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For people in serious relationships who live with their bf/gf, what is an acceptable amount of time to spend with your friends?
I usually go out once every other week (sometimes two weeks in a row, but rarely), for about 4-5 hours for one night. Gf has complained this is excessive, I don't see it that way. I should also mention I don't drink or go to bars (none of my friends do either), or hang out with other girls. We basically just watch movies, play video games, typical stuff.
Also, before anyone asks why I don't bring her, its because of the social dynamic. My other friends have gfs (one is married), but typically we all just hang out without them. Its always been that way.
In my opinion, there are three big reasons why hanging out with friends could become a problem: 1) You end up flaking on your gf/bf for them. 2) you do shady activities like going out and partying, not telling them where you are, hiding who you're with, etc. 3) You actually spend more time with them than your SO. Seeing as how I do none of that, I don't see a problem. Thoughts?
>>16622773
first and foremost, yes you are right that there is nothing wrong with what you are doing. you do not exist to cater to your girlfriend, you are not her siamese twin, you can hang out with your friends all she wants. if she doesnt have anything to do for 10 hours a fucking month then she needs to reflect on that herself, either by getting more friends or a simple hobby to keep her busy.
all that being said, there is no 'acceptable'. its all between you and your partner. there isnt a go to, or a 'general idea' or a consensus.
i hung out with my best friend every freaking day, and he really only his his gf in the evenings, and even then i was around a lot.
she hated this, made him cut ties with not just me, but all of his friends, and i only ever saw him once after that. fun fact, they were engaged, and yet after she made him drop us from his life, the wedding fell through.
moral is, your friends and family will generally see you through thick and thin. most of those relationships 'fade out'. you shouldnt put too much investment in a romantic relationship, because those tend to end with a bang, and if you cut off all your friends, you'll have nothing left.
personal feelings aside, reign her in, explain that its normal and healthy to hang out with friends.
I have been with my bf for 7 years, have been living together for 4 1/2. I'm 23, he's 25.
We go out at least once a week alone with our own friends and on Friday we go out together with mine or his friends. We often have people over for lunch or dinner and sometimes they sleep here.
Keep hanging out with your friends and family, and have your own life outside your relationship. Your girlfriend is being unreasonable. If you still spend a LOT of time with her, having time for yourself and people you love is necessary.
Something I probably should've mentioned is that she has no friends or family. I think this makes her bothered that I'm able to indulge in thing she wishes she could do, but is unable.
Basically whenever I hang with friends it reminds her she doesn't have any. That's my theory, anyway. I think she'd care less about me spending time with my own if she had some.
And I will never give up my friends, not that they are more important than her, but the principle of being able to keep something that makes me happy in my life should be acknowledged...
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What's an equivalent of word "hunk" but referring to a female?
Use your imagination on this one
Semen deamon?
>>16622647
Jaguar.
Fierce.
Zesty.
Or just plain sexy.
>>16622647
Chunk
Punk
Skunk
Funk
What should I be doing on my birthday /adv/?
I am a boring person.
Try suck your own dick it took me 7 hours to finally get it. This will fill up your day you retarded price of shit
>>16622620
Whatever you want. It's your birthday. I always get breakfast and lunch with my SO, and then have dinner with my family.
>>16622620
It's my birthday today too. Happy Birthday. I went for a hike. I'm boring too. It must be a Capricorn thing.
What kind of new year's resolutions should I make? I'm planning on making a whole list.
>>16622613
At least have the common decency to stand when taking a mirror selfie.
>>16622625
Not even duck facing too.
>>16622625
She is too fat for that don't be mean
I need some advice on how to just shut down my brain.
Firstly I'll tell you the story.
It's been a long time now since all this happened but some nights, like tonight, it gets stuck in my head and its hard to get out.
Ofcourse there's a girl involved, exgf.
Well..
I was together with her for about 2 years (break up is about 2.5 years ago, like I said... Still bothers me sometimes)
What bothers me is not that that I can't have her back, it's more about how clumsily handled our entire break up was on her part.
>we...
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Bump for interest.
>>16622565
Well the following weeks just turned to shit!
They were texting all the fuckin time, it bothered me but I didn't want to act like the jealous bf so I let her do it for a while, hoping that she would remember what an asshole this guy actually is.
After a while it became too much and I asked her straight (paraphrased)
>Me: "Are you falling for him?"
>Her: "No, I just like talking with him"
>Me:...
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>>16622644
Eventually I had enough..
I loved her but I wasn't going to share her with this guy..I confronted her.. I was very frustrated by then so I probobly came across in all the wrong ways.
I told her off straight.
(Again paraphrased)
>me: Now listen here.. I don't like you being around this guy period, I've tried keeping an open mind about you being friends with your ex, I tried giving you your space to "deal with it in your own way" I did everything you told...
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Usually if I have chemistry with a girl the conversation just happens naturally, but some fallback topics would be nice. Any tips?
>>16622500
How was your day?
Have you seen this recent movie?
Does my napkin smell like chloroform to you?
>>16622500
>How many times am I going to fuck you tonight?
>Can my friend come over and tag team you?
>You're cool with herpes, right?
>I don't use a condom so don't expect one.
>Do you have any sisters?
>How many glasses of wine does it take to get you drunk? Waiter! I'll take that many glasses please.
Easy...
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>>16622517
>Cool with herpes?
Implying that 90% of the population doesn't already have it
Implying that the symptoms aren't mild to none
What should I do, /adv/?
I'm in the midst of trying to change my life for the better, but I keep getting distracted.
I'm addicted to games and mindlessly browsing the internet.
What do I do?
Tell me this what exactly do you want?
Bump or interest. I too have this problem
>>16622427
I want to start focusing more time on reading and developing my skills while properly handelling my education.
I want to start focussing on the things that are critical to my life. But I just keep sidetracking to distractions.
For example, after doing any amount of work I just fall into a 10 hour marathon of gaming.
Be me. Never dated before. Use OK cupid and meet this really nice black girl. Great ass and tits. Lose virginity to said girl. Don't know how relationships work though so I don't know if I'm dating this girl, or just like fwb. She seems to be just as into me as I'm into her but I'm taking to another girl that's in my building that I'd like to fuck too. Help?
You're going to hell anon.
>>16622402
Why?
How about just asking the first girl?
Is it better to risk getting too drunk on new year's, or not drunk enough?
>>16622339
I see no risk involved in getting too drunk at new year's eve.
>>16622339
Of course it's better to risk getting "not drunk enough".
>>16622339
depends what the risk is. so much that you die? wouldn't risk it. so much that you cant remember anything? why not. its new years. do what you want.
I'm already 25 and have only a semester of college under my belt
My fiancee has a really good career and I'm stuck making barely above minimum wage at the moment.
Should I just go ahead and get a CDL and become a trucker? I can't really think of anything else in demand that I can finish training for before I reach my 30s.
How taxing is it on a relationship? Am I going to eventually become single because of this?
I would really like to hear from femanons who have trucker bfs.
>>16622279
you're going to become single either way, so you shouldnt be making decisions based on what you think will keep your girlfriend around. if its one thing we can count on a relationship for, is that it will come to an end.
that being said, i dont really recommend being a trucker. probably the most boring job there is. and yes, they do tend to lead to a lot of perpetually single men because you dont have the opportunity to exercise regularly, diet properly, or be around women consistently.
>>16622302
You really know how to rain on a parade.
>>16622308
>guys i need advice, is this true?
>yes, it is true
>WOW YOU REALLY KNOW HOW TO RAIN ON A PARADE
hmmm.
I'm 20 years old, diagnosed autistic, and have no one to talk to in real life, and haven't had any friends for many years. How to find friends? My existence is pitiful at best - all the days I go through are virtually the same, there's no adventure nor fun.
>university/college
I already have higher education and work.
>go outside
So let's say I will go outside. What do I do next? Obviously, just walking on a sidewalk or in a park won't make me any friends.
>go...
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