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I am 26,male,ethical chinese and have citizenship of taiwan.i am currently unemployed and living at home with mom and dad who are old and retired,i have the money for living but I cannot travel aboard or rent a apartment outside due to insufficient funds,we are living on my parents pension(1000$USD per month) and insurances,stocks.I have a NTHU bachelor of physics degree which gets me 2 short jobs before but nothing else,i tried to get a master in NTU but turns out to be a waste of time.The only chance for me to have a long-term job on this island is the civil servants entrance...
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>>16606436
>ethical chinese
I'm sure glad you're not an unethical chinese.
This is going to sound disgusting but my half sister and I are pressed for money right now and she brought up the idea of us doing cam shows for people into taboo stuff like incest.
Would this make us some extra cash? What are the best sites to use?
On a somewhat related note, how can I be sure this won't destroy our relationship together and make things awkward between us? We've never done anything sexual before. We were just talking about how we need money and she brought it up. We laughed and she said "seriously though I'm not joking, if...
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>>16606434
It depends on how both you look.
>>16606438
We look young for our age. I'm 23 and she's 24, but we could easily pass for 18-19.
I'm kinda skinny but not skele mode. I regularly swim and I ride my bicycle almost everywhere I go in town.
She's a bit on the chubby side. She doesn't have a big gut, she carries it all in her ass like our mom does.
I would post pics but I'd shit myself if someone found out my identity. I have a lot of friends that browse 4chan.
That's disgusting man.
Are your even sure she meant you?
She could've meant pretending with her boyfriend and was just asking if you know the best website to do it on.
Why would you actually need to be siblings? No one gives a shit. I watch mother son incest porn, but I'd be seriously disturbed if any were actually mother and son. It's about the taboo, not the reality.
I would say I'm relatively well-adjusted; I have a social life, plenty of friends, and other stuff I don't want to say so I don't sound like I'm bragging. But I've had self esteem issues for it seems my entire life, and I've basically convinced myself that no matter what I'm inferior to everyone else. I'm scared that, despite everything I've achieved so far, I'm never going to go anywhere in life, or I'm going to end up doing something that will permanently hurt me.
I feel like a lot of this comes from the fact that...
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>>16606404
It's a legitimate concern.
>"and other stuff I don't want to say so I don't sound like I'm bragging"
please do!
I kind of have the same situation as you. I wonder how much we are alike
>>16606540
Top 25 gpa, lots of friends, I'm told that I'm relatively attractive, talented (or so I think) musician. But all my life I've just always felt that no matter what I do something is missing.
I'm currently in a relationship with a girl for close to 3 years (3 in March). We have talked about moving forward in our relationship such as with marriage and eventually getting a home. I'm wanting to pay off all my debt before I actually move on to do those things. I want to feel financially ready before doing big things like that.
Recently she has told me that she feels that she has given me a reasonable amount of time to pay off my debt and wants to really try moving forward soon. I do want to compromise but I'm horrible at trying to come up with...
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>>16606382
Arguing about money problems already. She's just going demand more things from you.
>>16606382
You can get engaged if you actually want to marry her, not because of some notion that it's "3 years I might as well." Your engagement can last a year or longer. That should be enough time to get your finances in order. Unless you massively fucked up and you'll be in debt for a decade. In which case, she's gonna leave anyway.
>>16606433
We're not actually arguing about money. It's about moving forward in our relationship.
>>16606444
I never really thought about the engagement. It actually makes me feel better knowing that I can propose to her but the marriage won't actually happen until sometime later. That's definitely something I'm going to consider. Thank you.
How do I stop bothering people?
I'm at a point where I only have a few people who I even feel like I'm able to start a conversation with, but whenever I do I always want to keep talking and I'll keep sending messages or replying to anythng they say even when we both know there's nothing left to say
it's reaching the point where I feel like they actually don't like talking to me anymore, which I'm terrified of
Like I said, I only have a few friends. If I keep harassing them like this they're gonna quickly not be my...
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>>16606379
You already know the answer is "Learn when to shut the fuck up." In your case it's not even that, it's actually shutting the fuck up,
Hey guys, newfag here.
Im on the brinck of growing up, i dont know how to start a life, nothing but one thing seems interesting but that one thing is not reliable and it drives me crazy. I prolly sound like the bigges whiner, i dont feel bad for myself im just in want of some advice from someone who knows how to become an independent indevidual.
>>16606326
Do you have a job?
>>16606340
No i do not, i do however attend to a school where we live in the wilderness and learn to survive and manage with little help from every day gadgets. But its not very rewarding or character building. And when its over i will prolly feel lost.
Nobody will teach you how to be an adult, you have to discover that for yourself. I can only give you some obvious advice you probably heard before.
Get a job in a field you find interesting and exciting, but be sure to actually know something about it beforehand. If you can't come up with anything figure out how big of an income you want and how much effort you're willing to put into it, then start your career in a field that balances these things. Remember that money comes over time, don't try to have it all as soon as possible because it will only make you...
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went out on a few dates with this chick and at one point she says she's not really sexually active and that her last boyfriend made her do things she dind't want to do
she said she still has a little bit of a drive, but it almost seems like she couldn't care less about it
sex isn't everything, but it's still important
would you keep dating her and wait who knows how long before you could get some, or would you move on?
>>16606316
I'm like this girl. It is vital to be compatible sexually. All my relationships have fallen apart because of this.
Right now I just have casual relationships. I consider polyamory and finding someone asexual to date.
Don't go into it thinking you can change her.
>>16606316
1. I think in many cases that basically means "You are not attractive enough to fuck, so I am going to make up some bullshit, because I enjoy your attention." Seriously.
2. Sex is fucking important. I wouldn't pursue the relationship, especially with #1 in mind.
>>16606329
>Don't go into it thinking you can change her
trust me, i know that it's a worthless pursuit to try to change people
I usually know enough drug dealers from friends and had a really trustworthy source for LSD before, but I don't anymore.
I need LSD from the deepweb, but I have no idea how a trade like this goes down and how trustworthy drug dealers are on there.
Can anyone enlighten me on that matter?
Bumping for personal interest. Have connections for everything else except psychs.
Also bumping for personal interest
>>16606310
>trustworthy drug dealers
Oxymoron.
Any US bartenders on /adv/?
Is bartending school worth it? How does it stack up against bar experience?
Do you work in a small town or a big city?
I'm trying to relocate to a big city and I feel like getting a bartending job would be a great way to start building a social circle and also support myself early on.
Bartending general thread too, I guess.
pic related.
I've been bartending for the past couple of months. I don't have time or want to spend on money on bar tending school. Just get out there and start doing it. I had no fucking clue what I was doing and never made a drink before in my life. I started working at a bar as a barback cause I really needed a job back in the summer. Slowly I started learning basic drinks and terminology like "vodka soda" "well whiskey coke" once I had the basics down the bartenders started showing me how to make martinis,mojitos, and other cocktails. Then I started teaching...
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>>16606445
Also I work in a big city in a really busy bar which is probably why they started showing me how to make drinks as a barback. Try to find a bar like that
Easy money man
No bartending job postings ever ask for you to have gone to bartending school. Bartending school is for hobbyists. It won't prove you can handle tending an actual busy bar with patrons. Google the basic terminology, then apply somewhere that doesn't require experience and learn the rest. Or do like >>16606445
It would be more valuable to get yourself a certification employers are required to pay for (like R.A.M.P. Certification in Pennsylvania). May not even apply to your state/city.
So I have a problem with my LD boyfriend of about one year. We were together for a month like two weeks ago and it was great although it was clouded by some bad news. Namely he lost his job and his mom who is very important to him isn't feeling very well. So when I came back home he went home to take care of him. Since then we barely speak cause he claims to be too busy. I said that if he's over the relationship he can just tell me and and I'll understand but he says he doesn't want to lose me.
I don't have a lot of experience with guys and I know...
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It sounds like he has a lot on his plate right now. And as you already know, a LDR can complicate things further.
Give him some time. Ask him how things are going once a week, touch base, and see how the job hunt is going. How his mother is doing.
Since you care about him and want to make things work, set your own needs aside for a minute and consider what he needs. Maybe its a clingy girl calling him every day. Maybe its some space to handle the stress.
Go find out.
>>16606333
I already ask him how things are and how him mother is but I feel like he just dismisses me or changes the subject to something that ends the conversation. He won't talk to me long enough to make anything clear.
I would do anything to make it work but the problem is that I don't know how things are between us. Whether he's just busy or whether he's tired of me. I don't want to keep bothering or caring about someone who doesn't give a shit.
I guess I'm just hoping...
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It doesn't sound like he's tired of you. It sounds like you're not getting enough from him (understandably so) and you're projecting your feelings onto him. Rather than being honest with your disappointment, you're acting like he must be the one disappointed with you.
Don't be such a coward. It's okay to simply admit that this situation is not providing you enough of what you need. I don't care how much you want to make it work. I want to hit the lottery so very much. It's still not going to happen. But I'm not going to...
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Background: I've been friends with somebody for 6 years now. Throughout this period I have been an incredibly good friend. They have had to deal with transitioning from a woman to a man, family issues etc. and I have always been there for him (I'll use him pronouns referring to my friend). Throughout this time they have generally been a shitty friend. They have caused excessive drama over nothing. They consistently have overreacted to things for no reason. But the thing that really pissed me off is they have a habit of belittling me for absolutely no reason. There...
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I specifcally talked about how it infuriated me that he wouldn't let me have any space and how angry I was that he hadn't listened to anyhting I'd said in the conversation 6 months ago. After a while he stopped trying to bother me and has left me alone.
I don't really know how to proceed from here. In our entire friendship it has always been me putting in work for nothing. I've stayed up in the morning with him while he contemplated suicide, listened through the drama, been there when other people were not. I feel like it's a slap in the...
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>>16606179
I would suggest lesser contact but not totally cut off. Totally cutting off a friendship is really awkward and could affect how other friends think of you, unless they did something really intolerable, like commiting a crime against you, then yes it's fine. Just don't be too eager to help out and talk less.
>>16606167
She should leave you alone.
Hi /adv/, silly friendship troubles here.
Basically I had booked a holiday for February for with my best friend and a friend of hers who I know vaguely for a few days. We booked the tickets and they are non-refundable.
My friend is the flaky type who constantly changes her mind. Suddenly, she's like "oh my graduation ceremony is on the second last day of my holiday, I'll have to maybe go back early and you two are alone for a day." I'm not comfortable being alone with this other chick since we barely know each other and I didn't book the ticket thinking this would be the situation.
That being said it's already practically January and we still have not booked the hotel and whenever I ask about it she doesn't reply me. I need to tell my boss in advance what days to take off, but she keeps saying stuff like "when does your next semester start? maybe we change the holiday till after the ceremony." It's constantly maybe this, oh I'll have to see this, bla bla. No fucking confirmations.
So I've been quite polite and patient, but today I texted her to stop being inconsiderate and just confirm everything already so I can tell my fucking boss what days to take off etc. She called me and we had a fight on the phone, her basically saying I was being harsh and "why are you stressing so much about this?" and "you know the other girl, what's the problem?" and saying I was unfair because she only received her ceremony date like a couple weeks ago.
Thing is obviously from months back she knows she will graduate and the approximate period in which the ceremony will be because it's around the same date every year. She also told me if she doesn't say anything, then shouldn't I assume nothing's changed? Uh, no, because you say a different plan every fucking time we meet. I just didn't want a risk of burning $600 dollars due to her change of mind.
This is the first actual fight we've had and she's kinda not speaking to me because she thinks I'm being unreasonable. What do?
I've had to deal with this shit before. Generally you should only pay for your own ticket. The other party needs to commit to buying the ticket at a specific time and date so that they are equally invested if they don't meet their obligations. Set a date to book a hotel and say you will book one at an ideal time for yourself if they don't negotiate a date.
>>16606211
I did only pay for my ticket. And she booked hers, but she told me doesn't care about wasting her money if she has to. And what if I book a hotel but she never does? At the end of our phone call she said angrily that she'd book the hotel and stuff and idk I'm pretty sure she's not going to talk to me for a while or something, I really didn't want to stuff up the friendship because I love her and all. But I just got really pissed off. I was still respectful when I told her today, but yeah....
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>>16606219
To me it sounds like you should consider getting another friend on this trip and you can book a room together in pairs. Fitting 3 people in a single room is usually kind of tricky. Solo travel is also actually a lot of fun so you can consider that too. Also, she may be fine with wasting her money but shes wasting not just hers but yours and your other friend by not booking early. This trip of yours is going to be really awkward especially if you fight going in to it, because you're going to have to be around...
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hi
i want to learn programming
may be you know cheap college with distance learning?
appologies my english
you can learn it by yourself
as far as I know, in college they teach you very little about programming
there are books and tutorials, google is your friend
what about job?
-where did you study? by myself/ - oh wow, nice, go suck long dicks
no?
>>16606131
I currently have a 100k a year job and I self taught myself programming. It's possible but you have to be pretty dedicated.
I'm a somewhat older virgin. In my life I've had opportunities to have sex but I always turned it down for bullshit reasons (or no reasons). Now even kissing someone seems like a daunting task. It sucks because as I sit here at my computer I would like to have sex (or just kissing, shit) but in the moment I always fuck it up. I really don't know what to do.
When I was younger I thought it was because I was self conscious about being fat but I lost weight and I'm basically the same person.
Maybe you just haven't met someone you have good body chemistry with?
I remember about 10 years ago I thought I wanted to fuck this girl, so I go over to her house and we're making out, fingering her etc, and I just wasn't feeling it at all. Ended up leaving around 1 a.m.
Havent had that issue with any other girl I've been with, just the one. We hadn't really been around each other that much in person, that may have had something to do with it.
Bump for interest.
Just chill out
after i came home for christmas i fell back into the depression pit,
i should be studying for my state exam in april, but instead i sleep 11 hours a night, im in the same pyjama for 3 days, i barely eat, i don't leave my room. i just manage to lie on bed, lurk in the internet and brush my teeth once a day. my parents dont even realise somethings wrong.
help me please, how do i get myself out of this?? please help.
pic is not me , but could be my twin.
Go see a fucking counselor.
I don't see why people are so afraid to do this. It's literally someone that sits there and listens to you, with no judgement, whose feelings aren't involved, which allows them to objectively assess your situation and offer advice or medication.
See a couple. Decide who you like best. If someone offers you pharmaceuticals on your first visit, do not go back to that doctor.
>to do list
>>16606145
i did, im on the waiting list for a counselor since nobody has capacities.
im already on medication, but it doesnt prevent the lows, it just makes them less deep.
any tips on how to get out of the low?
