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I'm female, and only ever had sex two times, both with the same person. That was 3 years ago. I told a friend of mine this while we were drinking, and she offered to 'lend' me her boyfriend. According to her, who has been with a fair number of guys, he's very good.
I know it's pathetic, but I'm seriously considering it. What are the pro's and con's, and should I do it?
>female
>only had sex twice
>3 years ago
C'mon this is an anonymous imageboard, you don't have to lie
there's no problem in fucking this dude, no one cares
>>16590927
That's beyond pathetic, that's humiliating
Sounds like an everyone loses situation.
Gf is an MD and i need to watch star wars in peace
Are you gonna curl up on the couch, watch it together and eat the cookies she baked?
>>16590877
Massive Dick? Medicinal Dildo? Managerial Diarrhea?
How does masturbating affect female sex drive?
Fapping lowers the male sex drive, everyone knows that, but does it help with girls?
I masturbate badly, meaning I try but I can't orgasm. Would it be better to not do it at all??
>Fapping lowers the male sex drive
for like half an hour.
>I masturbate badly, meaning I try but I can't orgasm.
that's sad
>Would it be better to not do it at all??
yeah, because it's less sad. It'd be even better to buy a vibrator or dildo or whatever it takes.
>>16590766
then what is all this nofap stuff and advice threads telling guys to quit masturbating?
I CAN'T JUST FUCKING UNDERSTAND MONOGAMY
>inb4 cuck
I'm thinking about breaking up with my girlfriend just because I'm certain that she thinks about other men when it comes to sexual pleasure, women are literally no different than men
so why do we, as humans, keep deluding ourselves with love and uniqueness? she doesn't even need to actually cheat on me, it's just the fact that I have no control about what is going on in her mind!
that's why I do not want myself to be associated with a woman, therefore, I'm breaking up with my girlfriend, and the most rational option is busting your nut in random whores to alleviate our slavery to mere biological needs
>>16590645
K? Go do that then.
>>16590645
Because i dont like the idea of other people fucking my girlfriend.
Thats it
>>16590666
you're not getting the point
I fucking hate it as well, but she likes it
I'd love to fuck three girls and the same time, but my girlfriends would hate it
we only do not do it because we would hurt each others feelings
So I got myself a gf which is into bondage alot but I haven't tried out anything similar to bondage yet but would love to get myself into this.So the problem is that I don't know how to tie her up and what material to use.Advice would be appreciated
>>16590547
Duct tape and super glue. Don't forget the baseball bat.
Not trying to be rude or push you away, but you could probably find some great beginner's bondage guides on Google, which would suggest things to buy and teach you some basic techniques. better to learn from the experts than to wait around for ideas from random people on 4chan
>>16590547
have been trying to get a gf into this for so long. had two gfs both didnt like it :( youre lucky
What time is it and what is on your mind?
0:55 am trying to schedule and organize everything in my mind that i need to still do and buy before christmas, and trying to decide what color to paint my nails
3:00 PM
Thinking about how I should get out of bed soon and all the things I should do today that I probably won't. Not even depressed. Just really fatigued always.
>>16590457
Its 3pm and I'm at work. Trying to deal with the shame of wasting money on strippers/sex acts and my overall rock bottom self esteem.
Two questions, both sex related:
1 - Making my girlfriend cum. I can't tell whether or not I'm making my gf cum. We'll start fucking around for a bit and I'll begin fingering her. After a few minutes, she'll stop making out with me and start breathing heavily and moaning. Sometimes she'll start bucking against my hand and basically fucking herself against it and squirming. She'll do this for like five minutes and giggle a bit but I don't know if she's actually cumming or not. She'll almost always stop me a few minutes into it and tell me she wants me to fuck her. That's great but I know sex isn't as good for her and I want to make sure she's having as much fun as I am. She's very generous sexually and I want to return the favor.
2 - I have a hard time cumming from blowjobs. I just can't seem to relax and enjoy the act because it's very passive. Even during sex sometimes I have a hard time just letting go and enjoying myself. Like there's a lot of shit running through my mind and I have to try extra hard to block it out so I can get down to business.
Thoughts? Opinions? Advice?
I have the same problem with being passive* I try to fap only on weekends and I try to stop on weekdays and it has helped with blow jobs and her being on top. Try teasing her alot before going down or fingering her and when it comes to sex I like to put a pillow under her butt when I'm on top. When on top pin down her legs girls like tension. Also you can hold her legs.
Rub her clit while you're fucking her. My gf likes oral but cuts the hardest during actual sex, but it can't just be penetration alone. Keep the clit involved, it's all about the combination, stimulate as many parts of her body at the same time as you can.
For a lot of girls, dirty talk helps a LOT, too. Engage her mentally as well as physically, try out your fantasies/kinks with her, and encourage her to try hers.
Communication is really the key to the whole thing. You're having a hard time summing because you're not really at ease yet. Good sex is all about cutting loose, dropping your inhibitions.
>>16590462
>cuts the hardest
*cums the hardest
If tomorrow you could wake up with your greatest dream fulfilled, what would change?
>>16590424
My greatest dream is to have a lifelong, loving relationship with my partner and family, and that we will all be happy. That can't really be actualized in a day.
>>16590424
To be thin and healthy.
>>16590424
To not be myself anymore.
A new girl started working at my job. She's kind of hot and seems nice enough, but some things about her are red flags. Am I being too picky? I don't want to get involved with a crazy chick.
>Doesn't wear a bra like, ever. She's European but says she was born in Kansas.
>Smokes cigarettes
>May have an eating disorder
>Has a massive tattoo on her back of a forest God
>>16590396
Fuck her but don't get attached.
She will spread rumors if you're a dick so treat her well and then it's her fault if it goes sour.
Just get to know her, have fun, and don't get too attached until you really feel like you can trust her. Those things might be "red flags," or she might turn out to be cool. Sounds like you really don't know yet. That's pretty much the exact purpose of dating
Nothing too crazy red flags-wise, but smoking and tattoos are generally signs she's a whore. Also women in europe wear a bra
What do you guys think about attention deficit disorder? Is it real or made up? I was diagnosed at 10, put on meds decided to stop taking them at18. Almost 30 and frustrated that I still struggle with the same issues. What does 4chan think, should I go back on them?
Real, but overdiagnosed (though not as much as it used to be).
>>16590373
This. And I think it's usually a bad idea to diagnose & medicate young children, unless they're really a danger to themselves and others. A 10-year-old's brain is still developing, and the symptoms of something like ADD are too broad and open to interpretation to be accurately identified in a young child
>>16590332
If it helps you then you should.
I can't stop thinking about dying. I remembered that everyone I've ever known will die and many people I'm close with already will die in my lifetime. I'm also scared that at any point, I or someone else could just die from some freak accident. How do I forget this and just move on like a normal person?
I know another guy with fear of dying, and I just don't get it. Dying is inevitable, and so it has always been. Why worry about something you KNOW will happen? You're on earth for a while and then you're not.
>>16590336
I know it's irrational but a friend's older sister died pretty much out of nowhere recently and it's got me fucking paranoid of death. I can't stop thinking about how quick people can go like that.
>>16590287
It's all true. Everyone you know or will ever know will be forgotten the moment they breathe their last. That is nothing new, and in fact is totally natural and right. Wanting anything else is going against nature's course and will undoubtedly lead to continued disillusionment and despair on the part of those who wish to cling to youth, life, and remembrance.
I'd try to realize my ideas of self importance are flawed and that I am as important to others as others are important to me-- that is, not at all. Aging, weakening, degredation of body and mind, and death are all natural things that there is no reason to fear, unless you've developed opinions on those things.
Epictetus said that you should never forget about your eventual death, to always keep in mind the futility of the pursuit of vain and selfish things for yourself. But then, Epictetus also believed that his first lectures should move men to tears of hopelessness and despair, so they may break down their old methods of thinking to find true joy and peace of mind in Stoic thought.
britbong sixth form student here, I hate my a-levels but I would have far fewer career paths without them and my family would think I am wasting my intelligence, epsecially if they knew the whole truth of it (I wanna be an illustator)
can't get good enough at drawing to prove it's a viable path, school takes away too much time/energy
miserable 24/7, lost confidence and social vigor (can't talk to 'that girl' because I feel so shitty all the time, and struggling to make new friends), I'm a cunt to my family because I'm so stressed/upset all the time, failed hard on my last assessment
everything's coming apart at the seams what the fuck do I do
b-bump, sorry guys but I really would like some help here
okay I'm gonna go to bed for a while
final bump and I'll let it die
pls guys
Still here op?
My erection has started to become bigger and bigger and now its begun to hurt. Like its going to explode. The pain is around the middle. When I say pain what I really mean is sore. Like a sore bone though. Usually my erection was something like 7.5 x 5-6. At but its grown over the last 6 months to a length around 8 or 8.25 (fluctuating between the 2) and the girth is that of a cone. usually right below the head its always been 5 and around the middle flairs out to 5.5 and the 6 at the base. Occasionally before I would measure if at 5.25 below the head but the base would always be the same. Now for some reason my penis swells up even more and around the area where it flairs out, hurts a little. Below the head it was around 5.5 and around the base 6.125 or so. Where its usually starts to flair and become 5.5 it was 5.75. Is this something to be concerned about.
Its size is really inconsistent and sometimes its massive. Dont really know if I should be happy or freaky out that Im going to pop something in my dick. Im in my early 20s but Ive heard that you can still grow until 25 or so.
talk to a doctor.
>>16590081
I cant that easily.
>>16590099
well its not like we can give you any help its a medical issue we arent medicinal no matter what advice we give it ends with 'go find a doctor and make sure' and any treatment would be done through a doctor anyways
how to tell my boyfriend I need time to myself?
so my boyfriend likes hanging out... a lot. which I love, but, I kinda need time to myself to catch up on basic things like working out, cleaning, and honestly just relaxing, finding a job, etc. he doesn't take it when I say like sorry I can't hangout today because I'm looking for a job or something, he will just be like oh well can't you hangout after? and it's pretty annoying because he thinks no matter what I have to do I can always at least hang out after even if it's 11pm. honestly, I just wanted the next two days to myself, to go shopping, relax, workout, self I
prove etc but idk what to tell him because he doesn't take anything the right way.. the only thing I can do is make up an excuse of soemrjinf like I have to babysit all night of stuff like that, but I feel like last time I said that he knew I was lying.,, but there's no way to get out of it! I need a break from seeing him sometimes so I can focus on myself!
what should I do?
"I've got a bunch of stuff to do all day, but I'll keep you posted." Then once in a while take a quick pic of whatever you're doing and send it over.
It's 50% craving your attention and 50% insecurity. Intermittently contacting him resolves the former, and showing him that you are legitimately busy resolves the latter. Obviously don't take pics of stuff which he could then leverage into "I could be there while you do that!" Stick to the stuff like job search.
>>16590038
be honest. if honesty doesn't work, than the relationship is too flawed to move forward.
just say 'yeah im busy til wednesday' and roll with that.
he will either
A) get used to it
or
B) break up with you
not many other options. never cave. be strict to your schedule.
I'm a guy and im the same way. i work all day, then come home and have projects i need to work on, so dting takes a back seat. last time i dated they wanted to see me like all the fucking time, and im like 'once every other day MAX, cuz i got shit to do, and even then i wasnt getting enough done.
>>16590038
Tell the fucking truth. Guys like the direct approach. Myself, I feel the same as you. Ever weekend, I gotta drive to my gfs house, or she drives to mine to hang out. I just want a weekend alone! I've told her several times, and she agrees to give me free time, but then for some stupid reason, I feel bad and hang out, thus wasting my time. My house is a mess and I need to clean and shop for groceries lol
>match with 18yo hottie on Tinder
>hit it off
>exchange numbers
>talk and text a couple of days
whenever I ask to hang out with her, she changes the subject or says she's busy.
She said she was really interested, wanted to hook up, thought I was great, but never would meet me.
I told her I wasn't interested in being some boy toy to chat with, and that I wanted to meet.
Am I a dumbass for breaking it off, or should I have tried harder.
>she is a college student here on break
>she was easily a 9/10
Everything you did in this situation was correct.
>>16589781
Had a sneaking suspicion that she was just interested in the attention.
She kept telling me how happy I made her, easy to talk to I was, how cute I was, and how interesting I was.
She even said she'd definitely wanna hook up.
I feel like there must be something I could do, but I think I came to an impasse.
Bummer.
Straight up, I have no fucking idea about tinder, never used it. I did do online dating enough to know what if follows a similar pattern to real life.
I mostly think PUA stuff is all bullshit, but there's this concept of the three second rule where if you don't act within the first three seconds of becoming interested in a girl, you should write her off because nothing will ever happen (because you'll either over think it, or you won't have the balls to act, or whatever).
In the online wold I think the exact parallel is more like a 10 message rule.. If you don't secure or agree to a meet in the first 10 messages, you're probably not ever going to get a meet. Funnily enough my girlfriend came to the exact same conclusion through her own online dating experiences.
