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I did it /adv/... I stood my ground yesterday against her using my kindness as weakness. How do I keep myself from budging?
I keep telling myself I made the right decision but I'm constantly plagued with thoughts on how rude it was for me to not let her use me once again and how I should change my mind.
There is a constant battle in my head and I feel like if she speaks to me at the wrong moment today I might change my mind.
>tl;dr: girl constantly uses my good/giving nature to obtain money from me with nothing in return. It's like I'm a sugar daddy but completely platonic.
Just don't talk to her m9.
>>16626001
1. Ask her when she's gonna repay you.
2. Watch her flip out.
Congratulations, you don't feel any kindness towards her anymore.
What are you going to watch tonight, anons?
I'll be with my girl alone and we don't know what to watch to spend the night up! Some saga or filmography would be the best!
Help!
>I'll be with my girl alone
>with
>alone
>>16625988
>tripfag
>trip
>faggot
>>16625988
Well clearly OP's girl is >pic related
How do you do it? How do you block out that voice in your head that says "You're shit" whenever you make a mistake while you're trying to get better at something?
I'm trying to learn the violin. I had a teacher for a few months, but we didn't really get along - she was a bit of a bitch and didn't appreciate how busy I was with work/uni and that practicing in my house was difficult. Eventually gave up, but I've always wanted to pick it up and try again.
The problem is, no matter how hard I try I can't stop myself from feeling like shit whenever I make a mistake. I'll play a note wrong, out of tune, or it'll sound horrible or I'll play over my bridge or any other number of problems. And I get it, I know I'm learning so I should be patient with myself. And I chose a difficult instrument to learn, one that takes a lot of practice to get good at. I know I should just soldier through it and keep trying.
It's just fucking impossible. Every wrong note is "You're shit, give up" and not "Keep trying". I can tell myself I'm a learner. I can tell myself the violin is hard. But I always end up saying to myself that I'm shit, that I'll never learn it etc. So how the hell am I supposed to do it? How am I supposed to be able 26 years (more or less) of constant low self-esteem and self-berating every time I fuck something up? I just want to be able to say to myself "You know what? You're good at this." Sure, I can play the drums reasonably well. But it's not the same thing. I want to be able to do the grades, get good and be able to show people that I'm actually worth more than the worthless piece of shit I think I am. Is that so fucking difficult?
>>16626773
there isnt much we can say other than suck it up. this is one of the parts of advice that boil down to your inner workings and having to man up and work through it.
to be honest i feel like you a LOT of the time. i do have high moments where im mesmerized by what I manage to make. but nine out of ten days im hating myself and thinking im never gonna make something worth watching and that im wasting my time.
but then the next day i do it again even if it sucks. learning is the only way to get better. no one was born perfect.
so the best advice i can offer is
>get over it
thats a given
>positive re enforcement.
before you sit down to practice, write down on a piece of paper 'I'm getting good'. look at that paper everytime you mess up, cuz as soon as you mess up, you know how to fix that mistake. smile when you get that note right that time. acknowledge when you DIDNT make a mistake you made before.
>practice one song
practicing one song is a great way to build confidence. you are mastering a single song, getting every note right. once oyu get that one song right, you can play it perfectly, its amazing.
Give yourself a break. If you don't make mistakes, you are not human.
Sending you a big hug.
And probably the worst video I could think of.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dCpZ6aX7aRE
>>16626784
>i do have high moments where im mesmerized by what I manage to make
Lucky.
>>positive re enforcement.
I don't feel like that kind of shit works for me though. I mean I've never really tried but it just seems like cheesey bullshit. But I guess there's no harm in trying. It's just so frustrating when you fuck up over and over and over again and feel like there's no sign of improvement. I'm just feeling so fucking shit right now. Like worse than usual. So I'm probably just ranting. But thanks anyway anon. It just sucks.
Nerdish last night of the year
> Lord of the rings
> S.O.M.A.
Never seen/played them
what would you choose?
>>16625884
>never saw LOTR
Underage b&
>>16625885
>tripfag talking shit
Haven't seen LOTR aswell and I'm well off it. Go be a mainstream nigger somewhere else, tripfag.
>>16625905
Who are you quoting?
Someone please help me. It's an emergency. I'm a complete ignorant with food. I put a bread in the microwave. Soon after, smoke came out. I opened the microwave and a bunch of smoke came out. I opened the windows. It smells horrible. I'm scared of suffocation and starting a fire. What should I do? The microwave keeps making ticking sounds. Please help me fast.
>>16626738
you turned it off yeah? just keep everything open and wait
Eat it quick. It won't burn the house down if it's in your stomach.
>>16626738
Oh shit I think I might die better post on 4chan.
Lol grab salt and throw it in there if you are worried about fire
So right now I'm living in the same house as my sister and her boyfriend, along with their baby.
I'm going to be 20 soon and I'd like to buy my first car so I can get a different job and potentially go to community college. I have about $4,500 saved up and I'm trying to spend it as wisely as I can.
The problem is, there's no other car at our house. My sis and her bf have been borrowing this other car from a friend for the past year or so, but the friend is now going to take the car away from us(plus the insurance and registration tags have already expired, so they shouldn't be driving it anyway, but they are..)
That would mean that if I bought a car, they would be fucking swarming me every day and asking me to borrow the car. I don't want that. I want my car to be my car. I would be paying $250 a month in insurance alone, plus gas and repairs.
My sister has at least one DUI on her record, and her boyfriend is a complete stoner type who I don't fully trust. They have a baby and they're going to need transportation to their jobs, but I don't want to be the one to depend upon for that.
So now I'm feeling stuck. I feel like I can't get a car because I can already see all the issues it's going to cause between everyone. I can't move out, as I don't make enough money to be able to do that. Am I being selfish here? What do I do..
Wait, so they have jobs, but they can't buy their own fucking car?
>>16626708
Unless you're paying them rent, they will use the car as they like for let you stay with them for 'free'.
When you get the car establish clear boundaries that if you need it for school or your own shit, that comes first. I think if you explain it as you're trying to better yourself and be more of an adult they'll have to respect that.
And maybe if they see you handling your shit, they'll get their shit together.
I met a girl randomly, we hit it off talking for 3 hours about random stuff and then we had to part ways. She asked me to add her on snapchat, so I did, and before we split, she told me to add her on facebook. I tried adding her on facebook and I can't add her or even message her. Is it even worth the trouble to try and contact her to add her on facebook? She goes to school 3 hours away and lives 45 minutes from me when she's home from school, so this isn't something that would work out long term I'm thinking.
inb4 hurr durr facebook
*try and contact her through snapchat saying I can't add her
and I don't think she blocked me because she never pulled out her phone in front of me and I tried adding her in front of her and it wasn't working already
>>16625873
I don't think you think much
>>16625883
oh i know i think to much.
So, it goes like this:
>my friends always gather for drinks on NYE, we go to a beach, get brutally wasted, usually flirt with some chicks
>we've done that since 2010
>Suddenly nobody is going
>I have no plans, and my two brothers are going out, I don't want to stay at home
>Been talking to my ex-gf, highschool sweetheart, at the time she was a 6/10 (no ass, no tits, just pretty), she grew up to be a 7.5-8/10.
>we broke up because of shit (2009), started talking to each other 2 years later
>talking with her through whatsapp, she tells me ''hurr hurr, I don't have plans for NYE, all my friends left me''
>thisismyshot.png
>''why don't we go together?''
>she says ''yes!''
So, we're basically going to get wasted, alone. Thing is, my foreplay game is bad. any advice on getting me laid? It's definitely gonna happen, but I want to make the right moves.
Op just try to remember why is she your ex-gf.
>ex-gf
She fucked a thousand other guys when you were together, then she fucked two thousand more after you broke up.
AND NOW YOU WANT TO SPEND TIME WITH HER?
>>16625915
chill dude, I just wanna smash
How can I handle being alone on New Years Eve? Long story short one of my friends pulled a really low move and fucked me over for our NYE plans, and now I have nothing to do but stay home tonight. All I can think about is how everyone I know is out partying and having fun while I'm stuck at home doing nothing because some ass hole decided to fuck me over.
>>16626675
Do you play games cause that's what I'm gonna do maybe we could do something bud
I'm gonna go out by myself. It's still fun to be in that atmosphere. Up to you bro. Otherwise just treat it like another night. Don't have to do shit.
>>16626675
Don't stress it bro, you have no idea how many people stay at home alone on NYE, that's why twitter and different sites are flooded with respective tweets
I broke up with my gf only a few weeks before Christmas and NYE, so this NYE is especially difficult for me
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>>16625815
preferably go to /g/. It will work out better anon.
>>16625825
ty anon
Dear /adv/,
I fucking despise this site. I hate how everyone here thinks they can get away with anything they want and thinks their the hottest shit on the planet for being a asshole, who thinks he's cool for being edgy and ignorant.
I feel pain every time I go to this website, and there's no other options, as I go on the media boards to talk about media, but I feel like those boards are tainted by the cruelty of 4chan.
I want this site to die. How do I destroy it?
are you 12??
>>16625813
Buy it and then close it or just locate the servers and destroy them. But it won't really matter as the people will keep doing the same shut just in another site, thus I suggest you to chill and just appreciate the 'good' or not that bad part of the site anon.
>>16625813
Reasonable, empathetic, kind people could only agree with this.
I am an extremely sensitive person, especially regarding sexual humiliation, which is the hallmark of 4chan.
Why do I continue to torture mysefl?
This place is addictive.
Which girl would get the guy
You posted this same shit yesterday. Nobody cares.
>>16626623
They both would because they'd take turns fucking him while both of the beta males who are in love with these woman sit in the other room getting plastered to the sounds of the raunchy sex happening in the other room.
>Go out for new years
>See girl in orange short shorts
>Talk about how it was the highlight of the night
>Girl I know in Russia I've been talking to (and I know likes me) gets really mad, says I post about some random girl and never about her
What the fuck do I even do about this? I said I'd go visit her in Russia eventually, but whenever she gets mad, she gets ultra manipulative and tries to make me feel guilty. Hell, I post once about some stranger and she reacts like this.
I haven't even met her in person and she acts like this when I talk about other women. I can only imagine how miserable she'd make me if I got married to her. Should I just tell her that I'm not going to follow through with it?
To those of you who have ever attempted suicide - what was it like? Share your stories.
>>16626491
OP why don't you it yourself and report back to us your findings?
>>16626491
Dude, dont run away
Do cool shit
Crash a New years eve party
Browse /fit/ get fit
Run away go somewhere cool
learn japanese you weeb
do something stop moping
>>16626491
Suicide is a really shitty thing. The intrusive thoughts and eventually it becomes a comforting thought. Which is absolutely sick.
Let me tell you something, OP.
Whatever you do, do NOT attempt it because if you do and you DONT die it is shitty and painful and will leave you feeling like you're an even bigger failure.
I tried so many times and almost succeeded twice. Totally fucked me up.
But, now I'm doing things like talk therapy and exercise to cope with it all. It works, OP. It gets better but takes time and determination.
I am finally going on dates because I feel like I'm worth something. Don't give in and don't give up.
Fight back and do things to make you realize how good life is.
Why am I supposed to congratulate attention-whoring fucks at work for getting pregnant or getting someone pregnant? How is this an accomplishment in any shape or form?
>>16626481
How about you stop being a faggot and just say congrats even if you don't mean it? Welcome to office culture, sperglord. Get used to it or to pick up an idiot stick like all those other fucks who can't figure out basic social interactions
it's not
Because women celebrate a permanent excuse to not work
