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How the fuck do you hold a pencil properly and write in a readable way? I fucking hate writing like a fucking autist.
I have aspergers, so maybe that contributes to it, but like, I'll hold my pencil in the way I always have, and if I write for more than 2 minutes, my hand just cramps up horribly and I need to stop. It's really annoying when I'm trying to study.
Shit - I almost am tempted to STOP taking notes when studying because it takes so fucking long for me to write. But I NEED to take them, so I can remember.
What the fuck do I do?
Try different utensils, a wooden pencil hurts my hands as well. Perhaps a softer gripped one may work more efficiently, or simply try taking key notes and not sentences as a whole. Focus on the 'trigger' words that'll help you.
>>16627758
I'm left handed and when I write, everything smudges across the paper. I'v learned to write upside down.
would you mind sharing your handwriting with us anon?
Also, consider using pens when writing notes. Experiment with many and maybe you'll find the right one. I find that any lead pencil smudge way too much and it ruins everything.
I wrote, produced and directed this short film: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cAXAI5SN3M&feature=youtu.be
The editing didn't come out that well, but I'm sort of happy with it. Should I continue making films or am I a lost cause?
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>>16627649
That was a piece of crap.
>>16627665
Ha. What did you think?
>>16627721
What didn't you like about it?
Well, the thing here is that I'm a male, almost 18 y/o and I weigh 40'5 kg. No matter how hard I try, I eat a lot, and it seems like I gain weight, but the next day it's like I didn't eat anything. I've been like this since I was a little kid, and the doctors said that it was a normal thing because my entire family (especially my mom's family) is a family of slight build people. I want to know what can I do (besides having good eating habits) to get a bit more weight (5 or 6 kg more would be perfect as it would be the "healthy", ideal weight). I also thought on going to the gym, but I'm questioning it because I'm scared that I may lose more weight. Help, please!
Same here, I'm 19, I'm not going to the gym but I do exercise, I'm gaining muscle pretty fast, I eat a lot too.
Count calories. Add 500 extra kcal per day and you'll put on half a kilo every week. Whatever it seems like "the next day," that could add up to over 25 kg over a year. The key is not to lie to yourself and guess at how much you ate.
I'm sure your family is full of slim people but that's probably not some genetic anomaly. It's because family taught each other these eating habits. You have to go back to mathematics if you want to sort this out.
You also don't need to change how much you eat if you go to the gym. You can stick to this +500 kcal plan and hit the weights a few days a week too. Just don't do running or swimming for 4 hours a day.
Being at that weight is not healthy. At all. Considering height you should be around 60+ kg. You probably don't eat enough. Count your calories, aim for more than 2500, and you might consider some kind of weight gainer. Excersize will increase your hunget, thus allowing you to eat more. I'm serious, eat untill you are nearly puking, you will get used to it and your stomach will stretch.
Also, consider a checkup at the doctor, are you sure it's not an underlying disease?
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Hey /adv/. First time posting here.
Thought about posting this on /r9k/ but I figured it would be filled with the usual "HURRR ALL WOMEN ARE EVIL" response one would expect from that board. Hoping you guys are more level headed.
Anyway there's this girl I've been "seeing". Problem is she has a boyfriend she doesn't want to break up with. We've had sex a few times and this has been going on for a good month now. She told me she was going to break up with him when we first met but when she went to see him (he lives out of town) she said she didn't want to hurt his feelings.
So he's back in town tonight and I have a feeling if we run into one another things could get ugly.
What would you do? Should I just cut all ties with her? I feel a really strong connection with her and she feels the same about me.
pic unrelated. michael gira just because.
>>16626376
I she felt that strongly she'd break up.
>>16626376
>Posts that douchebag from The Swans
Fuck off you /mu/ faggot and take your shitty music with you.
>>16626421
>getting triggered by Gira
pls
I found out about Schizoid personality disorder recently.
I have literally every single clinical feature listed in the chart on wikipedia.
What do?
>>16627613
>self-diagnosed schizo
>I found another cool word for introvert and shut in
talk to a psychiatrist
Alone for the New Year, what can I do?
Build a castle of sadness
>>16626375
Already done :(
Go to any friend you have. One of them is bound to invite you inside. If you have no friends, make friends outside. Step outside of your comfort zone and start the new year good.
Happy new year, Anon.
whats wrong with me?
nearly every time I go somewhere I'm refused service. If I go to a bar or a club the bouncers quickly find me and ask me to leave. This is without even speaking to anyone I don't know, or drinking too much. Sometimes I don't even get to order a drink yet and I'm asked to leave.
If I'm ever served somewhere the people who serve me will look down not making eye contact looking depressed and pissed off, or the person serving me will laugh and look at someone else working there who laughs as well. Whenever I get laughed at like that I get very angry and ask them point blank agressivley why they are laughing at me, of course they don't know how to respond and I get very angry and make a scene. Normally I ask for money back and abuse them so I don't get what I came for.
Normally though if I'm at a cafe or restaurant I get ignored, if I order food or coffee I get ignored and they never bring it out. Otherwise they ask me to leave. If I'm in a retail shop and get assisted by a staff member when their back is turned to me I can see them look at another customer who'll smile or laugh.
>>16627604
If I'm in a public place with lots of people around like a supermarket I will see people looking at each other and making a face or smirking (usually a man looking at a woman he doesn't know, especially older men) and I know its because of me. Otherwise everyone will stare at me and give me angry looks. Women cross the street when they see me coming and if they're close enough to make eye contact look very angry or horrified. Sometimes they run away
I've had jobs where I have to serve customers and they will stare at me and be unresponsive. All the ones who aren't laugh in my face or look at me like I'm an alien.
I don't like going out because it makes me angry and sad. I don't know why society rejects me so completely and thoroughly and hates me on sight. I'm hygienic, not ugly, don't smell or dress like a hobo, not fat and not part of a race or other group thats discriminated against, or from a foreign country.
I honestly don't know what to do because anyone who I talk to about it like family will tell me I'm imagining things, only some close friends have noticed it happen when they are with me and they are honest enough to admit that its real. But since most people hate me before they even talk to me I have very few friends. I've talked to a psychologist and counselors about it but they tell me I am imagining things and people don't judge you like that before they at least talk to you. And that it must be something I am doing first to ilicit bad responses, otherwise how could anyone have a problem with me.
>>16627604
Are you black?
Have you ever been evaluated by a mental health professional?
It's New Year's Eve and I'm so lonely and bored. New Year's Eve is a great time to realize how fucked your life is.
>>16627596
This
Should this be /adv/'s comfy NYE general?
>>16627601
idk im actually very uncomfortable and flat out miserable.
Which bitch is hotter??
And why??
Ask /soc/
>>16627553
/thread
So I was thinking about going without a house for a while. Gym membership for showers, laundromat instead of washer and dryer, sleeping at friends' houses or motels as need be. I don't really have that much stuff. Like, if I get rid of my current bed I can fit everything I own in my car and still have room for a passenger.
My question is how feasible is this? What am I missing, not thinking about? I work near Wentzville, MO and play in and around Saint Charles.
pic related
its my car
seems like a bad time...
You have to weigh up the social disadvantages of living in your car (including how potential employers will view you) against the BS of living with someone who will have the power over you.
Is it good idea to eat shrooms while being high as fuck? In a sense that the shrooms wont be wasted or waaaay more potent than supposed to.
I know that smoking weed WHILE tripping on shrooms is ok, but what about the other way around
Pic unrelated
So my brother has a girlfriend, and I couldn't be happier for him. She is really nice and sweet and all the jazz, but the way she treats me bothers me.
Whenever I try to make a joke or anything of the sort, she acts and looks as if I just called her the N-word or something. As if I had just spoken in a different language, while simultaneously growing a third head. Confused and annoyed is what im trying to say.
It seems that when I try to be friendly, I either come of as really weird or cold.
Secondly, whenever she comes to visit (from a different state) and we all eat together as a family, i always end up making myself look bad. This extends to other family activities too. Whenever I say the wrong thing or make a bad joke, my parents or brother are quick to ostracize me and go on a circlejerk of insulting me or ganging up on me for a little mistake. This always happens in front of her, and when I talk to them about it they say I am simply taking things too seriously, or that I cant take a joke.
Its been so bad that whenever she visits my mood worsens when im around her. And she only ever comes during holidays, so I look like the jackass of a grinch that is trying to ruin Christmas or Thanksgiving. All I want to do is do good in school, do my work, and make people laugh, but I end up looking like this mean guy who hates my brothers girlfriend.
I really don't know what to do. Sorry for the long post.
Can you give us an example of the jokes that you make?
>>16627456
Your momma so fat she fat
>>16627451
How can someone consistently make himself a fool in every single holiday
are you sure you aren't exaggerating this?
Is there a point in going to a New year's Eve party if you don't have friends to go with/aren't invited to any party/don't have plans?
I might be being very silly right now, but I had such an horrible year I feel the only way to start the new year the good way is drunk, dancing like crazy in a random club. It's not the first time I go out alone at night and have fun and meet people. Of course, this time it feels very weird to do it solo but whatever
TL;DR: Is it really important to go to a New Year's Eve party? is it going to change how my year is going to be if instead of staying home I go out by myself?
>>16626325
No and no.
Is there of anyway for me to stop being an anti social / serious person / introvert ? When working I'd rather just sit down and focus on my work rather than having a little bit of chat with my co-workers. I don't wanna be "that" guy and get outcasted by others, I've had enough of that when I was in college. Also I'm usually okay talking to a person but get really quiet when I'm in a large group of people (like when I'm eating with my co-workers). I've got a bit of an issue with my hands too; I usually just put it inside my pockets when I'm around others (a case of not knowing what to do with it?), I know it kinda leave a bad impression to them. Please /adv/, I really want to keep this job. I know this may sound retarded but would exercising help or eating healthy foods / pills maybe?
I used to put my hands on my pockets too, but now I just stand normally, or just place them on your waist. About talking I don't worry about it anymore I usually care too much about how people react to what I say, (I say something and look their faces, to see how they react) I just say what I want now.
Also, do some exercise is really good, go out, ask for things etc, get used to talk to people.
Doing your job is more important than bullshitting with coworkers.
You can bullshit later. Ask them to hit a bar with you for a beer sometime. Don't feel like you have to though, lettting their expectations rule you is worse than them thinking you're an antisocial weeb.
Tl;Dr stop being a cuck
Be me
26 yo male
Work in hospital for county.
See girl in medical records 9/10 Linda Ronstadt look alike.
Talk to her, eat lunch, ask her out.
Take her to nice Chinese Restaurant, then to my place.
Gave her white wine.
Everything going nicely. I am very attracted to this girl.
She says out of nowhere, "The girls in Medical Records think you are gay."
I say why. She says, "Because you are tall, thin, dress nice and have sculpture in your office."
I am now pissed. I say yes I am gay and I don't think I can have sex with a woman.
Then I take her hand and lead her to bedroom, undress her and eat, suck and fuck her every way possible. Cum in her.
Take her home, kiss her goodnight.
Call her about two weeks later and ask her to cookout with friends.
She says, "NO, she is not just a piece of ass."
WTF?!
>>16626268
>fuck her
>don't call for two weeks
>she gets pissed that you're using her for sex
Self-respecting women who want relationships don't fuck with that shit. Maybe if you would have called her within a few days of your "date"
Apologize and say you were busy and stressed or some Shit. If you just want sex fuck off though because she's made it clear that she's not into being yor booty call
>>16626268
You've probably wanted too much to prove her you're not gay. Not enough romantic I guess
>>16626268
>Cum in her
Mah nigga Mah nigga. That's the only way to go. Fuck em, fill em up, dump em. Move onto the next dumpster, OP. Players ain't got time for relationships
