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Let me explain my situation.. my ex and I spent over a year together, we had everything planned out and one day, he just ended it.. it's been five month's of pure Hell.. not gonna lie.. I went completely crazy on him, because he kicked me out of the house, blocked my number and changed who he was and he said the other day that he hates me now.. he ended it in July, I didn't eat, I didn't sleep, I cried constantly and blew his phone up begging to work it out.. one night In August I decided to go out with a few of his friends and I was raped by his best friend and told my ex about it and my ex started sending threats to his best friend.. and then I started hanging out with a guy In September because he was talking to another girl and he found out about it and freaked.. we then attempted to talk again and he randomly blocked me out of the blue when I told him I wouldn't be friends with that guy anymore.. and I kept attempting contact because I didn't want to give up on him but he kept blocking my number.. so I gave up.. I then got in contact with him in October because he contacted me about a court date him and I had together.. I said I went crazy and I saw him hanging out with a girl in September and beat her up and he saw me hanging out with another guy and kicked the guys truck.. yeah bad situation where we both went crazy.. I regret it badly.. well..we attempted to work it out in October and my anxiety was extremely bad because I was afraid he was going to leave me again. And that pushed him away, so he ended contact and blocked me again.. and in November my friend texted him and told him that he saw me in the therapists office and my ex asked how I was looking and he replied "rough" and my ex then said that he couldn't do it anymore.. and my ex then randomly texted me again to tell me about his grandmother's death and then blocked my number again.. and now just a week ago my ex came over, slept with me and then left.. and the next day sent me a message
> sent me a msg the next day that he hated me and was desperate for sex and I've never felt more used my entire life. I been friends with him for so long and dated him for over a year.. and I want him back, even after all the horrible things he's done.. should I cut off contact.. how do I get over him.. I'm a mess. This is a picture of him and I.
>>16609971
It's so weird seeing normie girls on my 4chan
Alright.
My job makes me want to cry. Literally. I dread waking up, when I'm there I spend most of my time trying not to kill myself, and when I get home from work I usually just sob.
Is this normal? I know everyone hates their job but this seems excessive. What's the way out of this? I look for better jobs online every day and there isn't anything I'm qualified for that pays as well as the job I have now. The city I live in doesn't have anything I'm interested in.
>>16609891
Prostitution is pretty rough on the soul, yeah.
>I'd rather cry every day than take a pay cut.
you should kill yourself.
>>16609917
I make 14 an hour right now and everything else pays less than 10 an hour. It's not like I'm talking six figures.
Can diet affect vagina smell? My shitty holiday diet is the only thing that has changed in the past two weeks and it smells like a dying animal.
No itchiness or burning has occured.
Maybe you're just bathing less?
>>16609855
Diet CAN affect how your vagina/dick smells.
>>16609865
I hope this is all it is. I am so embarrassed to even walk around my family. Should I just eat fruits for the next few days?
Sup guys, I have a real problem. Me and my gf are planning to go on a date tomorrow but I have no clue where to go with her, she wants me to decide everything. Meeting place and all that stuff.
But this is literally gonna be first real date of my life and I just generally have no idea what to do. I'm still just a kissless virgin.
I don't wanna disappoint.
I feel like I'm just gonna embarrass myself and she will never talk to me again.
Where can I possibly go with her?
What does she like to do? Somewhere like Dave and busters is a safe choice depending where you are.
>>16609815
Dinner and bowling. Bitches love bowling. They're basic like that.
Where do you live? I will use the Internet to look up date spots for you.
going at a friends house tonight, she's like a 2,3/10, but she's alright to be around. I haven't had sex in 3 years and I know she wants me, but I know I'll get scared to make a move and I'll just freeze up.
give me some confidence adv. I need to bust these seasoned nuts.
also pic related, it's me. ready to be roasted
>she's like a 2,3/10, but she's alright to be around. I haven't had sex in 3 years and I know she wants me
>I need to bust these seasoned nuts
You are not a quality guy, OP
lmao your friend is a 2/10 and you think you're what?
>that nose
1/10 for you lover boy
>>16609667
>I haven't had sex in 3 years
if you haven't had sex in 3 years, you're either a 2 yourself, or a complete reject. Either way, best of luck.
>Have GF
>She was really great when we first started dating
>Time has worn on
>Has no hobbies
>Always sad or depressed
>Hair trigger emotional
>Extremely high maintenance
>Expensive
>Needy
>Demanding
>Nagging
>Rude, mean or demeaning for what seems like no reason whatsoever frequently
>Cuts herself
>Unhappy because I haven't uprooted my whole life to move closer to her
>Sex is boring and, with her, difficult. Especially since she rarely actually wants it, period
>Doesn't do anything except attend school, avoid people so intensely to the point of not leaving her dorm room unless its dark or she has class, watch anime and play one single video game
>And complain about how my life is, me who has a house and a car and a real steady well paying job that pays for the house and the car that I use to see her and bring her home and spend time with her and do shit with her
>With her because besides that I enjoy who she is as a person, her childlike immaturity and the fact that she has been a good companion and offered a lot to my previously pathetic life
I'm really just unhappy with her, ./adv/. I don't even know how to talk about it to her since she'll probably suddenly be so hurt and upset with herself and hate herself she won't want to find solutions and just break up, and really what makes matters so bad is that she has started telling me about this guy she has a thing for at her college, and how he might be better than me but she doesn't know for sure but "what if he is" (Like any person may be), but that she has no plans to break up with me or anything since I'm so "wonderful".
I dont even really feel much love from her anymore, and I think it just brought to light how unhappy I am with how she is with me.
What do I do, /adv/?
Brother, I've been in the same situation as you twice.
People need time to get their lives together, and it shouldn't be at your expense.
My quality of living was significantly improving after ending it
>and really what makes matters so bad is that she has started telling me about this guy she has a thing for at her college,
passive cuck
Plan to break up. Look around and try to find someone better for you.
Also if one of your next gf starts cutting herself and be all depressed, it's a good time to think about breaking up.
Hi, I'm a young (27) divorced dad, with a daughter of 1,5 years old. Althought the divorce was nasty (she lelft me for one of my old friends). I'm not bitter about life and I'm lately thinking about starting dating again.
I'm not sure how I should present myself on dating sites. People that don't know the background of my divorce think often that your a bad dad for being divorced or that there is something wrong with you.
How should I present my self on dating sites and on dates. Be completely honest or mention that I'm a dad after a couple of dates?
I
>>16609284
1st- Dont use dating sites
2nd- you have the child so any girl out there will know for sure who fucked up big time, so no worries there
Full custody?
Don't lie on your profile, but I don't think you really need to mention it either. It'll probably come up naturally in conversation on a date, you're pretty much there to get to know each other, and talk about your lives.
But if they're just reading that info on a profile, I think it's too easy to make negative assumptions or just say "not worth the trouble, next." Whereas if they actually get to meet you in person, they'll get to see more of your good qualities and make a more balanced judgment.
Can someone remind me why it's wrong to test your boyfriend with another girl?
Ohhhh boy.
This will be an interesting thread.
I'm bookmarking it on my phone, and I'll read the lulzfest in the morning.
As a male, I don't see a whole lot wrong with that, so long as you have factual evidence (hidden camera or some shit) and you're not doing this as leverage or some shit.
>>16609258
No I don't think anyone will reply properly but I am truly just wondering...
I mean.. I would okay with him testing me. Why is it so bad to just test and see what he does? Why?
I think if someone is solid, they won't cave. Right?
My boyfriend tells me he has a dopamine deficiency and has an addictive personality because of it.
Will this get passed on to our future kids?
You can't be born with dopamine deficiency, it's something you gain through life experiences and usually it's affected by getting high or having sex constantly.
>>16609196
Well he has a porn addiction and used to have a drug addiction.
It is reassuring that it won't be passed on.
>>16609201
>Well he has a porn addiction and used to have a drug addiction.
Yeah that's where it comes from then. Same thing happened to me and now if I don't fap 5+ times a day or smoke like a gram of weed I get pissed as fuck at the smallest shit.
The best thing you could do for you kid, going off personal experience, is keep him away from porn until 15-17 years old. If you can that is, it's a pretty hard thing to do.
I am 37 (although I look like I am in my mid 20s). Recently divourced with my husband. From what I get, finding another at this age decent person is virtually hopeless. There is no reason why a decent guy will pick me over a girl in her 20s.
>>16608897
- pheromones
attraction is 80% chemicals
your dating pool is other divorcees in their 40's
4chan is delusional thinking girls in their 20's typically go for people twice as old as them
there's always more.
the ol' regurgitated saying but it's true.
life doesn't end at any age as long as you're still breathing
also if you look like you're in you're mid 20's then your peak years are probably still ahead of ya.
not interested in slightly older guys? or are ya adamant with sticking within your age?
I could use some serious advice. I Just got a letter from from my dad for the first time 2 days ago, haven't seen him in 12 years. He was a pedophile and molested my 4 older sisters. I haven't done anything yet. I don't know what to do
>>16608719
Ignore it. There is nothing he can do to change what happened. And I highly doubt that he's really changed.
You can only move forward, op. Just keep looking forward.
>>16608721
I'm trying but the memories just keep rushing into my head. Over and over, my entire childhood was my mom moving us from relative to relatives houses while going through the divorce and court to get him arrested. And then the vague memories of when and where he did it, I remember it fucking all now and it won't get out of my head.
>>16608734
Just take some time to collect yourself, anon. Don't do anything rash.
I can’t pee around other men. What can I do?
Sit
Tried to think of something that make you pee?
I usually think of the ocean or falling water i used to have this problem before but i just made myself really had to pee and when i did some more times it didnt become hard anymore. Worked for me dont know if its gonna work for you. Good luck anon
i just pee where they poo
Hey /adv/ im having a bit of an issue with morality here.
Im 22, and have a 19yo gf, we were best freinds for about a year before we ended up getting together. Every aspect of the relationship is great, except for the sex.
I feel like a horrible human being, but im considering ending it. Since we got together, i cant open up to her like i used to because it would put our relationship at risk. (I have serious mental issues and severe depression) In other words, I miss her being my best freind.
Problem is, i think she's in love with me. I cant break her heart like that because i know just how much it hurts. I cant do that to my best freind, but at the same time its tearing me apart being in a relationship I dont want to be in.
I feel bad, because the only reason im considering breaking up with her is the sex. It just isnt anywhere near as good as what I've had previously.
Ive brought the sex issue up with her properly, sat down and had a good 3 hour chat with her about it. And it wont change, she has no intention of working with me to improve our sex life. She just isn't on the same level as me when it comes to intimacy.
So /adv/... Whats the best way to deal with this issue? I just want my best freind back.
>>16607518
>sex is only reason
Apologies for the confusion, dont know why i put this. There is the sex issue and the fact i was happier with her being my best freind. Both are equal in how much of a problem they are.
>>16607518
if you dump her, theres no way she would be you "best friend" anymore,she will probably hate you and never talk to you anymore or resent you forever.
you only want to make her feel like shit so she can lick your wounds? why are u dating her in the first place if you didnt want to be with her?
>>16607518
>dating your best friend
you made your bed OP now sleep in it.
Im getting high for the first time alone tonight, what are some good things to do when youre high alone?
What drug? Weed or we talking some actual shit like shrooms?
Weed
>>16607346
Eat something good, watch something mindless, draw, watch the wind flow through trees outside your window, stare at the shapes in your carpet, jack off
Don't get too high though. Take 1-3 hits and just wait 5-10 min before you keep going
I just got hired at Walmart last week as a cashier (by choice! I like to help!). I've done all my CBLs and have been on the front end for 4 hours on one day, and 8 hours on another day. What a time to start, though. It's like throwing a goldfish into a shark tank. I don't know the answers to all the customer's questions and it's stressing me the fuck out. I don't want to say "I don't know" or "I can't help you" so I always say: I'm trying my best. I've been a cashier before and Walmart's point of sale machines are way easier to operate but there's still some things I'm having trouble remembering.
Question 1: How long will it take for me to appear on the schedule? I'm so new I'm not even scheduled.
Question 2: Will it get better? Because it's the Christmas season there's a constant stream of customers. Literally no rest inbetween customers. And we don't have enough cashiers. I've either had to take all my breaks late or missed some entirely. Is it always like this? It took a big toll on my body.
Question 3. Can someone greentext how to help customers reload walmart gift cards, purchase walmart gift cards, and pay with walmart gift cards? Because currently that's the most common thing that I'm having trouble with. There's so much to remember
Question 4: Last time I worked (on Christmas eve) this Indian dude comes up to my lane, ten minutes before I was supposed to clock out for the day (it was an 8 hour shift and i just wanted to go home). He handed me his credit card and a filled-out check. He spoke with a heavy Indian accent and I literally could not understand one bit of what he was saying. I had to get help. The person who helped me did "action code 70". What the fuck did this customer want me to do?
I'm not sure how much help advice can give you on this one you may have better luck at www.reddit.com/r/walmart/
In b4 >reddit
it sounds terrible OP but most retail places expect you to not know what youre doing for awhile. just pay attention and try to learn as much as possible and it will come naturally for you.
Also, if you miss a break do not say anything. yeah it sucks but whining about it will make you look like a bitcy
>>16605981
You're probably right. From time to time I know walmart associates come on this board so that's what I was kinda hoping for. Really dont want to make a reddit account just for a few questions. I'm not fond of that place. 4chan all the way
