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I'm very antisocial.
What do you do when you walk by someone on your way home? It's a very weird moment for me especially since they are neighbors or people from the same street but I just pass by and Starr straight ahead and I know they look at me .
If they have a friendly expression on their face, say hello. Exchange a few words maybe.
If not just confidently stroll where you are going.
You're putting a lot of thought into a moment that lasts for about 5 seconds and is forgotten by the end of the day.
I booked a hotel room tonight in NYC with my bro and hopefully we'll pull some poon back to the hotel but I just realized our room has a "max of two people"
Did we fuck up? Can we still have 4 people in the room even if it's only for 2 people?
>>16626452
nigga that rule is basically meant to be broken
I don't know nothing about hotel. But can't you just ask someone that works in the hotel?
Fuck your friend, desu
>I'm a 19 year old ex fatty that just got a gf 6 months ago
>This girl was in a relationship with one of my friends but I didn't give a fuck and just slept with her
>Shit hits the fan as he finds out
>I think no problem as i didn't like hiding stuff from anyone
>Gf is shitting her pants and doesn't want to let him go, still sees him and talks to him regularly and it pisses me off
>The dude fucks another chick and she gets mad and rumbles on that she's gonna destroy her life or whatever
>My mom doesn't like her and she's really emotionally needy and unstable and it stresses me out
>Can't sleep and can't concentrate but i can't leave her because i'd feel guilty about breaking her and the guy up and also she buys me shit, not shit that I want or need or asked for but at least she's not a gold digger
>Finally have enough yesterday, tell her I don't want to spend New Years with her
>She says that she cancelled all the plans she had so she could stay with me and gets really sad and weird
>I still say no, but I feel guilty about leaving her alone, and am thinking about inviting her to my friends house but I don't know if i should continue this
What do I do /adv/?
>>16625766
Confusion always gets the best of us we all feel it deep i side our human minds.
As an alien out of space my advise to you is that you should avoid feeling so insecure about yourself and the world around you since your human you wont listen but do the things in life that benefit you and not others youre young the world has no walls you have an unlimited potentual use it while you can.
>>16625804
Thank you for the advice mister alien man!
I'm 22. I was messing around on Tinder and matched with an 18 year old who's actually 16. I'm not going to lie; I find her sexually attractive. I have no interest in dating her but I would like to fuck her brains out just for the experience. Doing so is completely legal in my country.
Is it still wrong?
>>16625765
Do what you feel right if shes willing to comply then take the chances life give you but you have to remember the more you take the more is taken from your life.
Any cute ideas to still feel connected to my bf on new years even? He's on vacation and i miss him so much...
>>16626272
Send him nekkid pics begging for him to come home and dick you down
>>16626285
Nah, i jump on his dick at every occasion anyways. I thought about not making it sexual for once
I'm in the same boat as you. Probably going to skype with each other and exchange resolutions. I wish I had some more ideas of what we could do together though.
How do you self-learn or teach yourself independly a new skill? Even more interested in learning a university course all by yourself in a faster amount of time.
Lynda.com
Most schools use it anyway.
>>16625764
Get a book on it and read it or just search the net about it. When you know the basics o it try to use or just practice the skill til you master it. That is pretty much it I guess you'd differed in what you do for each skill and shit you want to learn.
>>16625764
Basically what the anon above me said
get books, resources, learn what you can and practice.
depends what you want to learn. In all cases you can theoretically teach yourself but its good to have a peer that knows what their doing. So see if you can get courses or acquainted with someone over email or private lessons etc. Something so that you have someone to critique you.
hi /adv friends,
Im sitting here and I dont know what resolutions to give myself. Honest and good resolutions pls
>>16626169
Become a better artist for me
brush ur teeth everyday, once in the morning once at night
What the hell do we know? It's your life and you know what needs improvement. My suggestion is to stick to things you want to do "more" instead of tyings you want to do "less". Iow learning more will be easier than smoking less. You get the idea?
Girlfriend won't stop lying about silly things.
Started with making up her past, telling me shit that had happened that never really did happen. Then i found out one day, she told me the "whole truth" of course it still had it's holes, years later and i found out a lie she had been keeping. She swore for the last few months that was the last of it, Only recently i found out another stupid lie. What do i do? I really love her, but she just won't stop telling lies to me, i've gave her a million chances and pushed her so hard to be honest with me....
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>>16625751
Sounds like she's a pathological liar, which is definitely indicative of mental illness, especially since they seem to be about pointless minutiae. If it was me I'd tell her that I would stay with her only if she saw a therapist.
>>16625751
People like that are self-sabotaging and self-destructive
Don't stick around
I don't see why I shouldn't kill myself. I'm miserable all the time and my life is going no where.
People always seem to tell me things indicating that my life is worth too much, but to who? Certainly not me. If my friends and family are happy being around my miserable self then that's good for them but it doesn't help me at all.
Obviously the very act of posting this here indicates that part of me doesn't want to kill myself, but it won't be very long until that part of me is forced to reconcile its feelings with my life and when that...
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>>16625746
Save money and travel outside your comfort zone see the world for what it is and not what you want to be as is.
Sometimes youre the dog
Sometimes youre the tree
Learn to never control who you are and just be.
Control is an ego that slowly kill us within so cut it
>>16625754
I can't save my money because I don't have any income. I can't get a job because no one wants to hire me, and my fear of people and rejection makes applying for jobs and job interviews extremely anxiety inducing.
I don't mean to be rude but I don't understand most of this post.
>>16625746
So I've got news for you; everyone's life is going nowhere. You think anything will be left of the current 7 billion people in 200 years?
The only difference between you and all those "happy" people is that you have to put a little more conscious effort into finding enjoyment.
So just accept that you may not be a great person and just try to get some enjoyment by being a so-so person. We all have a limited time as living things so do what you want and stop comparing yourself to other...
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I met a guy a year and half ago. I'm 23, he's 25.
We went out together for 8 months. He had never been in a committed relationship and kept saying that he wasn't my boyfriend. We clearly had feelings for each other and we were happy together anyway.
10 months ago, he got really depressed for unrelated reasons. He cut contact and disappears.
After a month we started talking again. He moved pretty far away from me. I help him dealing with his depression. Over time, he got better. He started going out with other girls, I stopped thinking about him romantically.
3...
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>>16625745
Avoid confusions for they pray on your soul and you wont know the truth.
Better knowing then guessing.
He will keep on dating other girls as soon as you turn a blind eye
>>16625745
Man, you just gave me the mother of all flashbacks, save the genders are reversed.
I did it. It didn't end well, but I'm glad I did it and didn't spend a lifetime wondering. I would say the same for you but make sure you have a way out.
>>16625770
I am terrified of getting invested in him and getting hurt again.
At the same time I know that he's one of the few people I felt strongly for (I'm quite "cold hearted") and I never got closure, because our relationship was relatively fine when he disappeared. I kept wondering how things would have been if he was in a better mental state. I've been waiting for this moment for months, and now that I have a chance to get him back I feel paralysed.
I am sorry that it didn't work for you, anon.
I found out that most of my friends find me to be a quiet and gentle guy, to the point of absolute boredom. I used to be the hyperactive kinda guy due to ADHD, but in the recent years I have become self aware, mostly because of inconfidence. Now I am afraid to actually act out, feel awkward around active people and just don't know how to break away from being a boring guy. How do I become a more interesting, lively person?
Next time you're around them, show them the dick.
I'm not even kidding; be -that- guy.
>2016
>find a reason
>make it happen
Be spontaneous, be random, they'll fucking love you!
TACOSS!!1!1!!
Three years ago I fell for my friend's ex-girlfriend. I knew she was emotionally unstable, completely unsuitable for me,
and that it would end badly, and yet I couldn't help the way I felt. Predictably it did end badly, and I've been depressed and lonely ever since, completely unable to move on. Since then the only girls I've had crushes on have been equally unsuitable for me, for one reason or another.
Meanwhile, I met a girl who is probably perfect for me. If you'd ask me to describe my ideal partner, she wouldn't be far off the mark. She was into me too, and dropped loads of hints for me to make a move. Yet I didn't feel a thing for her. My heart didn't beat faster when I was in a room with her, I didn't miss her company when I wasn't with her, I wouldn't even care if I saw her with another guy. As much as she might have been the perfect solution to my loneliness, I just didn't feel for her.
Am I destined to live a life of falling in love with shit-tier girls, and complaining on 4chan about it when my life gets progressively more miserable because of it?
>>16625726
Dude, i feel you so hard. the only girls i get excited for are bad girls who will always act egotistical and treat me like shit.
freud would've said that it's because of my slutty bad girl mother. even though he was wrong for most parts in hindsight, there might be something to that. what kind of mother do you have?
>>16625785
I actually have the complete opposite type of mother - she's a devout Catholic who doesn't drink alcohol, and I doubt she's ever been with anyone apart from my dad. He's the one who's more of an asshole - I'm pretty sure he's had affairs with at least two women, and probably more. So I don't know how useful Freudian analyses would be for my situation.
I think we're the male equivalent of girls who are only attracted to assholes. Yes we know they're bad for...
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>>16625809
>I think we're the male equivalent of girls who are only attracted to assholes.
I've actually complained about this to my friends with those exact words. Whenever a girl seems interested in me, i feel "meh" but once she turns bitchy i want to pursue her further (if there's something else about her that attracts me ofc.)
I guess this is what Vader meant with the power of the dark side. the pull is 2 stronk
So I was talking last night with a woman and I was feeling randy (been smoking some weed in a joint.) Usually I am not so randy but I thought that we should do oral sex. I said, hey I think we should suck dick. But I meant for her to do it on me (I am a male) and I don’t know if this was a big mistake? I am not trying to be gross here on the forums but I want to know the right answer, should I just wait until I talk to her next, or does she think I want to suck dick. I hope not. It was just a speech error. These things happen
thanks for the smile.. cheers
>>16625724
If you were both stoned, I think she understands it was meant to be her going down on you
Hey guys, I have a question. I've posted this before that my ex broke up with me in a terrible way. It was long distance, we spent almost all of summer 24/7 together, and she may or may not have cheated on me. She did not treat me emotionally right in a relationship that I poured all of my heart and soul into, and then to add salt to the wound, she began to stop responding or caring about our relationship before breaking up with me VERY suddenly without any indication of what was wrong.
This post isn't asking for advice on if I should get back together or try...
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Why would you want to be friends with someone who treated you this way? I don't think you honestly want a friendship, I think it would destroy you to see her happy with another guy. I think you are using friendship as an excuse to contact her again because you miss her, and you aren't over her. You can only be friends with someone once you are over them, and neither of you resent what happened. That might take years or never happen. Start dating other people and forget about her.
>>16625731
Oh, I think it came across wrong. I would call her, tell her just to listen, and then say good bye for good. I'm wondering if it's a good idea to tell her all these things and let it off my chest before moving on, or just slowly moving on.
No it's too late for that. Actually I went through a recent break up and were are very close friends, but they wanted to be friends and I thought about it long amd hard and I came to a conclusion. It's not worth it. Just don't even bother. It's like driving the knife deeper in the wound
sad life
22 m here
Kinda depressed
working full time sad pay, 1,600 a month
Never got my AA
Thought I'd always do something in the creative field. Film, photo, sound design (art schools too expensive)
Thought I'd be into being a machinist kinda like it, but eh
what do? Am i just a lazy fuck? any advice other than killing myself?
get your AA
go to a technical school
get scholarships
get a new job
get a second job
volunteer more
get a dog
>>16625722
https://vimeo.com/76448056
>>16625747
what do you think about joining the air force for educational purposes?
