593076
>>>/fit/
Read the fucking sticky.
I'm trying to move on from this girl that didn't just work out but I have had three consecutive nights where I dream about her. I'm not just sitting around either; I'm practicing the drums, studying nutrition, Christmas shopping with friends, all kinds of things.
Do I need to see a doctor? The fuck is this?
>>16593070
Hate to say it, but only time fixes that shit.
>>16593078
Fucking sucks man.
I could see if I were being an unproductive piece of shit schlub, but that's not the case
>>16593089
Nope, just time. Only things I've found that expedite the process a little is to find a reason to loathe your ex, or to fill the void with female attention. For me, a breakup creates this enormous and retarded vacuum that demands attention and approval from a woman/women.
#guywithmommyissues
>move into boarding house type of place
>the commercial washers have no dispensers for fabric softener
>no indication of when the final rinse cycle is
How the fuck am i supposed to know when the machine is on the final rinse cycle to put in fabric softener?
what model is it? or post a pic?
>>16592967
Theres no model number anywhere on the front or top of the machine and i cant access the back...
Its a maytag commercial machine. There are indicators that are supposed to light up when it is on the rinse cycle, but they dont appear to work, the only one that lights up is "machine in use".
>>16592976
Looks like you might have to just get a Downy ball
>Hanging is out for the moment
>No access to firearms
>Won't jump from big heights
>little to no money
I'm asking the impossible, I know, but which quick and painless way I could use?
Pic unrelated ofc
>>16592880
Wait until you die of old age.
>>16592882
I said quick and painless anon, my family average lifespan is 90-100 years :^)
There is none that anyone is aware of really because for one people who have died haven't reported back with their findings and two even the least painful ways to die suck at least a little bit.
There are ways to die but they hurt and you wouldn't do them on purpose.
I would like to go out bleeding to death and losing consciousness, but I have to get a pretty good gash and I'm not doing that shit on purpose.
So i've been talking to this girl since early September until now, but she has a boyfriend. She's a fine bitchy type and i can already tell she's going to be great in bed. But, earlier this year, I asked straight up if we would be having a thing if it wasn't for her current boyfriend and she said maybe plus he's supposed to be leaving our state next year. So, do I continue to talk to her and wait it out in the friendzone or do something else?
If you end up getting with her she will talk to guys behind *your* back because that is her personality, don't go for it. Stop waiting and find another girl
>>16592841
>So, do I continue to talk to her and wait it out in the friendzone
>wait it out in the friendzone
Yup. Wait right there. I'm sure things will change.
>>16592844
no. all the guys that hang out with me and her hate this bitch. she's very controlling and many of them think she's ugly so that's good for me.
>>16592845
she's interested but she always says she can't say anything because of her "current situation".
I used to be a burglar, small-time.
I had to stop after this last time, 6 days ago.
This person, my last mark, is involved in a cult, the "Cultus des Loogaroo" of Louisiana apparently, and I suspect that they won’t go to the police.
I took a few items and sold a few eventually, but I kept something for myself, a wand. I usually would have destroyed or gotten rid of it. I didn't this time because it makes me feel strange to have it, like I'm holding a piece of someone's soul... it's a good yet guilty sort of feeling.
I also grabbed a book on "Vampyre's" this person had on their desk, which had hand-written notes throughout it.
From what I can tell, it seems that this person is manipulating married couples for money, but I’m not sure of their methods; they write notes in code.
I often think that I'm being watched, stalked by this person or someone they’ve hired. I'll see or think I see people, mostly elderly, or middle-aged, staring at me in public places, sometimes following me for a few miles while driving. Maybe I'm just paranoid, but there are some disturbing secrets written just in the book I still have If they think that I've obtained any information from it... they might be motivated to kill me.
Honestly, I'm just a college-kid in over his head, and I'm scared shit-less. What do I do?
your finished OP
>>16592746
You brought this on yourself OP
OP, this plot is a staple of the more hopeful kinds of horror flick. The way to the somewhat-less-downer of an ending is obvious: you have to return it. Do it anonymously if that makes you feel better: break in again and put it back, or drop it in their mailbox with a magazine-cutout letter saying "I'm sorry".
This will free you from the spectre of your mark. Unless it doesn't, but not many movies end that way.
>tfw no furfag bf to do tons of gay shit with
>tfw no furfag bf to do excessively lewd things with like peeing in my mouth while he plays vidya or whatever
>tfw no furfag bf to do fun manly things with like going fishing/hunting or biking in the snow or building junk off of Instructables
Where do I find bf when I want bf? I have a job and my own place and everything
>>16592714
>implying it's hard to find a lonely gay furry on the internet
That's their default programming, isn't it?
>>16592723
>internet
not close enough, I need some hot local singles
>>16592728
>hot
You won't find that in the furry community.
Can you tell where I am from based on this clip?
http://vocaroo.com/i/s0ohiDWXXgdB
>>16592666
well it sounds like english is your first language if it's not, but are you over annunciating on purpose?
>>16592696
English is not my first language
No
>>16592666
>666 sign of the devil
The only way I was able to tell you aren't a native English speaker was the middle part.
Your "has" was too soft. Late-ly was broken up a bit harshly too.
I think you are some form of a Slav. Probably Poland or Czech. One sentence is not enough for me to be accurate.
it's 4:48 AM and I haven't slept. I have nobody to talk to but I feel like sobbing. I feel so empty, /adv/. it's like I'm drained of all the positive energy I've been trying to hold onto. it's gone. I have no drugs or alcohol to numb it this time. just sitting in my living room crying so my sister doesn't hear if I start sobbing, as mentioned before. the only people I would ever speak to about this so late at night are out of my life, and it's for the better. I just wish I knew who to turn to.
how do I get rid of this need to speak to someone? and this feeling, if at all possible?
Go to sleep Kylo Ren
/adv/ is a start.
I've been there. How long have you been feeling like this? How often are you self-medicating? How often do you feel the way that you do?
>>16592566
I have felt like this for the past month. kept trying to push away the feeling.. I was self-medicating constantly, daily but I'm broke now. it's a lasting feeling that doesn't go away, but as I said I've been trying to numb it.
My siser is a 23-year-old manchild with no self-awareness and sometimes tantrums.
How do I gently shame her into not blurting out embarrassing tumblr fandom nerd shit in public?
Try doing the same thing around her. Maybe not tumblr but whatever-else.
If not that, idk, tell her that shit stays on the Internet and not in public for a reason
I feel for u tho
>>16592528
She's older than me, I don't think she'll put much weight in impressing me or behaving around people I'd want to give a good impression on.
>>16592521
Have you tried fucking her?
So my girlfriend is going this week to do something to do with "feminine hygeine/cosmetics".
She says it's something all girls do and that guys are not allowed to know about. It's all I can think about.
So far all I know is that:
>Last time she did it was a month ago but she can go three months without doing it
>Apparently since she didn't do it yet I should be able to notice (I don't)
>It's above the waist
Please help me unravel this mystery.
You know how there are tupperware parties? You can get those for all sorts of things nowadays, including sex toys and makeup
>>16592524
Okay I've asked and it's def not
>Dildo tupperware party
>breast massage
>earlobe bleaching
Bump for knowledge
I am currently in my final year of high school. Is becoming a high school math teacher a good idea? I do like math and I think I will be ok with the idea of teaching high school students despite that some don't give a shit about their education.
It's a great idea if that's what you get excited about. But I don't think that's the best attitude to have. Have you helped other kids with math? How do you feel about it? What's your favorite part about it?
Go to college, study math, and see where you go from there. You'll figure it out. I started off wanting to be a doctor, then a high school biology teacher, and now I'm working on my MD/PhD after realizing I loved biology so much I wanted to be a researcher and doctor.
This is coming from someone who also failed math, chemistry, and biology in high school.
I believe in you.
>>16592513
My school organised these tutoring events. I took part in them and enjoyed them.
This is the question. I am from the UK and I can pick Medicine directly after high school. My parents want me to be a doctor instead of a maths teacher for obvious reasons.
>>16592613
As someone who used to advice premed students, I got a lot of college sophomores coming to me depressed about how they really loved art of English but went premed because their parents wanted them to.
Just do what you want. It will be rough going against your parents at first but the fact that you are going to college, getting a degree, then being both happy and successful will speak volumes to them.
This is your life and your one life only. Do what you love. It's too short trying to make other people happy.
Moving to Seattle, how do I avoid succumbing to cannabis addiction given the stupidly easy accessibility of legal weed?
I don't want to go overboard but I feel like "OH MY GOD!! YES!!". That's not the reason I'm moving there but it's still all I can think about...
>>16592505
Weed isn't addictive.
>>16592508
It's mentally addictive for people with little self restraint like me.
The only reason I'm not high all day every day is because it's a pain to get since I'm an antisocial loner with no sources.
Weed isnt physically addictive. If you feel like you need it, its because of your own failures.
Additionally if its a big deal, don't fucking smoke. You're a grown adult, and you have less restraint than a teenager apparently.
