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If you are sexually attracted to children , but you don't want those feelings and you want to get better, are you still a pedophile?
Sorry anon. That sucks. You aren't necessarily a bad person. I hope you manage to avoid ever indulging in those urges. If you do, Dan Savage calls those people a gold star pedophile, so you can think of yourself like that too.
Is love meant to feel like more than just a really good friend you cuddle and have sex with? I think I'm overthinking it but I do feel like something's missing.
if you feel like something's missing. it is
trust your gut
You're supposed to be excited to be with the other person. Sometimes, especially if you're never excited about anybody, the problem lies with yourself. You may be depressed and you don't know it.
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But everything is great, I don't know what could possibly be missing.
How do I learn to believe in myself? I'm an interesting person but people don't find me interesting. Increasingly I get the impression that people find me boring as fuck. But I don't know how to express myself and show myself to be interesting, because I'm not even sure what does make me interesting. I'm way way way too self-effacing so I have a very hard time thinking of myself positively. It's hard to be a cheerleader for yourself when you are your own worst critic. It's not so much that I tell myself that I'm worthless, but I don't...
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This.
It doesn't sound to me like you want to believe in yourself, but that you want affirmation from the people around you that you matter.
Are you happy with who you are? Does your life interest you?
>>16620468
Absolutely I want that affirmation, and sometimes I don't get it enough and it brings me down. I'm always the one reaching out to my friends. I'm always the one taking an interest in them. I have maybe two people in my inner circle (referencing the image) where it's reciprocated. All my friendships feel one-sided. If I try to strike up a conversation with a girl I'm interested in, it's always one-sided, where just today I talked with a girl I like but it was entirely me asking her questions...
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how do I know if I have mono? I always thought it was a meme, but my throat is pretty dry and I've been drinking water all day. my gf told she's been having flu like symptoms today
the only time i've been tested for mono i had to go to the emergency room cause i was in so much pain.
you'll be ok.
>flu like symptoms today
>mono
the fuck is wrong with you.
I made this for /b/ but the post was deleted.
I just broke up with my gf, I found that kind of hot messages with a guy on her fb. I feel sad, mad, upset ay betrayed. Don't now what to do.
You go to bed...and when you wake up you start from scratch and get over it.best wishes
>>16620402
Drink a few bottles of whiskey, youll feel better then.
>>16620406
Thanks anon. This is very difficult to me. I have been cheated twice.
I have an awful competitive nature. I get super fucking upset at the stupidest of things, be it the outcome of something or me not being happy with my preformance and I just turn into this big angry asshole. It's really holding me back and it's just exhausting afterwards.
How do I deal with my anger? Is there a way for me to work with it in a positive manner or just learn to cool it easily? I've dealt with this shitty temper ever since I was younger and it's always been the bane of me.
Bump because I have a similar problem
>>16620397
I'm better at making posts than you are. I win.
Use that anger and turn it into motivation, dont try to become better than everyone else try to become better than you were before
Help me /adv/. I was trying to adjust the temperature with my penis, and I ended up getting my penis stuck in the thermostat. What should I do?
What
>>16620388
do a barrel roll
Me and my wife are 26 and 25. We have been wanting kids, and she got off the pill for the first time in about 9 years six or seven months ago. She has only ovulated a couple times since then which, and the last time was about 4 months ago.
We both have been told by doctors and other people that it can take time to get regular and some woman never do get truly regular. She is feeling really down about it today and I just thought I'd reach out and see if anyone has any thoughts on this.
Thanks for any info you have.
All you can really do is keep trying
Hi adv
What can I do / what is this?
I just tried to sleep and as I lay there / here, i started to stare into the darkness behind my eyelids, i started thinking about life, death and what comes after. I started thinking about my fiancé of six years and not knowing if I will see her after I die terrifies me.
Then i began asking myself if this reality is real etc. That's when i felt like i was about to have some kind of mental breakdown. But as i write this, these feelings and thoughts go away.
What the fuck? Is it therapist time?
Nah bro, this is the time when you push those feelings deep down, go on to facebook, post a funny sentence or hilarious picture of yourself doing something awesome then jump on YouTube and look at some funny cat videos.
Hello OP. I'm a trainee psychotherapist who plans to specialize in a type of therapy called Existential Psychotherapy. Existential psychotherapy is a type of therapy that focuses on helping people come to terms with the givens of life.
I don't believe you're having a breakdown, I suspect you're asking existential questions for the first time.
"What becomes of my life and the people I love when I die?", "What is reality? How is reality defined?"
These are difficult questions. Psychotherapy might be of use to you, but...
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I have been there. I'm on medicine because all that mind wandering gave me panic attacks. It helps. If it's really bothering you and making you feel depressed then ask a doctor about a prescription.
Graphic Design and Art Studio isn't normally a money maker, but I do commission work on the side and there's a score+ of local studios and print factories I can work at once I do graduate.
Thing is: I don't like the college I'm going to, I only respect maybe 3 of the professors I'm under, and that's being generous; the vast majority of the students in the field aren't convinced they shit in the first place, let alone that it would stink if they did, and I'm going to have to put up with this for another whole year.
I got myself...
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>>16620358
Part of the problem is that i'm both claustraphobic and emetophobic; individually to only modest extents, but we're in a buidling that's no bigger than a large garage, adn ther'es 20-40 people crammed into it on any given day. I wear coats durring the summer and wash my hands at least 10 times a day, because some of these fucks just come in fucking miserable.
And I'm like, "Why don't you take the day?" and they're like, "I can't afford to miss!," and...
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>>16620358
Worst of all is that the two GD professors that they still have (6 quit because the place is so shit!) rotate who does the senior seminar every year, so I'm going to be under the idiot; lucky me!
As it stands my odds of learning anything are officially over, and I'll just be clocking in for the next two semesters to get that piece of paper so people hiring me will trust that I know what I'm talking about.
>...
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Hey /adv/ a few months ago me and an ex friend got into a big argument he forced onto me when asking for advice. He later told me he didn't want to hang out with me anymore.
Usually I'd feel very sad about these situations and I'd get very depressed but this one made me more upset and I've noticed after he was gone my life has felt way better in a lot of ways as I go through my first year of college and hang out with friends that really listen and show they care.
I've always have had a tendency of asking questions and being careful with...
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I knew a guy that sincerely wanted to be friends with everybody. He had good intentions, but he was totally oblivious to how he communicated with other people. There wasn't one single defining action that made him despised by other people. It was just his regular interactions that wore down on the nerves and to make matters worse, he would always try to worm into every situation uninvited. I would phrase it differently if it weren't for the fact that he was always doing this. It was this constant wear that made him a burden to be around. People had to be dodgy to avoid...
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>>16620668
Continuing... From the skipping around I did in your dialogue, I give you the following suggestions:
1. Appreciate things
If you were to say... Favorite a song on YouTube that a friend sends you, that builds enormous rapport with people. By demonstrating that you liked and appreciated something they did for you, it wins them over. If you're a regular complainer/critic, you're going to have to try really fucking hard to expand your...
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Okay. First post here. Prom is coming. Me and the gf plan on going. Only problem. She wants to wear a shit load of makeup and make up makes me feel uncomfortable and i just don't like it. I openly told her how i felt about it and she got upset at me because "everyone likes makeup" "it makes me look prettier". I honestly it looks like shit on her... I dont know what to do. Makeup just makes me feel anxious.. (I have severe GAD). she just refuses to go without, saying she wants to be happy. What do?
1. you're a stupid turd
2. the fuck is GAD
3. she's wearing makeup to prom, you need to shut the fuck up about it. not everything is about you.
>>16620287
You won't be with her in a year, stop making such a problem out of everything and let everyone do what they want while you do the same.
>>16620287
either put up with it, or move on. i imagine you'll move on.
the best you can really tell a person like that is that you really do think they look hotter without it and that with it they look gross. she is a woman so she will find a way to feel offended by it but she'll eventually realize the point of what you are saying
>she is so beautiful that make up actually makes her worse
natural beaty, thats what they all want really
Hello anons, I am on my Varsity Basketball team as a senior and I really want to do well this season to make a lasting impact.
However, I have a problem.
When we have basketball "open gyms" (glorified street ball games) , I'm one of the best on the court. I'm doing everything right and playing really well. Pretty much an unstoppable player.
During a game, on the other hand, I am not that person. I play a weaker game and don't do as much as I can. I don't feel like I've given my all like I do in an open gym.
What do you...
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>>16620280
You play well when no one gives a fuck but do regular when everyone is focused.
>>16620281
People take these open gyms seriously. Friendships have been ruined over travel calls.
But that's besides the point. Open gyms are the only time I ever get tired and sore from running. Game days just don't have the same impact.
When is it appropriate to send a dick pic?
Has that tactic ever worked?
All the time but only after you have built it up to the right point. Don't send until she is asking for them.
LDR Girlfriend of 4 months left me for her LDR ex of 3 years. I was pretty much the rebound after they broke up, and realizing that now really sucks. The worst part is that I regret not fighting hard enough for her. I simply let her go because I believed she would be happier with him. She said she had feelings for both of us, but decided to give her ex a chance because she had more memories with him than with me. I'm in the process of getting over, but I just wanted to hear your thoughts on the matter.
>LDR Girlfriend of 4 months left me for her LDR ex of 3 years
>The worst part is that I regret not fighting hard enough for her
Kek
Date locally, get new girlfriend and realize it was foolish to have an LDR.
>pretend girlfriend of 4 months left me for her pretend ex of 3 years.
oh my god I don't give a shit
>I was pretty much the rebound after they broke up, and realizing that now really sucks.
they probably never even did break up.
>The worst part is that I regret not fighting hard enough for her.
why, it's not like anybody sits around wishing their glorified pen-pal could be more petulant.
>I simply let her go because I believed she would...
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