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What do you think about going for single moms as a late 20s male who doesn't have much going for him? I'm not actually going for them in particular but it seems like every cute girl I talk top have a 2year old or a 4 year old. I don't hate kids but how do you get to know the woman without letting her kids sway you. I'm fairly set financially but I just don't like the idea of having to look after hers and some other guys mistake.
>hers and some other guys mistake.
If you're calling their kids a mistake, you're better off not dating girls with kids. For your sake, and primarily theirs.
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If you aren't interested in caring for her kids I'd forget it. Also, the dad might still be in the picture which can make things weirder.
I honestly think you're just chatting up same-y women and are conflicted on if you want to give up and settle. I'd keep your options open. Not every woman is a parent.
My older sister found out a "flaw" of mine. She's been bawling her eyes out in her room for an hour now. I haven't talked to her yet, and I'm not sure how to approach her. Honestly I'm nervous she's never been this upset.
How can you possibly expect us to help you if you don't tell us what this "flaw" is?
>>16612327
What's your "flaw"?
>>16612361
She found ony laptop Skype messages to a 13 yr old girl.
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And please no derailing arguments.
Avoid asking these common questions:
>Is it normal for me to go to a club/bar by myself?
Yes. Stop overthinking this.
>Do girls/guys like <insert specific look>?
Some do, some don't.
>I'm shy and afraid of people/rejection. What do I do?
Think positive, and get over it by practicing and exposing yourself to it.
>I like someone. What do I do?
Ask them out.
>How can I tell if someone likes me?
Ask them out.
>Where do I meet girls/guys?
Anywhere outside. Or online.
>Is my body part big/small enough?
>Am I short/tall enough?
Most likely
>Someone did something insignificant. What does it mean?
Nothing significant. Stop overthinking it.
>XYZ happened. Did I fuck it up with this guy/girl?
Maybe, maybe not. We're not in their head, we don't know. No amount of your walls of text will fix that.
>This person did something that hurt my feelings. Why do guys/girls do this?
Because shit people are shit people. It's not a gendered thing
>Would you date a virgin?
As long as they aren't insecure about it. Complexes are a total turn-off.
>Someone has made it abundantly clear they're no longer interested in me. Do I still have a chance?
No
>Where do I go on a first (or subsequent) date?
Pick one or more of the following: coffee, lunch, dinner, drinks, ice cream, movies, zoo, aquarium, museum, art gallery, <activity in your city>
>That one guy who keeps asking about cuddling in platonic friendships
No one wants to cuddle you. Stop asking
>Brandon or Female Brandon
Piss off.
>Frog
Also piss off.
Guess I should have put it in the new thread
Women. How many of you are the innocent, not slut type. Like the amount of sexual partners youve hand can be counted on 1 hand and theyve all been in committed relationships that have lasted more than a few months.
See while I was committed to being a virgin I pulled the trigger and had sex with the girl I thought I was going to marry. Some circumstances came up and a long distance relationship just didnt work out. But now that I have had sex I want it more. And the worst part is that girls try to seduce me.
Mentally I just want to give up and admit defeat because this is in general how I assume most women act. Like sluts. But really I just want to know that there are some others out there, that think sex is important and something to share with others only in the upmost important relationships. Just want to know that Im not alone and that theres hope for meeting a girl who shares my beliefs. Only thing keeping me from sleeping around right now.
Really one of the things pushing me to is the idea that my future wife is out hoeing about right now betraying my beliefs. I dont really plan of being the "innocent" type as some people have called me when the woman I later marry isnt. I mean part of doing it is for her. All probably also just feel resentment if I do and probably try to hurt her in some way as a response so Im considering sleeping around just to avoid the future nightmare.
I know Im just making excuses but these are some deep rooted fears and I dont really want to do it as well as I dont think my ideals are wrong.
Whats the best way to tell my girlfriend that I want to see her more often?
>>16607661
Yes they exist. I'm like that.
Why do women think its okay to be a slut when they are younger but look for a nice guy when they get older and want to settle down.
Do they not think about how the nice guy. After years of women passing me up and going after chad were finally at the point were girls are looking to me to settle down and Ive literally told some of the ones that have been around since highschool days that they are used goods now and have nothing to offer.
Im starting to become resentful now. Like I wasnt at first but now that people are telling me that I should just settle down and pick a girl and not worry about their past I have to tell them to fuck off.
My words of course arent this harsh Im just venting a little.
How do I deal with my situation. I am thinking about settling down and having a kid soon. Im also worried that women my age suffer from problems with having kids (when youre in your 30s kids are more likely to have defects or something).
just keep looking for a good girl, it might be hard but you'll find her
>>16610518
How far into your 30s?
I would say under 35 is pretty safe and normal nowadays. Late 30s is more risky but doctors will walk you through it.
As for dealing -- I don't know.
Right before I settled down and had kids I was a sex slave to a BBC I met on Craigslist and I let him and his twin brother bang me out. I also had a threesome with strangers in Las Vegas and went to a sex club in Japan.
I know it hurts my man a lot - sometimes he jokes about black guys but usually he gets really upset.
But he was wild himself a bit, he did a lot of drugs and I know he once let a strange older Asian woman suck his dick.
All the guys I find interesting just want to fuck me, and I'm not attracted to the guys who actually want to date me. I have only been in one real relationship in my life (1 year and a half) and to this day I still regret dating my ex.
I'm a 24 yo female, no kids.
Am I doomed to be alone ?
>>16610067
As long as you keep being futile bitch living of shreds of society every decent man will be a disgust to your dream-spoiled mind. Good luck.
>>16610067
Your expectations are probably unrealistic.
If you were a female born in any other country besides America, you would be more down to earth. You were pampered too much.
Not that I think it's a superior system, but Indians who support arranged marriage say "Traditional marriage is like hot soup that gets cold. Arranged marriage is like cold soup that gets hot".
Why not actually try giving people a chance and, not necessarily lowering your standards, but have more realistic standards.
If you lowered your standards to the betacuck guys you would be in a great relationship with someone who cares about you and provides. But instead you go after alpha chad who pumps and dumps then complain how "all men are the same :(("
You'll generally settle down with someone around your level in your late 20's
Also, fuck you
How do I find out more about my girlfriend's guy friend she hangs out with without seeming insecure?
Hang out together. Maybe not just the three of you, but go to a social event where you'll all be. He might be a nice dude that doesn't want to bang your girlfriend, so don't jump the gun just yet.
If she avoids letting you guys meet, that's probably a red flag. Girls only assume you'll be jealous of the dudes they actually want to fuck.
>>16609062
Sound advice. You'll really want to pay attention to that last sentence OP.
>>16608991
invite him for a threesome
>Best friend is a cute girl and we spend a lot of time together
>I listen to hear stories and troubles and she talks about how Im such a good guy and not like the other guys out there
>I do a shit ton for her and am always there for her
>fall in love with her and build the courage to ask her out
>she friendzones me and I just say yeah its probably better that way
>doesnt talk to me for like a week
>she her is the cafeteria and wave at her but walk away to open the door for a girl I barely know
>she text me saying shes hurt and that I dumped her immediately for this girl
It was a misunderstanding but really she was the one not responding to my text for a week.
>I apologize to her and say I didnt know how to act
>suddenly really really wants to hang out
>tells me about a guy she just had sex with from tinder and how good it felt
>she starts cuddling with me (like laying down in a bed watching netflix intertwined)
>she can clearly feel my raging boner against her stabbing her
>she ignores it and starts talking about her guy trouble again and how she is in love with her ex
>I try to be a good friend and cheer her up, and listen to her troubles
>falls asleep next to me and we depart on good terms
>doesnt talk to me for another week.
I dont understand whats going on her. Like what does she think about me. does she really feel nothing for me. And if she doesnt why would she do this. Does she not know this makes me feel like shit. Im about to cry here.
I didnt want to feel these feels.
She's being a cruel bitch to you to feed her ego. Avoid her. She'll play with you and torture you until she's bored.
lmao dude find another girl to be in love with
she's just playing around with you, and you have proven to be someone who's very easy to manipulate
>she text me saying shes hurt and that I dumped her immediately for this girl
It was a misunderstanding but really she was the one not responding to my text for a week.
>I apologize to her and say I didnt know how to act
in my opinion you will be better off if you distance yourself from her
What's harder-getting a gf or getting a bf?
>>16609367
You can always find a fat girl willing to spend your money for a few months. Getting a guy to commit to anything but a lay can be rough if he doesn't have oneitis for you, especially if you already have kids.
Getting a gf is infinetly harder
If you're a girl there's always going to be a guy interested, doesn't matter about your body size/shape etc etc.
As a guy the number of hurdles we have to jump over is ridiculous. Put it this way, how many times do you hear a girl say "I like short guys/ guys with small dicks" etc etc
Sex partnership: getting a gf who isn't fat+rude+ugly is harder.
Permanent commitment: getting a husband who isn't broke+angry+slovenly is harder.
So I'm having my 1st date with someone tomorrow and I've already planned for ice skating (both of us don't know how so yea.. dunno how thats gonna go), dinner afterwards. I'm thinking of doing something fun after but i have no ideas what, I want to make the experience fun and unique, something like playing hide and seek at Barnes and Nobles or something but not that. Any ideas what to do after?
probably sex
nigga, you already have ice skating and dinner, that's like 10x the effort in I place in first dates
It's already cute and a fine first date. Don't want to make it too long.
>>16609910
Maybe go to a bar after dinner? Or take her back to your place.
Whatever you do don't play hide and seek in Barnes and Noble. It's a store, not a playground for autists
>invite a girl to the movies
>"ok! you don't mind if I bring my [male] friend, right?"
>"s-sure"
just fuck my shit up
why do I even bother
Time to move on to the next one! Not a bad thing to have more opportunities now.
She could have been hinting at a threesome.
Why would you even say yes if she's not interested in you.
Serious question /adv/
How do you deal with all your negative, cynical, hateful thoughts?
Everyone dislikes things... I'd love to know how people deal with it.
>cant express them or people wont like you
>if you bring them up around friends, friends distance themselves from you
>negative thoughts lead to negative mindsets,counterproductive to a good, healthy life
so what do you do with them?
step one: fail at life enough that a bad comment here or there won't make any difference
step two: don't have friends and don't talk much
I just throw them at people. If you have enough people to distribute them at and try to make a discussion out of it, you can get away with it.
If your friends can't deal with any negativity at all, you may want to realize those are friends only in name.
What negative thoughts do you mean exactly? As in political matters, social matters or personal?
For political shit I just bring up whatever with my friends or family assuming I know it's someone who are willing to discuss. My friends love actually discussing politics so I am open to counter points and arguments against whatever I was hateful towards. Don't cling to cynical thought without thinking about it.
If someone pisses me off at work or in public I for the most part just keep the negative thoughts to myself, though I will start talking back if I have to.
For the personal more mental negative shit that starts sticking with my I have my own trick I made up to help deal with it because it was causing me a lot of depression. At night while I'm lying in bed ill imagine I am having a conversation with another me, the cynical me. And just debate and argue against the cynical points your hateful you has made up. Some may be logical, others not so much.
Today was my first day ever at a strip club. My friend who frequents told me he'd do the talking for me. While I was there the girls working there kept touching my hair and messing it up. It was okay at first but then they made it really messy.
They asked me if I thought I was the boss just because of my hair. And others would say I was handsome. But I wondered if it was all talk or if they were just trying to get tips. Anyway, a really strange guy talked me up and asked me to come outside with him. He asked me if I smoked and I told him I didn't. Before we left the bar to go outside he knocked over his drink by accident and I picked it up. I told one of the ladies working there what happened and she was happy that I pointed it out to her. He wanted me to get into his truck, but I told him I was okay. He told me he just got out of prison and he kept talking to himself a lot. And the guy he claimed he was talking to was LUCIFER. It was really weird and I was afraid he wanted to kidnap me. He gave me some chocolate as a present but I was afraid it was drugged, so I never ate it. Before he left he gave me his business card and told me he had some under the table work and he asked me if I was interested. I refused the business card but he kept insisting. I told him not declaring your taxes is against the law, but he said that it was fine. I thought he might have been a cop or something. He looked really old, but really tough, and heavily built.
Anyway, I went back to the strip club. People kept asking me where they could do "blow" but I told them I had no idea and I don't do drugs. My friend asked me what girl I liked and I pointed out the prettiest girl there. I've never had a lap dance, so he did the talking for me and told her it was my first time.
She sat down and talked to me awhile and then grabbed me by the hand and took me with her. On my way there she asked me if I had a gf and I said "no" and she said "ill be ur gf tonite".
When I got there I was really surprised. In GTA series the girls never did this stuff. But she took her clothes off and started grinding on me. She told me to touch her. But I was afraid it was against the rules, so I asked her "really?". I was caressing her whole body. I was surprised I was allowed to touch her boobs.
She then asked me what I wanted to do and she'd do anything for me. She then asked me if I wanted her to take her panties off. I had a suspicion that she wanted to have sex so I refused because I didn't want to get an STD. And I didnt want her to grind her naked pussy on my pants, if she didnt. She kept saying I was cute a lot. Probably because I was so clueless. She then said she'd give me a blowjob. She was basically taking the lead because I didn't know what to do. At first I was rock hard, she stopped sucking a bit and told me I had a big guy. After awhile of it I got semi hard at times and then really hard again. I don't know if it was the alcohol or what. But I guess the mood didn't feel right. Yes, the girl was hot, but I was out of my comfort zone.
She told me she liked the fact that I was so nice to her and passionate with everything. Because I had also kissed her and stuff earlier on and I really meant it. The odd thing is she asked me my star sign, and I told her, then she said "that's mine", she then told me the day she was born on and I was born on the VERY SAME DAY and I told her. It was really weird. But I don't believe in astrology.
Anyway at the end of it all she gave me her number. She told me not to be shy and text or call to confirm its me. But I never did and I don't think I ever will. It was fun, but I don't understand the appeals of strip clubs. I just feel so dirty for going there in the first place. It's not my scene and I don't understand how people can do this stuff. I felt so guilty when I was walking out to private room with her too. I felt so wrong.
Do you have a girlfriend Anon?
top keks :)
Is it just me or does pussy start tasting weird if the girl is 24+ years old? Like it's this weird, metallic artificial taste hard to explain. But every older girl I've been with has it.
Also younger girls, 18-20, have this really fresh laundry, lavender taste. I swear to god I'm being genuine right now even if that sounds creepy.
The woman I am fucking is 32, has a kid, tastes good, tight pussy & f/sucks like a pro.
My ex was 19, had a fishy old meat? smell, tasted like shit, loose pussy & starfish in the sack
Depends
Wimminz in my age group I found to be cleaner and fuck better. Taste varies.
Might just be you. I've never enjoyed the taste of pussy.
>inb4 gay
>>16609133
Depends on their diet and cleaniness.
Most of the time at my job is spent sittting at a desk doing nothing.
What's a skill I could learn to pass the time?
>>16609080
memorization like mind palace and shit
then you can use that skill set to learn any other skill based off that
>>16609080
typing
or actually showing initiative in doing your job
Use your time to find a better job.
>being with Gf for about 4y
>awesome relationship, no way i'm leaving her
>she being extra-anxious about not getting pregnant (i agree with her)
>she being extra-anxious about taking pill because of hypothetical casualties
>she got many tests (including DNA) to identify real risks and apparently she has V Leiden factor mutation
I hate having sex with a condom, especially because it is only to prevent pregnancy.
I hate the idea of having sex with a fucking condom for the rest of my life and being allo web to barefuck her only when agreeing to have children.
What do?
Get over it OR get a vasectomy. Talk to the doctor about the possibility of having it reversed later, idk.
>>16609076
Really?
Getting over not enjoing the most beautiful experience a man could actually experience is a big deal...
What if vasectomy is not reversible?
Porn has given us so much but sometimes demands something back
>>16609047
Get bigger condoms. Odds are your dick is getting choked by the standard ones. You don't need a monster dong for magnums.
