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I'm 27 years old. During my college years, I had some serious mental health issues. I had trouble controlling my anger and scared a lot of people. I almost made some insensitive jokes and hurt a good number of friends. Needless to say, I lost almost all of my friends. At this point, I only talk to a couple people I knew from that time period.
I've tried reaching out and apologizing to some of them, but most haven't been open to reconciling. I live in a new town, where I know no one. I'm scared of making new friends, but I have a hard time reaching...
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Get medication and therapy, then a job. Make frinds out of coworkers.
>>16595263
Uh, see a doctor? If your mental health is ruining your life, there's a pretty easy solution.
I have a friend who is bipolar and would relapse into his states whenever he felt like he was over it and didn't need the medicine. But when he was on the medicine he was fine.
>>16595279
Thanks for the advice. Medication hasn't helped, but I'm starting therapy next week. I'm friends with a couple of my co-workers--I found a part-time job--but I don't want to get too close or I might fuck up and lose my job.
I was on OKC a few weeks ago and I had a brief exchange with a cute girl. I thought it went well, but then I never heard back from her. When I don't hear back I usually just drop it. I didn't go on OKC for a few weeks, but I just logged on today and our conversation was still up in the corner. When I last wrote her I was asking her about climbing. Today I just wrote "guess not" and hit send not thinking I'd hear from her. She wrote back within 20 minutes with this.
"I'm sorry, i get very overwhelmed on here. I am exhausted from working...
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>>16595244
>how do I respond
Just talk to her like you were before
>brief message a few weeks later a valid tactic
Not always, but possible. I'd you want to talk to someone, you do what you have to to try to get back on track. Just don't do it multiple times with the same person.
>>16595256
So don't address the situation and pretend like nothing happened?
It is very overwhelming to be a non-whale chick on OKC. Either you can be a dismissive cunt to 90% of the guys who message you, or try to spend all your free time sending messages back to 20 guys a day. Some guys did message me days later with a note like yours and I also apologized, it is a valid tactic. If they're not interested they will just ignore the 2nd message too.
okay /adv/ I really need your help. So I have been with my girlfriend for over a year now and I love her more than anything. About a month ago, I started talking to one of her friends on facebook. She is really funny and we have become really good friends. We even talk on the phone for over 2 hours sometimes. My gf deosnt really like that i talk to her and she is against the idea of us meeting up to chill or whatever. Now her friend and I really want to go see a movie together secretly. I dont want to cheat on my gf I only want to meetup with my friend. Should I go? Is it bad...
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fuck it you should go
why not, look if its only between friends then its okay. just make sure ur gf doesnt find out and ull be fine
>>16595219
it IS bad to do it behind your GFs back. anon to anon here, do you like the other girl? if not, go. if your GF isn't okay with it, you don't want to be with someone that immature and jealous. get her to understand that it's a friendship, regardless of vagina or penis, and that you can't stop each other from having friends
How do I help my boyfriend get "up," /adv/?
He has no trouble getting it hard when he masturbates throughout the week, and he is not afraid to get naked and do sexy things, but when he or I get on top to do the deed, he loses his hardness instantly and gets frustrated. Same thing for hand jobs. I'm thinking it's psychological and I want to help, but I'm not sure how. He got out of a 6 yr relationship in March with his fiance he had a kid by, and that was his only relationship. He is not the kind to sleep around and will only get intimate with people...
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>>16595079
Shameless self bump.
>What can I do to help him, adv?
Roleplay as his ex :^)
But for real, talk with him and send him to therapy or something, his issues seem too deep rooted for an advice post to give you anything of substance.
>>16595079
Same thing happened to me. Dont know what to tell you. Once you fail to stay up the pressure is way to intense from then on out.
One thing to do that helped me was restart. Dont have sex. Play around naked but with no expectation of sex. This will let him reprogram his dick so that its not afraid of you anymore.
Sex is pretty emotionally intensive for guys. When I was deciding whether or not to break up with my girlfriend I literally would lose my boner as soon as I entered her. I just felt too guilty to...
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So I've been presented with an awesome opportunity.
>be a couple days ago
>hanging out with roommate (she's a chick)
>shooting the shit when we get on the subject of sex (we've had sex before)
>then she brings the subject to 3-ways
>I have a girlfreind of 3 years
>Roommate tells me she would be down to have a 3-way with me and gf
>I'm...
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>>16594991
Maybe offer her a threesome with the dude of her choice instead? Maybe she likes Jamal's BBC?
>>16595002
This.
>>16594991
already fucked the one girl,
cant understand why gf is insecure about it.
I want to get into a relationship because I have tons of free time and girls can be cute/attractive/eye candy.
However I absolutely hate forced conversations and have never met a girl who was all that outwardly "deep". Uhm, my hobbies include research mathematics which kind of boxes-me-in further.
I should really just get my act together and go to a good school, but I'm just discouraged. I feel like a square-peg in a world full of circular holes. What do I do? 20/m/ny,usa
You're probably not deep or a special snowflake. Get over yourself and talk try talking to people without your pretensions.
*I'm not interesting and I'm shifting the blame onto women to cover my shit-tier personality.
If you find that OP picture funny you must be a snore
I'm married and now both sides of my family are teasing me about when Im going to have kids. My brother is probably not going to have any (super socially awkward, never dated) and so I'm my mom's last chance for grandbabies.
Meanwhile my husband's family sees kids as the norm. His parents planned for four and had four (+many miscarriages to get there). His siblings also all have kids.
Disappointing my entire family is a given, but who cares?
Well, my husband kind of does too. He wants kids but he's somewhat of a manchild himself (a...
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Did you ever both discuss it together before getting married?
>>16594914
This, holy shit.
>>16594914
Somewhat. Wed joke around about having kids and what wed name them. But weve never had a serious do we plan on having kids talk.
When I was a kid, whenever I did something bad, my mom would say "I didn't raise you to be like that". Now I'm an adult, and whenever I do something she disapproves of, I get the same old shit: "I didn't raise you to be like that". Does this phrase _offend_ anyone else? I mean shit: who cares how you raised me? Whatever happened to freedom of thought and choice. Maybe I CHOSE TO BE THIS WAY. She acts like just because she's my mother she's entitled to be the dictator of my entire personality. Does anyone else experience this? Share...
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>>16594861
You did it all for the nookie.
Sounds like you're still a kid.
Your mother wanted you to be a certain way, and when you have kids you'll also want them to be a certain way, and they'll won't because they are fucking kids and that's what they do.
Reply with "Sorry to disappoint" and move on with your life instead of crying on the internet about it.
>>16594870
I've been doing that whole "sorry to dissappoint" shit for years but she just keeps on doing it. She wanted me to be a good christian boy who never curses never drinks and slaves after a wife and kids. Instead I grew up to be this fat cursing drinking overweight slob who is single and childless that is pretty much a hethen all the way around. She's very "dissappoint" with me but just won't get over it. She just looks across the table from me every christmas in disgust because i'm her only child and have no grandkids to bring over for her to spoil. This sucks. Its not my fault I'm undesirable by women; I am what I am, and she's acting like I somehow owe it to her to throw my entire self away for the sake of her entertainment over the holidays. Its not right. I thought mothers were supposed to love their kids unconditionally, but this feels very conditional to me. Maybe its because I'm no longer a kid. Once you become an adult its conditional.
I done goofed /adv/, I fucked a friend of mine that I really shouldn't have. What the hell should I do to make sure this doesn't spiral out of control.
She is not responding to my text.
>pic somewhat related
Please help
Give us more info, dummy. Why shouldn't you have fucked your friend?
Is this Aspergers or just being a bitch?
My friend posted this in our Skype group, but it' just... AAAUUUGHHHH!!!!
>We were both sent out to bring back the shopping carts from the parking lot. As we got outside, he immediately took out his phone. I had returned three sets of carts, and he was still texting. Credit where credit is due, when he finally got off his phone, there weren't any other issues with how he was working. However, I still reported him to our supervisor.
Somehow, he figured out it was me. He confronted...
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>>16594488
if it was me i would have said i'm not doing your work for you so start doing something or else i'm going to have to tell our supervisor cause it's not fair. he tried to take advantage of things, so you can report him if you don't feel like dealing with his bs all the same and be justified. i try to give friends second chances and let them know to shape up/act maturely or else that's it
>>16594510
He didn't though.
Never did.
Plus it's cart pushing, not pallets or shopping carts of shit. I'm not going to use passive agression against one of my boys when management doesn't give a shit about you. He did like 15 more carts!
>>16594544
i'm not sure what you're saying he didn't/never did to
sigh...
i found nude pics of my boss's crippled fat wife in my desk. They were in the way back of the drawer, so nobody knew they were there for years.
What is the MORAL thing to do? Ignore them and put them back? Discard them? Return them to my boss?
Definitely will not post pics. Don't want to scar you people. It was fucking gross.
>>16594408
Try, really, really hard - take pills if you have to...
But cum on them, then leave them where you found them.
It'll freak the fucker out but how the fuck's he gonna do anything about it? Risk telling people he keeps nudes of his overweight crippled wife in his desk and that a stranger came on them when he wasn't looking?
He won't be able to do shit, and he'll definitely be uncomfortable around his employees, not knowing who knows about the pictures and did it.
Why you ask?
Same reason fun stuff used to get done. lulz.
Keep us updated (preferably not during the "I'm struggling to cum to this" phase).
>>16594408
if you put them back who is to say someone else isn't going to find them first? i think your boss's wife can simply take more pictures, so it shouldn't be a loss if you just throw them out. what would you want your employee to do? i'd be so thankful if they were thrown out
>>16594428
there's a reason i emphasized "moral" in my original post... not about to whip my dick out at work...
My father hates me now. He probably thinks I'm some sort of pervert .
>Few months ago my sister turned 14, so I though she could handle more mature stuff.
> All I did was tell her some innaapropriate jokes, she tells dad. He just told me they makes her uncomfortable and I should stop, stupid but I didn't want any trouble
>A few days ago me and my sister are sitting on the couch and I'm writing a paper . She fell asleep and I decided to cuddle her when I got tired too . Keep in mind I was just spooning her , but when she woke up she freaked when and yelled at me am ran to ur dad. He was practically screaming at me, looked like he was about to hit me.
TLDR: My dad thinks I'm a pervert or something cause of some simple cuddling and jokes
>>16594358
Your own sister?
Cuddling with 14 year old sister and you know telling her sexual jokes totally cool even after she said not to completely fine
How old are you and why would you spoon your own sister?
My friends have been making fun of me practically this entire week, and I can't take it.
>Be me , senior in HS about 18
>Trying to ask out this girl that I really like.
>Friends found out she's 13 , started giving me all this crap and calling me weird .
I don't understand why they are soo upset about that and why they have to make fun of me for it. They don't know about ALL of it luckily
Because you're now technically grown adult, and she's just barely not a pre-teen.
>>16594213
get help you sick pedo
you are 18 and the girl is only 13
and don't even start with that "she's really mature for her age" crap
>>16594216
Get help? Why. I'm not doing anything she doesn't want. I wouldn't hurt her.
I'm a guy, and I just matched with a girl on Tinder that I had previously "super liked". It's my first match of this kind, and it appears I liked her first.
Now, she is super hot, we went to the same uni, and like a lot of the same stuff (student organizations and the like, things <1000 people have liked on Facebook in total). I study abroad, and I'm just home for christmas, so I leave the country in less than two weeks. I really want to meet up with this girl before that. Even if it doesn't lead to sex, I can chat her up when I get back.
Based...
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>>16594196
>l'm sociaIIy returded!
>l can't get girIs in person!
>Do my work for me!
You're pathetic man, fuck off.
>>16594208
What are you even trying to say? I'm just asking for advice (hence the fucking board) for how to start a conversation with a girl I really want to meet, from people I assume have more experience than me. If you have nothing to bring to the table, you can fuck off, otherwise thanks for bumping.
>>16594218
>lf you have nothing to bring to the table, you can fuck off
That's what she's going to be teIIing you once you fuck this up.
I'm planning to kill myself this week. Don't talk me out of it. I need help writing my suicide note and the best way to go out. Preferably something painful because I deserve it
I'm writing to explain that my parents are the biggest cause for me doing it, to tell my "friends" to move on, and so on and so forth
Dear everyone,
I'm a faggot who can't take any responsibility for my life.
Sincerely,
OP
You're not killing your self. Oh, I wish you would. We all do, believe me. But plans or not, you know as well as I do that you're just looking for attention. And how can you be the recipient of attention if you're dead? Amirite?
>>16594093
>Dear Parents.
The abortion option was right there the entire time.Cunts.
Friends. Tell the world how many weird things I put up my butt.
Sincerely.
Anal Conciser
