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So. I know for certain that she has basically been cheating on her boyfriend (sexting, flirting, snapping other dudes). She did this with her last relationship too. It was something I speculated for a while (I am/was friends with her on snapchat) but I have now heard from someone else that has confirmed it. Unsure why that ended though but perhaps he found out how promiscuous she is. She has a daughter (got knocked up really young, unsurprisingly) but I feel like it is unfair on her child and also her boyfriend that she does this thinking it's ok. You would think she would...
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You handle it by...minding your own business.
I fail to see how this is of any concern to you. Even if your morals are offended, you would be out of bounds to try to involve yourself in any way.
Go read a book or something.
This is not any of your business nor is it your place to meddle with a relationship that doesn't concern you. The only way I would think it would be ok for you to let the boyfriend know is if you were close friends with him or something. If not, fuck off.
Why do you feel you need to "handle" this? Stay out of her life and out of her business.
If you feel bad for the guy and what you feel is best for the guy is to leave the relationship, then tell the guy this is happening.
If you feel bad for the kid, then alert social services that the kid's mother is an illegal sex worker (cam girl).
If what you're aiming for in your high horse is to "shame this whore" or some other ludicrously stupid shit, please stop. All you are doing is putting everyone associated with the woman through...
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I want to have anal sex but am very scared of being dirty.
You mean getting shit on your dick? Then don't have anal sex. There is ALWAYS a risk and if you can't cope with that it's not for you.
>>16606122
How so? Other forms of sex are just as clean/dirty. Abstain if you find sex gross. Don't even touch yourself. Become a cat lady.
I'm scared of him getting shit on his dick. In porn nothing like that ever happens. So I wonder like what porn stars do to prevent it.
So guys, I'm pulling a prank on my bud to get back at him for always making "your mom" jokes.
Heres some info:
- We have 4 months together (deployed), so there is no escape for that long
- I have minimal supplies
- We have access to each other's rooms (doors dont lock)
- Up for almost anything that won't cost him money (I.E. breaking something/sabotaging shit beyond repair)
Help me out guys!
suck him off you cumhog
>>16606045
Fuck his mom and post pictures on his fb page.
Be the bigger man and start complimenting his mother. You'll guilt him into stopping.
How do i become disciplined?
read an infographic written by a non-English speaker who is big on capital D Disipline and victim blaming.
>>16605988
A person can be both, it's the environment and the company you keep that will eventually bring those behaviors out of you.
Choose to be in a good positive environment and cut off negative influences instead.
Nice flow chart for a nonexistant boring individual btw. It's idealistic but it's not realistic at all. People will just walk all over the disciplined person and eventually they'll be the opposite out of stress. The opposite can happen to the non disciplined person if put...
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>>16605988
this picture needs another brake at negative consequences where someone may choose good behavior to avoid negative consequences in the future
So backstory:
I met my current gf on omegle almost a year ago, we really hit it off and discovered we had a large amount in common, similar interests, political ideals, and personalities. We became so interested in each other that we developed an E-relationship as faggoty as that sounds, she eventually moved in with me from abroad.
Everything has mostly been going well other than a few screw ups here and there. A lot of it is inexperience, I'm her first boyfriend and she is my first girlfriend. However we reached a major problem during the last 2-3 days/week. I unfortunately ran out of money resulting in us living on limited supplies, (it is extremely extremely uncomfortable, I don't blame her) she feels as if I'm failing in my goals and am not going anywhere and is becoming disillusioned with the relationship. She has become hopeless and depressed and possible suicidal (But I don't think she means it), the depression is also the result of other things that don't have to do with me though.
What should I do /adv/, how could I fix this relationship? Or is it even fixable?
Here are things we do know
>she is an expert manipulator
>she has no problem feigning emotions
>I think she is pre-period so on PMS, the last few PMS cycles she was also awful
>she hasn't or will not cheat (this is a 100% known, not a guess even at all)
>we spend upwards of 80% of the awake day together in our one bedroom apartment.
>>16605930
Honestly I do love her, she is beautiful, intelligent and everything I want in a GF and even a future wife. But I don't know what to do to fix this relationship.
>>16605930
>met my current gf on omegle
This doesn't look good.
>we developed an E-relationship as faggoty as that sounds
Damn right, son.
I would just let this die if I were you.
If you're the kind of person who finds relationships on omegle, you're not emotionally stable enough to keep this relationship alive and happy.
>>16605938
You're getting the picture wrong
Essentially I met her on omegle. But she ended up being everything I consider a 10/10, we would talk to each other everyday for months at a time. Thousands of hours etc, etc.
I wasn't going on omegle for the objective find a gf it was just a random act where I met someone I considered perfect.
How do you not let yourself feel bad when you're rejected by a guy
A guy rejected me and then added "I was talking to x the other day and i was saying the reason why I haven't had many partners is because I'm so picky"
So now I feel really bad. I wasn't good enough, I didn't make the cut
I am an inferior product, I wasn't pretty enough even for a one night stand
How do I deal with rejection? Everytime I get rejected I feel this bad
lower your standarts or better yourself
it'll be either of these two
Do you ever have sex with people you're not completely attracted to, if that's the case you're not too picky.
Do you feel like you keep being rejected by and don't have sex with the people you deserve, then you are too picky.
>>16605934
This. And quit whining.
Being rejected always feels bad, for everyone.
The worst I felt was when a woman who was 10 years older than me with flappy cheeks, big eyebrows and bad acne stigma rejected me after flirting with me. It was supposed to be my rebound bitch, I cried a little.
>almost 19 yo male
>never dated a girlfriend
>hardcore virgin
>hate my miserable life
>no friends
>got bullied in school
>wants to drop education
How fucked is my life?
Not fucked up at all. The average 19 year old has little control of their life, due to lack of experience, family life, and limited mobility.
Your 20s are meant for traveling, working, independence,exposing yourself to as much as you can. At your age, you just have to start thinking about what direction you want to go in, try a few, and remain 'present' in the experience.
Most people are in the same mental/emotional spot as you, they just have their own specific struggles. Educate yourself on how to get what you want, and be proactive.
Up to you. So far, you're describing like 10, 15% of the population of men.
You're also describing the foundation of many fabulously successful men and also of some homeless junkies as well.
So, yeah, it's pretty much what you make of it.
My own thought? Finish your compulsory basic education, and go pick up a trade or do something interesting that will help you figure out what you want to do with yourself.
I was in a similar situation, except for having a couple of good friends, and I ended up getting a job on a commercial fishing...
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>>16605897
I don't know, it's just i started recently to develop a serious social anxiety, to the point where i consider i am losing energy every time i speak with someone. I feel a constant pain and emptiness that i didn't have things people usually already had at my age.
/adv/ Is skin care an improved category of advice?
My nose is full of black heads like pic related. My nose gets really oily, the rest of my face has cleared up from daily washings + diet changes but I cant get rid of the black heads any tips good products? Also some of my pores are enlarged from trying to pry them out any products to help with that?
TLDR SKIN CARE THREAD BLACK HEADS HELP!
>>16605863
WASH YO MOTHERFUCKIN FACE NIGGA
I have big pores and tons of blackheads as well. You're just going to have to deal with exfoliating your nose everyday, using those blackhead nose strips, and properly moisturizing so your skin doesn't dry out. As long as you can scrub a few out and you don't get any pimples, you'll be fine. Try to rinse your face with cold water to close your pores a bit.
The upside to having oily skin is that you are less likely to have wrinkles. I'm 29 and people think I'm 19.
I have them too OP. Mine are pretty gross actually, due to their size.
I went to a dermatologist and she basically told me: "Cleaning your face with this product here will take care of oily nose and make your face cleaner, but to remove those blackheads you will need a professional to remove them for you"
I cleaned my face twice a day for months, and my blackheads are in my face just liek before. Maybe there's a different product that would actually work, but maybe my dermatologist was right, a professional needs to remove it.
Has anyone ever managed to go from someone with literally no friends, not even online friends or nerdy friends in his mid 20s to a sociable person with several friends or even a gf?
How did they do it?
there are people who did it for sure
it's like a snowball effect
i have seen many people making comments like "I miss my old nerdy days", implying that they were nerdy before but changed
>>16605859
I did it. I was socially a fucking mongoloid in high school, i had a decent reason or two but what matters is that i got over them in time.
I moved to a new town in 7th grade, knew no one. On the first day of school, I ate lunch by myself. The next day, I picked a dude in class that had a cool t shirt on, started talking about music, and then asked if I could sit with his friends for lunch.
They were kind of assholes at first, but I kept showing up and cracking jokes, and eventually we all became very close. That's how I got pretty popular in high school.
Same thing in college, just picked random people to find a connection with, and just stayed consistent. I work now, so I'm always traveling...
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Do women like when their boyfriend grabs their butt? Like does it give them pleasure?
>>16605856
>>16605860
>>16605862
But like, why?
I dunno but I grab my gfs ass when I please, due to the pleasure I get from grabbing her soft fat ass.
She has a nice ass for a native girl.
its always about bitches isn't it...
>be me
>had gf for years but still felt nothing for the past 3 yrs
>decide to change life, break up with gf
>move to germany, start bachelor there
>meet girl, has bf since 6 years lives with him since 4 years
>somehow we keep talking,shes really into me
>open myself to her like i havent done in years, tell her everything,...
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that was predictable from the start man, she wouldn't break with her bf for you
now it's time to suffer
>>16605848
we spoke about her breaking up and she didnt say it was impossible, and also her bf is making her sad since a couple of months...
i know it was predictable, but i couldnt do anything, i liked her too much, i had to try
>>16605852
>we spoke about her breaking up and she didnt say it was impossible
that's because she is stringing you along, she knew she would try to keep you both
there's probably no good way of killing your feelings, the only thing i can think of is the way she behaved
her relationship was not working, instead of breaking up or fixing it, she decided to cheat
if you two had a future together that outcome could happen again
Is it disrespectful to think about someone who has died while you masturbate?
>>16605825
No, they're dead. What does it matter?
If you feel the need to ask, it probably makes you guilty tho and you probably shouldn't do it for your own sake.
Who are you disrespecting?
I've fapped to Audrey Hepburn before, so... no.
My roommate has this thing with incense. He fucking loves it, and pretty much has a stick burning every day at this point. Unfortunately, that shit bothers my throat and eyes. I've asked him to tone it down, but it just hasn't happened yet.
Before asking him to just stop it, does anyone have any ideas of how to compromise on this?
maybe stop being a sensitive cunt? it's just incense dude, relax.
>>16605667
>having trouble breathing
>too sensitive
I'm trying to not be an asshole but this is literally my home. Is a compromise too much to ask?
>>16605668
not at all, it's just incense he probably won't give a fuck either. This isn't a quandary, ask him to stop lighting incense in your home, no need for a trip to 4chan,
What's some kind of training, certification, or degree I can do in 2 years or less that will land me an okay ($35k-$40k/yr) job?
I'm interested in cars, motorcycles, computers, electronics, economics, finance, and music.
none, go work at the post office.
>>16605644
Post offices are getting shut down everywhere m8. The one in my town just bit the dust.
I try applying for the city postal office every single year and I never get any calls back. I took the postman exam once and aced it and still never got a call.
ASE Certifications can get you on the right track to getting an automotive based job.
Almost two months ago, in the first days of November, I went on a date with a girl, and the date went pretty smooth: she was nervous at first but then relaxed, we laughed, we drank, we even went for dinner on the old part of town. I thought she was a bit inexperienced in life, but personality and humor-wise I could easily connect with her.
Meanwhile, My ex who is also my best friend said that because she still had feelings for me if I wanted to pursue any type of relationship with that girl she would have to get out of my life to protect herself. I made the choice to...
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Btw, I did ask my closest friends for advice on this matter, but what I heard from them didn´t help me, that is why I came to /adv/
Any ideas on how to start talking to her again?
Nothing really?
