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I went on a first date with a cute smart guy. I was wearing white leggings and wasn't feeling well but didn't want to cancel because he's going to another State for Christmas and wouldn't be back until after New Years. I reallyyy wanted to meet him! After dinner we were walking and my stomach made a loud sound. Poo came out and it showed on the back of my leggings. He was a real gentleman and walked me to my car and all. I'm really worried he won't want to see me agian?! Should I wait for him to text me first or thank him for the wonderful evening and apologize?
>>16597990
Thank him for the evening. Don't mention the poo directly, but mention "a certain problem" happened - he'll get what you mean, but you won't sound like a shitter.
You two will end up laughing about this episode.
>>16598004
I hope so! This hasnt happened before. I was nervous and not feeling well.
>>16598018
Don't worry.
But do mention you loved to spend the evening with him, otherwise you'll sound ungrateful with your silence.
/adv/, I need your help
>have gf of 9 months
>she has this really really cute friend who s also her best friend
>friend also has bf of 6 years
>skip to yesterday
>at other friend's house. it s just me, gf, her best friend and friend whose house we re in
>gf doesnt smoke 420 and her friend whose house we re in has to take a drug test
>her best friend says she has some pot and wants to blaze up with me
>agree because finals are over and whythefucknot.jpg
>always liked her from a physical standpoint but we get to talking and she's actually really cool
>super down-to-earth and pragmatic
>we agree on a lot of things
>start talking about relationships and experiencing new things
>eventually start shotgunning the pot, which leads to making out session in the backyard
>go back inside and convince gf to go home alone and i ll join her
>later, friend whose house we re in passes out so it s just me and her
>move to her car's backseat and i eat her out
>decide to cut it short because i kept feeling guilt over cheating
>drive to gf's place and she's pissed off as always and doesnt let me sleep
>spend all day long today thinking about her friend
wat do ? I'm seeing this girl again soon alone and we'll be smoking oil, which will be her first time. I know she'll want to do something special and I can think of a few things. I just also feel bad for doing this to the gf who I love
pic unrelated
>>16597813
>I just also feel bad for doing this to the gf who I love
No you don't.
Not going to help out a cheating asshole. My advice is break up with your gf you obviously don't give a shit about and spare her the pain you're going to cause her.
>>16597839
this. I don't even know why guys like you want a gf for.
>qt just started working in my office
>I'm leaving in two days
How do I escalate in such a short amount of time? I only know her name and that's it
>>16597720
A rag soaked in chloroform and a dark alley. That's all you need.
>>16597720
That's perfect, actually. If she rejects you, you won't have to work around her. Talk to her a bunch in the next couple of days, nice general pleasantries. Not outright flirting, but nice conversation. On your last day, ask for her number so you can keep in touch. A week later give her a call and ask her on a date.
>>16597750
Thanks, that's pretty encouraging. Problem is she works in a different department, and her desk is basically in front of the boss's office.
How do I deal with not having any talents?
There is really nothing I'm good at. I can't draw or do art, I can't play any instruments despite years of trying to learn, I can't really do anything entertaining. I work as a web developer for my day job and other than that I pretty much just lift/exercise, run the occasional 5k. I don't read because there isn't a single book I've ever found that managed to hold my interest for more than a few pages (I've tried the classics, they're all dry as shit.)
I've been trying to learn guitar for over 10 years and I can't even strum properly. I feel like I can't learn how to do anything besides go to work and lift weights.
What the fuck do I do? I feel boring as shit.
>>16597482
maybe you could take up some kind of sport, be it basketball ,football, volleyball, whatever, there are possibilities for amateurs to train and to play in amateur - enthusiast level pretty much everywhere
Don't strike yourself down that fast, talent is a really abstract term in it's way, I doubt those kids that get sent to basketball practices since they are 5 are talanted in basketball, but they are damn good at it because of the work put into the development, same goes for all those musical instrument players.
So yeah, maybe try some sports, I can't do shit in the world of art as well, don't know about musical side, have no singing voice, never tried any musical instruments
>>16597482
get really good at League of Legends
>>16597501
I agree with what you said, but I think getting really good at martial arts might be good for OP because it is a one person deal. Yes, martial arts=getting beat up a lot, but that means you can take punches and hit back. It's really quite fun once you get good.
>be friends with girl since elementary school
>hanged out a lot, all that jazz
>nearly out of highschool, we're still friends and all but
>kinda feel like I'm drifting away from her
>we don't really talk and if I ask "hey, do you want to hang out", it's usually met with "sorry anon, I'm busy
>this has been the case for a few months now
>she has depression and shit so there is a reason for her to start being cold
>i know she doesn't want to cut me out of her life and I don't want to cut her out of mine
>or at least I want to think that
>afraid of conflict arising from dissenting opinions on social issues
>she's a self proclaimed feminist and i'm very vocally anti sjw
>i don't get into fights with her or anything and we even talked about this
>we agreed that opinions shouldn't stop people from being friends
>im still afraid that this might be the reason we're sort of drifting apart now
>she seems to be getting more radical opinions
>she shared pic related on facebook recently
What should I do?
First, learn the difference between "I know..." and "I want to think..."
Second, have you no male friends?
>>16597268
Well, of course I have male friends. I've just been close with this person for a long time.
>First, learn the difference between "I know..." and "I want to think..."
I forgot to mention that she still says hi and tries to spark a conversation on the odd occasion at school. I do get what you mean though.
>>16597169
>feminist
Stopped reading right there. Absolutely any-fucking-one who says this is not worth being in any type of relationship with. Get out now. She may have been OK before, sure, whatever. It's not worth it anymore. Get away from her
>>16597278
Get some male friends, dude. In high school I was 'friends' with a somewhat feminist group. What a fuck-up I was, I let those cunts toy with my emotions like the normie I was and didn't think twice about our friendship. Like I said...
GET OUT
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For example
http://archive.4plebs.org/adv/thread/16554974/#16554974
contradicts with
>>16592872 and
>> 16596366
>>16596399
I meant to quote that archived thread contradicts with >>16596366
It seems like a lot of effort to try and follow this. Can you summarize what the hell it is you're on about please?
>>16596439
I just think /adv/ is a hypocrite. Like in one thread, everyone was like "it is perfectly ok to pursue your interests" ans in another people are like "money matters and doing that is fucking stupid".
How do I get over my ex?
We were together a year and broke up a few months ago, but we decided to remain friends. He said he still cared about me a lot but no longer had any romantic feelings towards me. It's mostly my fault we broke up. So we've been talking and hanging out very regularly for the past few months, and it really hurts. My feelings haven't changed at all and I can't stop thinking about the past. He's really important to me and I don't want to lose him, how do I move on?
Pic not related.
Cut all contact. Block on social media. Get him out of yiur life. Every time you see him it will remind you of what you don't have any more and will hurt. I know it's not what you want to hear but it's what you have to do.
>>16594935
We were best friends for a long time before we started dating, and he's one of the most important people in my life. Neither of us have any other friends and that isn't likely to change for either of us. We still get along very well despite that. Is there really no other way?
>>16594966
>Is there really no other way?
There is another way. Find another person you can get close to and build strong emotions with, then you won't have the same feelings for your ex anymore.
But this is extremely difficult if you do not cut contact, because your current feelings will get in the way of being comfortable with other people...and that it isn't fair to bring that kind of baggage to a new relationship.
Before you post a question, check here to see if it's already been answered
Keep your questions short and sweet for more answers.
And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
>>16594188
Here, to elaborate on this, for example, I saw her the other day and we caught the last bus home together.
My stop is a lot earlier than hers, and as soon as we were coming up on it, she was all "oh, it's so far home for me" and "I wish I could just go to bed now".
Am I overthinking it or is there something there?
>>16594217
We can't tell you for sure. Just ask her out if you like her.
As a random question.
Out of curiosity
Ladies: How you respond to being broken-up with? What's your usual routine? What exactly is it you do to get over someone? How long does it usually take for you to move on?
Gentlemen: Same question. What are the things you do to forget and move past a girl? On average, how quickly before you try to see someone else?
Hey /adv/ just ready to pick my degree for university. I absolutely love maths and am 100% going to do Pure Mathematics at uni but I'm interested in doing a dual degree with something else. Any opinions?
Are you looking for spmething that dovetails well with mathematics, or something as different as possible from math?
>>16599512
I'm interested in science and technology. I don't really want to be a programmer but I feel like Computer Science would be a nice overlap with Maths. I don't want to do finance or humanities or buisness or anything like that.
if you ever want to be employed don't go for pure math.
I'm 24, kissless, friendless virgin.
Never had a relationship.
Have a job but live with sister.
Dropped out of college after a semester - waste of fucking time and money, unless you get into engineering, law or medical or some shit. Don't have a family to fund it for me either, unlike all the other white kids.
I've been craving a relationship for a long time now, but it's just so much work. It'd take me years at this point just to get to a state of normalcy other people my age are right now. Then years more work, still, to get to a state of success. At these rates, I'm just never motivated to do a single thing anymore. Like why the fuck should I work my ass off for things other people get handed to them for free all the time? Drunkard Chad at the local Frat never had to worry about having a life. That's fucking bullshit. I get how most people that get dealt a shit hand are inspired by it to work hard and win, but it's just not happening for me.
What could I possibly do with my life at this point? Even if I change everything, I'd just be complaining that "I can't be myself", so what's the point, even?
It's like when you're this deep inside a hole, the only thing you're inspired to do anymore is to keep digging down and see how much lower you can get.
>>16599375
jus be urself
>>16599375
I'm sure your sis could help you out ;)
>>16599381
>>16599377
Thx guys. I'm sure this is like broken record tier shit for /adv/, so I'm sorry for boring you.
I have a gf of 4+ years, moved together after few months etc.
Now, she either played me for a sucker, always talking about or wanting sex. Like 5-8x times a day. In a sense trying to trap me into relationship with sex. I remember even telling her she doesnt need to pretend this stuff cause i love her for her.
Long story short, nowadays if i dont initiate we have sex like i dont even know...maybe weekly or not even that. I am 21 (nearly 22) and she is 26 (just had birthday, no she is not jesus).
Also, my longtime slutty female friend just sent me
>pic related
Out of the blue, for no reason. What gives?
I should probably mention that i love weed and i am not quiet about it, so that is likely the reason for the necklace. However the reason for photos....?
What's actually your question? It got lost in your ridiculous typing style
>>16599274
Probably all the weed deteriorating his brain
BUT ITS SAFE MUH BEER IS WORSE DINDU DU NUFFIN HEMP YALL
>>16599274
Also, my longtime slutty female friend just sent me
>pic related
Out of the blue, for no reason. What gives?
I understand your pain anon...im too fragmented and it shows.
I just wanted to ask why did she sent those photos and all that stuff about my gf is just venting i guess.
>my roastie sister comes back home for holidays from her apartment in larger city where she goes to art school
>want's to go
>i sit in my room, finnishing presents
>hear my dad shouting at her
>he starts beating her
>he makes her go to her room while hiting her
>i hear more shouting and her crying
>notmybussiness.jpg
>he finds cigs in her purse an out d beats her even more
>she contracted a yeast infection on her face probably by using other girls makeup
>he thinks it's cigarette burns
>beats her even more
>i hear him say that he will kill her and end up in prison, and mom will be bring her flowers to the grave and we will have peace
>after he's done comes to my room
>"you two aren't decorating house since you have other bussiness as i see so we won't have christmass this year"
>leaves
>mom comes home from work
>Is very frustrated when my sister told her all of the stuff he said to her
>proceeds to lock herself into bathroom and cry for 30 minutes
>i finnish my presents ans start decorating the house while my mom is putting some cream on my sisters face
>my dad yells at them and tells my sister to wipe it off since it's just cigarette burns
>after some time he realises it's not the burns and says that she contracted the plauge
>hits her on that places and then forces her to use some of his homemade creams (he really likes to make inefective herb creams)
>mother goes crying again
>i'm putting up a christmass tree
>midnight comes
>i say: happy christmas eve family, i hope we will have a nice christmas without any anger or curse words
>he turns red
>walks up to me pissed off and cursing
>i expect him to hit him since he always do that, but we didn't have a conlict in a long time and i'm much bigger now and have been hitting the gym lately
>he readies his hand as i stare into his eyes
>he lowers it, calls me a faggot and goes away
>mfw my father who used to beat the shit out of me is now afraid of me
Should I beat him the next time he goes raging and beating my sister?
He deserves it, but you shouldn't. How old is your sister anyway?
>>16599071
>this was how you were raised
gee, i'd say talk it out with him, but it seems like beating is the norm for him, so i dunno how successful that would be
to be honest i wouldn't blame you if you punched him, but i think he'd be the type of guy to pull a gun or something
so yeah it's better not to hit him
(he'd probably take it out on the rest of your family anyway)
this is a complicated situation, i don't think i can give good advice since i've never been through it.
>>16599071
What's a roastie?
"I don't love you anymore"
How do I say this?
The words won't come out. He thinks we can work it out. I stayed and said ok but nothing is changing my feelings for him so far. Mainly because he has changed nothing.
> I stayed
mistake
He doesn't love you to be better for you. Blame him for your loss of attraction.
>>16598905
Grow a spine and just say those words to him, it will help you both move on quicker.
Also one thing to note, a lot of long term couples fall out of love and fall back in love.. So there's that.
How do people see my mole/birthmark?
I consider myself as a 7/10, but i'm so used to my mole that i don't know what people really think about it. Should i cover it?
Should i wear lipstick?
Some advice to my overall look?
inb4 i'm looking for real advice, i'm not playin' the atention whore card here.
Pic related, it's me.
You're a very beautiful man.
Most people won't really care about it or eventually they'd get used to it.
>>16598648
I'm actually a girl. But i actually don't mind being misgendered. Happens pretty often so i'm used to it.
For a long time I considered myself "red pilled", I thought I had everything figured out. True, corrupt men may control our world, and they obviously have ill intentions, but I've decided that I'm not going to let that fact control my life. I'm not going to fill my life with negative energy through worrying about what might happen. I'm going to focus on doing things I love, and helping others in need. My goal is to be a good person, I don't want to hurt anyone. Call me a cuck or a beta all you want, this is the only way I'm ever going to be truly happy, I just need to let go.
What do you think? If you're "red pilled", was sacrificing your happiness worth it?
>>16598421
Transhumanism is the ultimate red pill
You aren't there yet
>>16598448
Does endless reincarnation count as transhumanism? I have hope for my future.
>>16598454
No
You must become better
