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How can I decorate or furnish my apartment better? It's a one bedroom apartment with just me living in it. So far I'm planning on getting some posters and framing them, at least in my bedroom. But I'm not sure how I can make the living room and dining room look good.
Girls/gays, help me out. I have a pretty good budget but I don't want to spend too much.
>getting some posters and framing them
oh my god no NOOOOOO
you don't have to be gay to not have reddit tier taste
first off you need to give more detail about the apartment; floorplan, square footage, maybe a pic or two
>>16608907
What's wrong with frames?
Here's the floor plan. 600 sq feet
What employment options are my best choices to enable travelling around the world? Is bar work reliable enough or are there other options not often thought about
I'm a teacher and living in the UK. Theoretically I could teach in most English speaking places with my qualifications. If I felt like it I could also teach English in Japan, China or Korea too. It really comes down to where you want to be and how you want to spend your time. Bar work is a solid way to do it though. Once you've got your foot in the door it's pretty easy to maintain employment elsewhere.
>>16608801
Well English teaching was a prospect for me. Being from Australia it seems to be a common enough thing. How does it go being in one place for so long?
>>16608806
Hey I'm from Melbourne. It's not bad so far. Came over in August and my visa lasts for two years.
I've got the job in one place for a year then I plan to emergency teach for the second year. Not so bad being in one place for so long, my class is full of characters so there's never a boring day. The planning and correcting is pure ass, something you don't have to deal with as an emergency teaching.
If it's any help I've had friends who taught English overseas and all speak about it glowingly, like as in 'life-changing' or at the very least unforgettable. It's something I would definitely recommend despite not having done it myself.
So, I've fallen in love with a camwhore on /soc/. I cut contact with her a couple months ago due to serious strains on our "relationship" (friends with benefits) caused for the most part by her. I was hoping to get her out of my mind, and even have a gf now. But just yesterday I had a fucking dream of seeing her, running up to her and grabbing her and hugging her as tight as I can, telling her I don't want her to leave me. I fucking hate her for being able to do this to me. But I love her so fucking much it's killing me, and my attempts at relationships....
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>>16608754
Infatuation is not love.
Why are you such a selfish asshole? Why are you stringing along another person like this? You're doing what the camwhore is doing to you to your gf.
Protip: She will never be with you and she doesn't give a shit about you.
Break up with your gf and get over her you fuck.
>>16608763
Realized I was still in love with her literally two days ago anon. Chill the fuck out. For your protip, yeah I know she won't. Doesn't make getting over her any easier. And I know I'm a selfish asshole. Everyone in the world is.
Probably an unusual question but hear me out...
How to explain to a girl I'm seeing that sometimes (often) I want to touch her boobs, suck on them, play with them in a non sexual way? Like it's a comfort thing... without her looking at me like I'm in a wheelchair?
I mean, during sex, nothing turns me on more than boobs but sometimes I just want to feel them without it being a sexual thing. Yes I realize it's likely mommy issues (my mother abandoned me when I was young) but I don't care.
I've only been able to explain it to one...
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So you're fucking this girl, but you can't whip up her shirt when you're chilling without saying anything and have a little session with them, then pull it down again?
I don't get it. Surely I am not the only guy who randomly squeezes/touches/pulls out their gf's boobs. Why does there need to be this conversation? it's gonna come across as weird dude.
>>16608758
I'll add, next time you're just sitting about, start fondling them, then pull up her shirt, if she asks what you're doing just say you feel like having a little play with them, it's as simple as that dude. If you can put your cock in her, you can surely have a little suck on her tits now and then without it escalating into full blown sex.
Now stop over thinking things and get on with it.
>>16608773
Thanks anon. you're right... I'm probably overthinking it but would a girl enjoy that? Just randomly having them played with and it not leading to sex? Don't want to piss her off.
So I've been involved with 3 men in my life and all of the relationships have ended badly with them just brushing me off and not explaining why it ended or considering my feelings. It's not that I pick the same kind of men but somehow it ends up the same. It could be because I take things so seriously and get obsessive over them and strangle them with my affection. And also I am too shy to approach anyone myself so I just go with the flow with guys who approach me and seem like they're good people. I probably just come across players and believe the lies they...
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>>16608646
Boys are just as afraid of you as you are of them
>>16608658
Some probably are but not the ones I come across. I just want to stop giving a fuck and be as careless as them.
>>16608646
>I can't even love and trust anymore because guys are heartless
>guys are heartless
And so this vicious cycle continues.
>>16608658
This.
A lot of guys are terrified of approaching girls because of how they think they'll be perceived and are afraid of rejection. And the sad fact is that most (not all) guys that are really confident and casual about asking girls out are...
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I'm going on a follow-up date with a girl who's probably going to reject me (she has doubts about me). Any advice on how to handle the whole thing?
>>16608645 If it all goes south.
Tell her to go fuck herself, because you ain't.
>>16608677
I was hoping to be an adult about it, but I'm not interested in sitting there at what's basically my own funeral.
The only reason I'm going is because she hasn't outright rejected me yet. I'm worried that's not the best mindset here.
>>16608645
you should fill us in the details as to why you think date #2 isn't going to go well, because a general rule is that if you get a second date you're doing something right
i'm sick of all these threads where a guy gives zero details and then expects us to write him a script
So I have this friend
He's been with this girl who I guess he liked for a few years but who kept turning him down and doing really hurtful shit like talking about how big her ex boyfriends dicks were and how many guys hit on her all the time. Anyway they've been together for like a year and a half now and she basically refuses to sleep with him. It's really upsetting for him because I guess he loves her but she comes up with all these excuses why she won't and talks about how much harassment she gets in a day by other men which gets him upset except strangely...
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I like to give people the benefit of doubt, but talking like an utter slut about men and then avoiding sleeping with a guy whom she's been dating that long and seemingly tried to make jealous prior to is pretty suspicious.
>>16608621
yeah nah that's fucked
I was suspicious of it the day I learned they were dating because of how she had treated him prior to that, it really bugs me though because she puts on this really good show when she needs to about how much he just love love loves him and i think she buys him gifts sometimes and he's bought her stuff too
But meanwhile she does this shit and keeps him hanging and I can tell it's really starting to mess with him because even if he is an idiot he's a good boyfriend to her
I hope he comes to his senses soon...
A 33 year old girl I like, Is planning to meet me in the new year, she lives three hours away in another part of the country. We've never met, but she says to me, her age bothers her in regards to dating. Because I'm 20, but she wants to travel three hours to see me. What the hell, does she like me?
>33
>girl
She likes you because she seems desperate. These are her final years of being remotely attractive.
>>16608589
lol. But seriously, She said she'd never go there in terms of dating but she will travel three hours to see me?
>>16608595
She's just horny.
What do girls have against guys that seem "desperate?" Just date him and he won't be desperate anymore! The fuck?
>>16608554
Equivalent baby crazy woman
>>16608554
Why don't you date a desperate girl then? Same logic, right?
>>16608560
>desperate
>girl
Choose one.
I think my first serious boyfriend just broke up with me. He's having a really hard time with everything and I've been feeling him disconnecting but I was pushing him to talk to me about it when he didn't want to. He has send me a text saying it's not easy but he doesn't think he can continue and wishes I will have a good life. Is there a chance it was a spur of the moment thing and he will reconsider when things get easier? Ho do I get over my first for everyrhing?
Definitely talk to him. If for nothing else, for the fact that you deserve more than a crappy text.
Do you want this relationship to continue or have you had enough of him?
>>16608472
I hope he will talk to me but I feel like he is running away from any responsibility. We are currently like 5 hours apart and if he chooses to treat me like this then there's nothing i can do. I can't force him to give me any closure.
He has never acted this way and I don't know if he just got tired of me or if this is how he handles stress but I would too literally anything to make it work if he just faced the situation and talked to me. I don't understand why he is being like this. I...
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>>16608454
>>16608488
I'd tell him that you respect his feelings but would like a bit more closure than a text message. Try to talk with him on the phone or in person about his feelings, and that you at least deserve that before you two split. If he agrees, don't try to guilt or otherwise sway him into staying with you. Instead, focus on understanding why he feels the way he does and his thought process behind splitting up. It'll still hurt but might give you...
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Hmmmm I need a sanity check please. Please...
>Bf and I move away 3 years ago.
>Christmas is a big deal to him, not so much for me.
>Every Xmas since the move has been with him too broke to do anything at all for any occasion.
>Every Xmas since, he has tried to scrap money together to go back state to visit family & friends but failed miserably.
>Every Xmas since then, I feel bad he can't be with his family,...
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hes being fucking paranoid because he cheated. hes projecting qualities of himself he can't confront onto you.
just go see your family, he's being an ass.
> threatening to break up with me if I go.
what the fuck? he is unhinged... just go see your family. this guy is trash anyway
>>16608363
Look, to be fair, my family are well off and I see them a lot throughout the year. I guess that's why it's not a big deal if I see them or not. This Christmas I was not with them again because they went away and I was waiting on him to confirm whether or not he was going back to town, he decided too late so I missed out on going with them. He fails to see how his slow actions impact my plans and I am getting pissed off with him. Especially now about new years.
>>16608385
well does it matter whos right and whos being logical
either do it or dont. arguing wont help your relationship here. stewing wont either
Is cuddling considered cheating on your partner?
Depends on your partner, but probably yes
yes
saged
>>16608339
Every girl Ive cuddled Ive eventually kissed.
Which would you choose? This is not for me.
I'd tell them to both run from whoever made this chart, because they obviously don't respect these people and are a giant asscunt.
I would choose none tbqh FAMILILA
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but what do i know, im an attractive female with essentially unlimited options. you better pick fast before they both forget about you!
My boyfriend and I were at this park flying drones when it fell and landed a few feet away from someone. This fat lady wobbled over to it as fast as she could and started to yell at him (I overheard but was still catching up to him). We apologized but she kept yelling at him and pointing her finger in his face. This pissed me off and he's a shy guy so naturally he didn't say anything. I looked her up and down (in a bitchy way) I grabbed the drone from her hands and said "that's mine" whilst mimicking her finger pointing, and we walked alway she tried...
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Honest question: how in the world do you find a guy who's such a pussy that he can't stand up for himself attractive?
>>16607988
He is good looking (hits the gym quite frequently) and has a good personality, you just have to crack into it because he's very quiet. He's bigger and stronger than me, but I feel like I have to take care of him when it comes to fat ladies who like to rude strangers.
>>16608000
He sounds like such a wet blanket to be honest. I can understand not liking confrontation and conflict, but to the point where he needs someone else to step in for him? Ugh.
So i got drunk the other night and apparently applied to be in porn.
The company got back to me, said they'll pay for my std tests, flight to la and hotel. Pay would be $500 for my first scene and id get reimbursed for a $97 for the testings. Thing is the pay sounds good, they said they like me and im what theyre looking for (hetero men) but the thing is its porn.
Idk if i should accept it, like i said rhe pay sounds good, but ill have to be either fucking someone or do some other things and idk how i really feel about it since im still a virgin.
Do i take...
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>so i got drunk the other night and apparently applied to be in porn.
rofl
>>16607942
I make really weird/bad mistakes when i get drunk. I tried to talk to a friend about it, he hasnt replied, probably tripping out and laughing at me
Worst case scenario is you end up on efukt for being awkward and earn $500. Do it OP.
