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So 24 y/o unemployed from EU.
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I learned front end web developing in a tradeschool! well actually they teached 2d/3d animation, drawing photoshop, illustrator, linux, yada yada stuff. So jack of all trades, master of none. At some point I started capitalizing on web developing and coding - in my mind it seemed the most needed in the world and profitable. Didnt think they need a lot of designers and animators.
So when I went to get work experience as trainee, I also did that but they were lacking as in the company didnt really incorporate me in their work so I just scribbled code and did some things, so I would have something to present to school. Finished school and went on to a trainee to another company, learned a lot but not enough and couldnt get to stay (this ofcourse was probably because they already took 2 from my class who had been in there longer than me, one of the which I think was less skilled than me in the beginning but after being in there went past me.)
It's been 2 months after that when I was able to develop my skills in that company ( though 2 weeks in the end were severly lacking as they probably thought it's worthwhile to hire me ( it was a small company anyway)).
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So I've been sitting at home for 2 months looking for a job related to my skills (HTML, CSS, some Jquery and PHP(WP cms related)). Which are deteriorating as time moves on as I can't bring myself to deal with it without a reason, which there is -getting skilled but if it were for a job or test for a job - I'd instantly feel that I have to do it.
I also keep fearing that I'm not passionate enough - If I think about, it's better than physical labor or working in McDonalds. Another thing is that I feel I'm not smart enough or inherently disadvantaged, could my brain be weaker ( as front end'ing feels doable but going backend programming seems too complicated).
I feel I could do this kinda work but at the same time I have this fear of not being passionate enough about my work in which I lose out to others who say they are! as opposed to me who says, It's okay kinda work better than manual labor and I sit on the computer anyway all day.
And another that maybe I have a shit-tier brain and tend to be average thus I'm worthless.
If someone has been in my situation or any wise words appreciated!
You need adderall
How much do you charge to make a website?
>>16619009
Well I dont actively charge anything at the moment, plus how much you charge depends entirely on the website you want!
Besides being a freelancer without a long work-experince is rather uphill battle I'd presume.
About adderall, not sure how effective that would be and less sure even if you can get that easily in my country.
I'm a guy and just kissing or seeing a girl's boobs doesn't really do much for me. I have a foot fetish but that's about it, and I know for a fact I'll be spending the night with a girl who's really into me.
Any advice on how to go about it? I know that just making out won't get me hard. My fear is that all I'll be able to do is get it up halfway with her help, and then I'll lose it as soon as we start.
Is it normal that I don't get an erection just by looking at a girl or making out with her? It feels like everyone's...
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I noticed something, whenever I made out with some random girl i never really got a boner. I have a full erection when I'm with a girl I care for and I like. Also i have a butt fetish so it helps kissing the booty
>tfw I finally forget my unrequited love after years of idealization and staying in my place because of fear
>tfw I realize I ain't that ugly and that getting girls is 80% about attitude
>tfw none of the girls I know inspires me enough interest
>>16618921
You should go after your unrequited love, now that you're capable of making her love you.
>>16618941
Nah, think she's lately getting engaged with a handsome dude who has never who has never been emotionaly retarded.
I'll maybe text her one of these days, but I've given up desu.
I'm so fucking gone /adv/
My girlfriend of 1 year decided we should go on a break about a week ago and i've been aching ever since but trying to pull through. I love her so much im willing to do anything to repair our love. And just today she said maybe if I was okay with it that soon maybe we could get back together. I was a bit happy but then I found out she said
>I CANT DECIDE WHO, I REALLY LIKE THEM BOTH
I know the other dude is some guy she met recently and I am so fucking lost on this confusing ass bullshit. I miss...
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Take it from a guy who was in the exact same position as you.
Break it off with her because if she truly loved you she wouldn't have to choose.
>>16618895
Bark on that bitch
You can't have your cake and eat it too then tell son she's a whore
Only do this if she refuses the demotion to a side bitch/fuck friend
she really wants the other guy, she just taking a time to build up courage to leave this relationship
I need advice about what pills to buy. (Sorry about my english)
I know i should go to the doctor, but i have been going to psychologist and psychiatrist all my life, the important point is that i have been told i have ADDH (Attention Deficit Dissorder with Hiperactive behaviour). But in my country people cant get acess to expensive drugs, and they normally try to solve this problems by other means.
But now i have some money to spare, and a way i can get anything from the States or other places, so, my question is, what is the BEST drug overall to start?.
I...
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>>16618892
Where I'm from adderall can be acquired for around $50 per.
I'm assuming that you just want it to play around with, seems kind of expensive just because you're too lazy to study or whatever.
>>16618933
I wouldnt callit lazzy, but i always had this lazyness yes, would you recomend i purchase one small bottle (of WHAt?) aderrall, modafinil... etc, and jsut taste it, as i live in a country where purchasing this stuff is well, not very easy, i wont become an adict i think.
>>16618939
I can't recommend one because I have never used them. I don't mess around with amphetamines primarily because of how addictive and damaging they are.
I think a much better solution to relying on drugs is to get off the computer, turn off your phone and just handle your business. What is the plan if you do start using this stuff? Pop some whenever you have work to do?
I am trying to help a friend out and need to know if there is ANY way to find who did this?
>>16618875
>I am trying to help a friend out and need to know if there is ANY way to find who did this?
No. We're all anonymous here, unless we choose not to be.
Crap....
>>16618875
Nope, no way at all. That is kind of the purpose of coming here, tardy.
I broke of contact with old friends due to them being drug addicts, gambling addicted and have no moral values thus making friendship worth basically nothing. i felt shit being around them, they used me for money, sex and as a vessel to waste time. I'm at the point where i have no friends left and new years eve is coming. I feel very lonely. How should i 'celebrate' it and not be alone?
>>16618871
> How should i 'celebrate' it and not be alone?
take some mdma or acid and got to the next tek or goa party ?
>>16618871
treat yoself nigga
if you have the dosh, go buy some nice shit for yourself, maybe treat yourself to a massage or go out and do some shit you enjoy like skiing
you gotta learn to enjoy your own company friend
>>16618906
>>16618915
I literally have 2 euro's.
I just found 7 different scratch cards. All of them are different, and 6 of them win an average of about £4 on each one. Is it safe to cash them in?
>>16618828
Go to the place, where you cash them in, tell the same story, and ask the same question. Tell the person there, you're wary of the cards.
>>16618828
Did this before with a roll of 13 scratchcards I found...
>tried to cash them in at superstore
>she says sure, but obviously presses the fucking silent alarm when she scans them through and sees they're reported as stolen
>police come along
>I explain situation
>they understand (white privilege)
>I leave
So yeah...
>>16618864
>>16618881
Thanks, i'll talk to the Customer service desk tomorrow
Hey, girls who are here, can you be completely and totally honest with me about something here?
I consider myself a cool guy who has his shit together. I've got a nice otter mode body, a job, lots of hobbies, lots of friends, and am on track to get a lucrative STEM degree. People tell me I'm fun to be around.
Buut, the big thing I want is a girl to just be able to pour my love into. I want to shower her with affection and cradle her in a net of warmth and love. And I want her to love me as much as I love her.
Is this a big turn off for you? I mean,...
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>>16618804
>Is this a big turn off for you?
No, but I can't speak for every woman. Everyone is different, so you're probably going to get different answers.
>but when I'm talking to a girl I really like, I can't hold it all in.
Early on, you should. Especially
>I just met a girl on tinder 1 day ago, and I just sent her a sketch I did of her.
Don't stop, but keep it to yourself at least until...
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>>16618804
Your autism is probably the biggest issue. You also seem like an emotional abuser; you'd probably be the type of guy who would threaten your girlfriend with a breakup every time she did something you didn't like, stating that you can find someone else easily.
Also, being unemployed and claiming to having your shit together are contradictory.
>>16618820
>>16618804
>This is literally
>BULLSHIT
>Op is the
>BIGGEST
FAGGOT.
>each day I just feel lazier about meeting with peeps and shit
>each day I try harder to avoid my family without leaving the house
>I'm studying a degree I don't really feel motivated about. Exams start in few days and it's like I don't give a fuck. No fucks given about classmates neither
>started writing everyday 3 months ago. Feelin motivated about it. I still find pleasure in reading too.
19 btw.How's my shit?
>>16618771
You are going to fail. Accept it.
>>16618771
Congrats youve found some hobbies.
And actual stuff that will hand you income in 5 or 10 years you are throwing away.
Start planning. Think about your future. Its generally a bad idea to turn hobbies into a profession.
Who the fuck has exams at the end of december, pray tell?
Three or four days ago I woke up and found the left pic on my arm. A day or two later I found right pic around my bicep. Anyone know what this is? It doesn't itch or hurt, and it hasn't really changed in size. I assume I would have a hole in my arm by now if it was a venomous bite/flesh eating bacteria.
>>16618754
That needs treatment
>drunk medfag
>>16618772
What kind of treatment?
Left pic looks like ringworm. Get antifungals over the counter for athlete's foot or go to a doc to get a real diagnosis.
I'm going to be moving out in January and can't decide whether to look for a living situation with roommates or get my own place. I'm 25 and make enough that I would be able to afford living on my own, even though that would mean I would not be saving as much money as I'd like to.
Have lived with 2 roommates for the past 2 years and generally got along well with them, even though we weren't really friends or anything.
Can you guys help me see this more clearly? Maybe weigh in on all the things to consider in this decision?
Anonymous (ID: 8qDlpsWH) 12/29/15(Tue)21:19:26 No.1017171â–¶
Pretend you are Xipe Totec and demand that you be allowed to flay them and wear their skins as a coat for 20 days until they rot off
>>16618685
Two years ago, I was in the same situation.
After living for a year in a shared accommodation, I grew tired of all small crap that my flatmates ware up to - not washing dishes, wasting all hot water, leaving washed clothes in the washing machine, saturating broadband throughput with torrents etc.. They ware all good lads, but all those small things combined started to hit my nerves - that's why I left.
Now I'm in my own flat for more than a year and I bloody love it. Yeah, I don't save...
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Hello, /adv/, I have been having issues with my 12 year old son, and he has been disrespecting me, my wife, and my older son to the point of threatening to 'slaughter' or 'slit their fucking throats' whenever he doesn't get his way. When I come home he obviously fears me because I have knocked him down after he got in my wife's face, yelling obscenities. We try our best to raise him, and in a healthy environment. I'm thinking about the scared beond straight programs, but I need something that works, any optioms, I'm desperate to get him...
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>>16618652
Clearly, you haven't been beating his ass enough.
Anonymous (ID: 8qDlpsWH) 12/29/15(Tue)21:19:26 No.1017171â–¶
Pretend you are Xipe Totec and demand that you be allowed to flay him and wear his skin as a coat for 20 days until it rots off
Peeing about once an hour is too much, right?
How do I fix this?
Yes. You should see a doctor. There are a few different manageable conditions which could cause this.
>>16618622
If you're drinking the amount of water every adult should be drinking in a day, no, once an hour is not unusual.
>>16618622
Keep track of the color and quantity as well as the frequency while waiting to see a doctor. Taste it to see how sweet it is as well.
Often me and my girlfriend are in a situation where we both are a bit mad. Then she does not send any message. How to handle this to not appear like a beta? Should I wait until she sends a first message again and don't give a shit? Everytime I'm worried after an hour and I try to solve the problem somehow.
>>16618589
>Then she does not send any message.
You have to realize that people either do this to A) calm down, or B) to punish you. It's often the latter. It's like someone trying to withhold sex until they get what they want, only more personal.
Leave her alone until she contacts you. Busy your mind, hang out with friends, etc. Because in the end, you don't want to teach her that this behavior is acceptable.
Don't get mad. It's that simple.
I do this to my boyfriend all the time for the express purpose of >>16618607
Literally just want the satisfaction of seeing him give in to try to resolve things (I don't remember ever even being sincerely mad about anything).
However, I think if you value your relationship enough, it's probably more mature to forget about the beta crap and just give in. Fix the problem.
If he didn't give in, I'd probably end up leaving. I even have some form of respect for that he does.
Your gf...
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