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Any advice on how I should spend New Years? I'm single, and I don't want to go out. I'm getting ready to leave the town I grew up in for work, so I don't really feel like hanging out with old friends. I live with my parents, but they're having neighbors over. I really don't feel like sitting through that. Is there any place I could spend New Years Eve peacefully reflecting? I was thinking about maybe driving to the beach or something, but I don't want to deal with a bunch of drunk strangers hanging out on the shore.
There's a spot I always go to when I need to reflect, its an abondon shack in the mountains, about 30 mins drive away from my home. Go down roads today and get lost. You might find somewhere worth hanging out for the new year. All shops and pubic buildings are gonna be closed, at least that's the case in my town. Just make sure whatever you do you're comfortable. Have you came up with any ideas yourself?
Hey anon
I'd suggest you
-get blanket
-get lamp and flashlight
-get some food
-get some champagne
-get some music
And just drive somewhere quiet. Whatever scenery you think would be nice. Just find a mountain, a desert, a beach, a lake, forest. Anywhere, and set up camp.
Welcome the new years under the stars cozy under your blanket drinking champagne and eating nutella covered fruits or whatever it is you brought.
I'd also bring a musical instrument or a book/textbook/notebook to entertain yourself if you get a bit bored....
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>>16621996
Aside from the beach, not really. I've considered taking a road trip, but I don't feel like spending the entire night on the interstate. There aren't many mountains around where I live, and there's a lot of private property so I don't want to trespass.
>>16622002
Sounds comfy, but I don't drink. Stargazing is an option, but I don't want to be somewhere where I could be surrounded by drunk strangers.
Have you ever cheated on your gf and then exposed everything?
What was the aftermath? How did you move on?
I'm still trying to recover from my particular fuck fest. I should have never come as "clean" as I did. I can't even listen to a lot of music I like when I'm around her (which is often) because it "triggers" memories.
I wish I had kept lying.
Guys?
Hold on...
You cheated on her, she took you back, and YOU'RE the one getting upset?
Feels like bait.
Break up with her.
It may sound harsh, but nothing good will come out of a relationship with zero trust and happiness. You wanting to lie to her is already a major red flag.
Hello advice,
I'd like to get some input on my situation.
I'm 20 years old and plan for a career in professional basketball. I already play for a first league basketball team in Germany and was offered a long term contract with - for German standards - good pay. They expect me to sign it during the winter/spring (definitely before the NBA draft next year).
The issue is that I might get the chance to be drafted in the NBA - though nothing is set in stone for that yet.
The club here in Germany of course wants to prevent that and have told me straight...
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Just decide between high risk, high reward and low risk, low reward. That said though, you might never get signed for NBA which means you would gain infinitely more from signing in Germany.
It's your call really.
Personally I would sign with the Germans unless I was very confident in getting drafted for NBA.
>>16622290
You do have a point, maybe I should have left out that its about basketball and just made it sound like a job offer instead.
What I forgot to mention is that the club in Germany is in my home town and its also one of the bigger, more successful ones in Germany. So in case I don't get drafted I could probably find another club in Germany willing to maybe pay me more - but I'm not sure if I'd like to.
I'm stuck in dilemma. I'm not sure which way to go with my future and was wondering if you guys could help me out.
Path 1: I go to a for-profit college to get a degree in game design. An interest I've had sense I was a child.
Pros are: I can get it done faster (20 month program). I enjoy games and would like to make a real one. Also sense I get it done faster I feel like I would be catching up to my friends who are all done with school.
Cons are: for-profit usually suck. The field is saturated. I also feel like there isnt much of a "fulfilling purpose with it"
My other option is a normal 4 year school for Biomedical Engineering.
Pros: a proper education from a respectable school. I would be able to help fellow veterans with medical issues (thinking about designing prosthetics). Which would make it feel more fulfilling.
Cons: I don't know if im smart enough. The 4 year school would mean I wouldn't graduate until i was 29/30 years old. I would feel years behind all my friends
Anyone go through something like this?
Anyone?
Remember me?
Hoe I told yall about just told me about a concert in a pub I showed her months ago. She wants us to go, it seems.
What?
>Remember me?
given the float of informations, fuck no
>What?
What?
>>16621928
I posted several threads with this pic telling yall about what an anon described as a wishy washy bitch.
>>16621928
The question is how do yall think my shit is
So /adv/, do you have any advice on how to stop feeling shitty after jacking off? The feeling just sucks, I have to wait for about 3-4 days before I can go back to my normal self.
>>16621885
>3-4 days
Holy shit man, it usually goes away in a few minutes, tops, for most people. Have you been severely repressed as a child?
>>16621885
>feeling shitty after jacking off?
what are you felling ?
>>16621885
Probably only solution would be to stop jacking off anon.
Hey /adv/ I have a problem, I'm going on a 4th date with a really pretty girl to see Star Wars. How can I overcome my depression and fear of rejection and properly ask her out?
Uhm, what do you mean by asking her out? This already is your 4th date, right?
Well, what have you already done to deal wity your depression?
And being anxious about rejection is normal. My bf just recently told me "i love you". He told me that it was a leap of faith. He got the courage from a guy he had once met. This guy had told him to always keep life simple. If you miss somebody, make plans to meet. If you want something, do everything you can to achieve it. If you love somebody, tell them. I think that's an awesome way to go about life.
>>16621841
Like, ask her to be my girlfriend.
And what do you mean by deal with your depression exactly?
>>16621819
Are these dates or are you going to a theater together just as friends or something? Like, I've gone to see lots of movies with just me and a girl but it wasn't anything romantic.
Basically, if these are dates and you BOTH know they are dates, just try to kiss her at the end of one. you don't need to ask her to be your girlfriend for a while if you don't want to.
tl;dr I was detained for 24 hours by female law enforcement because I'm a guy
>arguing with gf
>she runs outside
>i grab her and try to pull her back in so she doesn't do anything stupid outside
>woman on street sees us and calls the cops
>5 mins later two female police officers knock on my door
>i tell them everything is okay
>they wanna come...
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ha ha no you can't do shit to cops. welcome to the police state faggot.
don't even try to go to a lawyer because they'll just hype you up and make you believe you can win so they can rob you blind too.
just be glad they didn't decide to peg you with their baton or fake your "suicide". next time just shut the fuck up and do exactly what they say if you value your life.
ouch! bitchhitlers! dang it mate.
and your gf didn't even stop them? wtf?
>>16621812
>tell them they either arrest me or leave, I'm not talking to them
>on the way i give an autistic rant about sexism
>WITHOUT A SINGLE shred of evidence
>nor a chance to explain my story
Extreme bait 0/10
What image would instantly be recognizable as a representation of weight? Like you see it and "weight" pops into your headxas opposed to heavy/light
A stone? A barbell?
>>16621905
theyre more "heavy" i think
I've suddenly began to dislike some of my close friends, particularly my best friend. Is this just a normal thing that comes with time? Will it iron itself out? I've hated myself for a long time and I could just be projecting this loathing onto people who are close to me, maybe. Anyone else gone through this suddenly? I don't feel like we've changed a lot since we've known each other, but things just feel weird. I'm starting to think none of them really like me, shit like that. I'm 23, if this somehow helps.
I'm 22 and have had a lot of really close friends that I've grown apart from, but never out of hate, more like a perpetual disinterest that set in.
In my experience - hate usually means that you still care about them, at least in some form. If you haven't seen/talked to them in a while - it's entirely possible that your own insecurity or fear of them abandoning you has turned into "fuck them, I don't need them" kind of attitude that you're just misinterpreting as hate, when in reality it's just that - fear and insecurity.
I'm depressed guy with problems.
I got drunk as fuck at last party and ended up puking all over the floor. I'm so ashamed about it, that lsat few days i spend in bed.
Now i'm thinking about quitting drinking for good, but i know that this will slowly exclude me from many social activities and probablly i will lost rest of my remaining friends.
Should i quit drinking or maybe i should try not to drink too much, so i can keep being social?
New Year's eve is going to be a huge challenge for me and i need to make decision, but i really have no idea...
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>>16621761
learn drinkin cuck
hang out with limited cash
stop when you feel you gettin out of it
I battled that same thing for nearly 10 years. Started drinking on and off at 20 years old until 30. I stopped here and there for a year or two.
Anyhow, I always thought I could control it. Yet something negative seemed to happen every single time. Finally I made a total idiot out of myself at a family function one easter and gave in. I'm simply not wired right to enjoy alcohol responsibly so I don't drink anymore. Ever. I avoid situations I might feel triggered to drink also. Problem solved.
If every time you drink something 'bad' happens (socially,...
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>>16621761
Why not just quit altogether? I've found that drinking doesn't even increase confidence with me (I'm a naturally confident guy) in fact it made me feel more dumb. I would sit there and usually NOT talk after I had been drinking for awhile because in my head I felt like whatever I and to say sounded stupid. The only positive I can really think of is that it relieved stress by 'numbing' my problems that would only resurface once I was sober again.
I only drank for about 6 months...
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Hey. I'm very confused right now and nothing seems to make sense to me. My girlfriend just got back from Erasmus and she stayed at my place for a few nights, and we didn't have sex, I just didn't feel turned on. We have done it before, but I just didn't feel like doing it this time. And we haven't seen each for three months, so it's very weird.
I was considering that maybe I don't like girls or something, but during the summer, I was approached by a guy and dated a bit with him, but it didn't feel right at all, it felt wrong and I...
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>>16621737
Maybe you should wait until you've finished puberty first?
So a friend of mine sent me a sociopath test and i ended up getting a 32 / 56 (1 is not a sociopath 56 is and 24 is the first # before you are considered a sociopath). But I was wondering should i seek help or will it even do anything to see someone.
Note: a friend of mine scored a 28 but is been diagnosed with sociopathy.
Also here is the link if you want: http://psymed.info/sociopath-test/score=32
>>16621731
>>16621746
If it makes you feel any better, I'm a paranoid schizo
>>16621731
Taking an online test to figure out if you have a mental illness is retarded.
If you're truly concerned speak with either your family doctor or speak psychiatric help for an evaluation, don't rely on the internet.
I'm having bad nightmares every night. How to stop?
>used to have good sex-filled dreams, but about 1/5 dreams were always bad
>past 3 weeks, every single night has been a nightmare
>usually getting killed or horrifically injured
>so realistic that I wake up and feel my body for injuries
>extremely graphic and realistic gore, I can't emphasize enough how realistic it is
>often...
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>>16621717
Wow, that´s like the third dream thread i reply to that week, maybe i should become a dream-namefag.
>I don't know if reading and daydreaming could even cause nightmares in the first place.
They could but since you are enjoying them, it is highly unlikely that they cause nightmares.
The vivid fantasy you developed by doing this stuff is now working against you by making your nightmares extremely realistic.
>one is stress
That sounds...
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>>16621729
Sorry for being a nuisance, anon.
What can I do about job stress? Either I manage to get a job, or I am going to be living in my car until I do. I've never had good luck getting jobs, and my profs are saying I should have been applying months ago. I'm applying to one job a day to build the habit.
That's really the only source of stress in my life, and it has nothing to do with physical fights and injuries.
>They could but since you are enjoying them,...
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Is your room overheated? I consistently, like litterally without fail, have nightmares if I'm too hot while sleeping.
Also I've read that bad smells can induce nightmares as well, so if you're in a nasty stinky room you could try cleaning it up.
Okay I have got one real group of friends, friends whom I consider my best friends.
Matter is that I go through cycles where I become really paranoid, thinking that they hate me and do not want to hang out with you. It is triggered by them hanging out without me, looking through snapchat stories with the whole group having fun. Also happens during long periods without communication. We live on the countryside and my communication with them is limited to a facebook groupchat and snapchat. Not helping is the fact that I never ask whats going on, only jumping on the occasion...
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I used to be like that. Sometimes I still feel odd being left out, but then I wonder, does it really matter? If I said I wanna hang out, I know they'll say sure. And if they decline, it's not like they're conspiring against me, else they'd have done it a long time ago. When people can avoid you, why will they want to deliberately spend time with you. Pitying doesn't make sense, that's still wasting their time. So yeah, believe it or not, they do enjoy having you around.
But everyone has someone they talk to a little better than the other...
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