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How does a young college guy get started in male escorting? (Or alternatively, how does one find and get involved with a sugar momma?)
Not necessarily prostitution- it's hella illegal where I live- just like... professional dating, if you can call it that?
With my current job I occasionally get repeat customers that are older women who like to be flirty with me. One actually mentioned she was looking for a partner for dance classes that I'd been previously interested in and was dropping some pretty heavy hints that she wanted me to offer to come with her, but...
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>>16613570
Also I should mention that I'm not opposed to sex stuff, that's just not my main priority. Also worth noting that I've been texting the woman from Tinder over the past few minutes trying to setup a lunchdate or something and she just texted me "I wish I could be alone with you".
Anything?
I think there are websites for this. Websites like seeking arrangements and what not.
You could also try okcupid for older ladies.
Good luck anon!
My boyfriend broke up with me due to the distance that came between us and his uncertainty about future. He's a Muslim and thinks he will eventually marry someone his parents pick for him. I waited around for my previous boyfriend for a long time he says he doesn't want to waste my time like him if he doesn't know what future will bring.
It's so hard to accept that it's over. He says he cares about me and we can still talk but I don't know if I should. I want to speak to him so much but I don't want to annoy him with my heartbreak and...
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>He's a Muslim
>I'm just really confused right now
Clearly.
>>16613544
Why would you want to be with a wife-beater?
>>16613547
>He's a Muslim
>I'm just really confused right now
Yeah I know, it's probably better this way because the thought of bringing up my children as Muslims scared me but it doesn't make it hurt any less.
Hi /fit/. I recently saw an escort because I've had terrible sexual experiences all my life and wanted to try again with someone Id never have to see again if something went bad. Well it went great. I had fun and it was a huge confidence booster knowing I could get it up and perform well. I'm glad I did this.
I'm going to see escorts a few more times before college is finished. My goal is to become sexually experienced so that I can have sex with a partner without having a panic attack and so I can know what to expect and what happens (although obviously with a partner there's love and affection).
My question for this is, should I see the same escort and practice different positions, try new things, etc or see a new escort each time? Would practicing with the same person multiple times or trying it once with different escorts better prepare me for the future, making me more comfortable with being nude around people and actually having sex and not being way too nervous?
>>16613542
It sounds to me like your issue is mostly about nervousness and overstimulation. Seeing multiple partners will be the best course to overcome that. Novelty is stimulating. In situations with new 'real' partners there is also additional pressure to perform and create a good first impression. If these have been issues for you in the past, or you believe them likely issues in your future, go for quantity over quality.
If your difficulties are more technical in nature (what to do when where and how),...
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Why do you have to have an escort for practice instead of another girl you could bang for free?
>>16613788
Because if I was able or comfortable getting a normal girl or gf I wouldn't be in this situation to begin with
Aside from physical appearance (let's say she is a 7/10), what makes a woman out of reach?
>>16613511
The fact that she's a woman.
I wouldn't date someone way more stupid, less ambitious or less emotionally stable than me.
That's pretty much it.
>>16613539
By less intelligent, do you mean his mental acuity or his level of education? Let's say the woman has a Master and the guy is a fireman (no college education), is she immedietly out of reach for him?
Turning 21 in a week any of you anons have any advice or wisdom to offer me?
>>16613466
IN five years you'll regret not doing it sooner.
>>16613467
This. Some embarrassment now is worth avoiding the regret you'll feel in five or ten years from not doing something cool.
>>16613466
Don't move in with your GF
Hi, this is weird. I dont know where else to ask this.
I took lsd a couple years ago, not for the first time, not the last either. And I had this really different experience, like the thought that "I wasnt top shit" REALLY hit home. I became very much so aware of how thoughtless, inconsiderate and unappreciative I could be, and was.
It was a shock, but I took it well, and there were a lot of good things that came out of it. It was like seeing the world in a new light, for the first time. So weird. I became so much more sensitive to all the little things going on around me.
Anway, none of this I could really explain to mates, and none of which has been able to relate to as yet.
So that was 2 years ago or so, and I managed to just well, REALLY be myself. From an arrogant, egocentric, confident guy, to a quiet, observing and thoughtful guy. I liked it, I didnt project myself at all, I cant explain how comfortable I was in my own skin.
How I feel now is a totally different story. I hurt, like my chest feels heavy. Im finding I cant handle a lot of social situations, or expectation. Ugh, like this hurts. I was thinking the other day that I should try projecting myself a little more, and putting more effort into conversation and people. Even though I feel like Im surrounded by people I dont think Ill ever see eye to eye with.
I should have mentioned that after that trip, due to life circumstances I had changed friend groups. From a pretentious uni student neo-urban-hippy friend group, to a rough n ready labouring group of lads.
CAn anyone sorta shed light on what was it I experienced or .. fuck, anything?
>>16613413
I don't know but this is really interesting, I'd love it if you'd write more.
It was an awegawking moment for you when you took that trippy feel. Becoming more sensitive means becoming more receptive.
But if you've taken too much load, then you need to be able to carry that load. If you've taken up too much than your body can handle, ease out a little.
I think it's good you're no longer pretentious. But you shouldn't end up whining because you've gone the rough honest road.
>>16613413
I think you've answered your own question. LSD can help some people change the way they act and how they treat others. It's not wonder that Steve Jobs said it was one of the most important moments in his life.
It sounds to me like you are considering taking it again because you somehow think that the effects have worn off or something. That is not the case. I mean, if you want to take it again, go for it, but you can't rely on it every time you want to feel better.
Also, if you do take it, be very safe about it. Get a test kit if possible and trip in a comfortable setting with a sitter if possible. Make sure you're only around people that you are very comfortable with.
i joke around with a lot of my friends when we're chilling at the bar, and the most reoccurring roast about me is that I'm extremely pretentious (I wear a shit ton of flannel and I'm a jazz pianist, what do you expect?). I always laugh and go with it, because I don't want to be the hypocrite who dishes out really offensive jokes but gets emotional when shit comes back my way. However, a friend of mine started getting pissy with me because I couldn't come to her concert, and I told her to chill and she went on a fucking frenzy. Most of it I understood...
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I thing it's pretentious to add complexity where none is needed.
Every hat should serve a purpose.
>>16613332
I think people use pretentious as a way to call someone obnoxious in a know it all way. If a lot of people call you it they probably find your personality obnoxious.
Sounds like your making a big deal out of nothing which is an extremely obnoxious trait.
>>16613338
good way of putting it. is someone who adds complexity where none is needed automatically doing something pretentious, or can it just be due to them being not that good at saying shit?
>>16613347
when i think of it being obnoxious, I would imagine myself being really defensive about the situation. i think i'm just scared of being a douche even when I don't try to be.
Hey /adv/, does online dating work?
I'm in high school and I have trouble meeting people outside of school because I'm not in any clubs or sports teams or anything like that. I'm kind of sick of being single.
If online dating doesn't work, what should I do instead?
Shit, wrong pic
>>16613165
Join a club and get to know a girl there. Ask for her number, get lunch sometime. If something Sparks tell Her how you feel asap to avoid destination friend zone.
If for some reason the club idea doesn't work, find a chick with common interests in a class. If you both hate a teacher or like a subject, use that as your key to get to know them better.
>>16613208
Any clubs you'd recommend?
I love the life style of a stoner, I live the stoner lifestyle but what are the bad affects of weed, really I smoke it like once a week and the worst thing that happens to me is being off the subject at school
>>16612981
What the fuck is "the stoner lifestyle"? Sounds like a 15 year old who hangs a Bob Marley poster and wears tie dye because they smoked once.
>>16612981
Are you 13?
>Lack of motivation
>Money goes toward weed
>Higher tendamcy to be a slob
>Chance of attracting a bad crowd of friends
>Higher chances of paranoia and/or anxiety
This was the case for me at least, if you're living the "stoner lifestyle" then evaluate your life before you started smoking everyday and how it is now.
I (18 m) was on a trip to NY by myself last week and lost my virginity to an escort because I just wanted to have some fun and get my virginity out of the way. But now I left NY and suddenly lost all desire for other girls and all I want is to chat and kiss that escort again. I still have her phone number but I know I won't be going back to NY for a very long time.
What should I do, anno? Should I try forgetting her? Text her and tell her what I feel? It's really bothering me right now.
Gotta move on bro. She doesn't give a fuck about you.
>he thought losing his virginity to a hooker was a good idea
>>16612961
Stop. You're hung up on her because she was your first. You need to banish these feelings immediately. She doesn't care about you other than for your wallet. He job is to fuck dudes and you're just another customer to her. Please, the the sake of your sanity go find a girl who likes you.
What do you guys think of handlebar moustache?
And what sort of style goes with it? Is style necessary?
Its one of those things/styles that doesn't work on most people, and those it does work on tend to be attractive without it.
>>16612953
Or the complete opposite, and they're completely unattractive without it
It's stupid as fuck and unless you exclusively hang out with hipsters, everyone else is going think it's dumb. A guy I work with has them and everyone thinks its a joke.
If you don't care, then go for it.
How do you kill that part of yourself that keeps daydreaming about romantic love?
I have everything I need and I don't need this.
What finally killed my desire for it was realizing how terrible women are. Go to any of these PUA websites and read about people's experiences with dating. Or read about dating website experiments, or look at surveys of women's voting patterns and political views.
What women are in the 21st century is the polar opposite of what men want in a romantic partner. Once you realize that, your daydreaming will cease.
>>16612929
I'm gay.
I knew men don't love women the way women love men, but it was saddening to realise that I'll never know love, either.
>but it was saddening to realise that I'll never know love, either.
Why do you feel this way? Admittedly, I don't know anything about the gay dating scene or what being gay is like, but maybe you can shed some light on that.
I really want to get my boyfriend a pet since he has always wanted one. The problem is that he can be such a slob and generally unreliable that I am afraid of bringing another soul into his place. I don't think he would take care of it properly...
Should I get one for him anyway or should I wait until he is a decent human?
Since he wants to act like a fucking child, maybe start with something small, like a fish, one that doesn't require much maintenance.
>>16612758
>Should I get one for him anyway or should I wait until he is a decent human?
Wait, for the love of god, wait.
>>16612758
Get cat ears and become his pet op
I tried this thread earlier but occidentally broke the rules, and was kindly advised by a mod to delete thread and try again
I have just bought this laptop, second hand but never been used for 460.
http://www.amazon.co.uk/HP-15-j142na-i7-4700MQ-Graphics-Windows/dp/B00KU2K0RG
The only difference is it has a solid state drive rather than a harddrive.
I am a car/motorbike guy so im not so great with computers.
Did i get a reasonable enough deal?
How do i maintain/ look after and keep it running at optimum performance.
All i can...
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and people wonder why we ask /b/ /pol/ and /sci/ rather than /adv/.... no one ever answers sensible simply questions.... its always gay faggy feelings shit
>>16612732
Keep your downloads folder pretty clean.
Download CCleaner and use it every few days.
Uninstall programs you don't use - especially if they are stupid ones that came with the computer.
Stick to streaming porn instead of downloading it.
Don't run any .exe file unless you really trust where you downloaded it.
>>16612890
>its always gay faggy feelings shit
I agree HEAVILY with this post.
A girl I haven't talked to since middle school left my messages of "Hey, How've you been?" On seen, I sent one extra question mark an hour after the first message. Should I send her something asking why she's not answering or what? We were friends in middle school.
mesage went like this
2:30 PM
"Hey, Long time no see :)"
"How've you been?"
3:30 PM
"?"
seen
Would It be weird If i sent something, Or should I stop bugging her?
>>16612648
Wow dude you're going to scare her off.
Slow your role.
>>16612651
Are you being serious?
It's been 6 hours since I sent her something.
>>16612648
Stop bugging her anon. It will save you the embarrassing feeling you feel when you send another and its on "seen". wait a few days for a response, if not give up
