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I'm going back to school in 3 weeks and I can't get a job for those 3 weeks but my parents don't want me sitting in the house all day so can anyone tell me some things that would get me out of the house?
I have zero friends in my hometown, I'm not very good at making friends and frankly I'm more of an indoor person. I'd rather sit inside and play games or something all day but they want me to get out of the house, I guess I could go exercise but that will only last an hour at best.
Is there anything I can do that would get me out...
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Go to a local library and read, maybe
Please don't delete your thread and start a new one just because you don't like the advice people gave you.
And get a fucking job.
>>16582956
The gym?
See if there's a rec center nearby if you're worried about cost.
A library isn't a bad idea either, you can basically just sit around and keep shitposting.
I fucked up (trust me, I know I fucked up) and lied to my work so I could take my birth day off. Told them it was car troubles. Now they want proof and I have none. I could lose my job over this. what do?
How the fuck can you prove you had car trouble..Just take a picture of your engine bay and say that piece wont work.
>>16582932
they want a paper trail of repairs
Call in sick next time and say you had some Chipoltle the night before.
It's been over a month and I still feel as shit as the day we broke up. This week I succesfully passed a couple of pretty demanding courses at my uni but I still haven't had any good feelings, no satisfaction what so ever. I went out with a friend of mine yesterday, it was pretty cool evening but still, it was there.
I don't eat much. I just try to get my brain of off these feelings everyway I can, I get drunk when there's money for booze, get high, drop pills...almost every night now. Most of the times alone.
She was the only thing that made...
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time heals everything, but the most important thing is to keep moving forward. time will help, but you can't get trapped in a endless cycle.
and learn from this experience. be a realist with the next girl you meet. you HAVE to accept that you don't own her. it's just your turn. never catch feelings.
>inb4 beta virgin wah wah
i've been in two serious relationships and both ended in disaster. 5 years and 2 years. relationships are a waste of time with girls these days.
>>16582927
But how can there be more turns on both sides, I mean, if you tell someone that you love her, that she is really the world for you and you mean it from the bottom of your heart, how can you tell that to someone else?
Is it all just fucking meaningless?
I don't get it. I don't understand anything anymore.
>>16582915
Time's the shit.
>Lying about being a recovered alcoholic
I don't drink, but I work in a profession where after work it's damn near required. My brother, dad, and grandfather are all coin carrying AA members. I don't drink because I'm seriously scared about ending up like them. But when I say, "I don't drink" it turns into an all night affair of explaining to everyone who hasn't heard my story about why. And then fending off drinks for the rest of the night.
Well awhile back someone asked me why I don't...
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Nope. However I question the wisdom of staying in this profession.
Your reasons for not drinking are absolutely no business of theirs and they should not be pressuring you and putting you in this situation. They're at fault, not you. I think it's very smart and responsible of you to be aware of your family history and to refrain from drinking. Say whatever you have to in order to make the drinks go away.
Basically, lie your fucking ass off and don't feel bad about it. I absolve you.
>>16582892
Because while the people often annoy me, I absolutely love the work and I've put 13 years into it. I'll probably retire early though.
>>16582897
As silly as it is, it does make me feel better than someone doesn't think I'm a tool for doing this.
Back track 2-3 years ago
>Friend-Zoned from Oneitis
>occupied myself to her most of my days/beta orbit to the max
>We were cool until she became bitter about life
>starts to treat me like shit
>I still stayed even when she hurt me
>had enough of it and ask her out with a love note
>she rejects me
>later on, we go separate...
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>>16582713
The way they treat you is ALL your fault, you let it happen being a beta orbiter and her sister knows that you are pathetic
Improve yourself for YOU! not to other pathetic people, stop thinking about it
Being successful is the best way to laugh at people who you despise
First of all, you acted like a fucking autist. It was probably obvious to them that you were trying your hardest not to notice her so that's why they decided to fuck with you. If you meet someone you know don't try to "not recognize" them, it will only lead to a more awkward situation. I don't know how obnoxious they were while making out, but I guess it wasn't that bad since no one else told them to fuck off, so ignoring them was fine (I guess), but the moment they moved next to you in order to record you or take pictures you should've confront...
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>>16582760
Honestly? SHUT THE FUCK UP!!!
I'm sick and tired of male shame. All that happened was 2-3 years ago. I wasn't the same person. I'm trying my best to be a socially adjustable person, but it's a hard fucking road. All I know is I shouldn't be a push-over.
>Don't be successful for other people
>Being successful is the best revenge
Way to contradict yourself. This isn't a fucking coming of age movie. This is REAL LIFE pathetic people don't become successful. People who don't take shit from people do! People who aren't afraid push down other people for them. I'm simply asking for revenge on HER. Not her sister.
I already felt like shit after the whole thing and learned my lesson about love. Doesn't mean I deserved to be bullied some more.
GO AWAY!
>meet a girl at work
>we have lunch together whenever our shifts coincide
>she always seems happy to see me
>think she might be dropping hints that we should go somewhere
>one day she calls me sweety when I'm leaving and this freaks me the fuck out, I decide to get her number the next day
>within a few days she asks me to go see a movie with her
>but any...
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What excuses ?
>>16582676
Don't over think things. How have you been asking her out? Next time just tell her that you're going out and she's welcome to come. Leave it open, but also if she makes up an excuse again then just leave things be and forget about her.
>>16582693
First was she was tired from a workout, cool
Second was that her family suddenly asked her to do stuff last minute, which is whatever
Third time was that she wanted to save money, which I just took as the sign to stop trying, because when you ask to have lunch with someone specifically, you're usually paying for it anyway.
I promise I'm not a sociopath. I work in a hospital, shuffling papers between departments, an errand girl basically. Sometimes I may stay in a department for a few hours gathering things - and that's when people will start in on including me into conversation. They'll ask about me, my day, my partner, etc. They'll talk about all the typical superficial bullshit to help validate them and get them through their day feeling accepted. They'll bitch about rude patients, on and on.
What happens if I don't want to talk to anyone? Whenever I've...
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It's called learning to be a polite, socially functional human being. You might not be a sociopath, but your brain is seriously missing a few pieces if you think like this:
>They'll talk about all the typical superficial bullshit to help validate them and get them through their day feeling accepted
It's called relating to other people. Even if you're a total robot, you should be smart enough to know that this isn't just pointless time-wasting unless you have literally zero ambition. You can't do anything...
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>>16582637
Have you ever seen a TV documentary about monkeys or chimps? (Stick with me - this is going someplace)
They often sit together, picking nits out of each other's fur. It's called Grooming. But scientists have worked out that, while getting rid of nits is nice, what the monkeys are actually doing is finding an excuse to sit together and express their friendliness.
Humans don't pick nits off each other (much). Instead we make small talk. But it's the same thing. WHAT we talk about is...
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>>16582637
>I couldn't care less about my coworker's lives or them in general
How is that supposed to come off as anything other than cold, angry and snobby? What makes you so great? You already admitted you're just an errand girl, they could fire you in a second and replace you with a talking, functioning human being. Unless you're some rich girl who doesn't really need the money, you might want to try a little harder to build relationships with your co-workers.
You...
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How do I enjoy myself at parties?
I don't say this in a "oh god how do these idiots enjoy this" sense but rather as somebody who really would like to go to parties and enjoy himself.
It all feels awkward to me, I'm a bad dancer and I can't hear people speaking.
I'm also curious about this.
Never seen a point beyond the possibility of having sex, and there's easier ways where I don't have to endure a shitty couple of hours before having sex.
The whole point of parties is to let go.
>>16582533
What, like, of my inhibitions? Dance and get drunk and scream WOOOOOO?
The problem is I don't wanna do any of that shit. I'm not a shy person secretly craving to do that. It's just not fun.
I'm out of town, met cute guy last night. We hit it off and almost hooked up. Sadly he was too drunk to function.
Although there was no sex I really enjoyed my time with him because how much of a gentleman he was. I would like to try hooking up again, but idk if I should wait for him to contact me, and if he does, I wouldn't know how to ask him.
I'm afraid that I will put him off if I'm too forward.
>If I ask him to fuck me he might not want to
Di... Did we just discover Female autism?
> Sadly he was too drunk to function.
> I really enjoyed my time with him because how much of a gentleman he was.
wut, a drunkard gentleman
>>16582297
Sadly it does happen, idk if it's because of a lack of challenge or what, but its not rare.
I'm only attracted to girls that I know.
These girls are in relationships, and I want to fap but I don't want to think of them during it because I want to respect the boyfriends (My friends).
How do I develop attraction for strangers? I want to imagine fucking them in real life but without knowing them it just feels empty and fake.
>>16581959
>I'm only attracted to girls that I know.
>How do I develop attraction for strangers?
Get to know some strangers.
>>16581959
Grow out of your friend circle and try to meet up new people, dude. If you keep on this level, it can affect your friendship which you value a lot.
>>16581986
Fucking /thread
Basically...okay.
There's this girl. We used to be really close but I haven't even seen her in a year now. I text her occasionally like "We totally need to hang out" and she's like "Yeah" and I'm like "Let me know when you're free" and she's like "I will!" but she never does.
I just really want to see her. I'm stupid. But I feel like she has zero interest. And the less interest she shows, the more I develop this stupid crush on her. And just. I'm stupid.
This is totally incoherent...
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Have you considered that she just doesn't think about you anymore?
>>16581931
Yeah, of course she doesn't. That's what I want to change.
I miss her. And I didn't like, do anything wrong to piss her off or anything. Why can't this work?
>>16581921
The fact that you miss her does NOT mean that she has to miss you.
The fact that she doesn't contact you DOES mean that she doesn't want to contact you.
The fact that she doesn't just say "Go away and stop contacting me" means that she was brought up to be polite.
It's over. It's not going to happen. NOTHING you say or do can change that. Move on.
>Have one chance at life
>Be 5'5"
Is it even worth trying to accomplish something in life?
Is it even worth caring about my appearance and hygiene?
>>16581863
I'm 22 and 5'5"
I don't see any issue here
I'd date a guy who was 5'5" as long as he wasn't insecure about it. Too bad you're a whiny bitch about it OP.
Most people, outside of athletes, that you can name or recognize, that you don't personally know, aren't much taller. Don't sweat it homie.
Dear adv please fucking help me
I'm an 18 year old fag and this literally just happened . My dad says not to stay up too late , I'm like ok . I usually go to bed 12-12:30 and that's when he wants me in bed so in good . I finish playing gta 11:49 and was like better sleep but usually I browse the internet for like 10 min and then go to bed . My dad woke up to use the bathroom, which was connected to my room. I'm like , ok whatever I'm going to bed anyway and it's not even 12:00 yet .
He comes bargains in around 12:09 asking why I haven't...
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What are your options?
>>16581538
I don't fucking know . My mom will let me live with her , but now my relationship with my father is severed over literally 9 fucking minutes .
I was thinking of talking to my half brothers and brokering something out of it . It is true I stayed up late , but it is untrue that I did it with a malicious heart in mind !
Ya know man, sometimes life is a bicth. But sometimes bicths are good to have. You experience is only limited by your self. But what do you want? Maybe this is the time you give life a defiant bicth slap.
How do you keep a child from telling anyone something?
>>16581299
the fuck did you do?
What don't you want them to say?
Step 1: don't molest children and you won't have to worry about this in the first place
anyone have a spare 50 bucks?
about to literally die
>>16579342
is someone going to kill you for 50 bucks?
Like starvation? Go dumpster dive behind grocery stores or bakeries. Or find a food bank near you.
>>16579342
I do. But what do I get for my money?
