How to maintain a relationship (be it a friendship or a romantic relationship) with someone you have nothing in common with, and have nothing to talk about with?
Pretty impossible. Why would you want to instead of finding somome compatible?
>>16605083
Adapt and nurture similar interests, or don't do it at all. Make an effort to learn more about what they like, and encourage them to do the same. If neither of you are willing to actually work with the other, your relationship is pointless and you're just using each other for cheap sex.
>>16605083
>How to maintain a relationship (be it a friendship or a romantic relationship) with someone you have nothing in common with, and have nothing to talk about with?
As someone that married their best friend, I don't see how it's possible to keep it going long-term (or why you would want to).
I have a long story but I need advice and opinions
October 15th
>Been lifting with my friend for awhile he's helped me lose weight
>he's had an on again off again thing with his gf
>they break up so he tries to hook up with a girl he used to fuck on the regular
>Girl rejects him and he gets back with his gf
>He asks me if I want to be with the girl
>Ask to see a pic
>She's 4/10, would be 5 but weird nose
>I'm a virgin and he says she's an easy girl
>screw it I'm in
>Text her for a few days
>Meet with her thee days later and go on a date
>Make out with her and it was weird a bit awkward
> same day she already wants to have sex and brought it up
October 24th
>Cant have sex because she's on her period
>Gives me a couple of hand jobs and blow jobs.
>Leaves shortly after
>we text for the rest of the days
>Turns out we're the same major and have similar interests
>Friend tells me about how I should only pump and dump
>I get cocky because this girl is submissive and start to act like an asshole
>Other friends start to disapprove of how I'm talking about this girl and stop hanging out with me
October 29th
>Have sex with her twice that night
>Second time made her cum 3 times
>Later that night she asks "What are we?"
>No idea how to respond so I say I don't know
>Next day my friend is proud of me and tells me about how much of a slut she is though.
>Tells me about all the things she's done with him
>Tells me about how she's been with 15 guys and some things she's done, like demeaning sex and cheating
>Start asking around about her and more names come up
>21 guys
>get an empty feeling in my stomach and ask her to come over
Cont...
Let me guess: you're becoming more and more uncomfortable with how many guys she's been with, despite knowing how easy she was from the start? I really don't know what you expected, and you only have yourself to blame for the position you're in.
October 30th
>She comes over
>Can't kiss her, can't look at her
>Tell her I can't do this and send her off
>Later that same night I try to get with a girl she recently was friends with but I didn't know
>in baseball terms, got thrown out at for trying to steal second then trying to get back to first
>Get drunk and talk my way out of it in a bad way said shit I didn't mean
October 31st
>She comes over
>Tell her I want to be in a relationship with her
>we fuck but I cum too fast
>tell her I'll make it up later
>Go to a Halloween party with her friends
>She starts talking about her past with her good friend in an almost bragging manner right as her arms are around me
>We go back to my room and I can't even look at her so I just sleep and don't have sex again
November 3rd
>Friend tells me more bad things about her not so distant past
>yells at me for dating her
>meet with her to get lunch
>Can't hold in the pit in my stomach and have to end it I can't get over it
>Ask her about it and she lies about her past
>tell her "I never had feelings for you"
November 27th
>Mellowed out and realized how I was an asshole
>Kind of missing her (or maybe just the sex)
>Message her asking to try again
>Blame (now former) friend for this since he was a bad influence
>we meet and she says I need to earn her trust
>I agree and I think I'm actually feeling something
>She says she'll give me a chance
>For the next 2 days she keeps changing her mind and it eventually kills most of my feelings for her
>She says she wants to try for real
Cont...
>>16605069
November 30th
>we fuck again
>Have lunch after but we barely talk I just hold her hands trying to see if I feel something
>she asks me if I want a relationship I told her to wait a bit after my "friend" stops trying to sabotage it by telling me about her past
>She never really talks to me after that
>Takes her days to respond
December 21
>Ask her to meet in person to go on a date but she always kept dodging the question to meet in person
>Tell her that I wanted to meet to tell her I want a relationship
>She wants one too
>tell her it's not official until after we have that date
>She agrees but in a "whatever you want" way
>She hasn't responded since
>Mean time I decided to start looking for other girls because she just doesn't give me any attention or anything
How fucked is this relationship and what can I do? Am I a bad person?
how do I stop feeling so damn superior to plebs (real-life plebs, proles and other underclassmen)? I dislike it because I would like to truly believe in the equality of all humans but when push comes to shove I am disgusted by the actions of people who don't live in my upper-class, ivory tower, bourgeois bubble. maybe not disgusted by the middle-class, just mildly annoyed if they aren't educated or ambitious enough, but lower class proletarians and other marginalized peoples? can't make myself tolerate them.
this disgusts me and I would like to change
>>16604967
There is a lot to say on this, it goes something like this:
1. You are likely trash yourself, all things considered.
2. It is disgusting how middle class Americans mostly have no scope in life whatsoever. It's different in another countries.
3. You don't - the wealthy have access to education, fitness, etc, and the poor end up fucked and usually boring as fuck people because all they do as work.
Denying #3 is avoiding the problem.
>>16604967
We are not all equal, but everyone has something to offer. In an area which you are inadequate, someone "lower class" may excell.
By realizing our talents and working together, we can make progress.
If only the top "social bracket" of people have the chance to be successful, the result will be mediocre
>>16604967
Give all your money to someone you trust to hold onto it for a year. Get a shit apartment and a shit job. Try to survive for a year without your money. If you want to play easy mode, start out with $500 in your pocket.
My father in law has always been weird, but lately he's been talking about conspiracy theories like chem trails, and Jade Helm. We are visiting him now and discovered thousands of dollars worth of survival materials, and cases of pharmaceuticals that he prescribed himself. He was in financial trouble even before he bought all of this. I'm very worried, especially since I'm a member of the Air Force, and there are signs that he recently bought a gun. Does anybody have any experience dealing with this sort of thing?
>>16604880
What do you think ODAs do?
>>16604880
Generally these people just stock pile shit incase of the "happening". Hes probably more likely to kill himself imo. Has he done anything to threaten any one besides being an autist? Also not much you can probably do besides move your loved ones away from him.
Not exactly sure how to word what I'm talking about, but long story short, there's a girl I like that I think about a lot (like, way too much). A few months ago I told her how I felt and she said she likes me too. That was great, but I came to find out that she's pretty complicated and I like her more than she likes me, so I want to prepare for the worst, the first step to that being becoming way less passionate about her. This way, if things don't work out, I'm not devastated.
So yeah, I don't want to completely forget about her, I just want to like her around on the same level she likes me. Any tips?
btw we're both college students living in dorms, I'm 18/M
Start looking for other ladies. When you have a lot of options, each one doesn't look as good as when it feels like your ONLY option.
>>16604815
Sorry, but I don't like this idea.
>>16604860
Don't try to be a chooser, you begging little shit. You can't hedge your bets when it comes to attraction, because sooner or later your dick is going to get ahead of your rationality, and you're going to say or do something stupid. >>16604815 had the right idea suggestion; if you're trying to become less fixated on a woman--and I use the term fixated, because "like, way too much" is fucking worrisome coming from a freshman cunt like you--seek other women, or avoid women entirely by distracting yourself with other ventures. You're a college student, shit happens all the time around campus and in town. Better you start being productive now than playing catch-up later because your brain lost the fight against your dick.
Hi /adv/,
I'm having a tough time figuring out whether or not I am bipolar. It is not severe enough to where it is obvious I need help and I am definitely capable of living a highly functional life without any medicine.
So here's the deal. I'm at a point in my life to where I can't say whether or not I am an optimist or a pessimist. I have recently gotten laid off (due to an industry downturn) and I was the last one our boss held on to, so obviously I am a great worker without any sort of medicine.
But over the last year and a half, I go from very optimistic to very jealous of others which leads to bursts of anger and depression. However, the depression/anger does not last longer than half a day and then I'm back to business. But these bouts are starting to occur more and more frequently, especially now that I've lost my job.
Usually though, when I have the right people to talk to, I feel better. So part of it is just loneliness in a new city. I do have highs where I get very ambitious and become very productive but I can't tell if this behavior is normal or not.
>not severe enough to where it is obvious
> depression/anger does not last longer than half a day
Going by what you said, you're definitely not bipolar. Those are just normal emotions considering your circumstances. I don't know why you're trying to diagnosis yourself as bipolar.
Christmas is over, and I'm really depressed now. I can't identify why, but all I know is I wish Christmas wasn't over.
Is this S.A.D.?
I know exactly how you feel op. Its like, you get more and more excitied as christmas gets closer closer and closer. And it's here! It's not a bad Christmas by any means, it was actually great! But now that it's over.....what do I have to look foward to?
I need friends guys, I'm lonely
>>16604759
I doubt it's S.A.D. The factor here is Christmas, not the weather. With S.A.D., usually it is the weather and lack of vitamin D from the sun, you say it's because Christmas ended.
Did you see your family? Friends? Receive gifts? You could be missing this, or the pure anticipation of Christmas.
>>16604769
I'm sorry you are lonely, I'm open to talk if you need.
Advice pls?
I went to a party out of town and met a guy who I really like that also seemed equally interested. We flirted and ended up talking a lot on social media. He admitted that he was going through a recent breakup and I supported him until he felt better. Now he tells everyone that he's ok, but he is starting to push me away for some reason and doesn't respond to me as much as he used to. Was I just being used so he could heal from the breakup? Even if that was the case, don't I still have a chance with him?
He's still single and I'm still interested in him. I'm thinking about just giving him some space, but I'm afraid of being forgotten if I do so.
>>16604745
You don't live anywhere near him? What did you expect?
>>16604745
He obviously doesn't want another woman to hurt him. You might be his friend, but right now, you're also potentially harmful.
Either be honest with your feelings, or let him go. He needs love, not more heartbreak.
What the heck is this? I keep seeing little red bumps on my wrists along with dry skin. The bumps look like scabies, if that's of any use.
It's winter and ya'll have dry skin. Moisturize that shit.
Cellulitis
>>16604717
It's happens all the time, whether winter or summer.
what does one do when relationship falling apart
Talk to the other person in the relationship and not a board filled with losers
I can't sleep at night, for quite some tme now. Somehow i always end up hanging around the computer until early in the morning, and when i turn it off i still roll around sometimes for what feels like hours. What can i do to get a normal sleeping rhythm and fall asleep quickly?
>>16604610
I'd try this: Decide when you want to get off the computer (ideally an hour or 2 before bed). Set your computer to do backups or updates or some other maintenance task that's going to slow your computer way the fuck down. You'll get annoyed with the slowness, and it'll be easier to get off the computer and go to bed.
As for falling asleep quickly, it helps to have a nighttime routine. Getting off the computer can be the first part of the routine. Then do something quiet and relaxing. Honestly when I was stressed out with work and shit, I picked up something I felt I "should" read but that was sloggy, like philosophy or something, and read that in bed. I'd be out like a light after like 5 pages. If all else fails, have *one* drink before bed to relax you. Any more than that and you'll be likely to wake back up as soon as you're sober.
Some people just do not fall asleep quickly no matter what. It might be genetic.
hey /adv/, how do you masturbate without cumming more than 10 minutes? Masturbate 4-5 times a week but can't seems to last longer than 5 minutes. What Do?
Get close then STOP. Repeat till you last longer. Also NSFW pictures aren't allowed here.
>get 100 bucks from mom for x-mas; sibs get same amount
>mom comes in to my room later today to tell me how much i owe her (35 dollars)
>let her take the 35 bucks i owe
>then talks about how she found an extra bill to my phone bill this month for texting pictures
>tell her i haven't sent any image texts (which is true; i barely have anyone to text in the first place)
>she starts to argue and insist that the bill didn't come out of no where
>let her win because i'm not about to argue with my mom on x-mas
>let her take whatever, end up with 60 bucks in the end.
am i wrong to feel a little bitter about this? like why couldn't this have waited like until after x-mas?
and before anyone starts, yes i got her a gift, it was easily worth over 150 dollars; only because i knew she would be upset if it was anything less, and i knew giving her money as a gift would be seen as "disrespectful" since i'm her kid.
i guess 60 bucks is better than nothing, but it feels shitty next to my siblings.
>>16604577
18+ site faggot, get out.
>>16604577
Lol you spoiled brat.
You have a roof over your head, a family and some extra cash?? Fuck you sideways for not being extatic.
>>16604577
>210 dollars
Spoiled beta bitch.
Hey /adv/ I have an interview for my student visa in 2 days. Needless to say, im nervous. I dont know what exactly to expect with this interview and i have no idea how intensive the process is.
I have most of my documents prepared. The biggest thing that could go wrong at this point is this interview. Any anons go through the F-1 visa process before? What was the interview like? What kind of questions did they ask? Was it harder/easier than you thought?
Thanks in advance.
>>16604571
If you have a legitimate reason for being there and your studies are going well, then there's no reason for you to be nervous. I've never heard of there being interviews for student visas though
>>16604576
The interview process sounds more like
>walk up to window
>gib documents
>asked questions
>here is your approval/rejection
At least thats my understanding of whats going to happen. Ive read that the process varies from country to country and theres also been cases where people were denied because they didnt do well at the interview.
Also im not the best student. Im sitting around a 2.75 gpa. How much trouble do you think they would give me?
Hey bros, this may be long, and may be a little blogish but I need to get this out here, and hopefully some of you can offer advice or say something to make me feel better.
I'm 19 years old, and in a good career. I graduated high school last year and moved out of my parents a couple months after that.
I haven't had someone I could honestly call a friend in probably 3-4 years. I put the blame on my "hypercritical" nature, meaning, I find the bad in someone instead of seeing what's good about them. It's gotten to the point where I HATE everyone except my family.
everyone's a liar or a cheater or egotistical, or lazy, and so on.
As you could probably assume, I am very depressed. The only times I feel happy are when I'm with my family, which means I'm a fucking loser and spend all my free time with them on the weekends, or when I'm working in town.
I can't even watch a fucking tv show because my hypercritical nature, every little thing just sets me off
I just want to be normal guys, I'm sad and lonely all the time, tfw no gf get's to me sometimes, and the weird thing is, I'm /fit/ and reasonably good looking. No matter how sad I get though, I'll most likely never an hero unless something crazy happens like my family dies or I get terminal cancer or some shit.
Sorry for the rambling and all that bull shit, thanks for reading and I would appreciate advice, specifically on fixing my whole hypercritical/hateful thinking
I think it's something you actively have to accept and work around OP.
You are not without your own flaws and until you accept your own it'll be hard to accept others.
I'm in the same position and it's only recently that I've been trying to not see everything in such a bad light because as you said, it can get lonely/depressing and push people away.
>>16604590
...I don't know if I have a lot of advice, I just wanted to say I hope you get through this stuff. I really get seeing the bad in people though...I sometimes really struggle to see the positives in life in general and I get really caught up in bad things.
Loneliness fucking sucks, I feel you man.