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What are the chances of getting pregnant from genital-to-genital interaction, no ejaculation, and while on birth control?
Pic unrelated
Next to nothing. If her/your period is late there's a long list of more likely causes including stress.
>>16611890
Interaction like insertion? Or Rubbing?
Either way, it's almost 0%
>>16611890
100%. The only way they wouldn't get pregnant is if you click your heels 3 times and say you wish you were home. Also, wear red ruby slippers.
How do I into deep web in order to get drugs?
>>16611859
You don't.
How so?
>>16611859
let spiders lay eggs in your ears so you combine dna
then you will be allowed in the deep web
What are my chances of getting a gf not being socially successful at all? Like, one or two friends, but I spend most of my time alone?
Depends. Are you on the hunt or are you just waiting for a girl to fall on you like in some anime
>>16611795
Perused a few girls with no success. Basically like 8 texts in and she stops replying, so I'm probably going to work on myself day by day until girls start coming to me.
>>16611797
How old are you? I think it'd be easier to say if that's known
Guys, I messed up.
>Be me on fancy date with gf of two years
>We finish our meals, shit was cash
>After I pay the bill, we go to leave, but I stop her
>"Hey babe, there's something I've been wanting to ask you."
>"What's up, Anon?"
>Get down on one knee
>"Oh my god! Is this happening!" m'lady exclaims as she starts to tear up
>Point at her shoes and yell "WHAT ARE THOSE!" pretty loudly
>She stormed out and walked home
>She hasn't texted me back in three days
Wat do, /adv/?
>>16611771
This has to be bait
>>16611771
Kek nice OP
Bitch can't handle humor
>>16611771
I hope this isn't bait.
For justice.
What city/state best fits the following criteria in the United States
>by far majority white
>has seasons but does not get exceptionally cold
>has some mountains/is not just flat land
>housing market is not insanely expensive
>isn't completely rural but not completely overwhelmed with city sprawl
Thanks.
Asheville, NC
>>16611544
Not bad. Housing is a bit expensive compared to where I am but the area is great, the demographics look good, and the job market is good for what I'm in.
>>16611562
Mostly just looking for ideas at this point. I'm in a field where the job market is fairly expansive and I'm thinking of moving from where I currently am. Right now I'm just exploring.
Hello everyone.
Do any of you volunteer?
I'm looking to connect with more people and I'd like to try volunteering my time. I've found that its hard to fucking volunteer though, its like applying for a job.
What are your thoughts on volunteering? Where do you volunteer?
I was looking for meaning in life and thought volunteering would give it to me.
I realized that helping the weakest, poorest among us would not make my life better. What I needed was to stop pretending that life was supposed to be fair, or ever would be. That was my own naivete I had in me.
Maybe it will be different for you, but maybe not.
>>16611555
Second thought: how much of volunteering is to make yourself feel good about who you are? What you are ashamed of, or what are you hoping to gain? If you go around talking about your volunteer work, or quietly thinking it makes you somehow more moral and pure than a man working to support his children and family instead --- you need to examine deeper
>>16611524
I volunteer and do pro bono work for various non profits. I have met incredible people, both those who I help and those who work alongside me. It's very rewarding.
It's a good place to start if you'd like to meet other people. However, you'll want to research the places you volunteer at to find out the type of people who volunteer. You don't really want to go work for a place where only old ladies volunteer. You'll want to look for a place where younger people are likely to volunteer.
I'm an American Male, Virgin, gonna be 24 in a few months.
I just got out of a sexting session with a girl, which I was ridiculously into while it was going on but as soon as it was done I got hit with such insane regret and nausea that I felt like vomiting. I think that was an hour ago or so and I still feel sick and shakey. This was the third time I've sexted anyone ever, the previous two with two other girls whom I'm also still friends with. Very casual business, but after every time I've felt this sick, both morally and physically.
I've only had one sexual encounter once with a girl I was madly in love with, it was a blow job. She enjoyed herself too, and she told me afterwards she never thought she'd actually enjoy doing what she did for me. But the whole time we were making out she kept asking me if I was okay with it or I wanted to stop, because I was trembling all over. And I told her I wanted to keep going, because I did, but there's a massive part of me that is so disgusted and terrified of ever having sex, so I didn't let things go that far. I was already freaking out enough as it was.
When I was in the boy scouts I had this scout master who was pretty friendly with everyone. He helped me make my walking stick for hiking, and I remember him helping bandage up a pretty bad burn I got from a lighter once. And he used to make a lot of weird comments at me, too. (1/2)
For example, I remember we were talking about washing sleeping bags, and I said "Why would you ever wash a sleeping bag unless you tracked mud into it or something?" And he looked at me with this smile of his and said "You've got to take care of your love stains!" And I remember laughing it off, like "oh, he's just joking around. I make the same jokes with my friends. He's just trying to be one of the guys!" And he invited me over to his house once to look at all the guns he had with his nephew, who was also in our troop. I remember him inviting me back to his house on my own sometime, and I didn't go along with it. I really didn't see any danger at the time, I seriously thought this guy was just my friend. Of course it turned out he'd been raping his nephews in the troop for years, and I never heard anything about him raping his foster kids but, I mean, come on. I still feel like an absolute fucking idiot for ever trusting him. He's in prison right now, if that makes anyone feel better.
I can think of a lot of different friends I had growing up that were raped off the top of my head. Some of them as kids, and one of them by another kid. One of them was raped with a soldering iron when she was fifteen because she wasn't putting out. Three of them were trafficked as kids, one of those killed themselves and the other I've had to call the suicide hotline for one of the others. I don't know, this is off the top of my head. All of them were so scarred by it. I think that's a huge part of it, seeing what people do to each other just to get their rocks off. I'm so afraid of ever wanting anyone sexually because I'm so terrified of hurting anyone. Or even just the stupid mistakes they make, getting pregnant just because you took a stupid risk because you wanted to "feel good." (2/3)
I don't even feel like I deserve to feel this way because I was never raped. It was them, not me, I was just there. Like I'm just this disgusting coward how cant bring himself to even do sex properly, caringly, and consensually with a girl because I'm so afraid of ever scarring them or hurting them. I'm sitting here fighting back tears and the urge to vomit as I write this. I just don't want to ever hurt anyone. And I try. I try to engage in these things, because I know I'm supposed to enjoy it. And it's supposed to be a beautiful thing between two consenting people. But I can't bring myself to do it.
Sorry if this reads like a train of thought post, but thats what it is. (3/3)
>>16611530
Seek therapy. And emotional support.
My crush told me he can't afford dating me because he's broke and I come from wealthy family. Tried to convince him I don't expect him to take me out and buy me expensive clothes. Still didn't change his mind but likes me btw. What's wrong with him?
>>16611449
Short answer: he's being a dipshit.
Long answer: He really likes you and is intimidated by your wealth. He wants to impress you and maybe your family so you'll keep him. If you also really like him I'd say keep reassuring him that he's not required to spend money that he doesn't have on you. If he refuses to accept this, dump him.
Good luck.
He might have had it drilled into him since birth that he's poor and can't date wealthy people, like he's not good enough for them and doesn't deserve them. If the feeling is mutual, ask him out on a cheap date, like a walk in the park with some food or something. Something where you don't have to spend money. Show him you're willing to/are able to have a good time with him and enjoy his company without money being spent.
>>16611449
Look chick, here's the deal. It doesn't matter what the reason is that someone rejects you. It really doesn't matter. The point is, they rejected you. That means it's time to respect yourself and turn your affection and attention to someone else. Find someone who DOES want to date you. Who has the confidence and commitment to date you. This guy doesn't.
>but he likes meeee
Don't care. Doesn't matter. He blew it when he said he won't date you because of his weird money hang ups.
Love yourself and learn to only pursue people who genuinely want you, regardless of any circumstances. You'll fully appreciate this advice in 10 years when you look back.
She's been dealing with it since about 13, had a lot of molestation and rough events throughout her childhood to lead her to attempted suicide. However, the good lord spared her and we are now both faithful Christians at th age of 18. Mainly she deals with voices inside her head, and headaches, maybe once a month she loses control and begins to shout and cry about some suicide or murder involving some names of people neither of us know. If any if you have dealt with schizophrenia or know how I should treat her to make her feel better about it considering she's a woman and feels even more self conscious about herself because of it, how can I make her feel special and prove to her I couldn't love her more if she were without it? Pic unrelated.
Schizo here. This is my first question for you: Was she diagnosed with schizophrenia, or is it a self diagnosis?
>>16611488
She was going to go to therapy for it, but I think it's a self diagnosis. Her family treats her as such and it's as reliable as a therapist diagnosis. I don't know if she were professionally diagnosed though.
>>16611496
Alright, schizo here again. First things first, someone who suspects they might have schizophrenia should always see a doctor about it. Therapy is one thing, but they should definitely be seeing a psychiatrist to be absolutely certain its schizophrenia. She may need to be on some medication, for her own sake.
What sparked my question was that you mentioned she'd been dealing with schizophrenia since she was 13. While contracting schizophrenia at such a young age isn't impossible, it's well beneath the bell curve for age of diagnosis in schizophrenia, especially for women. Usually, men begin experiencing symptoms between the ages of 17-25, and women sometime after 20, though I don't know the numbers off the top of my head.
It may very well be that your partner is actually experiencing PTSD. Doctors occasionally mistake schizophrenia and PTSD for each other, and if your partner was exposed to that kind of childhood, then it wouldn't be surprising for her trauma to be surfacing in such a way. But remember, while I'm very experienced with schizophrenia first hand, I'm ultimately a layman. I am absolutely NOT trying to give you official medical advice. This is just another reason for you to find a good doctor to consult. Please seriously consider doing that.
Outside of that, a situation like this just needs trust. Props to you for not being the devout christian who insists her delusions are actually jesus and angels speaking to her, I have a distant cousin whos family brainwashed him and his schizophrenia like that and I can't even bear to look at that family anymore. The only thing you can do is continue to support her until she eventually accepts that you really do love her in spite of her illness. Maybe look up some support groups you can take her to.
Gonna give you the tl;dr right off the bat and then go into detail.
tl;dr
> If a guy is interested in submission and humiliation in bed, but maintains dominance outside of sexual activities, will his girlfriend eventually grow to see them as a loser/beta male/whatever and leave them because of the bedroom activites?
(full story)
My current relationship with my significant other is pretty healthy. So far I've been pretty dominant in bed even though she's expressed an interest in dominance as well. We both get off a lot on the servant/master dynamic and it's been fulfilling.
That said, I haven't been telling her everything.
I am deeply aroused by the prospect of serving and being humiliated.
I'm also aroused in cross-dressing/sissy/trap/femboy stuff, but I have no interest in transitioning and I have no problem with my body. I'm also not attracted to male anatomy.
Should I tell my girlfriend about these desires/fetishes? I know she'd be 100% down to indulge them but I worry that being submissive in bed would make me seem like less and less of a suitable mate over time.
Maybe I sound archaic and caveman-y, but it's been instilled in me that a submissive male is a beta male, and that beta males get dumped for more suitable candidates. Am I being ridiculous?
Just be yourself nigga
>>16611412
>not attracted to male anatomy
>I'm also aroused in cross-dressing/sissy/trap/femboy stuff
self-hating closeted fag detected
Yes, ignore that Red Pill alpha/beta shit, trust me most girls find that shit ridiculous or downright disgusting. Treat her like your partner, tell her your fantasies and explore then together.
Why girls seem (or are pictured?) to have such an interesting and funny life, going out, drinking, having a lot of fun and love stories and guys are just... lame? Losers? Why is that? I can't get it
>>16611335
They aren't doing anything more miraculous than what you're doing on their off time. They seem to be having the time of their lives all day every day because they're a lot more camera whore-ish than the average guy.
In reality, while more men will sit around playing video games, watch TV or playing instruments in their down time, women will go on instagram, buzzfeed, netflix, etc.
Don't worry about it.
Girls are a little bit more social, on average. But their conversations are a bit more boring.
> Be more social
>>16611335
Because people put women on a pedestal and act like they're divine beings when in reality they're just as boring and shitty as men.
Hello everyone, my friend wants to kill herself and I really want to help her. Everything I say to her doesn't seem to make a difference to her. She cuts herself and I have a feeling it's going to end bad and I don't want that to happen. Any advice on how I can help her?
I'm sorry to hear that you (and she) are going through this, but she needs more help than you, or we, can provide. She needs a professional.
This doesn't mean you can't do anything. A kind and supportive friend can work wonders for snapping someone out of individual crashes. You may even find yourself saving her life a few times. But this doesn't fix the underlying problem, and if left untreated, there will be more crashes. She needs professional help, and the best thing you can do in the long term is to gently -always gently- urge her in that direction.
age?
>>16611275
Like if this is serious...
you MUST always consider it being a serious business/HER depression must be YOUR personal enemy
you should never left her ending up alone (even if she says that she will be OK), even for a night. Text her, phone-call her.
you can try to find out what bothers her with such tendecies (and you could try to protect her from it)
show her that you ARE really caring about her fate, show her that you are worried about her mood. (and it makes you down too)
talk to her (alot)
try to make her life worth of living again no matter what happens around.
Never thought I'd ask this and I don't expect it to get far, but I need a list of things to take care of before suicide.
I have a car & car insurance I'm paying off. I have a job. What happens when I simply die? Won't it fuck over my family financially? I want to make sure my boyfriend gets all the money in my bank account. How long are checks good for, time-wise? I know they can "expire" if you don't cash them soon enough. Is it possible to send a check to someone without a bank account, but they can simply open a bank account to cash it?
Furthermore, if I shoot myself in a safe area, say, my car, how do I not leave a giant bloody mess? I don't want to ruin my car. It could be resold for money. Ideally I'd like to give it to my bf but we are long distance. And he wouldn't be able to afford paying for it....
And lastly how do I load a pistol? How do I cover up what I'm about to do? How do I gain the courage to finally do it? How can I obtain peace with what I have to do? Yes. I feel I have to kill myself, there's no other way. I don't want to die but I have to
Sorry for asking so many questions
>>16611258
>I want to make sure my boyfriend gets all the money in my bank account.
How nice of you to leave him some money when you tear his fucking heart you and leave him directionless and wondering what he could have done to keep the person he loved from killing themselves.
Put in some fucking effort and make some sacrifice.
Fuck yourself. Do better. You can do better. You can be better than this.
>>16611258
Why do you want to kill yourself, OP?
>>16611258
Unless you're infected with a virus that will destroy humanity you most definitely do not have to kill yourself
My dad is a verbally abusive emotionally abusive asshole and it feels like I can't do anything about it. I'm going insane. I'm going absoutely insane. I can't take another year of this. Even though I don't see him often everytime I do see him we somehow get into an argument and by argument I mean he picks at everything. He will become snappy and then he will begin to become explosive. He controls me with money and ha s threatened to cut me off multiple times now. I don't know what to do. I want to run away but I don't want to leave my mom or my brothers behind. I'm not scared of him but there's literally no way to stand up to him. He always has to be right. He always has to be in control. He's threatened to kill himself and just wish he would. I wish I could explain the extent of emotional damage this faggot has done but there are no words that could possibly match up to it. How can I cope with this? Even if I pretend to cope with it he somehow starts something out of the blue and expects me not to get upset. It's like he does it on purpose just to get a reaction. I don't know what to do. I really just want to kill myself at this point but I know that won't help anything. I don't want him to win. My mom is too afraid to get a divorce. He has made it so we are financially dependant on him. God someone help. I'm 20 year old grill if this helps.
He always tells one side of the story. He always keeps to his fucking side of the story do he plays it out like he's the victim working his asshole off but doesn't see the bigger picture. Im so tired of it.
25 and in similar boat, except he's here all the time and his entire side of the family and my siblings are the same way.
I feel for you and for all of us afflicted with such toxic persons.
>>16611167
God. Do you have any advice. I mean you're 25.. you've got to had some improve right? Things get better right? I'm so tired of being uprooted when he gets upset with me over minuscule little things.
Every time I masturbate, I have this intense pain in my colon area that lasts from 1 to 15 minutes. I don't put anything in my rectum, or my vagina when I masturbate, only clitoris stimulation.
What the fuck is happening ? I've been getting this since at least 5 years now.
>>16611075
Uh, women dont have colons.
See a doctor. We are not qualified to diagnose here on 4chan, but if I had to guess, I'd suspect an intestinal ulcer of some kind.
>>16611098
Wat
Yeah they do desu
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