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>be 24 year old male virgin
>sad that virgin
>go to prostitute
>sad that no gf
Having sex is great and fun but it really isnt the thing that i'm looking for. But on the other hand i really have no fucking idea what i want. Everytime i start something new its awesome for a few weeks and after that im not interested in it anymore.
I still live at home, go to university (medium successful), have a shitty 500$ part time job and im feeling...
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>>16617948
people, like you, talk as if they are only allowed to want one thing and they have to want it forever. sure, some people are fine to be destined to wake up and go do the same thing every day for the rest of thier life.
a lot of us idealize that but we dont actually want it. we imagine these tiny moments that dont add up to anything real and we dont actualyl experience those tiny moments as they are happening.
but i digress. instead of finding out WHAT you want, just go out and experience life. make...
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>>16618058
So just do stuff? I think thats something i actually should do more.
>>16619281
But where to start?
Which is the best business major for success in today's market? College freshman at U of Alabama here.
post answer and justification as well as your own experience.
OPTIONS:
A. Finance
B. Accounting
C. Marketing
D. Business administration
E. Economics
F. Math
G. Management
H. Management Information Systems
>>16617941
>F. Math
The best if you don't take the easiest electives like an idiot.
>A. Finance
I've heard it said numerous times that anyone but finance majors can get finance jobs.
>B. Accounting
Read a book and you'll learn everything there is to know.
>C. Marketing
A major in common sense.
>D. Business administration...
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>>16618957
Have fun passing the CPA exam if you believe that about accounting.
All of these subjects except for Math are completely uninteresting to me.
So, MAth. Fuck yea.
So im 19 and I ordered a Fleshlight since a friend of mine recommended it.
I still live with my parents and my mother isnt to keen on privacy, I found the package on the kitchen table and could immediatly tell it was re-taped with masking tape. the roll was even on the counter 10 ft away.
Has this happened to anyone else?
Should I just forget it ever happened?
>>16617934
Haha oh wow. You fucked up. Should have had it sent to a friend's house whose folks aren't nosy.
>>16617934
just ignore it
if she was really disturbed she would have confronted you or thrown it out
>>16617934
>search through her room until you find a dildo/vicrator
>leave it out on the kitchen counter
>make eye contact with her, but don't say a word
So, i've broke up with my gf two weeks ago. I'll be going to work on a cruise ship for around a year, so we decided to give a break, and when i return, we could try again. She says that she still have feelings for me, but also, she's already staying with another guy. I still have many feelings for her, and i wish we could still keep contact, so what should i do? We live in different cities, so our contact was through internet.
You never met her in person or?
>>16617924
how many times have you even met irl? like how frequently were you hanging out.
honestly, it sounds like an imaginary situation. the kinda thing teenagers cling on to cuz they want to feel something but theres nothing actually going on.
you cant 'take a break for a year'. thats not a thing. in one year your life changes so much. you arent just going to 'fool around'. ur gonna meet new people and start over a relationship and in a year she will have forgotten you and you her....
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Time to move on bro. You guys broke it off and she's already seeing other people. Time you did the same. Otherwise you'll just be holding out for something that might not even happen. Don't waste a year bro, that's a long fucking time.
I don't get it guys. I'm not really a very sexual person at all, I've never dived that deep into sex stuff.
As a male, I've always been more feminine or beta in person and my most successful friendships and relationships have been with girls, it's a natural demeanor I have around girls in person, being friendlier and more welcoming.
But I recently found out I have a fetish.. And what is it for? Absolute fucking dominance. My friend showed some BDSM and other porn where the guy was doing things like spitting on her, calling her terrible names...
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>>16617918
>never thought this way
That's probably why.
:)
>>16617935
Can you explain how that works? Am dumb.
>>16617942
>>16617942
Consider this:
Body is built to bring life into this world.
The ID(ego, superego, id trio, see Freudian psychology for more info) is a pretty primal aspect of our being. It sends all the libido(sexual/creative force) out and our ego tries to clean it up or redirect this energy.
There's no consensus as to how fetishists form their fetish. Maybe you subconsciously want some exciting, high testosterone, high velocity, powerful sex, and are...
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Was seeing/dating girl over the summer. Hit it off real well until her girl friend got single and wanted a third wheel for dates. Was fine with it in the beginning and then my girl started to get more "busy" with less time for me and more time for this friend
Asked what was up, why this friends needs you all the time, why can't she handle her dating life herself, you know she only brings you along because you're more attractive than her and these "guys/friends" don't give a shit about her only you, why these guys act all bro and kiss...
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It's much simpler than that. When she asks if you want this to be serious, you say "No." That's it.
This girl's major malfunction is that she thinks it's appropriate to pity people over their emotions. She wasn't trying to be a great friend to the other girl. She was reveling in the pity she got to give the other girl. "Oh you poor chubby thing, you can't even keep a man while I have one no matter how much I neglect him." Then when you showed weakness she started looking down on you too. How dare you have needs and emotions...
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>>16617907
I'd simply ask why did she think it appropriate to waste my time.
>do I bring up the nonsense drama of her friend and her from before
Absolutely. What the fuck are you, her dirty rag to throw around as she wants?
Make her explain herself in great detail and tell her that she has A LOT to make up for it. Fuck her if you want but if I were you I couldn't ever consider it being serious again.
Hey /adv/, I feel bad. I feel hurt
I can't grow a proper relation with no one because of myself and my fucked up situation,I feel like I'm not worth the time, the smile other people. I am a poor semi-orphan and my mother is a shitty brainless woman. She's insensitve, an old immigrant who can't even talk the language of the country, a stupid muslim old woman. I can't go against her since she's alone in this, and it would mess my brother, mys two sisters up. My big sis doesn't get shit, she's stupid, agressive, intuitive rather than thinking,...
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Please, /adv/ give me some thoughts. I really need you.
>>16617877
>semi orphan
>wont stop talking about the mom he still live wtih
dont pull that card, having a distant or busy or mean mother is not the same as having no mother and being forced into foster care adn shit. dont try and make it like it is.
>i cant leave cuz no money
make more money. there are always ways. you may not like em, but you cant ask for advice and expect the magic answer. pick the things...
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>>16618052
Thanks for the answer.
I don't talk about her, I'm complaining. I never speak about her, I don't talk to her, she knows I don't like her, she doesn't care.
I'm not pulling any card, I'm not trying to pity /adv/ or anything. I just spoke about my situation. Sorry if you felt offended by the look of this thread.
I'll leave soon, I'm doing my best to leave. I'll rather work and study than being here having money from her and living without work....
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Hey guys! I really want to order some stuff rom Amazon, but I have no idea what to... Any tips? I can get anything, doesn't have to be a hobby, just nothing car related, sports related please
Pic related I guess, it's my waifu
>>16617869
save money instead.
What kind of shit do you do/are you into/interested in?
I enjoy nanoblocks if you want to give those a shot,
My Raleigh 3.0's front tire is a little light on air right now, causing me to "bump" with every turn. So I decided to put some air in it. Only to discover that the Schrader valve is angled into one of the spokes. This makes it impossible to properly fit the pump on, and so I can't get any air in. Can anyone tell me what to do about this?
Bleed all the air out of the tire by sticking something sharp and skinny into the schrader nipple, reposition valve because it will be loose, refill with air.
Or if the tube is flat, you need a pair of plastic bike tire levers and a new tube and you can replace it yourself. Google it or go to a bike shop, they will have both those things and might even show you how to do it.
>>16618599
This op, this is the exact thing to do,
-Scottish, cyclist for 18 years
I've met a girl I really like recently. Since she was scheduled to go abroad for the holidays, we quickly went on a drinks date followed by another one where we went to see Star Wars, which finished by a drink at my place where we kissed.
I thought it was going quite well and tried to keep it alive, texting a little bit every day. However, on Christmas Eve, after exchange Merry Christmas I told her I just 2 places for a Star Wars ice sculptures expo and asked her if she'd like to go there with me when she's back. It's been 5 days and I never got an...
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Maybe she left already?
>>16617829
Actually she left a while ago, on the 18th, just after our second date. That's why texting is my only option at the moment. Before leaving she told be that she'd back tomorrow (30th) but already has plans for New Year's Eve and that we could see each other on the 1st.
>>16617860
She isn't as into you as you are her.
Kisses mean nothing unless you bang
I heard Red hots can lower your IQ how do I prevent that while eating my Red hots still? I ate a whole box in one go desu pic related
>>16617821
put it in the other hole
>>16617821
They're an italian company so it's very likely.
Whats the best way to support a girlfriend that's depressed without being overbearing or clingy?
I worry sick about them(especially since they self harm sometimes) but I don't want to constantly inquire about it and make it seem like its causing trouble between the two of us
Is she getting professional help?
The best thing you could do is be a good bf. Be supportive, attentive, understanding, patient, loving and there for her. Lots of cuddling, kissing, sex and whispering sweet nothings insde her ear should male her feel better. Also, make sure to be available if she wants to talk abut the reasons she is in this place right now. Hold her if she starts to cry, make her feel save and protected. Make her feel loved and beautiful. Tell her how proud you are of her accomplishements. Tell her how amazing she is. Tell her that all you want is see her...
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I don't like the idea of taking passive supportive approaches with people who are depressed. Their life choices are at the best misguided and at the worst a contributing factor to their feelings. I find it preferable to keep living life on my terms and inviting them to join me. It's up to them to realize that things are better that way.
>>16617785
>self harm
anyone who legitimately self harms is not stable enough to be in a relationship. believe what you want, but if they will damage their own body, they will damage theirs. at that point they have decided that they are so 'woe is me' that they do not care about what happens.
Hi guys,
I'm writing here because my dating life is a mess. I'm 25 years old and I have been without dating a girl since I was 20, if I think about I feel sad about my life.
I tried almost everything: dating websites and apps, trying to meet girls in pubs... And I didn't have any luck.
I don't consider myself ugly, also I'm not fat, the only thing that I can't fix is that I'm almost bald and I think that this is part of the problem but... I see bald guys everyday dating girls.
I don't know what to do, I have a job,...
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You're not ugly bro, just some bad luck. You should try haning out with a group of mixed girls and boys, if the girls are single, you can get their attention. Best of luck!
>>16617779
>im starting to think im ugly
post pic? lets see what you are working with. at worst we will give you some tips on how to improve.
>girls
what are your standards? truth is that some people have higher standards than they should. men dont often realize it becuase they think they are on the same level as a desired female,. but dont realize they have 10 other guys who look just like you also hitting on them. so they choose the most...
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Why is dating so important? If you have friends and stuff, your social life is largely fulfilled. A gf well not make you happy. At all.
Just do you and if you meet someone you meet someone.
How do you stop liking someone you are bound to see everyday and even talk to them?
You probably won't. But try looking at new people, doing different things.
>>16617744
Picture them doing disgusting things. Imagine when you see them that they shit themselves and have shit all over their private parts. Think of them getting yelled at for being stupid.
>this girl I like works at a beauty product store
>I went in a few weeks ago for a gift
>I'm an objective 7/10, she's an objective 7/10
>she's soft spoken and reserved, dresses modestly
>I'm soft spoken and reserved
The only thing stopping me from asking her out is that it's taboo to ask someone out when they're at work. There's no other place I know her from. I want to make this happen but will it be a disaster? I can accept a "no, not interested", but it would make me feel terrible if she then became uncomfortable.
Here's some stats about me:
>own my own business, make $2,800/mo (roughly 15 hours of work a month)
>a little chubby, but it's a work in progress. I was 265 lbs November 1st, I'm now 230lbs. I go to the gym daily
>degree in education
>$22,000 in savings and I'm only 23
But:
>live with my mother (I'm assuming she does too)
>no car (I live in a bustling city with adequate public transit)
I've been thinking about it a lot the last few days and truth be told I'm nervous. I'm emotionally invested in this woman I've met only once, talked to only once. She seems perfect for me, everything I look for in a woman she is.
Help me /adv/. Do I make a move?
Ignoring the entire second half of your post:
Don't ask her out at work, just casually ask to meet for coffee or if you can add her to fb etc.
Don't persist if she shows disinterest.
Personally hate when someone asks me out or shows interest well I'm at work, but if there's no other way around it you might as well. You have nothing to lose.
>>16617720
My ideal situation is I catch her as she goes on break and I ask to join her, but that's a slim shot. I won't persist, do guys really do that? If she is uninterested, it ends there.
>>16617765
Yeah forget your ideal situation. Just go for it.
