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Hey /adv/isors
I'm about to finish school this year and i've got some friends i know since im 3 years old who i really love. The problem is after finishing school we most likely study and live in other cities and i guess we will seperate and lose contact which i really really fear as i really have them constantly around in my life...what can i do?
accept
Make an effort to contact them on a regular basis, send cards for holidays, recommend good books youve read recently, invite them to visit you, etc.
>>16624443
I wont accept though
We often play vidya together and talk over skype which i hope will continue. Another problem for me would be: I dont have problems in socialising with others etc but i will miss the total fucked up shit i can simply do with them which others would find inappropriate
Why?
If you're a girl of reasonable appearance that's what happens.
Could anyone share some positive coping mechanisms to deal with relationship heart break?
I've already gone to the gym today, journaled pretty extensively, and talked with a few friends about the situation.
Can you guys share your favorite things to do when you can't get over someone? This wasn't a bad breakup btw, very mature, kind and mutual, it just hurts and I'm looking for ways to pass time so it can do its thing.
Thanks in advance.
bumping my own thread.
Normally I read a lot, journal, lift, sleep (already done a lot of that though.) talk to friends.
I suppose cleaning up around the house/in the car would be a good idea.
>>16624390
new activities help. the reason that emotions tend to fade over time is that they were in the short term memory part of your brain, and at the front of your consciousness. you are used to having something there and its not and thats sad.
so people who dwell on it, mourn it, wallow it, sit around and do nothing / do similar activities are constantly reminded.
as soon as you pick up new hobbies or put new framework on old hobbies, those memories get sorted into the 'long term' memory part of your brain and stored away.
so new hobbies in general, or finding new ways to do old hobbies. like if you two watched a show together, watch a different one, or in a different room even.
my recommendation is play old video games. you can emulate a lot of stuff on any decent computer. replay all the classics from your childhood.
>>16624404
I really like that idea. Thank you so much anon, I really do appreciate it.
I'm generally unhappy with my relationship. I could list the cliché reasons. I'm just not into her anymore. I don't think anyone is to blame. Love's just gone.
7 years. Not married. No kids. What do? She has a lot if debt and needs a place, so not sure what to do about that.
>>16624371
I really don't understand why people date for so long
you either realize you want to marry the person or you break up. Are you afraid to be alone? Is it just habitual at that point?How can you put up with mediocrity for so long?
Obviously end it but help her out until she finds a job and can find her own place. It's her debt not yours, and it's unfair to burden you with it, but if you're too cold everyone will call you a heartless asshole. Put up with it a bit longer, hell what's a month or months on top of 7 fucking years
7 fucking years, still can't get over that
I was mad enough that I wasted 2.5 with an ex, should have ended after 1
In the same scenario except married. I know that I need out, but i, like you, question her ability to handle herself as an adult. I'll monitor this thread with you man. Let me know if you need to talk, regardless if I can give you real things to help the scenario.
>>16624430
Probably habitual and easy. That's fairly easy to understand.
Update thread
Last night I posted about me expecting myself to hold s job just like my boyfriend can, like I don't get a free pass to laze around just because I'm a girl. And the thread talked about how weak I am, and how work takes a toll on me.
Well I tried my absolute best to drink more water and I put on a different (more comfy) pair of shoes on and I think those really helped. I took a drink each time the customer was paying for their stuff, but before the receipt comes out. It's a fun game. Also I'm trying to stretch more.
Thanks guys
Bring ibuprofen and Tylenol with you to work too.
I'm the waitress from the last thread and I normally take some before I go to work too prophylactically.
>I don't get a free pass to laze around just because I'm a girl
this thinking has always been so outlandish to me, because I've had three jobs in my life, all of them had workplaces that were mostly women due to it being a field men typically don't go for. at my current job, the one guy who works here gets treated with way more respect by the public than me or my other workers do, even though he's easily the most drag ass one here. it's really strange
and yeah, drinking water helps a lot. my job is pretty physically demanding and you can really feel it if you're even slightly dehydrated. and in sure you've already been told this, but make sure you get enough sleep. take Advil PM to force yourself to sleep and "reset" your internal clock if you have to, it helps a lot
glad it's going well anon
>>16624428
>Advil pm
I have trouble sleeping. Virtually the only thing that makes me feel comfortable enough to sleep is the sound of my loved one's breathing
Sniffing and wearing panties of my mother while masturbating. What's wrong with me?
*I am hetero.
Thinking about her fucking you in the ass with a strap on?
>>16624303
rather rarely. I would even dare to say: no. I am not sexually aroused by my mother. Just by the panties.
I've been seeing a guy for 2 months now. I liked how he was always enthusiastic and excited about seeing me. He would always want to know when he would see me next. Text during the day.
But three days he didn't even read my messages online. When I texted him the next day he finally responded. For the past 3 days that's how it's been. Slow to respond to me. I have to keep the convo going. And he hasn't asked to see me in almost a week now. Should I cut my losses and move on or is he expecting me to be more forward and take the initiative? I feel like it's the former because he has always been so forward/dominant with me until now.
>>16624273
Just ask him if something happened to him to change his communication habits because you are worried.
Don't have a accusatory tone.
>>16624286
Well that won't sound clingy or paranoid? It's not like he has been out of touch completely. He's talking to me enough that I think it would come out of left field- unless he was seriously losing interest.
>>16624304
Sounds honest to me, if this is something you feel the need to end this relationship over then it is something worth discussing.
Hey guys i've been given a lot of shit lately in one of my videos in my comment sections.. the hate doesn't really get to me but can you guys give me advice on what to do maybe to stop it? i have a small channel 99 subscribers
Find everyone in the comments section who is a troll, go to their houses, and kill them. People will know not to troll you then.
>>16624260
Do the navy seals pasta on them
block comments
Hey /adv/ocates, I've got a bit of a question for you lot. So, I'm loosing my virginity to one of my best female friends tomorrow in a car (newer model Toyota sienna). We are both legal age, but our parents are hyper religious, and would murder me if there is any evidence of sexual happenings left in the car. I'll be happy for any general advice for sex or keeping what I'm doing on the down low, but my most pressing matter is this: from what I've read, your supposed to A. Make sure paper towels soak up the liquids instead of the floor/seats, and B. To leave the windows down for a while immediately after/during so it doesn't meld with the car.I can't leave the windows down, because we'll be leaving the car alone for 2 hours to watch a movie in a sketchy neighborhood. Any advice? Also, feel free to ask for any details about myself or my friend or something, I'll try to keep the thread alive
>losing virginity
>in a car
>in a sketchy neighbourhood
Sounds like a wonderful first time
>>16624209
>>16624197
Also
>Toyota Sienna
>not getting a room
I've been thinking about drugs that will help with the study grind. I'm 19 in college, B- student, no extracurriculars, really should be an A student considering my background
Are there any that would have a low chance of causing negative side effects?
Where do I find someone to sell them to me anyway?
>>16624193
You could try LSD, that usually helps me concentrate.
>>16624193
Jublia
Adderall it's made to help focus most college kids sell it cuz they make huge profit
>match with girl on Tinder
>talk for a while
>ask her if she wants to trade numbers
>says, sure but I'm not great at texting for fair warning
What does this mean?
Does she want to go out tonight, and tonight only? Or does she really just suck at texting?
>>16624188
She didn't post her number when she responded, fyi.
What sort of witchcraft is abound?
>>16624188
Tinder IS texting. You can only use it on a phone and the interface is exactly like texting.
>>16624194
This.
Leave her to send you the number. There are plenty of other girls to talk to on there.
OP here.
She just sent me her number.
Do I immediately ask to hang out, or try texting her a few things first?
I don't really wanna go out tonight, but I know the attention span of women (specifically on Tinder) is lacking.
How do i fake a suicide. doritos must be included
Hit yourself in the head with a bag of Doritos until you die.
Try to shove the whole bag of Doritos up your pee hole.
How do I help someone who engages in self-harm?
>>16624154
Tell them it hurts you when they do it and that they should seek professional help
>>16624154
A psychiatric intervention. You can't help them directly because you aren't a trained medical professional. You aren't a psychiatrist or a therapist and you have absolutely no resources at your disposal to help this person at all.
Anyone actively hurting themselves is eligible to be physically committed against their will. This person might just be an attention seeking fuckbag or they might actually be someone who needs immediate help. Either way, a couple days in a mental health facility might do them a world of good.
They might be pissed off at you but hey, they wanted attention, now they got it.
>>16624165
don't
chances are that they will keep doing it and feel even worse because now they think they are responsible for your pain
i'm in a bit of an awkward situation right now
a week ago i asked my friend if he had any plans for new years eve, he said that they're doing the same thing as last year and that i better not get sick this year
backstory: there was a wild party at his dorm last year, we had everything planned out and i caught a fever 4 days before the party, so i didn't attend that party
so i assume the invitation was kind of implied with the "you better not get sick this year", but i still don't want to appear pushy and crash a party that i wasn't invited to (i didn't get a facebook invitation to the event, which is how they usually arrange their parties)
how do i probe if i'm welcome on that party without coming off pushy, in case they don't want me there?
>>16624120
Dude just ask him if you are invited to the party.
>>16624171
i was overthinking this, this actually makes perfect sense
just set up a date with some girl
laid out the plans and all, "hey let's go to X at Y time, that work for you?" and her response was quite eloquently:
>Yes
that's it. I don't know why, I guess I just find her cold, singular utterance a bit weird. what should I say next? "Great see ya then"? keep in mind I am a noob at dating in general so if this sounds completely normal, just let me know and also tell me how to respond and what my next steps are
please and thanks /adv/, love you guys
>>16624104
just say "k see ya there"
next time you ask someone out, do not give them a chance to say yes or no
like what you did "that work for you?"
keep in mind girls do wanna do anything (most of the time) and rather have a guy who is decisive
say:
What the fuck did you just fucking say about me, you little bitch? I’ll have you know I graduated top of my class in the Navy Seals, and I’ve been involved in numerous secret raids on Al-Quaeda, and I have over 300 confirmed kills. I am trained in gorilla warfare and I’m the top sniper in the entire US armed forces. You are nothing to me but just another target. I will wipe you the fuck out with precision the likes of which has never been seen before on this Earth, mark my fucking words. You think you can get away with saying that shit to me over the Internet? Think again, fucker. As we speak I am contacting my secret network of spies across the USA and your IP is being traced right now so you better prepare for the storm, maggot. The storm that wipes out the pathetic little thing you call your life. You’re fucking dead, kid. I can be anywhere, anytime, and I can kill you in over seven hundred ways, and that’s just with my bare hands. Not only am I extensively trained in unarmed combat, but I have access to the entire arsenal of the United States Marine Corps and I will use it to its full extent to wipe your miserable ass off the face of the continent, you little shit. If only you could have known what unholy retribution your little “clever” comment was about to bring down upon you, maybe you would have held your fucking tongue. But you couldn’t, you didn’t, and now you’re paying the price, you goddamn idiot. I will shit fury all over you and you will drown in it. You’re fucking dead, kiddo.
>>16624126
gotcha
>>16624127
th-thank you senpai
