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how to deal with liars relationship wise?
my bf always lies about stupid shit and I always find out eventually but when I confront him it always turns into a huge argument because he gets super defensive.It got to a point where I cant trust him with anything he says and I become a grumpy passive agressive cunt.It annoys me because I am not that person and his lies and my grump have obviously taken a toll on our relationship.How would you deal? I really dont want to break up
I think you know the answer best, break up with him.
>>16594096
We've been dating for 2 years now and I really do love him .so its not that easy.It doesnt help that the lies are pure rubbish ,like something that he thought would bother me,but really the only thing that bothers me is the lie itself
I've had a compulsive liar boyfriend for 1,5 y who i discovered was cheating on me (liars do this kinda stuff) and lied about stupid stuff and not so stupid stuff and did the same as urs. I was so in love i didnt break up with him, HE broke with me because he fell in love with someone who fucked with. The break up was painfull for me but in the end was the best thing it could happen and I am very happy he broke up with me because i was so stupid to not do it by myself because i didnt want to be alone, but after that i found a TRUE boyfriend who REALLY loves me and supports...
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I have a bad habit of picking the skin off my lips, which makes them chapped as hell and whatnot.
I've been doing a good job of getting rid of the habit, but my lips still get this layer of skin over them when I put lip chap on.
Is this normal?
Drink more water
>>16594057
I do.
>>16594075
Then exfoliate from times to times
my own mother called me a loser with no future.
I have no friends nor job.
No money.
Nothing.
>I have no friends nor job.
>No money.
>Nothing.
Do something about it
>my own mother called me a loser with no future.
I don't blame her.
Sounds like a loser to me.
Your own mother? Yikes
Hey /adv,
I kind of have a problem. I'm 19 and I have a boyfriend who's 28... ok, this seems weird but he's not a pedo or anything - he's really into my interests and I can feel he really likes me, doesn't pressure me on doing anything at all, probably the best guy I've been with. we're together for about 5 months and everything seems ok. But I'm having a problem - if things move on to other level, I'm thinking about starting take the pilule, and so that happens, I have to go to a medic appointment with my mum. so, first: how can...
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>>16593804
Why do you need to go with your mum
You are an adult. Act like one. Tell your mum the same thing.
>>16593844
This.
Also, the implant is easier if it doesn't fuck with your system too much (you don't have to worry about taking it daily at the exact same time, and unlike the pill, it works regardless of if you're sick or you throw up).
I'll make this as detailed but not long winded as possible
I met a guy on another board and we became close friends on snapchat. Talking every day. Exchanging pictures. Flirting. Made plans to meet, as friends (I've been very clear with the platonic factor even though we cross the line a bit ) He has two girls he's not seeing but in a semi fwb situation as he's not really ready to be in a relationship. I understand and was always clear I wanted friendship as well due to that even though the lines do blur...
The meeting? He cancelled the day...
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man... what the fuck is this stupid bullshit? Why do you even fucking care?
Obviously i care to post it. Thanks :)
>>16593788
You come off as jealous
I know invading people's privacy is wrong but the few times I check my girlfriend's phone, I find stuff I don't like to see.
When I first met her she claimed all these mental disorders as an excuse for her to act as she pleases. I (thought) I had her convinced that you can't just self diagnose yourself with this kind of stuff, especially having never even seen a professional about it. I told her that it was all in her head and that she has no mental disorders unless she thinks she does. So eventually she agreed and said she was overreacting the whole...
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Run. Run and don't look back.
everyone's got a mental disorder in some form or another, dude. Does she act like an asshole? Dump her. Do you like her? Stay.
The fuck is wrong with you with this paranoid bullshit?
>>16593780
Welcome to life bro. When you check people's interactions other than the one's they prescribe to you, you're going to find a lot of shit that they didn't tell you. We all do it. And looking through other's people shit never ends well. Bad stuff/things you don't like is the only thing you will find.
I was talking to one of my female friends this morning from college and she told me that when she first met me my dorm was "too clean" and it was kind of suspicious. Is that really a thing? "It looked like nobody lived there." My last girlfriend was pretty messy andwe didn't get along well when it came to the conditions of the apartment. I probably do a "deep clean" with actual sanitation once a month.
Now that I've graduated this is my first time living on my own so the 2 bedroom apartment is pretty clean too. I have decorations,...
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>>16593654
the bad vibes of overly clean spaces stem from the semblance that the space has been "staged" -- that it's not actually for whatever it seems to be for, but has just been done up to look that way
assuming you actually live in your apartment, it should look a little more natural than a sci-fi flick set
WTF?!
Are you serious?
Being clean and organized is a huge point for you, it shows that you are mature and man enough to take care of your own place
Girls love that, all girls that i've brought to my place always compliment me about how clean my room is, if a girl put you down for being a clean man its because she is immature, fucked up in the head and she is looking for a fuccboi not a man.
>>16593654
Breh, I've noticed that shit before as well. I keep my space clean as fuck because I like it that way: I like having pride in where I live, and it also just looks good. I grew up in a very disciplined household if that explains anything.
That being said, I've seen a lot of guys that weren't even that great in any way that were total slobs get plenty of ass...I think there's maybe something disarming about a messy room, even a pigstye.
I don't get it though.
Even if you don't talk to them anymore, who at some point in your life motivated you to keep on going?
Myself. For me nobody really acted at someone to lean on or to come to for help , soo while i was loved...I really was not assisted or directed in the right place. Im generally pretty good at grabbing life by the horns but sometimes(like right now) I really could use some direction.
>>16593542
Part of why I've been lifting is that I'll be meeting up with my ex soon, and want to feel/look good for the occasion, cos I still love her and want to win her back.
If I fail, I'll still be better off than before, and will finally be able to hit the dating scene again: I've been avoiding making connections because I ultimately want my ex back, and don't want to do an undeserving person wrong because I never really committed myself.
>>16593542
My boyfriend. He is a wonderful person who cares about me more than anyone else. Meeting him pulled me out of depression and helped me get my life together. I want to settle down with him in the future so I am focused on achieving things for that goal.
My wife and I have been talking about a divorce because she doesn't feel loved or wanted. We have been together for over five years and we have a three year old daughter together. We have came from being homeless, sleeping in vacant houses to lower - middle class. I am perfectly content with not having sex with her but she feels as if she needs it. I would have sex with her if she didn't repulse me every time I think about it. We live in a small house near her family and if we divorce, I would have to move to Florida with mine. I also have three petty warrants keeping me from getting my license back and I would hate to not be able to get around after we split. I feel stuck but I'm very comfortable at the same time. I need help. I need advice.
>>16593511
Gross. This is why poor people shouldn't be allowed to get married or have kids. Only the upper class should be afforded this privilege.
>>16593511
>I would have sex with her if she didn't repulse me every time I think about i
That's probably something you REALLY need to address...
Well help me
>drunk text a girl on tinder for shits and giggles
>hit it off great
>get her number
>she lives in another state, about 140 miles away
>after a month of texting daily we decide to meet up
>she stayed at my house for a couple of days
>we got pretty well along with each other
>had unplanned sex
>get...
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who the fuck is sylvester
>>16593464
*new years eve
>>16593466
She wants to get with her ex. I'm a girl and I've had the same situation come up where I had to choose between the guy I was talking to and an ex who came back into my life unexpectedly. Chose the ex and ruined my friendship with the guy I was talking to. Sucks but now I've been in a relationship with my ex for 6 months and it's never been better. Probably not what you wanted to hear though..
When one is asked a yes/no question, what is the correct response?
To my mind, this is such a simple concept yet everytime I see people responding to yes/no questions, they begin new tangents, present new questions, and, overall, just avoid the question which began the entire conversation. Am I being overly demanding in asking people to stick to appropriate responses to yes/no questions?
>>16593430
Yes, No or let me think about it.
Maybe.
Sometimes the answer is more complicated than a simple yes or no would warrant, or the question is based on a faulty premise (that yes/no are the only appropriate responses to yes or no questions) and sometimes people are trying to have a conversation. Just saying yes or no doesn't facilitate a proper conversation.
Or if you prefer, yes.
So whats the deal with meditation and how does one actually get results (whatever this means) with it?
Whenever I actually tried I only felt bored and sleepy.
So, what makes it so good?
Guided meditation is really good for beginners. Look on youtube
Meditation significantly strengthens your willpower and focus. It's a natural adderall.
i recently got my first job, at the age of 23
i'm a line cook
i fucking hate it
is there a course or something i can do that will absolutely guarantee me a £30K+ job (bearing in mind that i dislike talking to people and that i'm a slow worker)?
If there was, wouldn't everyone in your situation take it?
>>16593369
i forgot to mention that my parents are quite wealthy, so assume that money isn't an issue
Leave the restaurant because there are people like me where the restaurant is my home, it's what I'm passionate about and I love it, if I worked with someone like you it would just be purely disrespectful. Take some GE courses at a community college then figure out what you wanna do
I have proof suicide should be legalized. How do I get a lawyer that will do the paperwork and legwork and get me to and from court so I can present to the judge my proof?
>>16593314
What's the proof?
>>16593323
Don't worry about it please, just tell me what I wanted to know in the OP please.
I don't want this thread to be about whether or not the proof is sufficient, but assuming it's sufficient, how do I get help for what I asked for in the OP.
Call a lawyer, ask him what you asked us.
So I like this one woman at work very much. We're both single, and I'm fairly certain the feelings are mutual.
However due to the nature of our work, we very rarely get any peace, there's always someone else around and I'm finding it very hard to find a good opportunity to actually ask her out. I also have to admit that the few little opportunities there have been, the right words just haven't come out.
But then I thought, we actually have our work phones. Will I look like a complete pussy if I don't ask her out face to face but actually...
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Stop overthinking this, you're just spinning your wheels. Get her alone and ask her out. Wait for her to leave work and ask her in the parking lot. Don't repeat verbatim anything anyone here says, it'll sound rehearsed and fake. No one likes fake.
Ask her for any low pressure setting where it's just you and her. The message is you're interested in her outside of a work setting.
"Asking her out" just means asking her to hang out with you. If you find out you don't like her as much as you thought you did then you just continue hanging out as friends. Don't make it a big deal and just ask her to do something with you.
>>16593306
Yea I'm not asking for anyone to tell the words I should "repeat" to ask her out, that's not the part I'm worried about.
I just want to know if texting my question for her is a valid option. Or does it suck balls.
Oh and btw to be in the parking lot around same time is going to take quite a bit of organizing. That is going to feel very forced and definitely not my first option.
