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Hey /adv/, so I've been liking my female friend for about a year but the thing is, I somewhat want to talk about it to someone else, so I was wondering whether it would be "safe" to confide in my other friend. She seems alright to me and is very thoughtful and stuff but I just have a fear that this may leak out. What do you think? Thanks for any advice.
>>16622578
If any place, an anonymous image board where there is little to no link to your personal self, unless they track your IP, is a great place for this.
This 15 year old tries to sell the most random drugs..ambien, vyanese. He sent me a dm this morning asking if i wanted vyanese. Where is he getting this shit
>>16622551
Decapitate his pet's head and put it in his bed while he sleeps
>>16622554
why?? hes not doing anything wrong unless theyre fake. and they probably aren't
he might be trying to hoe me to get back at me for some dumb shit in the past but i didn't want it anyways. i just dont know where a 15 year old would be getting all these rare ass pills
hi i was looking for at advice i don't really know what to do about myself. i think i am really depressed and i do bad things to myself sometimes i want to ask my mom for help.but well in the past she threatened to send me to a mental hospital but that isnt what i want and i feel like if i tell her shes just gonna do that. i dont trust anyone in my family . some things that happened are being used by people at school but i mistaked it for friendship. and i tried to make friends on the internet and then it was okay for a while but now it has went very bad . i dont have many friends and i only go to school.
https://youtu.be/2dbR2JZmlWo
>>16622522
Damn. A series of unfortunate events much?
Not much I can advise other than to keep your chin up and get your own shit done.
>>16622522
>i hurt myself
>want my moms help but dont want to go to mental hospital
either stop hurting yourself, or go. you cant expect mommy to fix your mental issues for you. shes a human without a psychology degree. if you cant control yourself to not hurt yourself or others, you need actual help. a sanitarium is the best way to get it.
Does /adv/ have any suggestions on learning to use microcontrollers? Books, websites, etc. I'm interested and I do not know where to start.
>>16622519
I don't know much but I would start with
https://www.arduino.cc/en/Guide/Introduction
Depends on how far you want to take this.
honestly
and i say this as an EE
arduino is a cheap, fun, and easy way to learn about microcontrollers and anyone who says otherwise is just trying to be an edgy contrarian
>>16623480
you wont learn much about the µC if you stay with those adruino libraries though. they abstract everything so much you basically learn nothing.
How do I get her back?
We're nearing our 2 year anniversary and things have been getting increasingly bad. I have severe depression and as I've spiraled within the last year, our relationship has deteriorated some - and I've hurt her (emotionally). The love we share for one another hasn't faltered, but I've neglected the relationship and not been very good to her. We took a break seeing no other solution, and within just a week she's decided it's over.
We both agreed that we should have taken it much sooner, because in this short period of time I have evaluated things and gained a wealth of perspective. I know I need to improve on my own and that it can't happen immediately, but I've never been as committed to change as I am now. She just feels she can't justify and reconcile with herself if she were to stay, even if she does believe it will work out.
I'm a wreck. Best thing that's ever happened to me. Just finished uni and we had plans to get a place in the near future. Plans to do so much.
I know I should have wised up sooner, but the point of the break was to see how we can heal our relationship. I don't even have the opportunity to show her change.
>>16622484
>but the point of the break was to see how we can heal our relationship
Er.. might have some bad news for you there mate. See, there's only two reasons women will suggest a "break" in a relationship.
The first is because they actually want to break up with you but either don't have the nerve or are trying to let you down gently - it's like your boss suspending you on full pay then sending you a "services no longer required" letter a week later instead of just calling you in his office and telling you to gtfo.
The second is because they've found someone else, but they want to test the water and make sure that person is interested in a relationship and not just getting his dick wet. The "on a break" part in that sense means "keeping you on the back burner in case things don't work out with chad thundercock". If he pumps her and dumps her she comes running back to you, and if you find out what happened she claiims it's not actually cheating because you were on a break.
I wouldn't like to say which one it is in your case, but the fact that she's decided it's permanent is probaly not a good sign for you. Better start making plans to improve for yourself or for your next gf rather than her.
>>16622537
It's not that black and white, dude. Not all women are the same.
Anyone else have a different opinion?
>inb4 move on she's just one girl
I've dated and loved plenty. Of course soul mates are bs, but this is the closest I'll ever be to "the one"
I made pic related all the way back in Halloween 2015
What is the best method of killing myself for this?
>>16622467
Wat
Why would you kill yourself over this
>>16622471
Because I have become the absolute reddit trash without even having a reddit account. Now THAT'S low.
>>16622475
Look at the bright side, at last you aren't 9gag yet
When I was younger I was molested by a friend's dad, not full on raped but touched in places and forced to kiss. It's been about 15 years now but I can't shake these sexual fantasies I keep having of contacting him, meeting up eventually fucking.
What's wrong with me? Is this normal? Should I do it? I feel fucked up for feeling like this.
>>16622456
No, contact a help line and talk about it. Then get a real boyfriend.
What he did was not okay, don't you dare glorify it now.
>>16622456
Try changing to better fetishes like necrophilia
>>16622557
I have a boyfriend of ~3 years. I told him about what happened when I was younger, he's understanding. I didn't fOr obvious reasons tell him about the fantasies.
Wasn't too crazy about any girls in college so took to online dating (okcupid). Found a girl and she's honestly pretty perfect, there's just about nothing wrong with her.
We've been dating for about 2 months now, but I don't know if I'm in love yet for some reason. I've been in 2 other relationships before and the feeling came pretty quick, both of those girls were also arguably "worse" for me and I had less in common with them.
I asked some friends about this and one said she dated 6 months before finally falling in love. Not sure if that sounds right to me though or if I can really continue what I feel like is a charade for that long.
I'm really hoping that something does "click" for me soon because she's honestly an awesome person. Though I'm planning to break up in a week if nothing happens by then.
How do you know if you're in love /adv/? How long should it normally take?
Should I give it more time or am I right to start cutting the chord soon?
>>16622447
You are right to end it. Love isn't defineable. There's infatuation at the beginning. The "falling in love" stage. That's not yet LOVE to me, but the road to it. If you aren't in that stage already, nothing will happen. You can easily tell. Do you randomly smile like an idiot when you think about her? Do you feel disappointed if your phone rings and it isn't her? Do yoi catch yourself daydreaming about a future with her? Do you make plans with her months ahead? Do you want your family to meet her? If go figure
>>16622539
Nah I don't, and when I realized that about a week or two ago is when I just felt so heartless.
When I'm with her its just, ambivalence. Great but its the same that I would feel with a friend not with a lover. The future is just blank to me when I try to think about that.
We did meet each others family though and it went great, but in hindsight that was probably a bad move.
It just feels cruel cause it's as though my personal wish list of "What do I want in a wife" is all there but I can't even feel anything about her.
That's life though.
Thanks for the support Anon!
>>16622642
I feel you. I had a very similar situation a year ago. Met his family and all, but it was more "going trough the motions". Now i am just starting a new relationship and boy, that's a difference! Don't waste her and your time. If it doesn't happen it doesn't. You can't force it. Good luck anon
What is your opinion on ethnic plastic surgery?
I feel overwhelmed by how many people had surgery on features I also have and how they are universally considered unattractive.
From the other hand its hard not to notice that getting surgery would mean that I also agree there is only one acceptable type of beauty and it excludes my ethnicity.
>>16622397
*on the other hand
>>16622397
Moving to a place that is more accepting of your ethnicity would be a cheaper and more worth-while choice.
>>16622498
I doubt it. Places like Iran (which should be more okay with their own features) have highest rates to ethnic surgeries
Hi, I'm a gay teen and have this huge gigantic crush on the bi guy in several of my classes. He's wonderful, bubbly, funny, caring , and not bad to look at either. We've been friends for a while and now I want to take this friendship to the next level. Any tips, ideas, stories or advice , good or bad, I would greatly appreciate it.
>>16622384
>Teen
Get ouuuuuuuuut
>>16622384
ur a teen, so really almost any approach works, especially for two dudes. at that age, and that gender, and that sexuality, guys are just happy when something happens. your first kiss could be in the school bathroom and you guys would think its the best thing evar.
if you talk to him quite a bit, figure out what video games he might like, and suggest you guys play em. hwen you guys get a little too close on the couch and you get that bubbly feeling in your stomach, you'll know its time to kiss him.
>>16622384
You have to make it more well known to him that you want him. Try having a pillow fight in school, even though you'll be the only one with a pillow. Other than that, the only difference will be that you should try a more smothering approach and your pillow is doused in chloroform.
What am i, in terms of sexuality
>6-9 yo
>fucked a girl in the ass
>laid naked on top of my mother and tried to fuck her (saw it in a porn mag)
>let a cat who just gave birth lick my dick
>....let a bitch (dog) lick my dick
>9-11 yo
>Touched dicks with neighbors kid
>male cousin who was older (14) sucked my dick and convinced me to suck his (came in my mouth, even though i did not want that shit, looking back it feels like rape also very emasculating)
>11-15 yo
>Let 2 to 4 dogs lick my balls/and or dick while masterbating
>Came in a neighbors kid mouth and sucked him for a moment
>Fucked neighbors kid and best guy friend in the ass for few moments, with condom
>Sucked each other off with 2 other friends
>17-22 yo
>Fucking my gf daily, most of the time licking her till she comes
My "problem" is that i dont find men sexy or attractive, quite the opposite. But to be completely honest i remember that sucking dick was waaaay more fun than licking pussy for me.
So, what am i? I never look at a guy and go "oooh hes so hot" or whatever, i dont feel the need to hook up or anything with men, nor have i ever kissed or wanted to kiss a guy but i do like dick.
Tried self-sucking and it was pretty fucking good, but my back hurt like a SOB after that (still does btw).
I should also make a note that i had exactly 16 girls trying to hookup with me from the age of 13 to 17, yet i never did anything with any of em cause i started watching porn at 9 and absolutely convinced myself that my dick will never, ever please a woman, also no self-confidence and dropped my spaghetti (most of em found that cute, nevertheless)
I'm of the school of thought that our experiences dont really define our sexuality, especially when we were young.
I have NO interest in sex with dogs, but on several occasions experimented with animals cuz i was a horny fucking kid and just wanted some sort of experience with something touching my dick. people have done CRAZY things hwen their horny, especially at that hormonal driven age.
today im gay, but just a few months ago i experimented and did a three way make out session and other fun stuff with chicks. was nice and i definitely love boobs, but im still gay.
so what do you feel like? from your post-experience description of your feelings it sounds like you are just straight.
you might be a little gay in terms of sucking dick, but if thats all you ever want to limit to, what does it matter? you seem to have mixed feelings on Sing the D though. first you say it was like rape and emasculating (at least him cumming in your mouth) but now you seem to really want to try it.
it may also just be that you watch too much porn where a girl suck a dick. you are suppoed to proxy into the dick. sometimes we proxy in to the woman.
>>16622393
> did a three way make out session and other fun stuff with chicks. was nice and i definitely love boobs, but im still gay.
Sounds like me but in reverse
>Tried some stuff with guys, definitely liked the dick but im still straight
>you watch too much porn where a girl suck a dick
No shit! The same cousing who convinced me to suck his dick was making fun of me few years later cause absolute majority of my porn were blowjobs,
he (the guy who came in his 11 yo cousins mouth) made fun of me for being gay (cause all the blowjob porn).
You have definitely made a major breakthrough for me.
How can i not feel like sucking the d if i spent basically my entire life watching other men (with enormous dicks, compared to pre/teen me) getting blowjobs on camera?
>but now you seem to really want to try it.
Thats the thing, if i could suck a floating dick without swallowing, i would probably do it.
Sadly, most dicks are attached to people and i find that repulsive, not to mention it would just not feel right, what with me being a big, manly guy and all making other men feel good instead of getting "served".
I think the main (and probably only) thing i liked about the dick was the simplicity.
>If its horny, its hard
>You can just do each other when feeling horny, no bullshit, no drama, no emotions, no romantic attachment
And of course, at least for me this was a big one
>Not feeling bad about having average or above average dick at all, as compared to having sex with a woman, there is always this performance anxiety with women, but with a guy its all about getting off and nothing else
Also, it might be because i had sex with just one girl but quite a few guys.
And she is not exactly miss horny, i specifically chose the girl with whom i felt the smallest chance of getting cheated on.
Maybe if i finally hooked up with this uber slut who is after me, i would realize that having sex with a woman who is really horny is way more fun than dick-sucking.
This thread is so fucked up
I'm a little scared of drugs, but I heard that speed is awesome if you don't take it too many times. I really want to try it but I don't know how to get it and how much it costs.
If you have tried it already please tell me what does it feel like and how should I get it and how much should I pay for it?
Anon, having done stuff and coming out of it fairly unharmed, the advice I have when it comes to illegal drugs is to AVOID STIMULANTS. Stick to psychedelics like weed (smoked or ingested) or shrooms.
Speed (amphetamine) might feel awesome to try, just as any other drug but it's not as healthy as it is pleasurable. Like this guy,>>16622377, said, stick to psychedelics - they're the best and the safest out of all the psychoactive drugs.
Dude im not even lying to you, I tried meth about 3 weeks ago. Went a week without it then did it agian. Now I havnt gone a day without it and Im getting scared I dun goofd.
How do I deal with being completely invisible? People don't comment on my Fb posts, return my texts... anything. Nobody cares what I do or think.
>>16622353
Use your supernatural power to commit the greatest heist in history... without anyone even realizing it happened.
I can only give you the information, its up to you what you do with it.
>http://www.what-is-coaching.com/support-files/lazymansway2riches.pdf
Its a weird thing but I always found invisibility to be kinda' fun. Can't exactly wander around and get away with stuff without having eyes on me, but back in highschool I would always try to do weird things or help people I liked/thought were cool without being caught or noticed.
"Push the boundaries" so to speak.
It was exactly those things that got me noticed in the first place! Now I -WISH- I could be a ghost again sometimes lol.
My advice, use your powers Anon, and use them wisely. Enjoy them while you still have it, and genuinely try to do some good with it. Think of some things that only an "invisible" person can do and what advantages they would have.
In time, you'll be noticed for your good work, and get some good friends in the process~
So last night I went out with this girl (saw a movie) after we'd been talking for a while, thought she had a good time (also she kept playing with her hair which seemed like a good sign). Anyway I messaged her earlier, no response, hasn't even looked at it (this was like 8 hours ago) Am I just overthinking this? Or does this seem like a bad sign?
Forgot to mention that she's been active and shit throughout the day, but still not read the message
Messaged like a text? If not, that's kind of odd you didn't get her number. Realistically if she was that into it you would of heard from her right away, that's been my experience. Had a good time tonight and all that. I know it's weird but it happens, having a date that seems to go well but for some reason the girl doesn't think so.
/adv/, how do i stop?
It's not "addictive". Its not "harmful". But im starting to realize strange changes. Loss of motivation. Constantly staying up late. Planning with the next day I can smoke in mind. Trying to do week long breaks but caving because "I've had a shit day" or "someone offered". I want to stop spending money and I want to stop using this stuff. Is there anything I can do or is just going cold turkey the best option?
Anything can be addicting even if it's labeled as non addictive.
It takes a long time to break a habit. You need to remove yourself from people who enable you to smoke. If you can, also take time off work so you can just mentally reset.
If your friends contribute to the habit, try to tell them you need to quit. If they're supportive then good. If not, then drop em until you've killed the habit.
Breaking a habit is something really difficult to do. You may have to find something else that can replace it and make you relax. I say find something because people may suggest things but it's likely not going to be the thing for you.
>>16622260
>it's not "addictive"
Literally planning your days around smoking, experiencing cravings, having to think about quitting cold turkey
>Its not "harmful"
Losing motivation, spending money
DUDE WEED LMAO
>>16622260
I never smoked cuz it always seemed like a bad idea. the best i can recommend is quitting cold turkey. if you ABSOLUTELY need to get it out of your life and have the time, have you considered rehab? or at the very least voluntarily entering ap rogram like NA. a support group can help and having a friend who is also quitting or has long since quit is helpful. you dont need to build your life around it like a lot of quitters do, but you can use it to give you a boost for now.
that being said, have you considered switching to a more sleep-friendly strain and only taking it at night?
i admittedly had a similar issue with masturbation. until recently id do it like 5 times a day and then as soon as your done you are lazy, watch tv, eat, then repeat. it was bad.
now i just do it after around 8:30, since theres nothing left to do after that hour except relax. im the same with beer.
