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What do you guys think of race mixing? I'm white and my girlfriend is Japanese, already talking about getting kids.
>>16617951
It's fine? This isn't the 1950's
I meself dont mind. I thin black/white relationships are frowned upon in some places. And maybe thai/older men as well.
White/japanese is "tolerated" better i think. In the end fuck the rest man. If you both feel up to it i wish you all the luck !
>>16617951
Fine by me as I got to mix my seed with her insides.
>"I don't really want a relationship, with anyone!"
What is she really trying to say?
>don't really want a relationship with YOU
>>16617933
Confirmed
>>16617929
she doesn't like you
My girlfriend gets hit on a lot. Not sure how to handle it anymore, though. Aren't I right for being uncomfortable?
Imagine if we went out and all day women were begging for my dick in front of her. Sure, I'd say fuck off. But come on.
>>16617848
When she gets hit on you hit her. She'll learn to stay indoors.
>>16617848
This is happening right in front of you? Wow, talk about beta. No one respects you, haha.
You just mark your territory. If a guy starts to check me out, my bf just casually comes over and kisses me. Case closed.
Meet girl. We go on dates and just talk all night despite work in the morning. No sex. No kissing. Just talking. Eventually we have sex. It's amazing. We start a relationship. It's perfect. I've been shit at relationships my whole life. Try to be good this time. She's teaching me Spanish. Do overtime at work to afford a nice evening. I learn "I'm in love with you" in Spanish. The big day comes. She hasn't spoken to me in two days. Calls me and breaks it off.
I give up. I'm fucking done.
The consequence of being as lonely as you sound is that you never had people teach you to hang the least expectation possible on the shoulders of others. Perhaps, sadly, this actually was the best thing going on in your life right now. That still doesn't make it a good bet to rely on other people. It's why we all advocate finding the "best thing in life" on your own. Whatever it is that you find, it'll probably end up being more reliable than other human beings.
How long did this go on for? Anymore context?
>>16617800
Lonely? Maybe. I have no issue attracting women. Maybe this was the first time I was in love. I've never wanted to do anything nice for someone before. I was fine before her.
Long story short, my gf of 2yrs cheated on me multiple times and still lies about it even though I have concrete proof. She slept with multiple guys and admitted it herself. This is not the first time, the past few times she said she was sorry and promised me that it will never happen again. Yet again and again, she cheat on me. Last night I pressed her to tell me the truth, and she told me how she kisses the other guy and how they had sex in detail to how she gives him handjobs and blowjobs. How she ride him and where she allow him to cum on her. She used the `I was drunk` as an excuse. I cannot forgive her after she cheated on me so many times. Problem is that I still love her madly. I know that she`s not loyal and she won`t change. But I still love her, I can`t eat, can`t sleep, can`t focus at school or work. Everyone tell me to forget her, but I can`t. I still love her. What should I do? Please help me.
Typing this drunk.
If you don't dump that bitch...
>>16617728
You're either an incredible fool or desperate. Leave her you dolt.
I realize it's difficult to let go of someone you love even if they don't care about you. My girlfriend is a bit promiscuous and everyone says to leave her, but I can't you know? Not yet.
I suggest you start looking for someone else right now. Find someone that makes you happy and will actually be loyal. Then you'll soon start forgetting about a bitch who only cares about herself.
>be kid
>get abused by parents for having shitty marks and being bad at school in genreal
>start faking signature of parents so I dont have to show them my tests
>start lying
>cheating in tests etc
>still gettin abused
>dad is always away gambling
>losses shit ton of money
>mum is crying all the time
>they both use me to vent out
>have literally no room nor a bed
>dad abuses till Im 14 years old
>he stops bcause "he didnt wanted to hear my "stop screams" anymore"
>sleeping on the couch in the same room with parents for 18 years
>manage to get better in school
>never complain
>never wanted things cuz I knew we havent money
>dad tells me that Im the reason why we dont have any money
>"I wish you never were born"
>we cant finally relocate
>Im 18 at that time
>have finally a bed and a room
>maybe things will be ok
>get a crush on my bff
>he also has a crush on me
>we get together
>but have to keep it a secret because of my panrets
>he complains and whants to breka up because he cant handle the secrecy anymore
>"pls dont"
>tell my mum that I have bf so he doesnt have to break up
>she starts crying "youre a boy not a girl"
>"youre not the anon I know"
>"I want grandchildren"
>"kill yourself anon"
>"ok mum I will stop"
>bf breaks up at the same night
>next day he says he made a mistake
>be together again
>mum doesnt know
>she doesnt allow me to get out and hang out with friends
>she doesnt belive me that I broke up with him and that Im "normal" again
>go out to play vidya with bf
>she calls me tells me to come back home and that I need help and that Im not normal
>I start crying
>few months later
>at friends with bf
>had a fight that day with family
>bf knows
>always stand by my bf
>he walks away
>try to talk with him
>he turns away
>get drunk because I cant handle it anymore
>fall down and cry
>tell bf that I need him
>he tells me that he want to smoke weed and chill
>tell him to dont do it and that he should stay with me because Im sad
cont.
>he refuses
>tell him that I will break up with him if he does smoke weed
>he does
>Im done with everything
>drunk,sad and mad
>punch him while crying
>walk away
>its 4am or something
>Im drunk as fuck
>about 40km away from home
>end up staying at friends
>1 week later end up again with bf
>bf still egotrips me that my actions were shit and that he was right etc
>bf decides to move away because of his uni
>I tell him to take me with him and that I dont want to wait 1 year at home where I get terrorized
>get wasted few nights just because I want to forget
>bf says he will think about it
>ask him few weeks later
>"anon it was always my dream to go to the uni"
>"but you could take me with you"
>"no sorry anon I want to live alone"
>"but you are the only thing that makes me happy anymore"
>he leaves
>we have a ldr
>I switch off my emotions
>cant handle this whole situation anymore
>Im 20
>my parents still are kinda stalking me
>they check my fb
>I had shit like "bi gender, non gender,etc" in my bio
>they start shouting at me
>crying
>I try to tell them that it was sarcasm and I wanted to be funny
>mum makes vomit voices
>I just walk away
>Ive become abusive and agressive over few years
>chocked one guy because he was annoying me
>I always wanted to be better than my parents
>now Im even worse
>bf is away
>bf talks how the poeple there are good looking and super smart
>bf always chats and flirts with a girl
>for 4months
>I ask him if he ever mentioned me to her
cont.
>"no"
>he literally left me down and couldnt protect me or tried
>everyone in my life who should be loving me abandoned me and I feel betrayed
>I cant love and trust anyone anymore
>still get terrorized at home
>dont even know if I love my bf anymore
>he tells me that he wants to relocatoe to nyc or london because of his future job
>he never told me of it
>I dont care/know anymore
so yeah...
Im almost 21 and yeah should I kill myself? I dont think that its worth anymore,I guess some people cant achieve happiness
TLDR:
>My life was shit
>My life is shit
>My life will stay shit
>Should I kill myself? y/n
Is there any hope that my life could be better, if so help is welcome
I'm heading towards a cross road. I'll be graduating with a degree in neuroscience soon. I've realised I do not want to pursue research in any capacity.
So, I've been researching other options. marketing was one, but I dislike the office environment.
I have a military family, so I thought maybe becoming an intelligence officer would be an interesting career.
But I really don't know.
I need advice. Please help. I'm freaking out.
youre signing up to be a tool for the elite. some people dont mind that, they just want an adventure, arent interested in long term global consequences or even want to be a part of that elite (no matter their role), but you have to ask yourself do i believe in this elite? do they represent me, my children, my country, etc.? do you agree with the ones steering the ship?
>should I become an army officer?
No.
>>16617671
Being in the military is a huge commitment.
You can't just decide one day you want to do something else.
So I was renting a flat and basically scanned and sents scans of the agreement to my landlord, who acknowledged it but didn't send back with his signature. Everything is fine but my lease is ending soon (i'll be leaving this country). I pay rent on time etc. Should I be worried I may get fucked up bc I don't have landlords signature?
>>16617655
as long as there is no deposit you are worried about having returned, you dont have to worry.
>>16617673
there is deposit though
>>16617731
then you probably l arent getting that back. depending on length of stay, that isnt unusual. after a year you generally shouldnt expect your deposit back.
Girlfriend went to a classy club with her single friend when I was away.
I asked her if they met anyone and she just replied "some guys". I left it at that.
A day later I'm feeling insecure. Do I just try and forget about it all or ask for more details?
>>16617650
What history does your chick have?
She get really flirty with you when she had a previous boyfriend? Cheat on previous boyfriends, etc.?
Do her friends do any of the above?
And does she drink to excess when out on the town?
>>16617659
No history I know of. She's pretty hot and gets hit on in public.
She was single when we met.
Her friend got smashed and was trying to meet guys I heard.
She drinks enough to be on a good buzz, but not drunk.
Don't bother, sounds like she's purposely being vague to rile feathers.
So its been 12 hours since i broke up with gf and its 4:46am, tried to get to sleep but every time i fall asleep I keep thinking my ex-gf is right next to me and wake up shaking and my legs and head go really hot, thinking about how much of a selfish slut she is
ps. drove past the guys house who shes cheating on me with and her car is there
Ive cut all contact,
how do I deal with this?
Just suck it up and wait it out. Distract yourself when possible, it will likely take time.
Get mad or cry or whatever, there's no real closure so let your shit out.
At the end of the day, though, try not to look back on or idolize the 'good times'. The more you look back on things the longer it'll take to move on.
Go out and either get hammered or take a shitload of drugs, possibly followed by promiscuous sex. That's how I'd handle it.
As soon as you can, you should then follow that up with a healthy dose of self-improvement. Show her what she's missing out on. Get fit, eat well, keep busy and most of all, be happy. Do whatever it takes to be happy.
Time will heal you. But for now shit is fonna hurt bad. In the meantime, keep yourself occupied.
How do you deal with being ugly when you're also short and have a high-pitched voice?
>>16617594
Become a woman?
By not giving a fuck and forgetting about those features
And or being rich. Decide which is easier for you
>>16617597
I don't mean like Natalie Dormer -style ugly-in-a-really-cute-way -ugly. I mean neanderthal-with-fetal-alcohol-syndrome -ugly.
Hi.
I'd like to turn my life around in exactly one day.
Thoughts:
-wakeup early
-buy all new clothes, clean entire place, throw out everything I don't want/use
-make a new resume and apply to actual careers that are better than my minwage part time shit
-or apply to a bunch of colleges and universities
-reconnect with a bunch of people i like that i let fade out of my life
-tell some girls i know i like them maybe set up a date
-grocery shop and get everything needed for a new diet
-set an exercise routine
What are your thoughts? Have you ever done something like this?
am i low level manic right now?
Nah not in one day. More like a week. And set your goals properly.
Don't take on too much or you will be prone to fail and feel bad about it. Take one goal at a time
>>16617510
>>16617520
if i do it too slow the fear and comfort will creep in and i might not do anything ? : S
anxiety is a bitch to get over even to help yourself
i had a weird dream, could anyone here help me find the meaning to it?
Short explanation first: this dream includes a friend of mine. this friend was my best friend until i revealed that i had a crush on her, and showed it in my actions, and then she blocked me out and "dropped" me for a bit. she's still my friend, but the old feelings of a crush aren't really there anymore.
the dream started off with my mom, my sister, my friend, and i at my sibling's dad's house for a party. it was seemingly in the evening. i don't remember too much of the party, but that my friend and i were hanging out, and we were happy. then it went to everyone being in my mom's car, we were driving through a neighborhood, trying to find my friend's house. it wasn't my friend's neighborhood, nor did we pull up to her house, but we pulled up to a house that was apparently her family's. i walked up to the door with her, and then i gave her a long hug. the hug felt real, and i was smiling. then we both let go and i saw that she was crying. her face was all red, she was sobbing. i grabbed her shoulders and tried to ask her what was wrong, and she didn't answer so i hugged her again. my mom and sister were still in the car and honked the horn for me to go, but i screamed back something about my friend being upset. she pulled away from the hug and ran into her house. i pulled out my phone and immediately tried to message her to ask what was wrong. i started running to my mom's car and that's when the dream ended.
all during the scenes where we were at my sibling's dad's house, it seemed as if there was a yellow filter over everything i saw. all during the part where i was with my friend, hugging her, etc. it looked as though there was a white filter, though other colors were still prominent.
thanks
There are a lot of things that seem to point out that you feel very lonely. And i guess it's pretty obviois that you still have feelings for your friend.
>>16617470
First of all, I take the C.G. Jung approach to dreams, if that says you anything.
I have no idea why you have that dreams or what they mean, because i´m not you. This dreams are a generated by your subconsciousness and only have a message to you.
So I can only ask questions and maybe help you to understand your dreams, I can´t offer any clear message.
When driving around to find your friends house, did you feel like you were in the wrong neighborhood or was that a clear observation (the feeling of being in the wrong place and actually being in the wrong place are quite different in dreams)?
What do you think made her run away in your dream?
The white filter you mention in the end, was it still there when she ran away?
>>16617470
Dreams don't have meaning themselves. The associated emotions and images cause us to project meaning onto the dream. So if you feel lonely you'll have a lonely dream. Obviously you haven't settled things with your friend so that's where this is coming from. Don't try and go any deeper than this.
Sup /adv/ I'm a bit confused about my emotional state.
I'm not really an emotional person, and it's been a pretty steady decline in expression throughout my teenage years and now into my 20s. It's at the point where I have to fake emotion to keep people engaged in conversation and what have you, but it's becoming increasingly rare where I actually feel that emotion.
I can however, trigger emotion using a set of mental gymnastics. It usually requires some visualization (visual and auditory) for me to feel those emotions. I don't think the frequency of emotions, or the range at which they're felt, is particularly different. In general my emotional state is muted. Not to the point of perfect apathy, but muted, quite equally.
I've had points in my life where I've felt less and been more apathetic but it's been a shorter period, and times where I've felt a limited number of emotions (such as anger), but this is new to me.
What's the diagnosis /adv/?
Can you give an example of a situation where you feel like you lack emotions?
>>16617469
Err, I guess? I skipped Christmas dinner this year with my family to sleep instead; I should probably have felt bad or something, but just nothing really. I play a lot of sports and I'm completely indifferent to winning and losing, as long as the game challenges me. I'm not really fussed about the status of my university work as long as it passes.. I dunno what else to put here. I'm trying to think of things I should probably care about enough to feel something for.
>>16617456
I'm kinda like you, i just don't give a fuck, i'm indifferent to almost everything and everyone, but i'm still able to have a healthy social life and do normal stuff(bar, parties, family reunions), the thing is, you don't need to change yourself, just adapt to situations when is needed, i've never complained about lacking emotions cause at the end of the day, i'm happy with my life.
Have big feet for grill, what do.
Wear size 10 US and I see people always joke around.
Old crush of mine even made a post on FB about it and it kinda hurt me.
My question is, how much do guys care about feet.
marry a foot fetishist, that's what I'm doing
>>16617427
Not that much, I just it was that occasion as it was the thing to laugh of your feet and shit, which sound really sad and immature, but yeah no real problem and he was just a faggot anon.
>>16617427
Are you serious?
