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I have kids and got shared custody with my neglectful ex. They mean the world to me. after the separation i spent all my time that i could with my kids having a good time, raising them and keeping life simple.
now im in a relationship with a person who has no kids. and im seeing that despite all the overt obvious attempts to appear as if she's all for the three of us, she's really shown signs that she tolerates my kids over all.
i've presented my feelings on the matter previously siting actual statements or incidents and she'll excuse it away or just say 'she didnt know ' and apologize.
i've grown resentful that she actually wants more of my time away from them while they are with me during my weekends.
today was the final (small / petty) straw. we went to see a movie. i treated everyone; i asked what everyone wanted. the kids wanted candy and she wanted to share a popcorn with me.
during the movie while i had the bag i offered my kids some. they took the bag and returned it to me. in the corner of my eye, she regressed into a ball ; crossed arms legs and pouted that they shared any.
i asked her what was wrong - silent treatment.
so i took the bag threw it at her and told her to finish it. the rest of the night she did all she could to 'make up' for it by buying the meal after the fact and trying hard to over compensate for her selfish meltdown.
Im too close to the problem to see if it's petty for me to cut her loose or work this out. we had plans to be married and now im like fuck her when i see how shitty she is to them
You see, it's hard to have a relationship with somebody that has no kids if you have some yourself. Not because it's hard to organize or shit, but because havin kids is a HUGE step to get rid of selfishnes and immaturity. It isn't impossible, i was lucky enough to find a man that's mature and selfless way beyond his years and experience. But most people couldn't stomach being around kids if they haven't zd any themselfe. Dump her. She still got a lot of work to do. You don't want to fuck up your kids because of some egocentric pussy
>Threw the bag at her
Yeah, shes jealous, but youre a huge prick.
she pulls this shit all the time when they are around and i cant really put my foot down and get on her, because i dont want that argumentative environment around them.
i've told her directly before i didnt want anything to do with her; she blew up my phone then came to my house and blew me. then i said ok lets try again.
now im miserable.
How hard is it to get medical marijuana in NY? All I want to do is be able to grow it. I seriously do need it for medical reasons and I simply can't afford it and my parents would be okay with me cultivating it here, I just want it to be legal.
>>16581866
If you seriously need it for medical reasons, you'd have one already.
>>16581876
Lol yeah ok non smoker
>>16581899
>medical Marijuana.
>i seriously need it for medical reasons.
This implies you saw a doctor and got that advice. Otherwise, you're underage and think because you get nervous sometimes, dank weed would fix that.
what is up with women being to frightened to take a step forward /b/?
there's this girl
we've met over the course of 4 months multiple times for some days.
she said she isn't over her ex yet and that she isn't ready for a new relationship yet.
fine by me, told her i would wait.
but now she increasingly thinks about her old stuff, resulting in her telling me that we should end it because she wants to get back in contact with her ex.
yet a few months before it started with us, she told me that she had no feelings the one time she met her ex again.
what is up with that?
i'm confused as fuck.
>>16581828
Just stop talking to her and never reply.
>>16581828
>she said she isn't over her ex yet and that she isn't ready for a new relationship yet.
fine by me, told her i would wait.
>fine by me, told her i would wait.
>told her i would wait.
lmao
>one woman did something
>why do all women do this?
Why do men generalise so much?
>father was the runt of his litter
>found his identity as first, a football hooligan, then a soldier
>6'2" but truly an alpha manlet... napoleon complex
>spawns me
>scrawny as fuck weakling
>like, incredibly scrawny
>but intelligent. attempting calculus and statistics when I was six years old
>this disgusts Dad
>would rather me be a fighter even though I'm scrawny and intelligent
>utterly against my nature
>"go up to them boys and punch one of them"
>punch one of them
>outnumbered, get battered
>dad is disappoint. beats me.
>NOW OUT AND FUCKING LEATHER THEM
>repeat ad infinitum
>have little brother
>beat the shit out of him instead - even though I loved him
>dad beats the shit out of me
>stop beating brother
>dad beats the shit out of me because I disappointed him
>he never layed a finger on any of my younger brothers
>just me
>keep it together though.
>be 21
>he starts argument with youngest
>snap
>level my father
>he calls police and presses charges
>I didn't defend the charges because he still provides for mum and the younger ones
>but he never so much as looks at my brothers the wrong way again
>I'm a martyr for my brothers who are all destined to fail
I actually have nothing to ask. I thought I did but I don't. This is just a vent.
Erm... do I find god or what?
pic unrelated
he never beat any of them
just me
he never beat any of them
just me
he never beat any of them
just me
he never beat any of them
just me
SAGE
>>16581827
Out of interest, what compelled you to reply/sage?
The effort to sage was greater than the effort to ignore.
Sage again in your reply. Couldn't give a shit.
Wait........ Your dad left you didn't he?
Hey /adv/ what should i mix with 151 so my stomach doesn't feel like its on fire?
milk
>>16581772
would that taste good?
>>16581775
Who knows. I don't drink.
All I know is that milk coats your stomach lining.
Tonight my sister had a schizo-like episode. I met up with her and her boyfriend at the hospital and saw her tapping on her wrist as if it was a smartphone, talking to things/people that weren't actually there, pulling invisible thread from random objects, and other quite crazy things. She'd say "are you laughing at me?" or "be quite or they'll hear you". She was aware of these things that she was doing and would quickly snap back to reality, crying not knowing what's happening to her. She's also quite self-conscious, has very low self esteem, depression, and anxiety. She follows many trends and would be considered a typical white girl hipster. It wouldn't be constant but every so often she'd start having visual and auditory hallucinations in the room, as if she was still at work and believed she was. She's been very stressed out working at her new full-time job and trying to keep her new apartment with her boyfriend. The doctor said this is due to anxiety and stress, so she gave her a new prescription of valium on top of all her other prescriptions.
Do you think it could be the anxiety and stress or is this just the early stages of developing schizophrenia? How should I handle this? It's quite terrifying seeing this happen to someone you know instead of some crackhead.
pic somewhat related
OP here
I should also mention that our uncle is a schizo
>>16581650
i really can't say much and i'm sorry for that. what i've always wondered is how often it is that people are connecting to other planes of existence or entities when people see things like this and i believe it would be worth seeking spiritual assistance along with medication. i read an article about a shaman who visited a psych ward and saw all these negative entities interacting with so many of the patients. he said something about the way the western world handles these people is cruel and not beneficial and that there needs to be more healers
>>16581674
Thank you for your condolences and I appreciate the reply.
The auditory and visual hallucinations were of her at her job. She believed that she was at her workplace and would talk to "customers" or her boss.
She's been known to have panic attacks and would freak out at the thought of her boss or any other particular stressful social situation that she's placed in at work.
But she'd realize that it was not real and would snap back to reality freaking out asking "what's happening". The slipping in and out of insanity wasn't constant but it's still going on even after she's been discharged from the hospital at home.
I don't believe it had to do with anything spiritual.
I met this girl I like a lot. We fucked and it was great, after we got done she saw my tats and was offended. She is a black civil rights lawyer and I'm a white guy. How do I explain away my ss tats and lightning boltz?
marine snipers use the same symbol
>>16581570
idiot, she's trying to justify not being a slut and she's rationalizing that you somehow, through dick magic made her into one since she slept with you.
Women always do that shit. Just nod your head and go about your business.
you should be able to outsmart her and manipulate her.
blacks have IQ around 80.
Is my dream unreachable? I really want to work for NASA. I find the idea of aiding in space exploration interesting and I love space and the universe in general. How realistic is this goal of I am 23 and only starting school seriously?
Also in b4 janitor my question is serious.
>>16581547
Give up
....and a different kind of statistician.
>>16581547
As a heads up, most people don't start working for NASA directly. Most of their work is contracted out, including engineering positions.
Find your passion in STEM and get good research published.
Help me unfuck my life please
Explain what's wrong with your life
>>16581515
no friends, haven't had friends ever.
i'm just tired of spending every day alone, and at 25 y.o. maybe that ship has sailed and i'll just never have friends
>>16581522
Fix your insecurity first before thinking about friends.
This girl I fancy works at a store. I'm a little apprehensive about asking a woman out while she's working, especially if I'm rejected it's an awkward situation for everyone.
How much of a faux-pas is it to ask another employee (who I imagine is her friend) if this girl is single? If she's not single, my pursuit ends there, but if she is single, at least I could gleam some information that would have avoided an awkward situation otherwise.
So the place I used to work out had this problem. Cuties behind counter attracted alot of attention. One kept coming back just to talk....everyday for whatever reason. One day he walked through a fucking rainstorm just to return something that wasnt broken(said it was) just to talk to one of the girls.
It was literally the saddest thing I have ever seen...He had no game either
>>16581447
She works at a liquor store which I'm at fairly frequently (no, not because I'm an alcoholic but I cook with the stuff). I went to highschool with her so it's not necessarily a stranger basis.
Thunderthighs
I have a recurring dream involving two showers, the upright-"hot tub" kind with a million jets. There are two plump women clearly down to fuck. One's my girlfriend. The other is my sister. One woman to one shower, a clear A/B choice.
To be fair, in real life they're both around the same build (intense hourglass) with some junk in the trunk.
In the dream, as evidenced by some examination, my sister always has the plumper, thicker ass and we end up fucking like two angry marmosets. No idea what happens with the girlfriend. Maybe a fiery explosion.
I always wake up ragingly aroused, fap, and blow like a grenade went off.
She's about to visit home for the holidays, and I'm getting a little nervous. Do I actually have the hots for her? Is this some manga shit? What's going on, /adv/? How do I get off this crazy ride?
Your brain has noticed that your girlfriend is too closely related to you.
>>16581383
I'm not sure I follow. My brain has decided my girlfriend is too physically similar to my sister?
OP here (no, really).
Had that dream again. Sister begged for me to cum inside and knock her up. I woke up fapping and almost instantly exploded.
This is some Freudian shit, isn't it?
Does tinder show your profile to every single girl you swipe right on or does it decide whether or not to show it based on some algorithm they have? I'm wondering if thousands upon thousands of women have consciously swiped left on me, because holy shit that would be depressing if it's true...
It bases it on the algorithm they have. And they might not see you depending on how much they swipe and what they have their age and distances ranges set to. I think they do try to put people that have already swiped you right towards the top of your pile.
Just so you know though women have their choice. Any vaguely attractive women is swiped right by literally every single guy using this app.
>>16581258
I think my ratio of matches to likes since I started using tinder a year ago is something like 1:50. Is that supposed to be normal for a guy or does that just mean I'm exceedingly ugly? Also almost all of my matches are below average looking women (the more I use tinder, the more I start swiping right on less and less attractive profiles out of frustration, just to see if I can get something)
>>16581244
They have an algorithm to decide which girls to show you, after that it's every one you swipe on.
I've got two girls right now who are extremely interested in me in a long term relationship sense, as am I with them, but I can't seem to decide on which one I would be happier with.
Girl A:
More physically/mentally attractive
Minimum wage job, not in school but planning on going eventually
Lives close (10 minute drive)
Family not that involved with her (a good thing imo)
A lot more normal and well adjusted than me
More mature overall
Girl B:
Less physically/mentally attractive but still attractive nonetheless
Makes a decent amount more than minimum wage, and is currently attending a four year university with goals and future plans for herself and her career
Lives somewhat far (30 minute drive)
Family extremely involved with her and her life in general in an overbearing way (extremely annoying)
Has the same amount of issues I have, (depression and anxiety, antisocial, etc.)
Immature and acts like a high schooler half the time
Basically, Girl A is someone that I feel more attracted to overall, but her lack of any future puts me off in a way, plus the fact that she's much more social and has a large circle of friends which isn't like me at all. Girl B is similar to me in a lot of ways, and already has a bright future ahead of her, but her immaturity and being overall less attractive than girl A also makes me reconsider.
Pls help
>>16581231
NEVER get in a relationship with someone who is immature. it doesn't matter if they have their life together or not. immature people cannot manage themselves in connection to someone else. never go for a girl B. never ever unless you KNOW you can help them mature and they want to mature and know that they're immature without someone telling them
>drop out at 16 and got my GED
>both parents are deadbeats
>lived with Great-Grandma until she passed away when I was 19
>my grandma took me in
>was starting community college that Fall like she wanted me
>wouldn't give me any gas money because I needed to get a job
>couldn't get a job because she made me enroll of 7 classes
>kicks me out
>slept on my brother's couch for a couple months
>his baby was born and wanted me out
>took $2,200 student loan refund check and moved to Texas for a girl I met online
>she broke up with me after 6 months
>had no money licence inspired car had a flat tire
>no family member would help me get back home
>sold car for $800
>was taken out of my bank account because of student loan default
>been 2 years now and I've been homeless
>couldn't get a job because no form of ID
>couldn't get a form of ID because no money
>couldn't join military because no high school diploma
>met guy on craigslist
>worked for a roofing company and delegated some of his work to me for Mexican wage
>let me crash on his couch for a few months until his wife got him to make me leave
>back to homeless shelters
>spend my days at libraries for wifi and reading books
>spend nights at homeless shelters
>only 22 but feel like I'm 50
How do I make enough money to move to some 3rd world country like SEA or Central America (thinking Panama)? Some country where the cost of living/economy derives mostly from barter. I had no sense of emotion left. I've let gay Mexicans fuck me in the ass for $50, I've shoplifted at least once a week for food, I am just tired of life. Just fucked my whole shit up. Just want to leave and start someplace new.
Damn hang in there pal
>>16580889
While you're trying to get out of here, maybe you could try getting on food stamps so you don't go so hungry and save some more money. You don't need specifically a drivers license to apply, you can use a birth certificate or get a "collateral contact" to vouch for your authenticity to a social worker.
Hang in there pal, depending on your location and your time in a day you could also try panhandling. You're young and will get more sympathy. Really do try your best to get on welfare or food stamps while you're working on all these issues.
>>16580889
It is always darkest before dawn.
Perhaps start a gofundme
I think your best bet is to join the military. (assuming you're from USA)
They're able to hook you up with food, clothing, shelter, and they can give you training for a job.
damn man worst case scenario join the peace corps
Or be Chris McCandess
>get manipulated/controlled by gf
>get manipulated/controlled by my mother
>try not to argue with mother
>mother is from south America, different lifestyle compared to living in NZ
>brain cant deal with both at once
>try and deal with it as best as possible
>always argue with gf if necessary to not get manipulated
>gf does not stop manipulating and has been trying to over a year and a half
>does not get that she'll end up in argument all the time when trying to exercise manipulation
>always tries to be right
>does not care that manipulation and controlling really annoys me
>gf is exactly like her mother, controlling/yells and carries on until she gets what she wants of gf's father/ rules over the family/ manipulates and does not listen to anything that is put to her
>gf and her mother sat me down and could not register the fact that I cant afford a trip that they want me to go on for 3 weeks
>continue to ask when I'm getting my passport ready for the past 3 weeks now
>actually just want to run away
Anyone been in a sad situation like this?
>>16580836
You sound like a spic me senpai : (
>>16580845
What does it matter what nationality my background is
>>16580836
>>actually just want to run away
Try anything once, right?
>>16580845
So THAT's how 11 million of them ended up in america.
