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My ex, who I'm still pretty fucked up about despite knowing she's an awful person and it being almost two years ago, got all of her music taste from me. I don't follow her on any social media or anything but when I was on instagram I saw a post by her and it was her wall covered in her favourite albums, all of which I showed her and most I still listen to often.
I guess it makes me mad that she shit on me but then just took my taste in music, and now I avoid listening to a few albums because they remind me of her. I wish I could forget all about her but I...
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>>16603606
I don't know. Maybe the knowledge, that she just loves the music because it sounds good is ncie for you. She is just some phony-ass-wannabee-fangirl that actually has no clue what that music is about and what it really is supposed to mean. The only thing she can do is post bits and pieces of the lyrics, pretending they apply to her life *perfectly*.
I have the feeling, that it might be Punk Rock or something near that genre. If it is, seriously, just don't give a fuck. That is exactly what the genre...
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>>16603652
It's everything from punk (nomeansno, joy division), to like Slint and Death Grips. Really I should just be like "eh, fuck it" but I guess I'm to much of a baby for that, as much as I'd like to.
I'm curious as to what the music is. What are the albums you avoid listening to now? And yeah I had a similar experience, or a friend who wasnt into music at all, I introduced her to some stuff, suddenly she rebrands herself as this super into music hipster. Just disregard her and continue doing what you enjoy
Soon a friend of mine will tell me he likes me.
I don't like him back.
What should I tell him? I don't want him to get hurt.
Be direct and honest. It's what he needs to hear. If you sugar coat it too much and make him think there is still a chance he'll just be one of those miserable "she friendzoned meee, is there still a chance?" losers.
The clearer you are about it the kinder you're being to him. It will allow him to move on faster and get on with his life.
Yeah, crystal clear. It very well may hurt him but you can't really control that.
>>16603497
Listen to me. I won't mince words with you here.
You cannot be friends anymore. He will stick around you thinking you will eventually change your mind. It's his fault for sticking around because he's weak, but it's also your fault for knowing he's weak and letting him hurt himself by remaining your friend.
Seriously, just back off him once he tells you and say it's just for the best.
How do/would you deal with anhedonia (loss of interest in everything)?
>>16603287
Why would I? If they're not interested in anything, they're not interested in me. I'm similarly not interested in people who have no interest in me, as a friend or otherwise. Seriously. There are billions of people in the world. I'd much rather spend time/energy on the ones who aren't fucked up.
I would make it my mission to find something I was interested in and thus give my life meaning. So I'd be interesting in finding an interest. Easy. Next question.
>>16603291
Nice reading comprehension, champ.
I think I've fucked up!
I've been seeing my GF for nearly a year. Best thing to happen etc. Lets me play out all my fantasies... bitch be giving me hand in public. Has a job. Like I have no problems with this bitch at all.
I do like to watch the odd porn here and there. GF knows this and has seen some of my 'tame' porn.
A few hours ago I was watching my special porn before my GF came over. Closing my laptop makes my computer go to sleep mode. I left laptop open as I wasn't expecting anyone over. Girlfriend at door with Christmas...
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Define special porn. Perhaps share a few samples so that we can evaluate how to proceed.
>>16602492
Considering the Michael Jackson picture I'm guessing OP left some cheesy pizza out in the open for his GF.
>>16602492
Porn that's not mainstream
I cant post samples as the laptop is being wiped?
Girl I like is now a lesbian what do I do to get over her
Date someone new.
Become a lesbian yourself.
>>16601685
I tried, didn't work out
Mom offers boyfriend of 5 years her engagement ring so he can propose. He says no.
He still wants to live together.
I am ready to end the relationship. Am I being too demanding? We have a kid.
>Has a kid
>Throwing a tantrum because of an outdated symbolic tradition
>Said tradition is all risk for the man
Yes. Yes you are.
Not at all. He sounds really shitty.
If you have a kid and you're together why wouldn't you marry?
And to embarrass your mother like that, disgusting.
Your own fault for having a kid before marriage tho. Dump him
>>16601376
If that guy is like me, then you're being too demanding. He is probably not like me though, so you better tie his ass up before he bolts with all his shit.
Sup guys. Maybe you can help me out. I'm a pretty submissive and masochistic guy. My girlfriend knows that. Currently we are on a long-distance relationship and I would love her to be my online-mistress (making me cum on webcam, taking control of my daily activities, etc.). So far we did not really have any SM because she is a bit afraid of it. So I see it as a good chance for her to get into it without any physical contact.
The only problem is that I don't want to ask her to do that. I might scare her too much with that weird stuff. So do you have an idea...
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>>16601307
If she's not naturally into being dominant, you can't really ask her to do something like that. I'll let you in on a hint: she's not afraid, she's just politely declining.
you poor thing. even if your girl really was dominant eventually she'll start seeing you as less of a man and leave you.
femdom is really rare outside of porn.
>>16601307
1) BDSM stuff goes to /d/, there's a BDSMGeneral there.
2) If she's afraid of it, may I suggest you stop using the word "slavery"? I'm into this shit, on both sides, as were a lot of contacts over the years, and none of us like the word. It implies no duty nor personality from the sub.
3) Usually we go about it in a format like "What can I do to make you happy?" "How about I send you a picture of me being tied up and you tell me what you'd do.".
4) It...
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/adv/, I consider myself a bit of a 'nice guy', but I'm nevertheless popular with the females because I'm a qualified medfag and /fit/... I've slept around a fair bit, but it's usually one person at a time, which is manageable
But now I'm juggling around three females - two of which clearly want a relationship. However, I'm far too busy for that at the moment and just enjoy the messaging and sex
But I've got a big party NYE and they'll all fucking be there... I invited one, my mate then invited the other and I've...
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>>16603520
one bump
>>16603520
ok. long story short you are not as Nice as you think you are ,anon
>>16603796
Perhaps... I just meant that I'm pretty considerate of how others may feel, and I'm hardly a Chad Thundercock
I'm so frustrated right now that it's actually affecting me physically. My blood feels like it's boiling almost literally, my stomach's churning and my heartrate's through the roof. I've been sleeping like shit for weeks.
And it's all because my friend's being an ice cold bitch towards me. Pathetic, I know.
After years of being ditched, backstabbed or otherwise dropped by people I thought were friends, I got my shit back together. Then I finally opened up to someone again. This girl and I had so much in common, and we got along...
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>>16603496
Sounds like you need more experience with women.
you're insanely needy. emphasis on the insane. get help from a doctor.
>>16603645
Well I think it's normal if she's his only friend you know, not saying it's right though.
Maybe your friend got tired of being your only friend. Maybe she felt like she was taking care of a kid in a way? It gets tiring being the only support of a friend you know, it feels like you are responsible for them.
To be honest the best solution would be to start not giving a shit and become more independant. Don't put friendship on a pedestal. How old are you?
My g/f and i recently discussed taking our relationship to the next level and having sex. She told me that she was very tight and it hurt to inset a tampon. I didn't really think a whole lot of it and told her i would use foreplay and loosen her up and it would be fine. But she said she dont think i would be able to get a finger in.
So i started googling and came across vaginismus and it seems like what she has. I this something that that can be worked though in a few months with lots of stimulation and fingering and maybe a dilation set? Or is this something that...
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just fuck her in the ass, anon
>>16603400
i would prefer a real answer if anyone has dealt with this.
>>16603405
You're not going to receive a "real answer" to this kind of question anon. The chances anyone here had dealt with this are really low. Use google some more.
How do you prevent the transmission of STDs through cunnilingus or anilingus? I heard dental dams are cumbersome, inefficient
>>16603365
That's pretty much the only way to help reduce chance of transmission. I guess there is stuff like latex panties too.
But it always comes back to the best way is abstinence or sex within a committed monogamous relationship with someone you trust and know is clean.
>>16603376
>tfw socially regressive fogies are trying to use STDs to push their agenda
don't listen to this shit OP
>>16603393
Wut? I'm just being honest. The only way to 100% prevent STDs is abstinence. There's no two ways about that.
Using condoms and dental dams definitely help reduce your chances but that risk is still present, and it grows with every new partner and every partner your partner(s) have.
Do I look datable?
The reason I ask is because a relative of mine is becoming a father soon and it had me thinking about how I haven't even had a meaningful relationship yet. I'm on this downward negative thought spiral now, feeling like shit. Am I that ugly/creepy looking?
>>16603179
post a pic where you aren't pulling the quasimodo face.
Why do guys make the most annoying face they can when they're looking for love?
>>16603179
Are those real tattoos or did you do that with a marker?
Why don't girls like me?
Please dont be bait
Should I try to be more alpha like John?
>>16603174
I think you are cute
Im a male tho so it doenst matter, faggot
If a girl says "I love you" to you on a regular basis outside the context of the relationship, what are the chances she actually loves you?
Basically, is this a clear indicator that I'm brother-zoned?
How is she saying it? Like "I love ya" and then pats you on the back and slams a beer?
If she flings it casually, you're likely fucked dude.
If you're not in a relationship, I doubt she really loves you. Ask her out or some shit, make a move. Get your answer!
>>16603131
>>16603147
I mean, we've referred to each other as brother and sister for years. But when we started doing that, she was like 14.
Now she's an adult, so our potential relationship dynamics aren't just limited to "brother-sister."
Hello adv. Do you think it is possible to fall in love with the same person again if the two of you are not in a romantic relationship?
Have you ever felt deeply in love with someone, then that feeling disappeared for a good while and resurfaced again?
I want to know this too, relationship is slowly sinking. What's your situation anon?
It happened to me. I left my high school lover when I went to college, some 2 years later, we met again and fell in love again, for me it was stronger than it was the first time. Unfortunately, for her, the romantic feelings faded, probably because of my heavy alcoholism to try and escape my PTSD.
But I digress, I think it's completely possible, but I also think that love can change, and while you might still love each other, you might find that it's in a different way.
>>16603059
Huh that's interesting, I never thought about it like that. Not OP here, but your little story gave me hope.
