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When we first started dating she admitted she was scared of commitment so I told her to tell me if she reached a point where she wanted to be official. A couple.weeks later she asked me.to be her boyfriend. I help her babysit her son a couple times a.week but her best male.friend literally admitted love for her and she asked about an open relationship. After talking it out she agreed it was a terrible idea. Now a few months have passed but I can't help but feel like I limit.her happiness by not letting her have that freedom because I am a monogamous type. Is that normal...
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So you two are still dating ?
What age is the son?
How offen you babaysit / was she going out with said guy friend ?
Do you think she is being honest /has she ever lied before?
No.
Look, you did the right thing. Open relationships tend to favor the woman. By standing up for yourself and saying no, you showed her that you have value and know it. This is wholly positive.
Look, and open relationship efectively means that you're going to have to taste another man's semen sometimes when she kisses you. If you agree to that, it shouldn't come as a surprise that you don't garner enough respect or love for her to not cuckold you.
Now, do NOT let her know that you're having guilt or second thoughts, if you value...
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>>16608201
>she admitted she was scared of commitment
>A couple.weeks later she asked me.to be her boyfriend
>I help her babysit her son a couple times a.week
> her best male.friend
>she asked about an open relationship
Red flags galore.
Whenever im out of contact with my gf for hours on end i get worried as shit, especially when shes with other people especially guys. I get so fucking paranoid that something can or will happen. I always tell myself not to worry and that i have no reason but i just cant help it. The best thing i can do is distract myself, but right now shes in town and shes with a bunch of people i feel like shit, i always get that worried feeling in my gut and it sucks, i like being in a relationship but this stresses me out so much, anyone got any ideas what to do or any experience. Why tf...
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>>16608037
>>16608037
The root of most jealousy, I find, is insecurity. The way I am working to overcome it is increasing self confidence. Also, knowing that she chooses to be in a relationship with you- you can't control if she cheats or not, but if you find out she did, then it's not the end of the world, you can just dump her. But meanwhile, try forging a sense of trust and see what happens, because you might as well just trust her rather than letting your insecurity...
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Im not worried about cheating just what other people will do. I am insecure but i hide it well and have come an extremely long way in terms of self confidence and such. Jealousy has crossed my mind but im not sure what i would be jealous of in this situation, also i appreciate the reply
>>16608055
Maybe a "FOMO" (Fear of Missing Out) type of feeling?
Hopefully those other people would respect you! I know my boyfriend gets upset if I hang out with people that don't respect him/the relationship, understandably. It's important to confront that kind of behaviour if I want to keep spending time with those friends.
She is not 'yours', but the people she is around should still respect your relationship.
was in a relationship for 4 years. In the end I found out she cheated on my and most our relationship felt like a lie. I now think she may of cheated on me more than a year and a half ago.
So I was single two months. Being cheated on by some one I trusted is hard to take. Especially me since I have no living family so no other people I can trust.
Then I start to chat to girls again. Notice girls were smiling and responding to me. Which for some reason I didn't expect. I started to date a girl a few times. Then she cheated on me with my flatmate.
Complete...
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>>16607537
you are the common denominator here.
Not all women are cheaters
but all the women you attract have cheated
something about what you're attracted to, the type of woman, the similarities between them, that is the issue
this isn't to say you're a bad person, you just have bad taste and you're not realizing it.
>>16607561
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>>16607561
>trusting to woman to have self control
They cheated because to them he wasn't fulfilling one of their expectations. So who's fault is it really?
I'm struggling with a philosophical question right now. (I broke up with my gf on christmas and my career has recently turned into a dumpster fire, but I don't want to talk about that; that's just the context to my question.) Here's my philosophical question:
>How can we do what we have to, to survive, and still live with ourselves?
I know literally why we have to, of course. You have to kill to eat. But how do we, as humans, as a species, not turn into monsters along the way? I'm an attorney and I have a lot...
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these are the flaws of capitalism, comrade.
>>16607456
Yeah, no shit. But it's also something bigger than economics, you see the same behavior in the law of the jungle, and in sex/reproduction.
Is this just what evil is?
it looks like you are seeing relationships and life around you as a competitive environment filled with pressure
it may be true to some extent, but there are different ways of perceiving the world that makes it more pleasurable to live
How do you feel about your significant other acting differently when they are around their friends? Like... A person you don't recognize and all of their value and morals that you two have discussed just go out the window when they are around a group of people.
Would you assume they are not marriage or long term potential?
>Would you assume they are not marriage or long term potential?
if they behave in a way that I don't like, then yes
>>16607301
Could possibly be some future infedelity issues with that SO.
It just means she is easily influenced by others and is not true to herself. She seeks to validation from others and so she will say anything to get it.
Personally a person like this is at best an acquaintance and nothing more. Move on and find a girl who doesn't jeopardize her morality just for some people to like her.
Why is cum so damn bitter and gross? I love the saltiness, I love the texture, the way it feels on my tongue, how it's thick and almost kind of chewy, the way it gets stuck on your teeth and just wont come off for shit... but like, why does it have to taste like fucking unsweetened baking chocolate? Even precum is all salty and wonderful like those fancy caramels, so I ask you WHY?
Depends on the diet of the person, it could taste tangy and sweet if you a regular fruit eater.
>>16607259
I've only ever been with one guy, so maybe I got lucky, but his is absolutely delicious. Not a hint of bitterness at all.
Maybe try getting him to eat more fruit and drink pineapple juice every day.
>>16607264
>>16607261
Thanks a bunch, I'll start sneaking more fruit into his breakfasts and stuff. To be honest fresh produce is kind of pricey here, will canned or dried stuff do?
Okay /adv/ are you ready for some truly retarded stuff? My friends invited me to go to the strip club tonight and I'm kind of freaking out. The reason for this is because I actually really enjoy going to the strip club, I just have this sort of system. Basically I have to have at least $200 or so on me in singles and I have to have abstained from jerking off for a few days so I'm just horny as fuck the whole time I'm there. But this just got dropped on me, I don't have any money until I get paid next in a few days, and I fapped last night. So now I'd...
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don't go
>>16606608
Go and have a few beers with friends. Why you'd want to be rock hard around your friends is beyond me.
I've been to several clubs for business functions, and the women are more or less just scenery. A few singles to the girls that walk up to the table here and there, and you shouldn't be spending more than $20/hr.
>>16606621
That's kind of how I've been leaning on this, but we're going to see the new Star Wars first and I don't wanna miss out on seeing them. They're in the military and in the next two weeks they're all slowly shipping off to where they're stationed. I probably won't see them again until next Christmas or something. I gotta spend what time I can with them.
>>16606626
I hear ya. I don't drink personally, so what I end...
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Late 2013 I was pretty drunk with a girl, she now told me I fingered her (this is true) but she also said I tried to take her clothes off and tried to force her to have sex (this is not true, I fingered and kissed her, but left after doing that because I had to go home, and a mate of mine did all that to her, and also she sucked his dick). Now she is telling me that she didn't consent me after 2 years and now I'm horrible and discusting to her, she told me not to speak to her again.
But, she told me various times she missed me before saying that, invited me...
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Shut up and leave the crazy drunk alone.
>>16607923
I was drunk also, I wasn't myself. She didn't do anything to make me stop, btw. Now I have two rules since the begining of 2014, don't stick your dick in crazy and don't get drunk. I don't have any pleasure knowing I was drunk and I did X to someone, I don't find that really funny.
I cried when I read what she told me.
Does anyone have any other opinion about this?
/adv/, how do I convince this chick to let me fuck her unprotected? She gets paranoid as shit about getting prego every time I even ask "what ifs" about it. What's the best way to convince her?
>>16607752
You know that if she does get pregnant, that's at least 18 years and 9 months you're tied to her, right?
vasectomy and a clean bill of health with a recent date
She can go on the pill, if she can't for whatever reason tough luck; it's not paranoia.
I've never asked about my girlfriend's past until now. We've been a couple for a year.
We are LDR right now, but only for 2 months.
I don't know why but...I woke up today dying to know her sexual history. Out of nowhere. I am going to ask her as soon as she wakes up today. Is this a bad idea?
She's in her mid-30s, and I was going to just ask "hey..before you met me, how long had it been since you had sex?"
>inb4 don't ask questions if you don't want to know the answer
How...
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Just ask. If you got such a strong urge to ask now, it'll probably happen again and it's way better you know now than when you're married or whatever.
>>16606661
you sound insecure as fuck, believe me, you don't want to know..
People on /adv/ will tell you "ignorance is bliss" and "don't ask don't tell", but I fully agree with you that a relationships is about intimacy, and intimacy comes from being as close as possible. You can't know you actually truly love someone if you don't even know them fully, and a past is definitely a part of them.
I just think you should have asked earlier.
Why is that whenever you ask a girl on a date, she assumes you just want to hang out as friends? But when you genuinely ask them to hang out with no strings attached, like you would a guy, they think you're asking for a date?
What kind of topsy-turvy, Twilight Zone bullocks is this?
>>16607768
No one said it was easy, kid.
Would you say the girls in the two scenarios are equal? How are you asking them in each circumstance?
Women prefer it when you approach them without an agenda in mind.
Also, you probably just suck at flirting.
What would you do if a girl canceled plans with you? Like you two had plans for dinner but a group of friends asked her out and she canceled, said she was going out with friends. She wasn't a bitch about it or anything, she just said she was asked out and was going out with them. Said we'd go out some other time.
Am I missing something here? The respect part isn't what gets me. Is this normal? Like this has never happened to me. I can see very clearly she's stepping on me and it's just blowing my mind. Is this some kind of "new age"...
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What's the context here? Who is she to you?
when did she cancel? one hour before? one day before?
changing plans is fine, but if the person does it at last minute then I see it as disrespectful
Pretty disrespectful in my opinion. I don't know your background with her, but if it was someone I casually knew and was trying to get to know them more, this would kill it for me.
I'm thinking of starting my a mature porn company.
I'd get chads and whore from my uni to fuck on cam, pay them each 200 dollars a scene
I'd have the chad wear certain clothes: cargo shorts, base ball cap, nike, vans, ect. The woman would wear booty shorts, converse, bra.
I'd have them act out fanatisies, like they were both in HS still and the alpha chad was dominating the shy innocent.
I'd sell my product for 80 dollars per cd.
I really need the money, plus it would allow me to fulfill some of my fantasies.
Is...
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amature*
There are probably all sorts of legal issues around this that you're not going to be able to work around, and if these people were willing to do porn, why wouldn't they do actual porn which would pay them more?
as a consumer, why would I pay for porn when there is plenty of them on the internet for free?
you would need something different, like having a friend's mom participating on it or something
/adv/ I loved her, she was my high school crush, i saw her on tinder super liked her then this happened
WHAT DO
>She left me started a life with someone else, and had a kid.
>I just graduated, and landed a good paying job starting next month.
Below is the text conversation, what should I do guys? I can't be her platonic friend after she did that to me but she "isn't ready" or whatever other bills hit excuse...
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3/3 this is the last message she sent me, i'm the blue she is red
>>16607554
you both sound like retards holy shit
what is the purpose of my life? how does one gather the courage to not conform to a "regular" life? i work 40 hours a week as a forklift mechanic and im just not happy with my life.. i feel like theres alot more to life
How is the money? How is your social life and where are you academically?
>>16607535
money is okay and increasing continually. social life is decent im a 22 year old skateboarder. with four years of electrical engineering schooling. im superior to the other mechanics (that arent master techs) because of my past experience... but paid alot less because i guess my age. i have no girlfriend but have girls that come and go frequently
>>16607548
So you finished your degree right? Get licenced and start applying to engineering positions as an entry level engineer.
Isn't that what you wanted to do with your degree?
