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>have gf
>I am travelling through Europe
>In Prague
>best friend's sister lives there
>fuck her after a night of partying
>leave Prague
>tells me she has feelings for me and always has
>reciprocated.jpg
>wants me to come back to Prague
What do I do?
Do I go back? And if I do should I tell me gf? Or let the situation die?
>>16622252
break up with your GF
don't tell her that you cheated, make up some other excuse
do whatever you want from there
My 16 years old friend got dumped by his girlfriend. The girl doesn't love him, she fell for another guy the moment she moved away. But he still loves her and can't forget about the girl.
How do you redpill a 16 years old teenager about women and relationships?
It takes time man. Maybe a few months.
>>16622235
He's 16, he'll get over it.
You don't. The best you can do is distract them for some time and deal with their crying.
They have to learn how to cope with it. Even if you give advice, they're not going to take it.
I did it. I finally did it.
I ended an unhealthy relationship last night and I can say with absolute confidence that it is done for good.
However, right now, I feel something resembling sadness in that it feels like I should cry but no tears would come out since my mind is already blocking any bit of memories of those days spent with the other person by reflex - likely no concrete mental image forms for me to cry over. Any advice on what this feeling means and what's a recommended next course of action?
Thanks
It's fine, I mean it's normal to be upset when any relationship ends, I'm sure there was at least some fun parts to it.
My last two relationships were full of just emotional abuse and when I finally broke it off I felt shitty but then usually a few minutes later I felt great.
But the fact that another relationship bit the dust is always kind of disappointing
>>16622224
its still just sadness, but sadness =/= tears. that is why men have the 'boys dont cry' BS.
you're just sad, but not so distraught over it that you need to cry. thats a good thing. you are starting to see things for what they really are.
my recommendation? try to get into the new schedule of things. keep doing everything you did normally, but replace the activities with ur bf with something specific. dont just lay around cuz all you do is think.
right now your bf is programmed in your brain as 'short term' memory, so you are going to miss him. when you replace those short term memories with new ones (like, instead of watching TV with ur bf, playing video games, or going roller skating) he gets shifted to the long term memory part of your brain, and you stop 'missing' him so immediately.
Ah, remember feeling this feel too Anon after my first relationship.
Being separated from your partner will always suck, can tell you right now it never exactly gets easier. But knowing that a good thing happened because of that, will make it all SO much easier to deal with.
I always think of the feeling as a movie with a really sad ending, but was also an ending that can't possibly be any better or more appropriate.
For now, I usually say its best to wait half the time of the relationship (1 year max) to just be alone with yourself and get your emotional life back together. Take some "you" time Anon, you've earned it.
My 14 year old younger sister is intent on making a Tumblr to post writing/artwork and I'm worried about the possibility of her getting doxxed or something like that. Are there any steps I can take to prevent her from getting doxxed other than just not going on Tumblr?
>>16622217
m8, you have better things to worry about if your 14 yo sister is going to tumblr than doxxing.
>>16622217
convince her to use a fake name, fake locaiton, etc.
Suggest she only use her first name and not give out her location more specifically than her state for privacy reasons.
My sister was always crazy, but she used to be fun to be around and now I really don't want much to do with her. She started dating this guy about a year ago. He's an addict to alcohol and some drugs. She became an addict too. She's been abused and battered and controlled by this piece of shit guy she's with. This guy is crazy and I don't know how he's not in jail. But despite being manipulated, controlled, and abused she still wants to be with him despite being in a safe environment with us and numerous conversations of her being safe with us and her never having to see him again. But my guess is she is staying with him because of the drugs.
But then what happened is she became preggers and now had the baby. She didn't like being pregnant. She always talked about 'getting this kid out of her already'. Taking her word for it, she quit the drugs when she was pregnant, but still hung out with this guy even though he still actively used drugs. So now she had the baby and she's barely around. The baby misses her mom. My sister impusivly decided that she is going to move in with this loser (who now says he's trying to recover). This asshole has been an addict for over 20 years maybe. He's hella old too 39 (she's 25). I doubt he's recovering. So I guess my question is: why is my sister choosing this guy over her own baby? Why is she not here with us? How can she stand to be away from her baby? The baby is not even a month old.
>>16622203
Because she's a piece of shit, that's why. I can't tell you specifically what her reasoning is, but that's the gist of it, really, she's trash and at this point she's beyond saving. As important as family may be, I suggest breaking all ties with her and continuing your life as if you never had a sister.
Ugh, this is awful to hear Anon but I do kinda agree with >>16622267
I talked with some friends about a similar situation and their advice does ring pretty true. People have free will, its their right to choose to fuck up, even if it hurts to watch. You're the one who's responsible for your own life so focus on that if nothing else.
Sounds like you did all you can, so don't feel guilty about it. All I can say is worry about the child since the poor thing really doesn't have a choice in any of this. Whether its putting the lil' thing for adoption or knowing someone that's willing to care for it.
Best thing would be to ensure that the kid does have a future, if nothing else it'll be a great way to stick it to your sister at the end of the day.
>>16622420
No need to put her up for adoption, we'll gladly watch the baby. But now all of the sudden the father wants rights. Meaning to bring the baby home to their apartment. My family doesn't trust him since he's an abusive person. But now my sister wants to bring the child back home with her. They could both end up being killed by this prick. So it's really hard to just stand there and watch on the sidelines, you know? I really do want to help my sister. I just want to figure what is her malfunction here
I'm 28, have been married for 1 year, and my wife is entering her third trimester. Now, my wife wants to hyphenate the child's last name, whereas I want it to only inherit my last name (my wife kept her maiden name, which I am completely for because my mother did the same and I'm fine with it).
However, being the wonderful person she is, she said it's fine if we keep things traditional - she knows its just a label and it doesn't matter. Basically, the decision falls to me, and, while I prefer not hyphenate, I know that doing so would be a pleasant surprise for my wife, and I feel like she deserves it for being cool with not hyphenating it.
So, /adv/, are my beliefs outdated and unreasonable, or should I go ahead and only pass on my surname (to which there are no negative consequences, she's fine with it)?
>>16622201
my only issue with it really is what happens to HIS kids? Is he going to give his kid three last names? or four if he meets another weirdo like him? at what point does someone have too many last names?
jokes aside, its something to consider, and it might be a bit confusing on your son.
my recommendation? which name is the coolest / nicest / least easy to be made fun of?
make that the last name... or just use your name since you seem to be the one who wants it most. make the OTHER name (your wife's) his middle name.
that way he still gets both names but hes not doing hyphenated BS and having a hard time trying to figure out how to name his own kid, since this is a growing trend.
>>16622201
Wanting to hyphenate the last name is fucking retarded and you shouldn't have to ask us to see that.
>>16622201
hyphenated names are stupid. Taking a surname from the father is a way of avoiding overly long names like >>16622210 pointed out. It's just practical and it's an established tradition. It's not broken don't fix it. She's being impractical.
So for the past three nights my sleep has been really shitty. I've been having stomach issues that have kept me awake. Yesterday I felt exhausted, but now after getting very little sleep last night, I just feel like I don't give a shit about anything and am super pissed off.
I'm visiting my extended family now, and I've been avoiding them all day. My mother tried to get me to come down and after I managed to get her to go away I was literally shaking with rage and had to grab the shit out of my bed and apply force to it to get the urge to punch something to pass. I feel like I'm about to fucking kill someone.
Why is this happening and how do I stop it? I really should spend some time with my family but I'm afraid of how angry for no reason I am.
>>16622180
You're just a grumpy goose who needs a nap. Tell your mom you feel ill. Take some pepto bismal, and rest.
I'm a failure.
I'm 28 years old. I'm close to getting a BoS in physics. A degree that's supposed to take three years. It's taken about 5~6. I tell myself it's because I've been (and still am) severely sick. I live in an apartment owned and paid for by my mother (she lives with her partner). She can't afford to pay for it any more. I'm going to have to find a job. I've never worked more than entry level jobs; receptionist, clerk, secretary, high school math/physics tutor... I'm scared. I feel so weak, pathetic and worthless. All my friends have moved abroad. I have no one to talk to. Please tell me I have something to live for.
http://www.what-is-coaching.com/support-files/lazymansway2riches.pdf
Your welcome.
>>16622176
Dude, you're not a failure. That's a huge accomplishment. That's a hard degree. I dropped out so you're less of a failure than me. Maybe you should go downtown sometime and see all the fucking lazy, good-for-nothing, worthless losers who have never had a job and can barely read. Most people in this world are fucking losers. People who grew up around a bunch or rich, privileged people have no sense of perspective.
>>16622206
>Maybe you should go downtown sometime and see all the fucking lazy, good-for-nothing, worthless losers who have never had a job and can barely read.
I live in Sweden. Most of the time it feel like the people working entry level jobs have got their shit together way more than me. Even the beggars on the street must have had some determination and drive to get themselves all the way here from Romania. I come form a family of doctors and engineers. I was born into privilege and can't even support myself.
last thread here >>16606761
Dear Sarah, you are my best friend. Trust me when I say this because I look at you now and I see a mirror image of myself from a year ago. Your boyfriend is a fuckboy. I can sense it now for miles. I can see it just from his scenemo hair cut that he is indeed a fuckboy. It's not worth it. I wonder where yall will be in three months time. If I ever meet him, I think I might deck him. Right now you are so caught up with him that you can't even answer a fucking skype call. We haven't seen each other in months. We haven't really had the chance to really sit down and catch up. You keep putting him ahead of your friends. I just don't want you to regret anything. I don't want you to go through what I went through...but at the same time. Maybe you should. But just don't put some fuck boy's priorities first in front of people who have know you and loved you for years. Listen to your mom for fucks sakes.. She's probably one of your closest friends.
>>16606207 → #
>>16606231 → #
Psychological projection, also known as blame shifting, is a theory in psychology in which humans defend themselves against their own unpleasant impulses by denying their existence while attributing them to others. For example, a person who is rude may constantly accuse other people of being rude.
>>16622175
Sigmund Freud, known as the father of psychoanalysis, recorded his observations of group dynamics in Group Psychology and the Analysis of the Ego. In his work, he refers to Wilfred Trotter as the group conditions its members, Freud states "opposition to the herd is as good as separation from it, and is therefore anxiously avoided.[2]" Such fear causes the individual members and even leaders of a particular group to go along with the decisions a group based in accordance to its culture. On a micro scale, the individual is conditioned to partake in the social norms of the said group even if they contradict his or her personal moral code. The consequences of such protest (may) result in isolation. Such, in accordance to Freud, is one of the greatest punishments than can be instilled on an individual. This would result in the inability of an individual to practice his or her "instinctual impulses." These instincts, in accordance to Freud, are the motives behind actions that the individual may take. The father of psychoanalysis further states that, "we thus have an impression of a state in which an individual's private emotional impulses and intellectual acts are too weak to come to anything by themselves and are entirely dependent for this on being reinforced by being repeated in a similar way in the other members of the group.[2]" Out of fear of isolation and to secure the practice of instinctual impulses, there may be little protest from individual members as the group continues to conditions.
3rd wheeling dub decided what I say to them
This is not /b/ or /r9k/.
Go away.
I'm almost done with a 2 year energy technology certificate, and honestly, I don't like it. I started out thinking might as well just pick something in this field like a power plant worker, lineman, or welder, and while that'd be great, it's fucking hard and I just want to get a damn career so I can start living. I don't want to be at the bottom of the totem pole my whole life and have to be the best of the best just to get paid more, like a welder. I'm starting to rethink this whole blue collar thing. It sounds rewarding, but it also sounds like I'll be a slave for most of my life before it pays off. I want to enjoy the finer things in life while I'm young.
>>16622135
What exactly would you do to make you so much more money? I like being HVAC, but I don't expect work to be my passion, or give me emotional fulfillment. It's a fucking job, a job that pays decently, let's me work with my hands, and feels good to do some real work in the world instead of typing on a computer all day. It is sometimes cold, and sometimes hot, but I am not a baby who has to have things exactly right all the time or else something is wrong with life.
>finer things in life
Such as? Maybe I'm missing something, but I've never considered 'more' or 'better' to be qualifiers for happiness. I have a nice place to live, a good car, good friends, a decent computer, bills paid, some spending money, some money saved. I don't see how a better car, better computer, better this, more of that, will change anything about my general temperament.
Your head is filled with desires and grandiose ideas of self-importance and demands of the world to suit what you want out of it. You're heading down a path of disillusionment and misery. Just who do you think you are, to get these things you want for nothing? Are you white? It seems to be a common complex in my fellow white men these days.
So I was accepted into an engineering program last year. I wound up not going and decided I would work full time and try to help my mom (who I love very much). The thing is that the job I'm in offers no movement upwards, and the GM has basically tapped out after 15 years of work at like 37k. There's a dude who has been there for 10 years (making <14k) that got his first promotion a few weeks ago - a mere 20k. I already have another degree, but I've been unable to find work with it. This job is basically the best I could get.
So I emailed the college that accepted me and they suggested it would be possible for me to go back into the program for engineering. The thing is that classes start on the 11th of January and I haven't even filed for anything yet. I'd have to do my admissions, FASFA classes, and transfers in like a week. The good news is that I was already accepted so they probably (I hope) have all that shit still on file, which exponentially increases the likelihood that I can go to school there in a few weeks.
I'll keep this brief, but I'm wondering if I should put my two weeks notice in now. If I put in my two weeks notice, I can smoothly transition from the job directly into college. This is good for me because I have a good reputation at work and want to be able to use my previous employers as references. If I don't give them two weeks they'll probably be pissed and not let me use them as a reference.
The thing is that I don't know if I'll get accepted in time. I don't want to risk leaving, not being able to get into school, and then sitting jobless until the next semester (like 4 months).
I thought about just seeing if I got accepted and THEN putting in my two weeks notice, but I can't realistically work this job and commute to school for two weeks, so it would be the same as if I just quit as soon as I found out.
What does 4chan think? I have to decide today.
My game plan is to try and get my shifts on the weekends so, if I do get accepted, I can try to eek out two weekends working while doing engineering. If it doesn't work out, I still have a job. The shitty thing is that I already told them to reduce my hours and they're not increasing them anymore.
any gift ideas for an 25 years old nerd. (not the average 4chan user)
depending how nerdy..
Raspberry Pi 2 model B
theyre under $50
>>16622117
check giftadvisor.io
I feel so dumb.
I'm using the LM386 amplifyer and have trouble understanding what that 0.05µF cap and 10 Ohm res does.
I'm no genius but I know it's meant to be a low-pass filter.
But the math seems to tell me it's useless ? Since potential U_2 ends up the same anyway i mean. I've tried to calculate the transfer function (U_speaker/U_in) of that part using resistor R_2 as speaker (which is bad i reckon now), and found something independent of the filter. I'm so confused.
I don't even need a detailed explanation, just tell me what I forgot...
take it to /diy/
>>16622029
>>/diy/
>>/sci/
>>/g/
>>/s/omewhere >>/e/lse
>>16622029
I think you need to feed the output back into the positive input channel. May be wrong since it's been a bit since I took a circuits class
Does any one know of a good app to down load music on to a android phone??
>>16622005
I just use 'anything 2 mp3' website and get the music from youtube
