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hey /adv/
not a regular poster but i need advice
i had my first girlfriend when i was 13
we broke up 3 months later due to stupid
shit because we were 13 and didnt know much
but i was so devastated by this as it was my
"first love" and ever since ive been weird and shy around girls and need to get back in the
game as im 19 now
last 2/3 years ive went to loads of parties
and a club twice but every time i try to talk or
get with a girl they always come up with some
excuse or i can just see that they are not
interested im not even...
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Just a mental block you have that your 13 year old ex left scarred in your head. The fact that you didn't introspect and think about where you fucked up dude. If you did that you could move past it.
You need to sit down, think about wtf happened and then seriously spend time trying to wrap your mind about why girls don't like you. You aren't ugly, you seem cool and you social and so the only thing has to be deep seeded insecurities you haven't come to terms with.
>>16607516
im completely over her, i met her at a restaurant a couple months ago. i said hi and we talked for a bit and it was fine. we caught up and it wasnt awkward or anything. as for why girls dont like me i have not clue at all. i have a feeling i give off a weird vibe that people dont like
What conversations do you invoke? It probably has to do with boredom in how you steer the conversation. Write down how a typical convo starts with a girl you just met.
so my girlfriend left me for one of her male friends, the one I was always worried about her spending time with
a friend of hers says she was cheating but she herself says otherwise. Although she did tell me she doesn't love me anymore, but wants to be my best friend still.
I've never had anyone cheat on me. I can't get the image of my angel sucking another guy off out of my head
how the fuck do I pick myself up this christmas
shes not worth it. save your money and spend your life happy.. why care about someone that doesnt care about you
>>16607443
well cause for the last 2 years she did care about me, I genuinely thought things were going to be longterm
>>16607443
This.and if she wants to be friends tell her to go suck a bbc
It started when he was dishonest and disloyal about something. Before then, I didn't go through his phone or history. Ever since that happened, I'm obsessed with going through everything.
Since it happened, I haven't found out anything else, but I'm still like just waiting to find something.
I want to stop this behavior.
Tldr;
> bf was dishonest and I found out
> now I go through his phone and history constantly
> how do I stop this obsessive behavior?
Dishonest about?
>>16607252
Was he dishonest or did he flat out lie?
>>16607255
I found out he had nudes of his ex still. It didn't bother me, but he was dishonest and said he deleted them. But he went behind my back to get them back. I found out again, and asked him why he wanted them so badly. He kept giving me different answers just to find a reason I'd accept. He told me he thought I wasn't good enough, then that he wasn't good enough, and finally that he wasn't over his ex. The last turned out to be the truth, but he said it was in the moment and that he was over...
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Details in short:
Out of the country for holidays.
Girlfriend told me today one of her friends (a guy) is coming to visit tonight and they're going to have dinner.
Didn't get many details as she was distracted with getting ready for work.
My thoughts:
Experiencing some anxiety. Never expected this to happen as I didn't know of any guy friends or who this one is. We've been together for 8 months and have developed a good level of trust.
I'm curious to find out more, but I don't like to pry and especially because we won't...
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>>16607239
They're going to fuck
>>16607241
Come on, man. I don't want to hear that.
>>16607253
If they're going out to eat then it might be fine
But if he's coming to her place he's going to fill her up with christmas cheer
Today I saw my ex with my best friend.
She came to visit him, and I'm sure that they had sex.
It's someone who I was completely over with, but if I am to be honest with my feelings, it felt bad to see her with someone else, specially my friend.
I guess tht deep inside, I expected her to still have some feelings towards me, but I'm not sure.
>>16607192
She doesn't
>>16607195
I think that she does, but still, I don't wanna rly try.
>>16607209
She's getting railed by your best friend
Unless you're a cuckold then move on
What does it mean if your boyfriend tells you about his first love in a nostalgic way? As in "Oh I love Scarlett Johansson cause she reminds me of my first love". Does it mean he still has feelings for them or does it mean you're getting closer as a couple and sharing things?
>>16607142
It means he wants to fuck the shit out of Scarlett Johansson
Most men do
>>16607143
Yeah but why would he tell me that? Is he opening up to me or trying to put distance between us by acting like we're friends or something?
>>16607148
Its just shooting the breeze
Guys talk about fucking celebrities all the time
I've been working inside a hardware store for a year and one of my workers are quitting. My boss asked me if I knew anything who needs a job. My brother comes to mind, but he has never had a job. He is 26. No experience or anything. He is also known for being very lazy.
Should I recommend my brother or will he make me look bad by being inexperienced? Really mixed up here.
>very lazy
Nope. Don't recommend him.
>>16606888
Nope. That would just make your boss blame you for your brother's failures and expect you to police his actions. You don't need a child's hand to hold on top of having a job as well.
>>16606910
Well, what can I do to help him? I get him applications but he never fills them out or goes out to get apps.
So I had my first drunken one night stand (not sure if that is what it is), except I wasn't drunk and he might have been. I'm not sure. I have no idea what his tolerance is, but he had like twelve beers over the course of like seven or eight hours.
Couple questions: how terribly immoral am I?
Why the hell have I been unable to think of anything else for like four days?
How to get him alone to talk about it without being obvious to his roommates?
On a less panicky note, what are some exercises or stuff you can do to make it easier to ride a guy?...
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>seven or eight hours
that's barely more than one beer per hour. I wouldn't even be buzzed.
your text is unclear to me
do you want to fuck him again?
>>16606774
im not a person who drinks usually so I have no baseline
>>16606794
oh gosh I mean I haven't really thought about it lol
Ask someone who believes they know the answer to the most important question(s) anything.
what is the meaning of life? when we die, where do we go?
How can I get over a person?
>>16606771
The meaning of life is to avoid pain and acquire pleasure as much as possible.
When you die you either feel nothing forever or, if you're mentality permits it, you feel happiness forever by living a series of events on repeat forever with your memory being wiped each time it begins to repeat again.
>>16606773
Not one of the most important questions so I don't know.
But I'd guess it's to a) let time pass b) find something...
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would this be out of place amongst a bunch of normies?
Is that a hoodie? It'll just look like some sort of abstract art to people who don't know what it is
Not at all.
Mildly, yeah.
Alright, I really fucked up?
>My boyfriend sent me a pic of some panties he found in his laundry, asking if I was missing them
>I inferred they are mine, they look just like a pair of mine, red with tiger stripes
>told him to cum in them
>he does, tells me it was hot as hell, he sniffed them n stuff
>be getting dressed this morning and see supposedly missing parties in my drawer
>mfw he...
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Tell him and post results
There is no other way
>>16606244
So you're saying you'd want to know?
He doesn't want to know. We men are simple beings and dont care about stuff like this, so spare him the embarrasment
Hi /adv/. I made a similiar post on here a few days ago, but I still feel like absolute shit, and I've been feeling like shit for days now.
Im 23 years old, and personally I am an atheist. TO my family however, i pretend to be a sikh. I have been living away from home for the last 5 years because of university, but next year I will be moving back home after finishing medical school.
Part of being a sikh means I can't cut my hard, on my head or on my face, and I hate it. I hate having a beard, i think it looks ugly. FOr the last 3 years I have been using tweezers to pluck hairs from my face so that my beard doesnt cover all of my face, but in august it just hit me that Im going to have to let it grow otherwise my parents will realize what I am doing.
When I was 18 I trimmed by beard shortening it with scissors, and when my mom figured out what I was doing, she told me off, she started crying, she got very upset and took me to the temple so that I could ask god to forgive me. It was then I started to reject my religion. Since then Ive been using hairspray to make my beard look small, and finally im comfortable with how i can get it to sit on my face, which is why Ive been plucking the hairs from my face to stop it growing any further. THe hairs keep growing back though, and i dont want them to, I am finally happy with my looks, but if I look the same for years, it will be obvious to my parents what I am doing, especially since my beard is very neat and not bushy.
I can't stop thinking about my beard /adv/. I keep going on FB and instagram looking at pics of other sikh beards in order to work out how its going to grow, and how I can let it grow in. I don't feel like eating, Im losing sleep, and when I do I dont want to wake up in the morning.
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I have 2 sisters, who are allowed to wax their legs and pluck their eyebrows, and ive spoken to them about it, they keep telling me not to worry and that my parents wont notice me plucking my hair, and in fairness they havent so far. But my sisters are getting very annoyed with the fact i keep bringing this up. I've irritated friends with my worrys aswell, and i've been told it's a first world problem, and i should just stop complaining about this but its consuming me adv, i get its just a beard, but still I can't stop thinking about it, I cant shake this...
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You're a grown ass man now. Do what you want
If you did denounce your religion what are the consequences?
Either you cut your hair and tell them you aren't a Sikh or you pretend to be a Sikh forever.
Do you think its worth pretending to be a Sikh for the rest of your life?
Any tips on how to deal with these persistent bags under the eyes? FWIW I try to keep up my fluids, my diet is fairly balanced, I get at least 7 hours of sleep on average and I go for regular walks daily (trying to get back into gym as well). I'm at my wit's end here. I don't want to have to resort to surgery but I'm tired of looking like some borderline druggo on the regular.
Also have started cleansing, toning and moisturising under the eyes too.
usually what affects my eyes the most is lack sleep
maybe try sleeping like 9 hours a day?
It's called makeup
OP you need to get a larger vitamin K intake. Give it a google search and you'll find what foods you need. I think strawberries are one of them.
My gf is pretty much emotionally dead and it's taking a toll on me. She also doesn't like it when I show I love her, because she says this puts a pressure on her to be "perfect" (which makes no sense). She tells me I should just wait for some time to pass, and her helt will melt and she will blossom and show me all the love she never does.
Thing is, waiting for that much time to pass is torture. I recently talked to my cousin about it and he suggested I stop making her my priority, and rather see her as a friend I occasionally make out with and not...
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>>16605941
Be cool and neglecting to your girlfriend. She will quickly feel alienated that she is losing you and will start becoming more warm.
>>16605941
Dump her. Now.
Dating an emotional trainwreck with the future promise of change is fucking bullshit.
You will get fucked in the asshole.
Say your goodbyes and cut all contact.
how long have you been going out?
Hey, some advices how to add benefits to the friendship?
Or some ways to recognize if she would like it (I'm male ;) )?
U know, I don't want destroy our friendship and cooperation (she's even my dance partner). We're schoomates too. I'd like it and if she would too, it would be greate for both of us.
>>16605784
If you value friendship more (and assuming it is real friendship you should) then just don't
>>16605792
Is it really do bad idea? O.o
Will, any positive thoughts?
>>16605805
It really is. Imagine you fall for a really cute girl and realize that she does not only have a male friend, but one who has seen her naked and knows what noises she makes when she's close to cumming.
Would you be comfortable with that? Most probable answer: fuck no!
So realize that if you take the step of having sex with her, even disregarding the risk of either party growing unrequited feelings, you can never expect people to treat your friendship as an appropriate platonic bond anymore. And be prepared to cut contact as soon as one of you gets into a relationship.
Having said that, signs she might be up for it;
>wearing more revealing and/or flattering clothes around you compared to everyday wear
>fishing for compliments, indirectly asking you things about her body or drawing attention to it ("does this cleavage look trashy" "can you see my pantylines" "can you zip up my dress" "does this bikini make me look pale")
>being more handsy, flirty and/or eager to talk about sex with you after drinking
>being a bit possessive, not easily finding people good enough for you
>liking to sit next to you, have long hugs to say hi/bye, investing in getting you nice gifts, fussing over how you dress and style yourself
There's more no doubt. It's more about a pattern of behavior than "catching" isolated incidents.
